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This presentation provides clarity to recognise the gambling problem, gain perspective and change from the old patterns that developed as the gambling addiction was progressing.
14. In our life; anything in absence of these stages of self development; such as individual gains, visions of different colors, idols, experiences of meeting deities, smells, sounds, intuitions and; and even so called peace, joy etc; are temporary, petty, illusory and obstructive to individual and global blossoming.
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Carbon in its purity is found only in the diamond. We have it comparatively pure, however, in the lampblack, or Carboneum. Carbon will necessarily be somewhat different in its action according to the source from which we obtained it.
Hahnemann used principally three carbons, CARBO ANIMALIS, CARBO VEGETABILIS and GRAPHITES.
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Atlas of the Heart (2021) is a guide to understanding your emotions and learning how to regulate them. Everyone experiences strong emotions, but most people can’t identify what it is they’re feeling, or work out where the feelings come from. Developing your emotional vocabulary will transform your relationship to yourself, and the people around you.
Who is it for?
• Curious adventurers interested in exploring their own emotional landscapes
• Anyone who feels flooded by painful emotions that they can’t understand or control
• Fans of Brené Brown’s work wanting to learn more about her latest insightful theories of emotion
What’s in it for me?
Learn to navigate your own emotional map.
Imagine you’re stumbling around in the dark, in an unfamiliar city, trying to find your way to a bright light twinkling on a distant hill. You see dark shapes that you think you recognize, but you’re not quite sure what they are. You know you want to get to that light, but the way there involves crossing deep gorges and climbing menacing hills. And there’s no clear path in sight.
You might feel lost like this – without a clear sense of where you really are in your emotional landscape. You might struggle to even name your feelings. Or to understand feelings that come on strongly. Like why is it that that particular person always pushes your buttons? Is there a deeper meaning to the emotions that you’re feeling, or is it just a sign that you need to get some rest?
You want to understand, but the answers to those questions lie just out of reach, in that foggy darkness. And in your search for answers, you’re rocked by emotions, blown off course, left feeling lost and bewildered, and sometimes in despair. You know you want to get to a place where you feel grounded, and content – but it seems elusive, like that bright light on the hill: always around that next bend, never coming closer in view.
Nowadays, it’s becoming more common to talk about emotions. Talk shows now use words like “trauma” regularly, and we can talk about experiences of vulnerability and depression much more openly than we used to. But do we really understand what these words mean? Can we recognize the difference between joy and happiness? What about shame and guilt?
We still have so much to learn about emotions. And that’s where Brené Brown comes in: she’s able to offer clarity on the things that shape our lives.
In these blinks, we’ll gain some orientation of our emotional landscapes with an atlas – the Atlas of the Heart. We’ll learn how to start navigating our feelings with more nuance and more clarity. So, let’s get into it!
In these blinks, you’ll learn
• why hopelessness and despair are the most dangerous emotions you can experience;
• How understanding your emotions will transform your relationships; and
• why happiness and joy are not the same.
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Carbon in its purity is found only in the diamond. We have it comparatively pure, however, in the lampblack, or Carboneum. Carbon will necessarily be somewhat different in its action according to the source from which we obtained it.
Hahnemann used principally three carbons, CARBO ANIMALIS, CARBO VEGETABILIS and GRAPHITES.
Staphysagria is a homeopathic remedy made from the stavesacre plant.It’s used for various problems but most often employed to reduce pain and help heal cuts and surgical wounds.
Atlas of the Heart (2021) is a guide to understanding your emotions and learning how to regulate them. Everyone experiences strong emotions, but most people can’t identify what it is they’re feeling, or work out where the feelings come from. Developing your emotional vocabulary will transform your relationship to yourself, and the people around you.
Who is it for?
• Curious adventurers interested in exploring their own emotional landscapes
• Anyone who feels flooded by painful emotions that they can’t understand or control
• Fans of Brené Brown’s work wanting to learn more about her latest insightful theories of emotion
What’s in it for me?
Learn to navigate your own emotional map.
Imagine you’re stumbling around in the dark, in an unfamiliar city, trying to find your way to a bright light twinkling on a distant hill. You see dark shapes that you think you recognize, but you’re not quite sure what they are. You know you want to get to that light, but the way there involves crossing deep gorges and climbing menacing hills. And there’s no clear path in sight.
You might feel lost like this – without a clear sense of where you really are in your emotional landscape. You might struggle to even name your feelings. Or to understand feelings that come on strongly. Like why is it that that particular person always pushes your buttons? Is there a deeper meaning to the emotions that you’re feeling, or is it just a sign that you need to get some rest?
You want to understand, but the answers to those questions lie just out of reach, in that foggy darkness. And in your search for answers, you’re rocked by emotions, blown off course, left feeling lost and bewildered, and sometimes in despair. You know you want to get to a place where you feel grounded, and content – but it seems elusive, like that bright light on the hill: always around that next bend, never coming closer in view.
