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Single-parent families are more common that ever, but that does not make the situation any easier or less stressful. Being both a father figure and a mother figure to a parent is nearly impossible, and having only 1 set of hands to have everything doesn't help.
As a single parent, you may be responsible for all aspects
of day-to-day child care, which can result in added pressure, stress and
fatigue. If you're too tired or distracted to be supportive
or discipline your child, behavioral problems might arise.
In addition, single-parent families generally have lower incomes and
less access to health care than those with 2 parents. Juggling work and children can be
financially difficult and socially isolating. You might also worry about
the lack of a male or female parental role model for your child.
October is time for raising domestic violence issues within our communities. It is extra special to survivors like me for people to help spread the facts about domestic violence instead of letting rumors fly around.
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This is a persuasive speech for SP111, speech class for Mt. Hood Community College. I'm trying to persuade people to respect single-parent families. It is about the cause of single-parenting, the negative & disrespectful attitudes toward single parents, and the positive effects of single-parent families.
Single-parent families are more common that ever, but that does not make the situation any easier or less stressful. Being both a father figure and a mother figure to a parent is nearly impossible, and having only 1 set of hands to have everything doesn't help.
As a single parent, you may be responsible for all aspects
of day-to-day child care, which can result in added pressure, stress and
fatigue. If you're too tired or distracted to be supportive
or discipline your child, behavioral problems might arise.
In addition, single-parent families generally have lower incomes and
less access to health care than those with 2 parents. Juggling work and children can be
financially difficult and socially isolating. You might also worry about
the lack of a male or female parental role model for your child.
October is time for raising domestic violence issues within our communities. It is extra special to survivors like me for people to help spread the facts about domestic violence instead of letting rumors fly around.
We've all heard about dysfunctional families but it is hard to recognise one from the inside. This presentation looks at ten patterns you often see in a dysfuctional family. We look at some of the reasons families can become dysfunctional and some of the ways that kids learn to cope.
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Contents lists available at ScienceDirectJournal of Adoles.docxmaxinesmith73660
Contents lists available at ScienceDirect
Journal of Adolescence
journal homepage: www.elsevier.com/locate/adolescence
Young adolescents’ responsiveness to sexual communication with
their mother: Distinguishing diverse intentions
Heather A. Sears∗, Brett S. Robinson1, E. Sandra Byers
Department of Psychology, University of New Brunswick, P.O. Box 4400, Fredericton, New Brunswick, E3B 5A3, Canada
A R T I C L E I N F O
Keywords:
Responsiveness
Intentions
Sexual communication
Young adolescents
Mothers
A B S T R A C T
Introduction: It is unlikely that parents can have effective sexuality discussions with their ado-
lescent if the adolescent is not responsive to their efforts. We evaluated young adolescents’ in-
tentions of being responsive to sexual communication with their mother and whether youths who
were likely, ambivalent, or unlikely to be responsive differed on their characteristics, features of
previous sexual communication, and features of the mother-adolescent relationship.
Methods: Participants were 259 Canadian adolescents (12–14 years; 53% girls) who received and
returned a survey by mail. They completed measures of responsiveness intentions, expected
outcomes of sexual communication, extent of past sexual communication, the frequency with
which mothers encouraged questions and provided information about sexuality topics, open
communication, and mothers’ provision of warmth, structure, and autonomy support.
Results: We found that 37% of adolescents were likely to be responsive to sexual communication
with their mother, 34% were ambivalent, and 29% were unlikely to be responsive. Youths’ re-
sponsiveness intentions were general rather than topic-specific. A discriminant analysis showed
that only features of previous sexual communication separated all three groups whereas specific
mother-adolescent relationship features (open communication and structure) and one adolescent
characteristic (expected outcomes) separated the unlikely group from the other groups.
Conclusions: Young adolescents' intentions of being responsive to sexual communication from
their mother are diverse yet general in nature. Mothers' engagement in sexual communication
appears essential for youths' openness to these discussions. Enhancing specific mother-adolescent
relationship features and youths’ outcome expectations may shift adolescents who are resistant to
sexuality discussions to being more sure.
