Cognitive Behaviour Coaching For Young Leaders
- 1. COGNITIVE BEHAVIOUR COACHING FORCOACHINGFOR YOUNG LEADERS Dr. Renjan Roy Mathew Clinical Psychologist & Head Research & Development Department MedVista 1
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- 5. This time you haveto Observe it (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Watch this video 5 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
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- 7. This time you haveto Analyse it (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Watch this video 7 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
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- 9. Find out thethoughts Traffic Police Old man Aggressive man Playing boys (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Playing boys Young man & Beautiful ladies Politicians Little master 9 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
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- 12. Cognitive behaviour thrust ThoughtsThoughts (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Thoughts leads to feelings Thoughts leads to actions 12 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 13. A 16 yrsold girl wrote a letter to her aunt Take perspectives •Parents Read out the letter (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Take perspectives of each group involved Discuss in groups •Parents •Girl •Boy •Elders •Boy’s friends •Girl’s friends 13 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 14. Leaders present group’s perspective Opendiscussion (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Conclusions 14 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
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- 16. Childhood experience Schemas Assumptions &Core beliefs (Normally Dormant) Critical life situations- activate schemas Negative automatic thoughts (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Negative automatic thoughts Negative feelings Behaviour Bodily changes More negative thoughts 16 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
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- 18. 3 people waitingfor bus All have to reach on time Situation (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com All have to reach on time Driver didn’t stop Next bus only after 30 min No alternate means of transport 18 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 19. •Became sad, saidthis happened to me many times, when ever I have to catch up some thing on time I fail, Its coz. of me the driver didn’t stopped Mr. A •Became angry, started shouting, abusing driver, system, wife, throw his bag, red hot!!! Mr. B (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Mr. B •Upset but said mentally that any way I have to wait 30 min for the next bus, I ‘ll have breakfast at the nearby hotel, I have to convince my boss, next time I should be ready to face situations like this Mr. C19 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 20. Why different people responddifferently (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com respond differently 20 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 21. The ABC of RealisticThinking (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Realistic Thinking 21 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 22. The ABC ofRealistic Thinking A •Activating Event or Action (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com C •The Consequences Eg. •The bus not stopping for you •Is presumed to lead to •Feeling angry, depressed, anxious or happy 22 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 23. The ABC ofRealistic Thinking A • Activating Event or Action • Is presumed to lead to B • Your Beliefs or thoughts • Results in (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com B C • The Consequences Eg. • “I‘ll be late for an important meeting” • “Nothing goes right for me” • “This is a good thing to happen” 23 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
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- 26. Why you needto think realistically Leaders: How do they think? How realistic their thoughts are? (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com How realistic their thoughts are? How well they understand a situation? LEADERS Think rationally, act purposefully, deal effectively We are human beings not animals! We all have the capacity to think rationally! 26 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 27. Cognitive Restructuring: Changing the wayyou think 1. Learn to identify your thoughts in response to events & the interpretation you make 4 STEPS (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com 2. Learn to challenge/ objectively/ reasonably 3. Restating unrealistic or unhelpful thoughts in a way that better reflects the reality of the situation 4. Generate more helpful thoughts in to practice 27 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 28. Identify Your Thoughts Habitual unrealisticthoughts STEP 1 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com • Automatic • Distorted • Unhelpful • Involuntary28 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 29. Awareness of anObject Mindfulness (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Awareness of an Object •Draw an object •Pay attention to details •Redraw & compare 29 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 30. Attending to theThinking Process • To enhance awareness of how we are the Mindfulness (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com • To enhance awareness of how we are the producers of our own thoughts • Close your eyes and say to yourself, I wonder what my next thought is going to be. Then become very alert and wait for the next thought. Be like a cat watching a mouse hole. What thought is going to come out the mouse hole? Try it now. 30 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 31. Identify Your Thoughts Work Backwards (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Use anyfeelings of anxiety, fear, discomfort •There must be some underlying thought that caused the feeling 31 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 32. Identify Your Thoughts How doI feel What has been happening recently Ask yourself (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com What has been happening recently What do I think about myself What do I think about the other person What do I think about the situation? 32 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 33. A situation whereyou over reacted You felt uncomfortable/ panicky Write down Imagine (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Write down A B C Activating event/ situation Beliefs/ Thoughts Consequences/ Feelings 33 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 34. Challenge Your Thoughts What isthe evidence What alternative views are there STEP 2 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com What alternative views are there How likely is it How much would it really matter Am I making errors of thinking 34 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 35. Errors of thinking! Catastrophizing Jumping toconclusions Overgeneralization All-or-none thinking (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Mind reading Discounting or disqualifying the positives Mental filters or focusing on the negative The fortune teller Personalization & omnipotence Should statements 35 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 36. Based on whatyou have learned Challenge your unhelpful/ negative thought/ beliefs/ assumptions Challenge (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com beliefs/ assumptions A B C Challenging Activating event/ situation Beliefs/ Thoughts Consequences / Feelings Alt., errors, 36 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 37. Restating Your Thoughts Unhelpful/ unrealistic •“I must..” •I’vegot to •What if…that would be unbearable Wishful •It’ll work out •I don’t care that Realistic/ Helpful •I would like very much to •I would prefer not to •I will do STEP 3 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com unbearable •I could not stand it if… •I will do everything I can do •If things don’t go the way I want, I might be disappointed but I dno’t have to be overanxious or depressed 37 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 38. Generate more helpful thoughts into practice "Practice without Theory is blind, Theory without STEP 4 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com blind, Theory without practice is sterile" •Karl Marx 38 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
- 39. Watch this video Go ahead! (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com Youare the LEADER 39 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
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- 41. When the going getstough (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathewrenjmat@gmail.com the tough keeps going 41 (c)Dr.RenjanRoyMathew
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