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Families & Friends of Murder Victims September 2012 newsletter


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Families & Friends of Murder Victims September 2012 newsletter

  1. 1. FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF MURDER VICTIMS, Inc. Families & Friends of Murder Victims: A non-profit organization (FFMV) Dedicated to providing information, support, and friendship to persons who have Newsletter September 2012 experienced the death of a loved one through the violent act of murder Thank-you: Share Sorrow….. *Carol Anderson – Website Share Strength *Kaiser – Oakland Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to *Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta provide a pathway to well-being to those who *St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland have lost a loved one to murder and to those *Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church who are victims of attempted murder. Grand Terrace Portola Community Center- Palm Desert *San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Love Gifts Victim Services/Victim Advocates Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation *Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim made to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, Services/Victim Advocates anniversary of a death, holiday, or just because *Family of Kris Flores which are posted in newsletter. They are also *Janet Garcia& Barbara Christian made by caring professionals, organizations to facebook administrators help in the work that FFMV does with * Ellie Rossi victims/survivors. These gifts help with the*Anonymous Donor for sponsoring newsletter for expenses incurred in reaching out to others and September 2012 operating expenses. When making out a check, please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on check or envelope. Love Gifts can be mailed to Need Someone to Talk To? FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - * Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking 92423-1222 (909) 200-5499 (after 3pm) *Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm) Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on *Maxine Russell – (818) 378-2072 Parent/Grief Counselor *Dawn Hall - Parent(951) 757-4419 Thank-you *Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317) Janet Garcia Emergency Consult for Suicidal or Homicidal Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94 Participants Barbara Christian*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-490-7864 Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell– * Ellie Rossi - Parent 909-810-9133 4/10/63 – 1/8/81 Inmate Locator, Department of Dealing With Depression Ever had to wait out a storm? I was stuck in Corrections is now making it my car once, pulled over to the side of theeasier for people to locate prison road, waiting for a storm to pass. The rain and wind were so strong and I felt exposed inmates; it’s a free online sitting there alone in my car. Lightning search and is open to the continuously flashed across the sky. The thunder was so loud and piercing. All of my general public. senses were on red alert and I was terrified! Minutes seemed like hours and I just wanted that storm to be over!! It took time but the storm did pass. Depression can feel like going through a fierce storm. It took awhile for the storm to pass and the sun to break through, but it did happen!! As you face daily the challenges that depression presents you with, remember to ride these storms out. They will pass and the sun will break through again for you. ~Rosemary
  2. 2. Riverside Chapter West End Chapter -Bi-lingualMeets on the 3 rd Wednesday of every Meets every 2nd Thursday of every month at 7:00pm-8:30pm month at 7pm St. Anthony’s Catholic ChurchAvaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Conference Room Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA 2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786 Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 Participants have the option of the For directions ask for PJ at- English & Spanish Meeting 951-696-1600 x2177 – Local Grupo Bilingue M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch) Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés o enNext Meeting – September 19, 2012 Español Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a las 7:00 p.m. Contact persons/ Personas de contacto: Colton Chapter Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 Next Meeting September 13, 2012 st 1 Tuesday of every monthChrist The Redeemer Catholic Church Grief Support Group Robinson Hall – Room 6 ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings. 12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you 92313 are suffering the loss of a loved one and in New Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm need to talk to someone, we are here to Contact person for directions or listen and share emotions. information Rose – 909-754-6969 Together and with the help of the Lord, we can help each other heal. Meetings are held every 2 nd Wednesday of Next Meeting – September 4, 2012 the month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8 St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. Coachella Valley Chapter San Bernardino (909)887-3810 New Address Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163 We will continue meeting every Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387 3rd Wednesday of each month (FFMV Participants) 6:00pm – 8:00pm Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744 Portola Community Center Room 2 45-480 Portola Ave (parking on Shadow Mountain) Palm Desert, CA 92260 760-568-2560- Call for directions Rose – 909-754-6969 Candy- 619-200-0547 Next meeting is September 19, 2012 Oakland Chapter Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at Broadway, 12th floor Room 1200 East Contact Helene (510) 452-2553
