Observations on Space and Resilience

1. Because It’s Like That …
and That’s The Way It Is:
Observations on Space and Resilience

12. Don’t Let the Rub Become a Rut:
Observations on Space and Resilience

13. Check Your Head
Observations on Space and Resilience

14. When Thinking Like a Lawyer
Gets You Stuck
Practical Tools for Creating Space and
Building Resilience

15. Creating Space:
Practical Tools for Keeping Your Head
While Navigating a Changing World

16. Building Resilience:
Practical Tools for Keeping Your Head
While Navigating a Changing World

17. Courage, Curiosity, and
Connection:
Practical Tools for Creating Space and
Keeping Your Head While Navigating a
Changing World

18. Getting Comfortable with
Discomfort:
Practical Tools for Keeping Your Head
While Navigating a Changing World

19. Making Sure the Tool Isn’t You:
Train Your Brain to Use Technology (So
That Neither Uses You)

20. Grace and Gratitude
Arthur Morehead and Living Well

21. Tinder For Lawyers
Swipe Right for Professional Success!

23. I Am Not Your Dad

24. Overview
• Getting Stuck
• Ways Our Thinking Leads Us Astray
• Some Tools for Creating the Space to be
Curious, Creative, and Courageous (or to avoid
feeling Afraid, Cynical, and Hopeless)

25. Safety and Resilience
“The term "resilience" means the ability to prepare for and adapt to
changing conditions and withstand and recover rapidly from
disruptions. Resilience includes the ability to withstand and recover
from deliberate attacks, accidents, or naturally occurring threats or
incidents.”
“The terms "secure" and "security" refer to reducing the risk to critical
infrastructure by physical means or defense cyber measures to
intrusions, attacks, or the effects of natural or manmade disasters.”
Presidential Policy Directive—Critical Infrastructure Security and
Resilience, February 12, 2013
“Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity,
trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as
family and relationship problems, serious health problems or
workplace and financial stressors. It means ‘bouncing back’ from
difficult experiences.” – American Psychological Association

26. Lens/Frame/Filter When
Thinking’s What You Do

27. Tools to Filter and Frame
• Your Uniqueness
• Seek and Present Information
• Work on Your Own/Compete
• Avoid Risk and Find Certainty
• Think Criticially (With Skepticism, Pessimism)
• Follow the Rules/Conform
• Play it Safe

28. Use of the Tools
• Seek Compensation, Clients, Advancement
• Get Access, Status, Information, Affirmation
(from Clients, Decision-makers, Higher-Ups)
• Avoid Blame in a Zero-Sum Game
• Extrinsic and Linear

29. The Tools Narrow the Focus
“Please remove the ‘e’ in ‘judgement’ in
one of your slides (towards the end).”

30. Using the Tools

31. The Tools When Things Don’t
Go As “Planned”?

32. Stress and Distress (Getting Stuck)

33. Reactions to Distress- Get Me to
Safety

34. What’s Missing When Distress Sticks?
• The Capability to Manage Emotion
• Space to Respond (Rather Than React)
• Context/Awareness
• Cooperation/Collaboration/Communication (Listening)
• The Willingness to Change (Curiosity, Creativity)

36. Chronic Stress and the
Mind/Body

37. Burnout and Awareness
• Lack of Gumption
• Cynicism
• Low Energy

38. You May Not See The Whole Picture
• Natural Selection and Survival
• The Tribe
• The Fundamental Attribution Error

39. Even when things are good …

40. A Thought Experiment

41. Awareness and the Whole Picture

46. I Just Go Through Life, With My
Glasses Blurred . . .

47. Blind Spots That Keep You Stuck

49. Sometimes We are the Tool

51. Because We’re All Written Down on
The Same List …

52. Notice The Stories You Tell
• Livin’ the Dream
• Another Day in Paradise
• My Dad didn’t do any housework
• These Goddamn Millennials and Everybody Gets a
Trophy
• These Goddamn Baby Boomers Just Trying to Retire
• I Don’t Think ______ Woulda’ Done it This Way
• I Don’t Do Technology
• I Just Want to Retire Before Things Get Any More Crazy.
• Pringle, Why Don’t You Shut the Hell Up?

53. The Business Case

54. Widen the Lens

56. Space to Respond and Recover
(Build Energy)
• The Breath
• Exercise
• Habits and Routines (Process)
• Allow for Rest and Recovery

57. Space to Make Mistakes

58. Space for (Uncomfortable) Growth
Embrace
Challenges
Learn from
Criticism

59. Build Things That Can’t Be Taken Away

61. Start Building Now

62. It Won’t Happen Without You (And Me)

63. Create Space For Attention

65. Practice Gratitude By Giving Time

66. Practice Gratitude -5 Minutes a Day

68. One Thing I Know, Is That Life Is
Short …

69. Where the Real Work Is …

71. Create Space for Solving Problems

72. Resources
Jeena Cho, The Anxious Lawyer, https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Lawyer-Satisfying-
Mindfulness-Meditation/dp/1627226249
Baba Shiv, How Do You Find Breakthrough Ideas?, Stanford Graduate School of
Business, http://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/baba-shiv-how-do-you-find-
breakthrough-ideas
The Resilient Lawyer http://theanxiouslawyer.com/rl-23-jack-pringle/
Farnham Street https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/
One You Feed With Michael Taft http://www.oneyoufeed.net/michael-taft/
Tim Ferris with Brene Brown http://fourhourworkweek.com/2015/08/28/brene-
brown-on-vulnerability-and-home-run-ted-talks/
On Being With Ellen Langer http://www.onbeing.org/program/ellen-langer-science-of-
mindlessness-and-mindfulness/6332
You Are Not So Smart http://youarenotsosmart.libsyn.com/062-naive-realism-lee-ross-
0
“Living (Happily) Surrounded by Conflict: Surprise! How Lawyers are Leading the
Mindfulness Revolution,” Judi Cohen, http://warriorone.com/wp-
content/uploads/2015/03/Living-Happily-Surrounded-by-Conflict.pdf
“What Resilient Lawyers Do Differently,” Paula Davis-Laack,
https://www.forbes.com/sites/pauladavislaack/2017/09/26/what-resilient-lawyers-
do-differently/#67617c313495
Darryl “DMC” McDaniels Finds Therapy More Helpful Than Olde English 800
https://www.hilariousworld.org/episode/2019/11/18/darryl-dmc-mcdaniels-finds-
therapy-more-helpful-than-olde-english-800

73. More Resources
The Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right, by Atul Gawande
http://www.amazon.com/Checklist-Manifesto-How-Things-Right/dp/0312430000
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D
http://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Success-Carol-Dweck/dp/0345472322
Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success, by Adam Grant
http://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986
The Algebra of Happiness: Notes on the Pursuit of Success, Love, and Meaning, Scott Galloway,
https://www.amazon.com/Algebra-Happiness-Pursuit-Success-Meaning/dp/0593084195
“Art of Letting Other People Have Your Way: Negotiating Secrets with Chris Voss,” The Knowledge Project Podcast,
https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/2018/01/chris-voss/
Resources for Lawyers to Help Create Space and Build Resilience,
https://www.slideshare.net/jjpringle317/resources-for-lawyers-to-help-create-space
Summon Your Dayman (or Daywoman): Seven Ways to Use Technology to Become a Master of Karate (and
Friendship) For Everyone, https://www.slideshare.net/jjpringle317/summon-your-dayman-or-daywoman-seven-
ways-to-use-technology-to-become-a-master-of-karate-and-friendship-for-everyone