The document discusses overcoming social fears when approaching strangers. It notes that at dances and social events, people often stay separated in groups out of fear of rejection. However, it states that our social fears are usually false and based on imagined worst case scenarios rather than reality. It encourages taking time to reprogram thinking by referencing past positive social memories in order to feel more confident and project a dynamic energy when taking oneself out of their comfort zone.

2. I remember going to my first junior
high school dance.

3. All the guys were on one side, and all
the girls were on another.

4. Both groups went there to meet each
other, but both were too scared to
make the first move.

5. Then later on, in high school, I learned
that most girls would say "yes" when
asked to dance.

6. After all, it WAS a dance, right?

7. Of course, sometimes it's not so easy.

8. People go to clubs, bookstores, coffee
shops etc, and don't exactly want to be
approached by strangers, for any
reason.

9. Many people join Network Marketing
with hopes of making a lot of cash, but
end up not making squat when they
realize the name of the game is
approaching enough strangers to make
a decent living.

10. To be sure, walking up cold to
somebody, for any reason, is not
something most of us do naturally.

11. But not because of what happens, but
what we IMAGINE is going to happen.

12. There was an old movie with Steve
Martin called "The Lonely Guy," and he
would imagine going into a restaurant,
or other social place, and everybody
would stop what they were doing, and
all stare at him.

13. That's what most of us imagine when
we push ourselves out of our social
comfort zone.

14. But most, if not all, of our social fears
are false.

15. We're scared of what we think might
happen, rather than what really does
happen.

16. One of the reasons is that we're
referencing the wrong memories.

17. If you don't take the time to
reprogram how you think when going
into social situations, your brain will
always be in "protection" mode,
meaning any uncertainly will be met
with anxiety.

18. That's just your brain thinking that it's
keeping you safe.

19. But when you flip the switch, so to
speak, so you automatically reference
positive memories when you enter
into social uncertainty, you'll feel a lot
differently.

20. Not only that, but you'll project a
much different type of energy.

21. After all, people that are ultra
confident and dynamic in public are
only that way because they've learned
to reference the right memories,
either on purpose or by accident.
(Usually by accident.)

22. But when you do a little bit of
programming, (5-10 minutes a day)
you'll soon reference those positive
memories that are ALREADY THERE.

23. mindpersuasion.com/frame-control/