Dialogue
DEVELOPMENTAL LEVELS

Theory of Developmental Levels     (Herb Shepard 1965)


Primary Mentality
     A zero-sum game between individual and group
     If an individual co-operates, the group gains
     But the individual loses out
Secondary Mentality
  
      The co-operative group gains more viewpoints
  
      And strengthens each person’s individuality
CONSENSUS

Facilitated workshops usually aim for
 consensus
Consensus is defined as:
   General agreement
   Absence of sustained opposition
   Taking account of all parties’ views
   Reconciling any conflicting arguments
      www.bsigroup.com/en/Standards-and-Publications/About-standards/Glossary/


Attempts to gain consensus can degenerate
  into forcing people to say that they agree
DIALOGUE IS MORE AMBITIOUS

   Negotiation aims to arrive at an agreement
                 between parties that differ

   Collaboration aims to share decision-making

   Consensus aims to reconcile conflicting views

   Dialogue aims to find a new understanding,
           leading to new ways to think and act
           that, in turn, lead to other new ideas
WHAT IS DIALOGUE?

   DIA = through
   LOGOS = word / meaning / gather together > relationship
   DIALOGUE = flow of meaning through relationships

   TQM seeks to solve the problem of errors,
     not by correcting errors after they occur, but
     by changing processes so errors don’t occur in first place

   Dialogue seeks to solve the problem of fragmentation
     not by rearranging the components of conversation, but
     by uncovering and changing the underlying structures
        that cause fragmentation in the first place
EARLY (first?) USE OF DIALOGUE

To improve conversations among physicists
David Bohm (1965) advocated:
 Groups of 20–40 people meet in a circle
                        (enough people to avoid any family dynamic)
   For several hours each day, over several days
   No agenda
   Try to suspend preconceptions and prejudices
   Look at process, at how thoughts have moved
EARLY (first?) USE OF DIALOGUE

David Bohm describes Dialogue as:
   1st person speaks
   2nd person hears similar meaning (not the same)
   As 2nd person replies, 1st person sees a difference
      between what he meant to say and what 2nd person heard
   This difference suggests something new
   As dialogue continues, new content emerges
   So they are creating something in common, new
BOHM’S PHILOSOPHY

Bohm on Physics
Reality involves unbroken wholeness in flowing movement

Bohm on Dialogue
Thought is a collective enterprise arising from how we discourse

Conditions for effective dialogue
 All participants must "suspend" their assumptions,
                 literally, to hold them "as if suspended before us";
   All participants must regard one another as colleagues;
   There must be a facilitator who holds the context of dialogue
MEETINGS ARE LONELY PLACES

Most of the time, we think alone:
 We defend our position
 We look for evidence to prove that
          we are right and others are wrong
 We avoid being vulnerable to other opinions
 We withhold information
 We feel hurt or betrayed
 We lose respect for the other side
HISTORY



Cultures that used dialogue survived for a long time:
 e.g. Native Americans, Ancient Greeks, Maoris

So, is dialogue something we already know?
      or is it something we have forgotten?
CLAIMS for DIALOGUE

When F W de Klerk visited Nelson Mandela in prison,
    they devised a new context for South Africa
John Hume & Jerry Adams talked privately
     about how to stop violence in N. Ireland
        In both cases, dogmatists went to great lengths to prevent these conversations. .
       Isobel thinks the magic here was that the conversations were out of the public eye.


A new “mind” emerges, if:
Participants believe that maintaining good feelings
within the group is more important than holding to
their fixed position
HARGROVE

A dialogue is a conversation where:
  There is a free flow of meaning … and
  Diverse views & perspectives are encouraged
  People desire to learn from different colleagues


Collaboration is based on inspiring visions
  It is deeply purposeful,
  focused on practical accomplishments
  that are carried out in conversations
FACTS model

Dialogue

  • 1.
  • 2.
    DEVELOPMENTAL LEVELS Theory ofDevelopmental Levels (Herb Shepard 1965) Primary Mentality  A zero-sum game between individual and group  If an individual co-operates, the group gains  But the individual loses out Secondary Mentality  The co-operative group gains more viewpoints  And strengthens each person’s individuality
  • 3.
    CONSENSUS Facilitated workshops usuallyaim for consensus Consensus is defined as:  General agreement  Absence of sustained opposition  Taking account of all parties’ views  Reconciling any conflicting arguments www.bsigroup.com/en/Standards-and-Publications/About-standards/Glossary/ Attempts to gain consensus can degenerate into forcing people to say that they agree
  • 4.
    DIALOGUE IS MOREAMBITIOUS  Negotiation aims to arrive at an agreement between parties that differ  Collaboration aims to share decision-making  Consensus aims to reconcile conflicting views  Dialogue aims to find a new understanding, leading to new ways to think and act that, in turn, lead to other new ideas
  • 5.
    WHAT IS DIALOGUE?  DIA = through  LOGOS = word / meaning / gather together > relationship  DIALOGUE = flow of meaning through relationships  TQM seeks to solve the problem of errors, not by correcting errors after they occur, but by changing processes so errors don’t occur in first place  Dialogue seeks to solve the problem of fragmentation not by rearranging the components of conversation, but by uncovering and changing the underlying structures that cause fragmentation in the first place
  • 6.
    EARLY (first?) USEOF DIALOGUE To improve conversations among physicists David Bohm (1965) advocated:  Groups of 20–40 people meet in a circle (enough people to avoid any family dynamic)  For several hours each day, over several days  No agenda  Try to suspend preconceptions and prejudices  Look at process, at how thoughts have moved
  • 7.
    EARLY (first?) USEOF DIALOGUE David Bohm describes Dialogue as:  1st person speaks  2nd person hears similar meaning (not the same)  As 2nd person replies, 1st person sees a difference between what he meant to say and what 2nd person heard  This difference suggests something new  As dialogue continues, new content emerges  So they are creating something in common, new
  • 8.
    BOHM’S PHILOSOPHY Bohm onPhysics Reality involves unbroken wholeness in flowing movement Bohm on Dialogue Thought is a collective enterprise arising from how we discourse Conditions for effective dialogue  All participants must "suspend" their assumptions, literally, to hold them "as if suspended before us";  All participants must regard one another as colleagues;  There must be a facilitator who holds the context of dialogue
  • 9.
    MEETINGS ARE LONELYPLACES Most of the time, we think alone:  We defend our position  We look for evidence to prove that we are right and others are wrong  We avoid being vulnerable to other opinions  We withhold information  We feel hurt or betrayed  We lose respect for the other side
  • 10.
    HISTORY Cultures that useddialogue survived for a long time: e.g. Native Americans, Ancient Greeks, Maoris So, is dialogue something we already know? or is it something we have forgotten?
  • 11.
    CLAIMS for DIALOGUE WhenF W de Klerk visited Nelson Mandela in prison, they devised a new context for South Africa John Hume & Jerry Adams talked privately about how to stop violence in N. Ireland In both cases, dogmatists went to great lengths to prevent these conversations. . Isobel thinks the magic here was that the conversations were out of the public eye. A new “mind” emerges, if: Participants believe that maintaining good feelings within the group is more important than holding to their fixed position
  • 12.
    HARGROVE A dialogue isa conversation where: There is a free flow of meaning … and Diverse views & perspectives are encouraged People desire to learn from different colleagues Collaboration is based on inspiring visions It is deeply purposeful, focused on practical accomplishments that are carried out in conversations
  • 13.