ضبط النفس

1. ‫النفس‬ ‫ضبط‬
Developing Self-Control

2. ‫ل‬ ‫ليس‬ ‫الذي‬ ‫الرجل‬ ‫سور‬ ‫بال‬ ‫منهدمة‬ ‫مدينة‬
‫ه‬
‫روحه‬ ‫على‬ ‫سلطان‬
( .
‫أم‬
25
:
28
)
Whoever [has] no rule over his own spirit [Is like]
a city broken down, without walls. (Pro. 25:28)
‫النفس‬ ‫ضبط‬ ‫قلة‬ ‫بسبب‬ ‫وإحباطاتك‬ ‫مشاكلك‬ ‫من‬ ‫كثير‬
.
Many of your problems and mine
are caused by a lack of self-control.
،‫ردية‬ ‫عادة‬ ‫تبطل‬ ،‫تخس‬ ‫قادر‬ ‫مش‬
،‫الديون‬ ‫من‬ ‫تتخلص‬
.....
‫باألمان‬ ‫داخلي‬ ‫وإحساس‬ ‫ثقة‬ ‫النفس‬ ‫ضبط‬ ‫نتايج‬
.
The results of self-control are confidence
and an inner sense of security.

3. ‫للمسيحي‬ ‫اختياري‬ ‫مش‬ ‫النفس‬ ‫ضبط‬
.
‫لض‬ ‫نحتاج‬
‫بط‬
‫الحقيقية‬ ‫للحرية‬ ‫نصل‬ ‫حتى‬ ‫النفس‬
.
Self-control not optional for Christian. We
need self-control to achieve true freedom.
‫ف‬ ‫اولئك‬ ‫اما‬ ‫شيء‬ ‫كل‬ ‫في‬ ‫نفسه‬ ‫يضبط‬ ‫يجاهد‬ ‫من‬ ‫كل‬ ‫و‬
‫لكي‬
‫يفنى‬ ‫ال‬ ‫فاكليال‬ ‫نحن‬ ‫اما‬ ‫و‬ ‫يفنى‬ ‫اكليال‬ ‫ياخذوا‬
.
(
1
‫كو‬
9
:
25
)
And everyone who competes [for the prize] is temperate in
all things. Now they [do it] to obtain a perishable crown,
but we [for] an imperishable [crown]. (1Cor. 9:25)
‫يعمل‬ ‫من‬ ‫كل‬ ‫ان‬ ‫لكم‬ ‫اقول‬ ‫الحق‬ ‫الحق‬ ‫يسوع‬ ‫اجابهم‬
‫للخطية‬ ‫عبد‬ ‫هو‬ ‫الخطية‬
( .
‫يو‬
8
:
34
)
Jesus answered them, "Most assuredly, I say to you,
whoever commits sin is a slave of sin.(Joh. 8:34)

4. ‫النفس‬ ‫ضبط‬ ‫لتحقيق‬ ‫خطوات‬ ‫سبع‬
Seven steps to self-control
(1)
‫بمشكلتك‬ ‫إعترف‬
(1) Admit your problem
(
2
)
‫خلفك‬ ‫ماضيك‬ ‫ضع‬
(2) Put your past behind you
(
3
)
‫مشاعرك‬ ‫تصدقش‬ ‫ما‬
(3) Talk back to your feelings
(
4
)
‫تتغير‬ ‫ممكن‬ ‫إنك‬ ‫صدق‬
(4) Believe you can change
(
5
)
‫لنفسك‬ ‫إجعل‬
‫مرشد‬
(5) Make yourself accountable
(
6
)
‫العثرات‬ ‫تجنب‬
(6) Avoid temptation
(
7
)
‫المسيح‬ ‫قوة‬ ‫على‬ ‫إعتمد‬
(7) Depend on Christ’s power

5. ‫شهوته‬ ‫من‬ ‫انخدع‬ ‫و‬ ‫انجذب‬ ‫اذا‬ ‫يجرب‬ ‫واحد‬ ‫كل‬ ‫لكن‬ ‫و‬
.
(
‫يع‬
1:14
)
But each one is tempted when he is drawn away
by his own desires and enticed. (Jam. 1:14)
(1)
‫بمشكلتك‬ ‫إعترف‬
(1) Admit your problem
‫فى‬ ‫وباستمر‬ ، ‫وحشه‬ ‫انها‬ ‫عارف‬ ‫وانا‬ ‫حاجة‬ ‫بعمل‬ ‫لما‬
‫اعملها‬ ‫وعاوز‬ ‫اعملها‬ ‫بحب‬ ‫ألنى‬ ‫عملها‬
.
‫داخلية‬ ‫رغبة‬ ‫دي‬
.
When I do something I know is bad for me, I still do it
because I like to do it. I want to do it. It’s an inner desire.
1- ignore our problem
ً‫ا‬‫غالب‬ ‫إحنا‬
:
We often:
1
-
‫مشاكلنا‬ ‫نتجاهل‬
‫مشكلة؟‬ ‫معنديش‬ ‫أنا‬ ‫المشكلة؟‬ ‫إيه‬
What problem? I don’t have a problem?