  3. 3. Resources and Additional Support Services FFMV Fundraisers San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino Office Depot - Staples – Office Max (909) 387-6540 If you shop at Office Depot or Staples Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241* please use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Victorville/Desert area: (760) 243-8619 Office Depot which is 1139461170 Office Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Max – 650756207, Staples- or use just Victim Witness Centers: give them 909-798-4803 for all three. We Riverside: (951) 955-5450 get reward points that help defray the costMurrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130 of printing, ink cartridges and office * Indio: (760) 863-8408 supplies. *Los Angeles County District Attorneys Victim Witness Assistance Program offices: PLEASE….Don ‘t throw away your old ink Pomona: 909) 620-3381 cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or *Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts. take them to Office Max, Staples or Office 323-816-9651 Depot and give them 909-798-4803* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website It’s an easy way to FFMV purchase office supplies. *Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348 *—public awareness Web site ♥ I have Learned* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss – Tragedy does not come knocking on your door 818-378-2072– three days in advance to let you know when to * Crime Victims United of California – 916-928- expect him, so that you will know to be waiting 4797 or on him. He comes within the very blink of an eye. In an instant; and he is never gentle about * North American Victim Assistance (NOVA) it. Grief is the constellation of internal thoughts and feelings we have when someone loved dies. * Victims of Crime Resources Center (800) Grief is the weight in the chest, the churning in VICTIMS the gut, The physical pain in your heart and soul, * POMC - (888) 818-POMC and the unspeakable thoughts and feelings.* Greater Orange County POMC – Marie – 714-999- Mourning is the outward expression of grief. 7132 – 562-508-2397 Mourning is crying, journaling, creating artwork, * Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944 talking to others about the death, telling the * Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367 story, speaking the unspeakable. Everyone * The Crime Victims Assistance Network (iCAN) grieves when someone loved dies, but if we are Foundation (916) 273-3603 to heal, we must also mourn. Time does NOT * Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470 heal all wounds. This is not a is an amputation. "Loose an arm or a leg, and let me * Resource for the Grieving and know how long it takes for it to grow back!" It wont!! TIME only allows you the space needed * Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895 to get used to living WITHOUT. It does not Bi-monthly meetings heal....and the mourning and the grief comes in held in Orange County tidal waves. After a length of time, the days get * Adela Lavine~Medium: better, you can maybe smile a little and * MADD – (909) 888-6233 eventually even laugh without feeling guilty. Never a day goes by you don’t think of your loved one, but then BBAAMM.................smell *JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457- something they loved, hear a song, see a color, 0030 pass their favorite cereal at the grocery* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities store..............just anything and the day is just -S.T.E.V.I.E. bottomed out and it may last a few hours, week, or days from then. * *Homicide Survivors Inc. Suddenly it is like starting over again. 520.740.5729
  4. 4. September Birthdays Alejandro Gutierrez Alexander M. Delgado Alexandro Alvardo Ann Souther Bailey Elizabeth Sloan Chelsea Buckley Cesario Valdez Danae Palermo Darrell Davis Darren E. Russell Elizabeth Fay Mariani Evan Todd Kinard Gladys Benson Ian Williams Jerald Eugene Sevec Joseph Salazar Manuel Chavez Jr. Manuel J. Vega Manuel Rodriguez Michael Alexander Corrales Michael Lundin Roberto “Junior” Grijalva Ross Elvey Samuel Shanchez Shauna Ann Maynard Shawn G. Olave Steven Caldera Victoria Lee Castro William Rees MerrellWe Will Always Remember You
  5. 5. September Memories Alejandro Gutierrez Benny Rodriguez Charles Hemmings Christopher Patrick Weiss David Leon II Derek Dion Wiltz II Doctor Fernandez Edward Navarrette “Erie” Charles Hemmings Herbert & Ann Souther Jonathan Olagues Joseph Valenza Kelly Bullwinkle Lonny Williams Maria Sanchez Nylah Torres Ray Valenzuela Richard G. Jurado Robert Minjares Robert C. Fiebrantz Sedrick Mills Timothy Morgan William “Bill” Dyrness We Will Always Remember YouThere are moments in life when you wish you could bring someone down fromHeaven...and spend the day with them just one more time, give them one more hug, kiss them goodbye or hear their voice again. One more chance to say I Love you
  6. 6. LOVE GIFTS In Loving Memory of In Loving Memoryof In Loving Memory of Darren E. Russell Mario Quiroz Gladys Benson 9/22/69 – 4/14/05 5/14/68 – 1/25/06 9/28/21 – 2/11/96In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/647/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11 Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi) --------------------------------------------------------------Love Gift-----------------------------------------------------------------Donation $_______________Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________Email address: __________________________________________________________Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______________
  7. 7. CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County DistrictAttorneys Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Childrens Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violentdeath in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to CampCedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designedto help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. Thiscamp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims ProgramTeen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previouslyparticipated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be acombination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good GriefPeer Counselors.Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapistsand interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and DistrictAttorneys Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp.The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Childrens Hospital have pledged to continuefundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting futureCamp Good Grief-SVP programs.Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073 COLD CASES FYII attended JHV Memorial in April, guest Speaker Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News andsenior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures andinformation regarding unsolved homicide cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I knowpersonally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICEIf your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frankwill get it published in the newspaper.You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to Thepaper also has the project listed on Facebook …This is a response Frank gave me when I e-mailed him about this project:Hi Rose, If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interestedcan contact me and I promise to get them set up.Sincerely,Frank Girardot911 E. Colorado BlvdPasadena, CA 91106626-578-6300 ext.4478frank.girardot@sgvn.comHere is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one: Your full name, address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder, Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?, Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was murdered
