140706 eng got fruit series (part 7 - self control) by mark ng
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4. Self-Control
Galatians 5
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But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,
patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
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gentleness, self-control; against such
things there is no law.
7. Self Control – The Toughest Fruit
The last of the nine virtues —
self-control.
Of all the things we have to govern in
this life, self is often our toughest and
greatest challenge!
8. Self Control – The Toughest Fruit
Galatians 5
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Now the deeds of the flesh are evident,
which are: immorality, impurity, sensuality
(sensual sin) ,
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idolatry, sorcery (spiritual sin) ,
enmities, strife, jealousy, outbursts of
anger, disputes, dissensions, factions,
9. Self Control – The Toughest Fruit
Galatians 5
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envying, drunkenness, carousing (social
sin) , and things like these, of which I
forewarn you, just as I have forewarned
you, that those who practice such things
will not inherit the kingdom of God.
11. Power of the Fruits
• One can see it
• One can taste it
12. Power of the Fruits
• One can see it
• One can taste it
• One can enquire about it
13. Power of the Fruits
• One can see it
• One can taste it
• One can enquire about it
We are the evidence – self-control
14. Self Control – The Toughest Fruit
• Self-control: last but not least
• Paul emphasized it alongside "righteousness . . . and
the judgment to come"
• Acts:24:25
As Paul talked about righteousness, self-control and the
judgment to come, Felix was afraid and said, "That's enough
for now! You may leave. When I find it convenient, I will send
for you."
15. Quote
“Never respond to an angry person with a
fiery comeback, even if he deserves it...Don't
allow his anger to become your anger.”
- Bohdi Sanders
16. Quote
• “Ultimately, the only power to which man
should aspire is that which he exercises over
himself.”
― Elie Wiesel
17. Quote
• “Educate your children to self-control, to the
habit of holding passion and prejudice and evil
tendencies subject to an upright and
reasoning will, and you have done much to
abolish misery from their future and crimes
from society.”
― Benjamin Franklin
19. What is Self-Control?
Is will power powerful?
The Greek word translated "self-control,"
•egkrateia, is derived from two other Greek words— en and kratos
• En means "in" and
• kratos means "strength" or "power."
From kratos we get such English words as "democracy" (power
or rule by the people) and "theocracy" (government by God).
•egkrateia essentially means power or strength within.
21. Biblical Self-Control
• Man – Struggle
– Power Will to power
– Passion & Pleasure Will of the flesh & eyes
• Proverbs 21:17 The Message (MSG)
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You’re addicted to thrills? What an empty life!
The pursuit of pleasure is never satisfied.
22. Biblical Self-Control
• Man – Struggle
– Power Will to power
– Passion & Pleasure Will of the flesh & eyes
– Pride Will of the arrogance
• Proverbs 16: 18
Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit
before stumbling.
24. Self-Control – The Toughest Fruit
The best form of self-control… fleeing
We all face temptations to sin—all our lives. When
confronted with temptation, we must strive, as far as
possible, to get away from it — flee!
Even if you think you have a lot of self-control, don't put it
to the test unnecessarily.
25. Self-Control – The Toughest Fruit
Overcomers:
•… Flee
•… Godliness
1 Timothy 4:7-8New International Version (NIV)
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Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’
tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. 8
For physical
training is of some value, but godliness has value for all
things, holding promise for both the present life and the
life to come.
26. Self-Control – The Toughest Fruit
2Pe 1:6
and knowledge with self-control,
and self-control with steadfastness,
and steadfastness with godliness,
28. Moods
• "A person without self-control is
like a city with broken-down
walls." (Proverbs 25:28, NLT)
29. Words
• "Be careful what
you say and protect
your life. A careless
talker destroys
himself." (Proverbs
13:3, TEV)
30. Words
• "Be careful what
you say and protect
your life. A careless
talker destroys
himself." (Proverbs
13:3, TEV)
31. Reactions
• "If you are sensible, you will
control your temper. When
someone wrongs you, it is a
great virtue to ignore it."
(Proverbs 19:11, TEV)
32. Schedule
• "Be very careful, then, how you live--not as
unwise but as wise, making the most of every
opportunity, because the days are evil."
(Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV)
33. Money
• "In the house of the wise
are stores of choice food
and oil, but a foolish man
devours all he has."
(Proverbs 21:20, NIV)
34. Health
• "Learn to appreciate
and give dignity to your
body ...."
• (1 Thessalonians 4:4,
MSG)
35. Self-Control – The Toughest Fruit
Tit 1:8
but hospitable, a lover of good,
self-controlled, upright, holy, and
disciplined.
36. Self-Control – The Toughest Fruit
2 Peter 1:5-8 (NIV)
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For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith
goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6
and to knowledge, self-
control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance,
godliness; 7
and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual
affection, love. 8
For if you possess these qualities in increasing
measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive
in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
37. Self-Control – The Toughest Fruit
Once we have spiritual "knowledge," we must add "self-control“
through discipline
The aim of discipline through discipleship
What is the purpose of parental discipline?