1. Introduction
Communication between parents and their adolescents about sexual health topics has the potential to be a win-win situation for
both parties. For parents, sexual communication is an opportunity to fulfill one of their acknowledged responsibilities by providing
information that can prevent negative sexual outcomes and sharing attitudes and values (Flores & Barroso, 2017; Jerman &
Constantine, 2010). For adolescents, sexual communication is an opportunity to gain factual information and practical skills from one
of their preferred sources of sexu.
Contents lists available at ScienceDirectJournal of Adoles.docxdickonsondorris
Contents lists available at ScienceDirect
Journal of Adolescence
journal homepage: www.elsevier.com/locate/adolescence
Young adolescents’ responsiveness to sexual communication with
their mother: Distinguishing diverse intentions
Heather A. Sears∗, Brett S. Robinson1, E. Sandra Byers
Department of Psychology, University of New Brunswick, P.O. Box 4400, Fredericton, New Brunswick, E3B 5A3, Canada
A R T I C L E I N F O
Keywords:
Responsiveness
Intentions
Sexual communication
Young adolescents
Mothers
A B S T R A C T
Introduction: It is unlikely that parents can have effective sexuality discussions with their ado-
lescent if the adolescent is not responsive to their efforts. We evaluated young adolescents’ in-
tentions of being responsive to sexual communication with their mother and whether youths who
were likely, ambivalent, or unlikely to be responsive differed on their characteristics, features of
previous sexual communication, and features of the mother-adolescent relationship.
Methods: Participants were 259 Canadian adolescents (12–14 years; 53% girls) who received and
returned a survey by mail. They completed measures of responsiveness intentions, expected
outcomes of sexual communication, extent of past sexual communication, the frequency with
which mothers encouraged questions and provided information about sexuality topics, open
communication, and mothers’ provision of warmth, structure, and autonomy support.
Results: We found that 37% of adolescents were likely to be responsive to sexual communication
with their mother, 34% were ambivalent, and 29% were unlikely to be responsive. Youths’ re-
sponsiveness intentions were general rather than topic-specific. A discriminant analysis showed
that only features of previous sexual communication separated all three groups whereas specific
mother-adolescent relationship features (open communication and structure) and one adolescent
characteristic (expected outcomes) separated the unlikely group from the other groups.
Conclusions: Young adolescents' intentions of being responsive to sexual communication from
their mother are diverse yet general in nature. Mothers' engagement in sexual communication
appears essential for youths' openness to these discussions. Enhancing specific mother-adolescent
relationship features and youths’ outcome expectations may shift adolescents who are resistant to
sexuality discussions to being more sure.
1. Introduction
Communication between parents and their adolescents about sexual health topics has the potential to be a win-win situation for
both parties. For parents, sexual communication is an opportunity to fulfill one of their acknowledged responsibilities by providing
information that can prevent negative sexual outcomes and sharing attitudes and values (Flores & Barroso, 2017; Jerman &
Constantine, 2010). For adolescents, sexual communication is an opportunity to gain factual information and practical skills from one
of their preferred sources of sexu.
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Textbook, pages 253-256 (LO 6.16: Parenting Styles):
Parenting
Parents are a key part of children’s lives everywhere, but how parents view their role and their approaches to discipline and punishment vary widely. First, we look at an influential model of parenting “styles” based on American parenting, then we look at views of parenting based in other cultures.
Parenting “Styles”
LO 6.16 Specify the four types of parenting “styles” and identify the cultural limitations of this model.
Have you heard the joke about the man who, before he had any children, had five theories about how they should be raised? Ten years later he had five children and no theories.
Well, jokes aside, most parents do have ideas about how best to raise children, even after they have had children for awhile (Harkness et al., 2015; Tamis-LeMonda et al., 2008). In research, the investigation of this topic has often involved the study of
parenting styles
; that is, the practices that parents exhibit in relation to their children and their beliefs about those practices. This research originated in the United States and has involved mainly American children and their parents, although it has now been applied in some other countries as well.
