Early Childhood Educators are often a significant support to children whose parents are separating or divorcing. The challenge is oftentimes managing parental conflict. This PP addresses parental and child issues.
Social Emotional Development in Special Needs Children 0-5 yearsMichelle Fitzpatrick
Presentation by Michelle Fitzpatrick from HappyPaleoKids.com.
Understand 1) What social-emotional development is 2) What typical stages of social-emotional development in 0-5 year old kids 3) How to promote social-emotional development and 4) How to address social-emotional needs of children with developmental delays (cognitive, communication/language, motor) and developmental disabilities (autism, ADHD, Downs Syndrome, etc.).
POSITIVE PARENTING : PERSPECTIVES AND PRINCIPLES OF PARENTING WITH INDIAN EMP...Devashish Konar
This presentation should help in providing a cultural perspectives in parenting. Indian parents may find some stimulating thoughts and students of cross cultural parenting should find Indian perspective as observed by a child psychiatrist.
Healthy development is important for all children and leads to greater success as an adult. Most parenting styles blend, as the mother and father may exhibit different types of behavior.
If you have children and are experiencing separation or divorce, typically their wellbeing is one of your highest priorities. In this workshop we discuss how to best support your children through your separation, so as to minimise any adverse impact on them.
Social Emotional Development in Special Needs Children 0-5 yearsMichelle Fitzpatrick
Presentation by Michelle Fitzpatrick from HappyPaleoKids.com.
Understand 1) What social-emotional development is 2) What typical stages of social-emotional development in 0-5 year old kids 3) How to promote social-emotional development and 4) How to address social-emotional needs of children with developmental delays (cognitive, communication/language, motor) and developmental disabilities (autism, ADHD, Downs Syndrome, etc.).
POSITIVE PARENTING : PERSPECTIVES AND PRINCIPLES OF PARENTING WITH INDIAN EMP...Devashish Konar
This presentation should help in providing a cultural perspectives in parenting. Indian parents may find some stimulating thoughts and students of cross cultural parenting should find Indian perspective as observed by a child psychiatrist.
Healthy development is important for all children and leads to greater success as an adult. Most parenting styles blend, as the mother and father may exhibit different types of behavior.
If you have children and are experiencing separation or divorce, typically their wellbeing is one of your highest priorities. In this workshop we discuss how to best support your children through your separation, so as to minimise any adverse impact on them.
People carrying this message may become panicky when they are asked to take on any kind of leadership role. They may “Dry up” when called upon to speak in public.
Play is essential for children in early childhood stage, it is crucial for their various developments:
-cognitive development
-satisfied exploratory need
-master anxiety and conflict
-development communication skills
Various types of play adopted by children:
-symbolic play
-practice play
-social play
-constructive play
-game
This is a PowerPoint Presentation that discusses how play is the most important process through which young children learn. Although toys are fun, they are also tools that can help children learn about themselves and the world around them.
Achieving autonomy is the ultimate goal in transactional analysis.Being autonomous means being self governing, determining one’s own destiny, taking responsibility for one’s own actions and feelings and throwing off patterns that are irrelevant and inappropriate to living in the here and now
Life scripts - Transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
The theory of script was developed by Eric Berne and his Co-workers, notably Claude Steiner, in the mid 1960’s.
The concept of script has grown in importance as a part of TA theory, until now it ranks with the ego state model as a central idea of TA.
Passive behaviors - Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrativ...Manu Melwin Joy
When I discount, I do so by making statement to myself in my own head. Thus a discount itself is not observable. Since you can’t thought read, you have no way of knowing I am discounting unless I speak or act in some way which indicates the presence of the discount. These behaviors are known as passive behaviors.
This presentation tells you about the various effects of Divorce on children and how you can overcome them with the help of professional counsellors. For more information have a look at PBCLEGAL official website at http://www.pbclegal.com/ .
Symbiosis and script - transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Thus in ideal parenting, the child’s caretaker will be employing Parent and Adult resources appropriately, while still not discounting her own Child. As the child grows, the parent will provide him with what is needed to complete each stage of development.
