Dating after divorce requires letting go of the past in order to move forward. It is a process of rebirth where you will lose things from the past but find yourself. Identifying themes and patterns from past relationships can help avoid repeating mistakes. Focusing on the present rather than dwelling on the past is important. Detachment from ego and negative thoughts allows you to see situations objectively. Maintaining a positive mindset helps you become your best self. Support from others and self-care are also important for developing confidence and radiating warmth to new partners. Practicing acceptance, intention, gratitude, and finding love for yourself are keys to opening up to love again after divorce.

1. Dating After Divorce
By Joyce Marter, LCPC
Founder of Urban Balance

2. Starting Anew Requires Letting Go
"The truth is, unless you let go,
unless you forgive yourself,
unless you forgive the situation,
unless you realize that the situation is over,
you cannot move forward.”
- Steve Maraboli

3. Rebirth
“In the process of letting go you will lose many
things from the past, but you will find yourself.”
- Deepak Chopra

4. Identify Themes & Patterns
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over
again and expecting different results.”
- Albert Einstein

5. Bring Your Attention to the
Present
“Be as least as interested in what goes on inside
you as what happens outside. If you get the inside
right, the outside will fall into place.”
-Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

6. Detach from Ego & Negativity
”The primary cause of unhappiness is never the
situation but the thought about it. Be aware of the
thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from
the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.”
- Eckhart Tolle

7. Think Positively
“A man is but the product of his thoughts...
what he thinks, he becomes.”
- Mohandas Gandhi

8. Embrace Your Greatness
“Our deepest fear is not
that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that
we are powerful beyond
measure. It is our Light,
not our Darkness,
that most frightens us.”
- Marianne Williamson

9. Surf the Waves of Emotion
“Feelings are waves of energy which we can
choose to surf, rather than allow them to
overcome us.”
-Arlene Englander, The In-Sourcing Handbook

10. Practice Self-Care
“Health is certainly more valuable than money,
because it is by health that money is procured.”
- Samuel Johnson

11. Set Healthy Boundaries & Reflect
Confidence
“We teach people
how to treat us.”
- Dr. Phil

12. Radiate Warmth & Light
“I’ve learned that
people will forget what
you said, people will
forget what you did,
but people will never
forget how you made
them feel.”
- Maya Angelou

13. Access Support
“Friends are like elevator buttons, they either take
you up or they take you down.”
- Tom Osbourne

14. Practice Acceptance
“If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”
- Maya Angelou

15. Discover the Power of Intention
“Our intention creates our reality.”
- Wayne Dyer, The Power of Intention

16. Open Yourself Up to Love
“Your prosperity consciousness is not dependent
on money; your flow of money is dependent on
your prosperity of consciousness.”
- Louise Hay

17. Develop Your Vision
“First say to yourself what you would be;
and then do what you have to do.”
- Epictetus

18. Create Work/Life Balance
“No one on their deathbed ever said,
‘I wish I spent more time at work.’”
- Unknown

19. Practice Gratitude
“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the
things which he has not, but rejoices for those
which he has.”
- Epictetus

20. What is Love?
“You can search throughout the entire universe for
somebody who is more deserving of your love and
affection than you are yourself, and that person is
not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much
as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your
love and affection.”
- Buddha

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