Four Parenting Styles
For over 50 years, American scholars have engaged in research on parenting styles, and the results have been quite consistent (Bornstein & Bradley, 2014; Collins & Laursen, 2004; Maccoby & Martin, 1983). Virtually all prominent scholarship on parenting has described it in terms of two dimensions: demandingness and responsiveness (also known by other terms such as
control
and
warmth
). Parental
demandingness
is the degree to which parents set down rules and expectations for behavior and require their children to comply with them. Parental
responsiveness
is the degree to which parents are sensitive to their children’s needs and express love, warmth, and concern.
Various scholars have combined these two dimensions to describe different kinds of parenting styles. For many years, the best known and most widely used conception of parenting styles was the one articulated by Diana Baumrind (1968, 1971, 1991). Her research on middle-class White American families, along with the research of other scholars inspired by her ideas, has identified four distinct parenting styles (Collins & Laursen, 2004; Maccoby & Martin, 1983; Pinquart, 2017; Steinberg, 2000).
Authoritative parents
are high in demandingness and high in responsiveness. They set clear rules and expectations for their children. Furthermore, they make clear what the consequences will be if their children do not comply, and they make those consequences stick if necessary. However, authoritative parents do not simply “lay down the law” and then enforce it rigidly. A distinctive feature of authoritative parents is that they
explain
the reasons for their rules and expectations to their children, and they willingly engage in discussion with their children.
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3. Lesbian/Gay Family Formation
Initially, children were born in heterosexual marriages, and
following announcement of lesbian/gay identities, families were
formed with lesbian/gay partners
Currently, lesbian/gay identities are announced and
partnerships are formed afterwards
3
4. Stresses from Lack of Legal Protections for
Families in Most States
Second parent may not be able to adopt and so second parent
lacks legal tie
Child has no legal tie to one parent, can not visit as family
member if parent is ill or child is ill, parent can not visit as family
Child has no access to benefits such as health care
Parent with legal tie may be able to eliminate other parent in
the event of dissolution
4
5. Advantages to Lesbian/Gay Families When
Marriages Have Legal Status
Canadian couples report they feel closer, and have a greater
depth of feeling since legalization
Couples feel more accepted and respected
Children are less likely to be teased
5
6. Gay Men’s Reasons for Becoming
a Parent
Finding psychological and personal fulfillment
Partner’s desire to have child
Seeking to ensure future personal security, having someone
who will care for him when old
6
7. Gay Men’s Reasons for Having Children
at That Time
Their age
Relationship-related reasons (stability of relationship)
Work stability
Life changing events like moving to a home, meeting other gay
parents
Considering it the next stage of life
7
8. Lesbians’ Reasons for Becoming Parents
Desire to conceive and bear a child
Because partner wants a child
About 25% of parents in one study did not want a child but had
a child only because partner wanted one
The parents later found they enjoyed parenthood
8
9. Pathways to Parenthood for
Lesbian/Gay Parents
Heterosexual sex with a friend
Donor sperm from a friend
Anonymous Donor Sperm
Can cost $500 or more
Alternative Reproductive Technology (ART)
One gay parent may wish to have a biological connection
Surrogacy
9
10. Pathways to Parenthood for
Lesbian/Gay Parents (cont.)
Public adoption
Costs range from $0 to $2,500
Private adoption
Costs range from $8,000 to $40,000
Adoption barriers
Some states do not allow lesbian and gay couples to adopt; one parent
will apply as single parent and adopt child; the other parent will petition
the state to be a co-parent
Some countries like China and Guatemala require single parents to
supply proof of heterosexuality
10
11. Practical Questions
What will the child call the two parents?
Parents may refer to themselves as “Mommy” and “Mama” or
“Daddy” and “Papa”
What will the child’s last name be?
A hyphenated name?
Name of the parent who adopted the child?