Nowadays, it’s becoming more common to talk about emotions. Talk shows now use words like “trauma” regularly, and we can talk about experiences of vulnerability and depression much more openly than we used to. But do we really understand what these words mean? Can we recognize the difference between joy and happiness? What about shame and guilt?
We still have so much to learn about emotions. And that’s where Brené Brown comes in: she’s able to offer clarity on the things that shape our lives.
In these blinks, we’ll gain some orientation of our emotional landscapes with an atlas – the Atlas of the Heart. We’ll learn how to start navigating our feelings with more nuance and more clarity. So, let’s get into it!
In these blinks, you’ll learn
• why hopelessness and despair are the most dangerous emotions you can experience;
• How understanding your emotions will transform your relationships; and
• why happiness and joy are not the same.
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4. FAMILY SYSTEMS AND STRUCTURES
• Every family system creates its own structure
and interactive patters
• It aims to relieve tension and
solve problems
5. FUNCTIONS OF A FAMILY SYSTEM
• PROVIDES BOUNDARIES
• MEETS THE NEED TO BELONG AND BE LOVED
• PROVIDES SAFETY, MAINTENANCE AND
NURTURING
• DEFINES AUTONOMY AND SEPERATENESS
• DEFINES SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-WORTH
• PROVIDES A SENSE OF MEANING
• PROVIDES FUN AND ENTERTAINMENT
• PROVIDES SAFETY AND WARMTH
7. BOUNDARIES
• RIGID BOUNDARIES
– BECOMES TOO PROTECTIVE AND RESULTS IN
ISOLATION AND LONELINESS
FLEXIBLE AND ADAPTABLE
DIFFUSE AND BOUNDARIES BEING TOO LOOSE
RESULTS IN EASY VIOLATION OF THEMSELVES
8. SEVERELY DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES
EXPERIENCE:
• ABUSE AND/OR NEGLECT (PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL
AND/OR SEXUAL)
• RULES SUCH AS “DON’T” TALK CREATES THE
SPACE FOR SECRETS TO EXIST
• AN INABILITY TO CONNECT WITH AND EXPRESS
FEELINGS
• PERFECTIONISM AND AN INABILITY TO HAVE FUN
• A HIGH TOLERANCE FOR INAPPROPRIATE
BEHAVIOUR AND PAIN
9. • ENMESHMENT AND OVER PROTECTION
• DOUBLE BIND MESSAGES
• MANIPULATION
10. RULES AND PATTERN FREQUENTLY
PRESENT IN ADDICTIVE FAMILIES:
• DON’T TALK
• DON’T FEEL
• DON’T TRUST
DUE TO THE ABOVE INTERNAL CONFLICT
OCCURS AS FAMILY MEMBERS DONT FEEL
SAFE. MANY ARE AROUND FINANCES WHICH
IMPLIES THAT FAMILIES ARE FULL OF FEAR,
ANGER, HURT AND EMOTIONAL PAIN.
11. • DISHONESTY, LIES AND SECRETS RESULT IN
FEELINGS OF BETRAYAL. THIS THEN TENDS TO
ERODE AND BREAK DOWN THE TRUST
12. PROBLEMS AND ISSUES FREQUENTLY
FOUND IN THESE FAMILIES:
• PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE INCLUDING
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
• NEGLECT
• WITHOLDING BASIC SURVIVAL NEEDS FROM THE
FAMILY
• NOT PROVIDING BASIC LOVING AND OTHER
SUPPORTIVE EMOTIONAL NEEDS
• VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE DUE TO BLAMING,
SHAMING AND “NAGGING”
• THREATS AND INTIMIDATION DUE TO AN IMBALANCE
IN POWER THAT HAS EVOLVED
13. • PERFECTIONISM AND THE SETTING OF
UNREALISTIC HIGH STANDARDS
• CONSTANT CRITICISM
• UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
• SECRETS
• THE DONT TALK RULE LEAVES THE FAMILY IS IN
SIMILAR SITUATIONS WHERE SEXUAL ABUSE,