  8. 8. 3820 Mulberry Street Riverside, CA 92507 951-369-7447 Presents a Flapjack Fundraiser ForFamilies & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV) Saturday October 13, 2012 8:00am – 10:00am Walk-In’s Welcomed ALL YOU CAN EAT Pancakes, Scrambled Eggs, Sausage Orange Juice & Coffee included Tickets - $10 ea Kids under 5yrs. Free Come & Support FFMV Proceeds will benefit FFMV’s Annual Christmas Memorial Luncheon for Surviving Children, Families & Friends who have lost a Loved One to Murder For tickets….contact Rose 909-754-6969 or 909-798-4803 or
  9. 9. “We Come To Share Our Story” A Day of Reflection and Healing for People who have lost a loved one to murder.When: Saturday, Sept. 15, 2012 RSVP by August 30th.To the Office of Restorative Justice (909) 475-5474 or by completing the form below. Spaces are limited.Where: St. Andrews Abbey in peaceful, beautiful and scenic Valyermo 31001 N Valyermo Rd. Valyermo, CA 93563 (661) 944-2178 or www.saintandrewsabby.comRegistration: 8:00am - 8:30amReflection Day: 8:30am until 7:00pmCost: $25.00 per person (includes continental breakfast, lunch and dinner) Bring photo and/or memento of your loved one This reflection day will be in English. For More Info: Contact Sister Sue Reif at 909-475-5474 (office) or Form:Name:_________________________________________________________________MailingAddress:_________________________________________________________Email Address:_________________________________________________________Home phone:__________________________________________________________Cell phone:____________________________________________________________ Checks can be made out to "Diocese of San Bernardino." Please mail form and payment to: Office of Restorative Justice, 1201 E. Highland Avenue, San Bernardino, CA 92404
  10. 10. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber 12/02/73 – 11/10/94 A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader, Fatally Shot in the Line of ServiceSeems like it was only yesterday that I was working on the August newsletter…now here it’s alreadySeptember…time is passing quickly! FFMV will be hosting a Pancake Fundraiser on October 13, 2012…. (see attached flyer for details)Come and Support FFMV....Cant come? can purchase a ticket (s) & sponsor your ticket (s) toone of our volunteers or to a participant of FFMV.... Proceeds will benefit FFMV’s Annual ChristmasMemorial Luncheon for Surviving Children, Families & Friends who have lost a Loved One to MurderFor tickets….contact Rose 909-754-6969 or 909-798-4803 sponsorship will be acknowledged....Thank- youI’m working on October memory board, so send me your loved ones picture.ThoughtfullyRoseFFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims ofattempted murder. Our main purpose is grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistanceprovided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questionsregarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to or phoned to 909-798-4803. FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the InternalRevenue Service.Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operationalexpenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual VictimsRights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contactFFMV at the above e-mail or phone if you are interested.Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions Are Tax Deductible
  11. 11. 2012 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non VictimPlease PrintDate________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________Victim’s First Name_________________________________________Victim’s Last Name_________________________________________Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list toreceive monthly newsletter and event informationI grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to usephotograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use andpublish the same in print and/or electronically.I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and forany lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration,advertising, and Web content.I have read and understand the above.Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________Signature _________________________________________________________Print Full Name _____________________________________________________Address___________________________________________________________City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________Phone with area code ______________________________________E-mail ____________________________________________________________ Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222 I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file I have included a $_________ donation for 2012 Thank-you… if you have already sent your 2012 donation
  12. 12. Please help with this legislation, to either sponsor or co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.Write to your congressperson and Senators Barbara Boxer and Dianne FeinsteinCongresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen as the Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee and CongressmanHoward Berman as the Ranking Member. Chief of Staff Margaret Mott (mail wont be stalled thru radiation there as it is inDC)14546 Hamlin St. # 202 Van Nuys, California 91401 Phone (818) 994-7200 Fax: (818) 994-1050Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee2206 Rayburn House Office Building Washington, DC 20515-0918 to either sponsor orCo-sponsor this urgently needed bill.Thanks, Maxine B. Russell - Mother of Darren - russellbliss21@aol.comOn the web: (UPDATED)On Twitter: @killed_in_chinaIn U.S. Federal Court: Case No. CV-09-06050