11
12. Transition to Parenting for Gay Men
More complex than heterosexual couples’ transition
Until recently, gay men believed they renounced the right to be
a father when they identified as a gay man
In the past, many gay men chose more expensive options like
private adoptions or ART
Early fathers having children not conceived in marriage, were older,
more determined, and had greater financial resources
12
13. Transition to Parenthood for
Lesbian Mothers
Experiences of lesbian couples are similar to those of heterosexual
couples when both groups are adopting
Both groups report similar levels of worry and tension of being
accepted as parents
A subsample of both lesbian and heterosexual prospective parents
reported depression at not being able to conceive
Both groups sought support from family and friends
Women, both heterosexual and lesbian, received more support from
family and friends than men
13
14. Transition to Parenthood for
Lesbian Mothers (cont.)
Lesbian women received less support than heterosexual women
Interviews with lesbian women and their partner who chose donor
insemination stated what role men would play in their child’s life
First group was the largest with 2/3 of women being very deliberate in
their choices about men’s roles
Second group, 25%, were termed “flexible” because they decided to
wait and see what seemed best to do
Third group, 9%, were uncertain what role men would play
14
15. Transition to Parenthood for
Lesbian Mothers (cont.)
When babies were three months old, some mothers had changed their
minds
3 “flexible” mothers became deliberate in incorporating men in their lives
because they saw their babies respond differently to men
Many similarities between transitions of lesbian and heterosexual mothers
Lesbian mothers reported a decline in feelings of love for partner and increases
in conflicts from the last trimester of pregnancy to three months following the
birth
There was less time available for partners and that seemed to cause conflicts
15
16. Transition to Parenthood for
Lesbian Mothers (cont.)
Biological mother tends to take primary care of baby
Co-mothers often report instant bonding with the new baby
There was more equal sharing in lesbian families with co-
mothers more willing to take equal care
16
17. Transition to Parenthood for
Lesbian Mothers (cont.)
Comparing single and partnered lesbian mothers with single
and married heterosexual parents revealed
Single heterosexual and lesbian mothers were warmer and more
positive with children than partnered heterosexual mothers
All lesbian mothers were more interactive with babies than single
heterosexual mothers
Single heterosexual and lesbian mothers reported more serious
though not more frequent disputes with children
17
18. Common to All Groups in the Transition
to Parenting
Gay men, lesbian and heterosexual couples report a decline in
relationship quality with partner across the transition period
Factors that account for relationship drop is same in all three
group:
Sleep deprivation
Little time to check in with each other
Difficulties balancing work and family
Gay men also included conflicts in parenting beliefs
18
19. Strategies to Deal with
Relationship Decline
Same strategies recommended in Chapter 4 are useful in all
three groups:
Checking in with partner
Bringing up differences and talking about them before they are
huge issues
Finding collaborative solutions
Babies draw similar behaviors from parents regardless of parents’
sexual preferences
19
21. Parenting of Lesbian Parents
First group studied was lesbian mothers who were divorced and wanted
to keep custody of their children
In studies comparing divorced lesbian mothers with heterosexual
mothers, no differences were found between the groups in:
Self concept
Overall psychological adjustment
Psychiatric status
Sex-role behavior
Interest in children
Child rearing
21
22. Parenting of Lesbian Parents (cont.)
Later wave of studies focused on lesbian mothers who became
mothers when living with lesbian partners and revealed:
High levels of shared decision-making, parenting and family work that
reflected strong beliefs in an egalitarian ideology
Higher levels of satisfaction with partner-relationships and higher levels
of satisfaction with partner’s parenting
Lesbian mothers by donor insemination had strong desires for children;
devoted a great deal of time to choosing parenthood
Equal or exceeded amount of time of heterosexual parents in time
spent with children, warmth, affection, and parenting skills
22
23. Parenting of Gay Parents
Much less is known because there was not the volume of work
done to justify their parenthood following a divorce
Studies suggest:
Gay fathers are more responsive and more careful about monitoring
Gay fathers rely more on authoritative strategies
Family happiness in families of gay father, teen son, and father’s
partner when partner has a good relationship with the son
23
24. Parenting of Gay Parents (cont.)
Gay couples who are parents, like lesbian couples:
Co-parent more equally though this does not mean doing half of every
task
Co-parenting equally means sharing overall work load with one parent
specializing in one task and the other doing another
Gay fathers more likely than any other group to use positive parenting
strategies and to avoid spanking
Gay fathers were also open about same-sex relationships with
children’s friends and at their schools
24
25. Samples Studied
We know most about lesbian, gay parents who are European
American, middle-class, and well educated
National studies have identified working-class lesbian mothers
raising children in places where they are a small percentage of
the population, and whether the same findings apply, we do
not know
25
26. Special Challenges
In lesbian families, there may be difficulties when one mother
has a biological or legal connection to the child giving her
greater power and the other does not
As in all families, parents have to find the way to carry out the
parental role that suits them
One lesbian mother did not want to be a maternal figure but found
the role of lesbian dad more comfortable, teaching things a dad
would teach
26
27. Special Challenges (cont.)
Parents worry about stigmatization of their child by other
children
Parents try to live in areas where other lesbian families are
located and enroll children in schools that will support them
Sometimes schools discriminate parents as well, restricting their
participation in class trips or classroom activities
27
28. Special Challenges (cont.)
Parents model positive behaviors when they directly address
authorities about any restrictions
When parents address school authorities about bullying or teasing
children, they can point out a safe school environment for all children
is so important that laws are being considered in Congress to describe
the school’s role
Parents can volunteer to be on task force or committee to deal with
bullying or other negative behaviors that interfere with children’s
learning
28
29. Strengths of Growing Up in
Lesbian and Gay Families
In interviews, parents identified three benefits children received
growing up in lesbian and gay families despite the
stigmatization
Understanding and accepting different points of view
Open in talking about their feelings and problems
Free of the restrictions of traditional gender role models
29
30. Strengths of Growing Up in
Lesbian and Gay Families (cont.)
Talking about childhood experiences, adolescents and young
adults identify similar strengths:
Being accepting and nonjudgmental of a broad range of beliefs,
cultures, and social views
Having a broad definition of family and valuing communities of
chosen friends
Valuing honesty, truthfulness in relationships after having secrets in
childhood
Being more comfortable with gender nonconformity
30
31. Children’s Responses to Parents’ Sexual
Orientation
When children are born into lesbian/gay families, they learn of
parents’ orientation very gradually
Parents may mention differences
Children may notice differences but there may be a specific event
that made children realize their parents were different and so did
not approve
31
32. Children’s Responses to Parents’ Sexual
Orientation
When children lived with parents as heterosexual parents and
then parent identifies as gay or lesbian, children learned
Either from parent who explained the reason for a divorce or
change in partners
Or indirectly by parents making comments or taking child to same-
sex event or by leaving reading material around
32
33. Children’s Responses to Parents’ Sexual
Orientation (cont.)
Children’s reactions depend on living situation
When children have lived in lesbian/gay family since birth and
community is supportive, children may feel “no big deal”
In one study, majority of children had a mild or neutral reaction with
only a small percentage feeling angry or ashamed
When children were told, they had two big worries:
Would other children reject them?
Would other children think they were gay or lesbian also?
33
34. Children’s Strategies for Dealing with
Worries about Others’ Reactions
Boundary control – children sought:
To control parents’ behavior by asking parents to act in a certain way
Example: coming to school events separately or sleeping in separate
bedrooms when friends slept over
Control their own behavior
Example: not going certain places with parents
Controlling peers behavior
Example: not inviting them over
34
35. Children’s Strategies for Dealing with Worries
about Others’ Reactions (cont.)