MENTAL ILLNESS AND SUICIDE ATTEMPTS OCCUR
14. • THIS MEANS THE FAMILY CANT GET SUPPORT
FROM THEIR FAMILIES, FRIENDS AND OTHER
SERVICES AVAILABLE TO THEM
• THEY THEN BECOMES PART OF THE LIES,
SECRETS AND DISHONESTY
• THEY DEVELOP THEIR OWN DENIAL PATTERNS
15. • AN INABILITY TO DEAL WITH FEELINGS
• DUE TO THE INTENSITY OF THE FEELINGS
EVOKED BY THE GAMBLER THE FOLLOWING
PATTERNS BEGING TO OCCUR:
– FEELING GET SUPPRESSED
– KEEPING UP APPEARANCES BECOMES THE NORM
17. • ENMESHMENT:
THE OBSESSIONAL AND COMPULSIVE NATURE
OF THE CO-DEPENDENT
THESE INDIVIDUALS LOOSE THEIR OWN
IDENTITIES
THEY ALSO LOOSE ALL THEIR SPONTANEITY
DENIAL BECOMES A WAY OF LIFE FOR THEM
18. THEIR OWN DENIAL BECOMES A WAY OF LIFE
FOR THEM
THEIR OWN BEHAVIOUR BEGINS TO SERVE A
PURPOSE (SUCH AS BEING NEEDED OR
ATTEMPTING TO CONTROL THE ADDICT)
19. SURVIVAL ROLES THAT EMERGE
AROUND THE ADDICTED GAMBLER
1. THE CO-DEPENDENT OR ENABLER
THESE ARE PEOPLE THAT BECOME ADDICTED
THE ADDICTED GAMBLER
THEIR WORRY, SADNESS, ANXIETY AND
ATTEMPTS TO CONTROL THE GAMBLER IN
ITSELF BECOMES ADDICTIVE AND BECOMES A
“NORMAL” WAY OF LIFE
THEY ARE OFTEN DESCRIBED AS THE SUPER-
SPOUSE, THE MARTYR, THE SAINT OR THE
MEDIATOR
20. 2. THE HERO
THIS PERSON ATTEMPTS TO COMPENSATE
FOR THE DYSFUNCTION BY BECOMING A TOP
PERFORMER
IF IT IS A CHILD THEY ARE OFTEN CALLED THE
LITTLE PARENT
IN OTHER CASES IT IS CALLED THE ACHIEVER
OR THE ULTIMATE VICTIM
21. 3. THE SCAPEGOAT
THIS PERSON BECOMES THE REBEL, THE HIPER
ACTIVE ATTENTION SEEKER, THE UNDER-
PERFORMER AND IN SOME CASES THEY
MANIFEST WITH MANY PSYCHOSOMATIC
SYMPTOMS
4. THE MASCOT
THIS PERSON IS DESCRIBED AS “CUTE” OR
22. THE SUNSHINE IN A STORM.
ALSO CALLED THE “CLOWN” AS THEY TEND TO
ATTEMPT TO HUMOURISE THE TENSION AND
FIND RELIEF FROM THE STRESS IN THE FAMILY
5. THE LOST PERSON
THIS PERSON BECOMES QUIET AND
WITHDRAWN, ALOOF AND DISTANT. THEY
APPEAR TO DEVELOP SEFL-CONFIDENCE AND
A SENSE OF SUPER-INDEPENDENCE
23. WHAT DO THESE ADOPTED ROLES
EXPRESS AS A NEED?
• THE ENABLER/CO-DEPENDENT
THEY NEED TO EXPRESS RESPONSIBILITY
• THE HERO
NEEDS TO PROVIDE SELF-WORTH
• THE SCAPEGOAT
NEEDS TO PROVIDE DISTRACTION (TO
ANOTHER PROBLEM)
24. • THE MASCOT
THIS PROVIDES A HAPPY DISTRACTION AND
THE KEEPING UP APPEARENCES
• THE LOST/INVISIBLE PERSON
THEY NEED TO BELIEVE THAT THERE ISN’T A
PROBLEM
25. RECOVERY FOR THE FAMILY
1. EARLY PHASE
CRISIS MANAGEMENT
SUPPORT THE BREAKING OF THE ‘DON’T TALK
RULE AND THUS ERODING THE DENIAL AND
SECRETS
SUPPORT THE UNCOVERING OF REALITY
SUPPORT THE ACCEPTANCE THAT THEY NEED
HELP/TREATMENT FOR THESE PROBLEMS
SUPPORT THE EXPRESSING OF FEELINGS
26. 2. MIDDLE PHASE
EMPHASISE THAT IT IS A PROCESS AND WILL
TAKE TIME
ASSIST AND ENCOURAGE THE RECOVERY
SET AND ESTABLISH NEW BOUNDARIES
ESTABLISH NEW RULES IN THE FAMILY
CONFRONT YOUR OWN PART OF THE
PROBLEM
27. 3. LONG-TERM
MAKE A DECISION TO CHANGE THE OLD
PATTERN AND IMPLEMENT NEW PATTERNS
CONFRONT YOUR OWN PAIN – THERAPY AND
SUPPORT GROUPS
SEEK HELP FOR THE EXTENDED FAMILY
GROUP THERAPY IS ESPECIALLY HELPFUL
28. SOME FUNDAMENTAL GUIDELINES
• COMMUNICATE WITH ALL FAMILY MEMBERS
WITHOUT JUDGEMENT OR BLAME
• BE HONEST
• SUPPORT CHANGE AND SPEAK ABOUT “NEW
BEHAVIOUR”
• CONFRONT AND CHALLENGE WITH LOVE AND
RESPECT
29. Thank you
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