This slide show accompanies the learner guide NCV 2 Early Childhood Development Hands-On Training by Melanie Vermaak, published by Future Managers Pty Ltd. For more information visit our website www.futuremanagers.net
Stephen Karpman devised a simple yet powerful diagram for analyzing games, the drama triangle. He suggested that whenever people play games, they are stepping into one of three script roles: Persecutor, Rescuer or Victim.
Tim Sweeney, Licensed Clinical Social, presents The Special Needs Family as part of the 2009 Spring Brown Bag Autism series at the University of Mary Washington.
Developmental Issues and Treatment Recommendations for Children Who Witness V...Gary Direnfeld
The effects of witnessing domestic violence are different depending upon age of the child. This presentation explains domestic violence as it relates to children from a developmental perspective.
People carrying this message may become panicky when they are asked to take on any kind of leadership role. They may “Dry up” when called upon to speak in public.
Play is essential for children in early childhood stage, it is crucial for their various developments:
-cognitive development
-satisfied exploratory need
-master anxiety and conflict
-development communication skills
Various types of play adopted by children:
-symbolic play
-practice play
-social play
-constructive play
-game
This is a PowerPoint Presentation that discusses how play is the most important process through which young children learn. Although toys are fun, they are also tools that can help children learn about themselves and the world around them.
Achieving autonomy is the ultimate goal in transactional analysis.Being autonomous means being self governing, determining one’s own destiny, taking responsibility for one’s own actions and feelings and throwing off patterns that are irrelevant and inappropriate to living in the here and now
Life scripts - Transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
The theory of script was developed by Eric Berne and his Co-workers, notably Claude Steiner, in the mid 1960’s.
The concept of script has grown in importance as a part of TA theory, until now it ranks with the ego state model as a central idea of TA.
Passive behaviors - Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrativ...Manu Melwin Joy
When I discount, I do so by making statement to myself in my own head. Thus a discount itself is not observable. Since you can’t thought read, you have no way of knowing I am discounting unless I speak or act in some way which indicates the presence of the discount. These behaviors are known as passive behaviors.
This presentation tells you about the various effects of Divorce on children and how you can overcome them with the help of professional counsellors. For more information have a look at PBCLEGAL official website at http://www.pbclegal.com/ .
Symbiosis and script - transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Thus in ideal parenting, the child’s caretaker will be employing Parent and Adult resources appropriately, while still not discounting her own Child. As the child grows, the parent will provide him with what is needed to complete each stage of development.
This slide show accompanies the learner guide NCV 2 Early Childhood Development Hands-On Training by Melanie Vermaak, published by Future Managers Pty Ltd. For more information visit our website www.futuremanagers.net
Stephen Karpman devised a simple yet powerful diagram for analyzing games, the drama triangle. He suggested that whenever people play games, they are stepping into one of three script roles: Persecutor, Rescuer or Victim.
Tim Sweeney, Licensed Clinical Social, presents The Special Needs Family as part of the 2009 Spring Brown Bag Autism series at the University of Mary Washington.
Developmental Issues and Treatment Recommendations for Children Who Witness V...Gary Direnfeld
The effects of witnessing domestic violence are different depending upon age of the child. This presentation explains domestic violence as it relates to children from a developmental perspective.
Zhibei Wang04172020Page 5Authoritarian or Authoritati.docxphilipnelson29183
Zhibei Wang
04/17/2020
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Authoritarian or Authoritative Parenting Style: Which Is in Best Interest for Children
Tough Love has gone viral on internet. It is a fanfic musical production about the stepmothers of Disney princesses. It is quite a mockery for the self-pitying but in fact cruel upbringing of the young girls. It is fictional and the stepmothers don’t love their stepdaughters necessarily, but we have to reflect on it: when we are parents, what are the best method to be taken so that our children can be responsible and positive grownups. Authoritarian or authoritative? It is a hot topic that never grows old; every parent has their reason to act upon. Experiencing quite a mix of harsh and lenient ways in my childhood, I find authoritative one more favorable. In the following paragraphs, I will talk about the advantages and disadvantages of both parenting styles.