It should be to teach a child to exercise self- discipline. The self-
discipline gradually becomes a good habit that is valuable
throughout life.
Watermelon – 5 years old … vomited and did not eat watermelon for the next 30 years… Miss a very excellent fruit…
Fruit of the Spirit …
Introduction
In a department store a young husband was minding the baby while his wife was making a purchase. The infant was wailing, but the father seemed quite controlled and unperturbed as he quietly said, “Easy now, Albert, control your temper.” A woman passing by remarked, “Sir, I must congratulate you! You seem to know just how to speak to a baby.” “Baby nothing!” came the reply. “MY name is Albert!”
The mention of the term self-control undoubtedly brings to mind different images for people depending on their particular circumstances.
Many probably think of combating dominating habits that can range from the simple to the more complex and debilitating. It may be as simple as a poor diet or a tendency to overeat at festive seasons, or to talking too much. It may also be something far more serious like chain smoking, drunkenness, drug abuse, sexual sins (pornography and adultery), a quick temper, a pattern of exaggerating or lying, etc. Others may think of dealing with an abusive spouse, parent, or employer or of dealing with their own tendencies toward losing control and becoming abusive.
Others need self-control because they are lazy or have poor work habits while others are workaholics and need self-control to back off and learn to relax.
Power of the Fruits
One can see it
One can taste it
One can enquire about it
Power of the Fruits
One can see it
One can taste it
One can enquire about it
Power of the Fruits
One can see it
One can taste it
One can enquire about it
Power of the Fruits
One can see it
One can taste it
One can enquire about it
Paul telling Felix that God will hold the righteous and unrighteous accountable of the resurrection.
Self-control - God requires people to control their behaviour and desires.
Drucilla, the youngest daughter of Herod Agrippa I and sister of Agrippa II, would have been close to 20 years old at the time. She had married the king of a small region in Syria but divorced him at the age of 16 to marry Felix. This was not only her second marriage, but it was third marriage for Felix (Josephus, Antiquities 19.354; 20.141-44). Thus, the topic of self-control was entirely appropriate in view of the personal history of both Felix and Drusilla and was probably the reason for his anxiety. In addition, his administration was marked by injustices that contrasted with the righteousness and justice of God. His unrighteousness and lack of self-control not only made him a poor example to those whom he governed, but affected his ability to govern justly.
Paul’s Trial Before Felix
24 Five days later the high priest Ananias went down to Caesarea with some of the elders and a lawyer named Tertullus, and they brought their charges against Paul before the governor. 2 When Paul was called in, Tertullus presented his case before Felix: “We have enjoyed a long period of peace under you, and your foresight has brought about reforms in this nation. 3 Everywhere and in every way, most excellent Felix, we acknowledge this with profound gratitude. 4 But in order not to weary you further, I would request that you be kind enough to hear us briefly.
5 “We have found this man to be a troublemaker, stirring up riots among the Jews all over the world. He is a ringleader of the Nazarene sect 6 and even tried to desecrate the temple; so we seized him. [7] [a] 8 By examining him yourself you will be able to learn the truth about all these charges we are bringing against him.”
9 The other Jews joined in the accusation, asserting that these things were true.
10 When the governor motioned for him to speak, Paul replied: “I know that for a number of years you have been a judge over this nation; so I gladly make my defense. 11 You can easily verify that no more than twelve days ago I went up to Jerusalem to worship. 12 My accusers did not find me arguing with anyone at the temple, or stirring up a crowd in the synagogues or anywhere else in the city. 13 And they cannot prove to you the charges they are now making against me. 14 However, I admit that I worship the God of our ancestors as a follower of the Way, which they call a sect. I believe everything that is in accordance with the Law and that is written in the Prophets, 15 and I have the same hope in God as these men themselves have, that there will be a resurrection of both the righteous and the wicked. 16 So I strive always to keep my conscience clear before God and man.
17 “After an absence of several years, I came to Jerusalem to bring my people gifts for the poor and to present offerings. 18 I was ceremonially clean when they found me in the temple courts doing this. There was no crowd with me, nor was I involved in any disturbance. 19 But there are some Jews from the province of Asia, who ought to be here before you and bring charges if they have anything against me. 20 Or these who are here should state what crime they found in me when I stood before the Sanhedrin— 21 unless it was this one thing I shouted as I stood in their presence: ‘It is concerning the resurrection of the dead that I am on trial before you today.’”
22 Then Felix, who was well acquainted with the Way, adjourned the proceedings. “When Lysias the commander comes,” he said, “I will decide your case.” 23 He ordered the centurion to keep Paul under guard but to give him some freedom and permit his friends to take care of his needs.
24 Several days later Felix came with his wife Drusilla, who was Jewish. He sent for Paul and listened to him as he spoke about faith in Christ Jesus. 25 As Paul talked about righteousness, self-control and the judgment to come, Felix was afraid and said, “That’s enough for now! You may leave. When I find it convenient, I will send for you.” 26 At the same time he was hoping that Paul would offer him a bribe, so he sent for him frequently and talked with him.