Nondisclosure of parents’ sexual orientation
Selective disclosure to only certain people
In one sample of ten-year-olds:
57% completely open
39% open with selective friends
4% were secretive
35
36. Parents’ Responses to Children’s
Strategies
Parents are sometimes aware that children may only invite
certain friends over and why they want parents to come to
school events separately
Young adults said it was very helpful to them when parents
understood and respected their feelings; not putting pressure
on them to disclose
36
37. Knowing Sperm Donor
There appears no simple trend in research about knowing
donor
Children with known donors did not appear to differ in
adjustment from those who did not know donor
While some children wanted contact and a connection, others
did not care
37
38. Young Adults’ Reports of Growing Up in
Lesbian/Gay Families
Many felt discriminated against not just by peers but by school
officials who allowed negative comments to be made with no
attempt to stop them
Some felt they were under a microscope as people were
judging them and also their parents
They felt they had to be seen as “successful” and “well-adjusted”
38
39. Young Adults’ Reports of Growing Up in
Lesbian/Gay Families cont.
As adults, many realized having to keep secrets about their
parents’ sexual orientation was stressful for them
Only half of the sample were completely open about parents’ sexual
orientation and many were open to educate others
A second group disclosed selectively as a way of testing the value
of a possible friendship
A third group did not routinely disclose information as they thought
it was irrelevant and not part of their own identity
39
40. Young Adults Identified Three Supports
Growing Up
Their parents who were positive, confident role models who
talked about their sexual orientation and created a supportive
home with open communication about the disapproval some
people felt and how to handle it
Extended family members who created a supportive network
and were models of how to handle difficulties
Good friends with whom they had fun times so they felt
included and connected
40
41. Psychological Adjustment of Children
Research has focused on three areas:
Nature of children’s gender identity
Their psychological stability
Their social relationships with other children
41
42. Psychological Adjustment of Children
(cont.)
Gender identity
There is no evidence that children of lesbian/gay parents have an
increased likelihood of lesbian/gay gender identity themselves or an
increased same-sex orientation
Children living with lesbian/gay parents are as socially adjusted and
socially competent as children living with heterosexual parents
Their psychological adjustment appears similar to that of other
children with no special problems with self-esteem or depression
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43. Nationwide Study of Adolescent
Functioning
National study of 44 teens living with lesbian parents (only 6
living with gay parents, too few to form a reliable sample)
Extensive data collected
Adolescents filled out questionnaires
One parent (usually resident mother) filled out questionnaire and
was interviewed about home, child rearing, and parent-child
relationship
Peers rated teens on social relationships
Schools provided grades
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44. Nationwide Study of Adolescent
Functioning (cont.)
Covered functioning in a variety of areas
Psychological stability
Relationships with parents
Academic success
Social friendships and peer acceptance
Dating and romantic relationships
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45. Results of Nationwide Study of
Adolescent Functioning
In all areas of behavior, teens of lesbian parents were functioning as well
as teens from families headed by heterosexual couples
Romantic relationships were similar and both teens and peers reported
that teens living in lesbian families were as well accepted as controls
Parents’ sexual orientation did not predict differences in teens’ behaviors
but the quality of the parent-child relationship did
Regardless of sexual orientation of parent, parents’ reports of close
relationships with teens predicted teens’ stability and competence and
lower rates of substance abuse
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46. Family Dissolutions
Estimates are that 40 to 50% of families dissolve ties
Same reasons as heterosexual families
Incompatibility
Differing views on child rearing
Difficulties in sharing household tasks
Financial arguments
Often there are no mechanisms for protecting the interests of children
Parents can seek a collaborative separation process but there may be
no legal protections or any court services available
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47. Managing Stress in Lesbian/Gay
Families
Factors that may account for resilience in families
Careful planning to have child and how to meet their needs
Middle-class resources to meet stress and disapproval that came
primarily from outside the home and not from conflict within it
Parents emphasized equality in adult relationships and sharing
household tasks
Parents established climate of open and honest communication
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48. Managing Stress in Lesbian/Gay
Families (cont.)
Factors that may account for resilience in families
Parents encouraged children’s individuality and a broad range of
interests
Parents’ understanding of children’s behavior with respect to hiding
parents’ orientation
Willingness to put children’s needs first
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49. Chapter 16
Parenting in Lesbian and Gay Families
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CFD 250
Parenting in Contemporary
Society