Positive authoritative are defined as parents to be instructive and highly responsive to the development of child growth (Baumrind, 1966); On the contrary, authoritarian is control over most aspects of children’s lives, to make sure they stay on track (Kuppens & Ceulemans, 2019). There are pros and cons to both sides.
As of authoritarian, the most important outcome is the high academic performances. Authoritarian parents put a lot of effort into student’s schoolwork and extracurricular activities, such as playing piano or violin. They closely follow children’s daily routine, make sure every minute will not go wasted. They want every investment to give harvests. They take their children to all kinds of competitions, and win loads of certificates to quantify how successful and extraordinary the child is. They see children as another form of themselves, impose their dreams on children. Indeed, children who have worked all day, with all kinds of championships and scholarships could end up in ivy league and possibly win a prestigious job when graduated. It seems they have lived a life everyone desires and so it satisfies the parents.
However, it is not the most favorable approach in academia, and there are a lot of downsides to it. First, it restrains the possibility of cultivating comprehensive personalities. Children become obedient to their parents, they cannot communicate well with their peers, their only profound relationship are with their parents throughout their lives, and it is no sign of a fully grown man. I personally have seen too much of a case. People who grow up under the shadow of their parents tend to be indecisive and too dependent on their parents. It is the consequence of psychological control of the authoritarian parenting. Whenever they speak of their mind, they got turned down or shouted back. Then they don’t speak much about themselves with self-centered parents, who think they are doing the best for kids. Under high pressures from parents and with no one can turn to, children are also bearing overwhelming stress and defeated feelings, which c.
Zhibei Wang04172020Page 5Authoritarian or Authoritati.docxodiliagilby
Zhibei Wang
04/17/2020
Page: 5
Authoritarian or Authoritative Parenting Style: Which Is in Best Interest for Children
Tough Love has gone viral on internet. It is a fanfic musical production about the stepmothers of Disney princesses. It is quite a mockery for the self-pitying but in fact cruel upbringing of the young girls. It is fictional and the stepmothers don’t love their stepdaughters necessarily, but we have to reflect on it: when we are parents, what are the best method to be taken so that our children can be responsible and positive grownups. Authoritarian or authoritative? It is a hot topic that never grows old; every parent has their reason to act upon. Experiencing quite a mix of harsh and lenient ways in my childhood, I find authoritative one more favorable. In the following paragraphs, I will talk about the advantages and disadvantages of both parenting styles.
Positive authoritative are defined as parents to be instructive and highly responsive to the development of child growth (Baumrind, 1966); On the contrary, authoritarian is control over most aspects of children’s lives, to make sure they stay on track (Kuppens & Ceulemans, 2019). There are pros and cons to both sides.
As of authoritarian, the most important outcome is the high academic performances. Authoritarian parents put a lot of effort into student’s schoolwork and extracurricular activities, such as playing piano or violin. They closely follow children’s daily routine, make sure every minute will not go wasted. They want every investment to give harvests. They take their children to all kinds of competitions, and win loads of certificates to quantify how successful and extraordinary the child is. They see children as another form of themselves, impose their dreams on children. Indeed, children who have worked all day, with all kinds of championships and scholarships could end up in ivy league and possibly win a prestigious job when graduated. It seems they have lived a life everyone desires and so it satisfies the parents.
However, it is not the most favorable approach in academia, and there are a lot of downsides to it. First, it restrains the possibility of cultivating comprehensive personalities. Children become obedient to their parents, they cannot communicate well with their peers, their only profound relationship are with their parents throughout their lives, and it is no sign of a fully grown man. I personally have seen too much of a case. People who grow up under the shadow of their parents tend to be indecisive and too dependent on their parents. It is the consequence of psychological control of the authoritarian parenting. Whenever they speak of their mind, they got turned down or shouted back. Then they don’t speak much about themselves with self-centered parents, who think they are doing the best for kids. Under high pressures from parents and with no one can turn to, children are also bearing overwhelming stress and defeated feelings, which c ...