27 When two years had passed, Felix was succeeded by Porcius Festus, but because Felix wanted to grant a favor to the Jews, he left Paul in prison.
POWER - Ask managers and CEO's whether they are interested in power, and they will deny it. They like "responsibility," or they like to share their "leadership qualities" with the organization, but power, no that's not what they are going for. They know other men, of course, whom they call power-hungry, but they themselves have nobler motives.
In The Final Days, of President Nixon's reaction to his loss of power:
"Between sobs, Nixon was plaintive. ... How had a simple burglary ... done all this? ... Nixon got down on his knees. ... [He] leaned over and struck his fist on the carpet, crying, ‘What have I done? What has happened?'“
Saddam Hussein & Muammar Gaddafi knowing the fate of a US attack, difficult to have self-control to lose power.
Iron Man – Spiderman stories are all about villain men crazy for power
PASSION & PLEASURE
Story of sales that I lost when I first join Sales force (Competitors’ approach & mine) … customers and colleagues
Visit to Ephesus in Turkiye
Diana (Romans)/ Artemis (Greeks) of Ephesus place of pleasure even during that century
Example of
This type of struggle is not new. Thousands of years ago the key leader of ancient Israel was a man named Samson. You may remember the Bible stories which teach he was physically stronger than any other man who had ever lived, yet was totally weak in his struggle with sexual temptation around prostitutes and eventually was seduced into captivity and prison by a temptress named Delilah who sold him out.Samson had seen God work incredible miracles in his life; he had even been raised in a godly home by godly parents. He knew the ways of the Lord and although he was the strongest man on the battlefield, he never had any strength or victory over his lustful eyes and sexual desires. Delilah Story for monies, he was betrayed.
Nowadays, Men still falls into the “Samson Syndrome” mainly not addressing the followings:
Lonely
Unfulfilled
Stress
Tired
PRIDE
Often when Christians think of the first sin, they think of Adam and Eve and the Fall in the Garden of Eden. While this is indeed the first human sin, it is not the first recorded sin in Scripture.
Ezekiel 28:17
“Your heart became proud on account of your beauty, and you corrupted your wisdom because of your splendor.” Lucifer apparently became so impressed with his own beauty, intelligence, power, and position that he began to desire for himself the honor and glory that belonged to God alone. The sin that corrupted Lucifer was self-generated pride.
How many of us got this same self-generated pride …
We deserved to be served better than another person … in restaurant … in a shop …
Hubris - denotes overconfident pride and arrogance.
It is also referred to as "pride that blinds", as it often causes one accused of hubris to act in foolish ways that belie common sense – e.g. Adolf Hitler
Maturity – Holy Spirit
Godliness Holy Spirit
People with self-control master their moods. They do not let their moods master them. Most of what gets done in the world is accomplished by people who do the right thing even when they don't feel like it: "A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls." (Proverbs 25:28, NLT)
People with self-control watch their words. They put their minds in gear before opening their mouths: "Be careful what you say and protect your life. A careless talker destroys himself." (Proverbs 13:3, TEV)
People with self-control restrain their reactions. How much can you take before you lose your cool? "If you are sensible, you will control your temper. When someone wrongs you, it is a great virtue to ignore it." (Proverbs 19:11, TEV)
People with self-control stick to their schedule. If you don't determine how you will spend your time, then others will decide for you: "Be very careful, then, how you live--not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil." (Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV)
People with self-control manage their money. They learn to live on less than what they make and they invest the difference. The value of a budget is that it tells your money where you want it to go rather than wondering where it went! "In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has." (Proverbs 21:20, NIV)
People with self-control maintain their health. That way they can accomplish more and enjoy their achievements: "Learn to appreciate and give dignity to your body ...." (1 Thessalonians 4:4, MSG)
How many people I talk to always mentioned that people should not follow their profession but yet they excel in it … This is because they continue to carry out their task without relying on their moods.
In the midst of getting an event done, we will need to control our emotions … Brazilian football team cried during national anthem, cried after they score goals and cried after their penalties with Chile… They quickly get specialist to talk with the players. They are afraid that the players cannot control their mood and do not have self-control going forward to win…
Husband & Wife relationship younger days I use to always give solutions to whatever my wife share with me … now I am very clever … I always apply Z when she share…
My Momma teach me to keep quiet if I have nothing better to say. That’s a very good advice.
Husband & Wife relationship younger days I use to always give solutions to whatever my wife share with me … now I am very clever … I always apply Z when she share…
My Momma teach me to keep quiet if I have nothing better to say. That’s a very good advice.
Keep the remote control with yourself and not let others take control of your reactions …
When you do reactions, you cannot focus on play but instead you react … 2 famous cases on reacting … Zinedine Zidane & Luis Suarez
If you do not leave your life and plan for eternal matters, someone else will plan for you …
Maybe the TV programs, your bosses, your friends – be wise