1. Life of a Child of
Separated Parents
The Role of the Early Childhood Educator
Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
www.yoursocialworker.com
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2. Childhood Development 101
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
Physiological Needs
air, water, food, sleep, sex, etc.
Safety Needs
Security, safety, stability
Love Needs
Belongingness, connectedness
Esteem Needs
Competence, mastery and attention,
recognition
Self-Actualization
Self-fulfillment, peace
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3. 0 – 1 year old
What’s Going on
Developmentally?
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4. 2 – 4 Year Olds
What’s Going on
Developmentally?
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5. 5 – 12 Year Olds
What’s Going on
Developmentally?
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6. The Equation for
Healthy Development
Healthy Development
=
meeting Maslow’s hierarchy of basic needs
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7. The New Math
Divorce = Change
Change = Disruption + Conflict
Exposure to disruption and conflict
causes stress and undermines healthy development.
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8. Exposure = Stress
Disruption: Conflict
Routines Low conflict
Structure parents able to manage
between themselves
Emotional availability
Medium conflict
Residence Parents require outside
Relationships resources
Expectations High conflict
Care Parents involved in Court
system
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10. Cycling Out of Control
The higher the conflict the greater the disruption. The
greater the disruption the greater the stress. The
greater the stress the more pronounced the impact
on the child. The more pronounced the impact on
the child, the greater the likelihood of seeing
problematic behaviour. The more the problematic
behaviour, the greater the conflict as parents project
blame on each other.
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11. Impact of Conflict on Daycare
Conflict Impact on Daycare
1. Low conflict 1. Parents cooperate and
Parents able to manage inform daycare of
between themselves situation to support child
1. Medium conflict 2. Parents operate separately
Parents require outside with daycare
resources
3. Parents draw daycare into
1. High conflict conflict as source of data
Parents involved in Court to support position or to
system
restrict access to data
and/or child
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12. High Conflict =
Poor Boundaries
Both parents seek custody
May seek to restrict access
Daycare becomes a battleground for transfer/access
Allegations of poor parenting to mal-treatment
Parents may tell stories regarding other parent – mutual
denigration
Both parents may try to define the rights of the other
Parents seek data to use against other parent
Parents seek to enlist or recruit allies from daycare
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13. Kids are exposed to it all
and dragged in…
Spousal abuse
Physical
Fight for me…
Verbal
Psychological Twist things around
Child abuse
Sick and needs help
Physical
Verbal Silver van
Psychological
Audio….
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14. Caution!
One-sided stories – induction
Secret codes – Tell the truth!
Child disclosures does not equal child
experiences!
Role boundary!
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15. Benefits of Daycare
During Divorce
Place of safety
Basic care needs met
Emotional needs for attention and affiliation met
Opportunity for continued learning and skill
development
Neutral turf
Absorb and manage behaviour arising
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16. Management Strategies
1. Define the daycare as a “safe place” (free from issues at home).
2. Limit parents’ disclosures of divorce matters – redirect to counselling
or divorce group/education.
3. Avoid being inducted into a “one-sided” version of events.
4. Remind and redirect parents when talking about the divorce or other
parent in view of the child.
5. Require a letter signed by both parents or court order stipulating who
is responsible for pick-up, emergency calls, etc.
6. Provide only factual or “behavioural” data when required by Court
Order. Charge a fee!
7. Hand out article: Treading on Sacred Ground
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17. The Role and Goal
The role of the ECE is to facilitate
appropriate boundaries between the daycare
and the parents such that the parents do not
intrude on the daycare setting.
The goal is to maintain neutrality for the sake
of the child in a setting that provides a place
of safety and respite from parental conflict.
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18. Policies / Procedures
Boundary issues / parental intrusions
Violence
Access to information / reports
Requests to limit parental role
Other….
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19. Life of a Child of
Separated Parents
The Role of the Early Childhood Educator
Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
www.yoursocialworker.com
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Editor's Notes
Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW Children and Divorce: The Role of the Early Childhood Educator www.yoursocialworker.com
Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW Children and Divorce: The Role of the Early Childhood Educator www.yoursocialworker.com