6. ‫كدا‬ ‫بتعمل‬ ‫الناس‬ ‫كل‬ ،‫طريقتى‬ ‫دى‬ ‫هى‬
.......
It’s just the way I am. Everybody else is doing it….
2- rationalize 2
-
‫نبرر‬
3- blame others 3
-
‫اآلخرين‬ ‫نلوم‬
‫غير‬ ‫والدين‬ ‫لى‬ ‫كان‬ ‫لو‬ ‫السبب‬ ‫هم‬
،‫دول‬
..
‫كدا‬ ‫اعمل‬ ‫خالنى‬ ‫الشيطان‬
....
If I just had different parents. The devil made me do it…
‫تصرفاتنا‬ ‫عن‬ ‫مسئولين‬ ‫إحنا‬
We are responsible for our behavior
You may have a problem with food, drink, words, your
temper, money, sex, TV, clothes, time… admit, pray

7. ‫امت‬ ‫و‬ ‫وراء‬ ‫هو‬ ‫ما‬ ‫انسى‬ ‫انا‬ ‫اذ‬ ‫واحدا‬ ‫شيئا‬ ‫افعل‬ ‫لكني‬ ‫و‬
‫د‬
‫قدام‬ ‫هو‬ ‫ما‬ ‫الى‬
.
‫الغرض‬ ‫نحو‬ ‫اسعى‬
( .
‫في‬
3
:
13
،
14
)
but one thing [I do,] forgetting
those things which are behind
and reaching forward to those
things which are ahead,. I press
toward the goal. (Phi. 3: 13,14)
‫اتغير‬ ‫مستحيل‬ ‫إني‬ ‫معناه‬ ‫مش‬ ‫الماضي‬ ‫فشل‬
.
‫تاني‬ ‫حاول‬
......
Failure in the past does not mean you will
never be able to change. Try again…..
(
2
)
‫خلفك‬ ‫ماضيك‬ ‫ضع‬
(2) Put your past behind you

8. ‫مشاعرك‬ ‫تعطي‬ ‫ال‬
‫السلطة‬ ‫من‬ ‫كثير‬
.
‫عديمة‬ ‫المشاعر‬
ً‫ا‬‫جد‬ ‫الثقة‬
.
Don’t give your feelings so much
authority. Feelings are highly unreliable.
(
3
)
‫مشاعرك‬ ‫تصدقش‬ ‫ما‬
(3) Talk back to your feelings
‫اإلنجيل‬ ‫اقرا‬ ‫بحب‬ ‫مش‬ ، ‫اصلى‬ ‫عاوز‬ ‫مش‬ ‫اذاكر‬ ‫عاوز‬ ‫مش‬ ، ‫اشتغل‬ ‫عاوز‬ ‫مش‬
......
‫كتير‬ ‫التليفزيون‬ ‫احضر‬ ‫بحب‬ ، ‫كتير‬ ‫انام‬ ‫عاوز‬ ،‫تاني‬ ‫آكل‬ ‫عاوز‬
......
‫عواطفك‬ ‫وتتحدى‬ ،‫مزاجك‬ ‫على‬ ‫تتسلط‬ ‫عاوزك‬ ‫ربنا‬
.
God wants you to master your
moods, to challenge your emotions.

9. ‫الناس‬ ‫لجميع‬ ‫المخلصة‬ ‫هللا‬ ‫نعمة‬ ‫ظهرت‬ ‫قد‬ ‫النه‬
.
‫الش‬ ‫و‬ ‫الفجور‬ ‫ننكر‬ ‫ان‬ ‫ايانا‬ ‫معلمة‬
‫هوات‬
‫الحاضر‬ ‫العالم‬ ‫في‬ ‫التقوى‬ ‫و‬ ‫البر‬ ‫و‬ ‫بالتعقل‬ ‫نعيش‬ ‫و‬ ‫العالمية‬
.
(
‫تي‬
2
:
11
،
12
)
For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men,.
teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should
live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age,. (Ti. 2: 11,12)
(
3
)
‫مشاعرك‬ ‫تصدقش‬ ‫ما‬
(3) Talk back to your feelings
‫الصح‬ ‫تعمل‬ ‫عشان‬ ‫قوة‬ ‫تديك‬ ‫ربنا‬ ‫نعمة‬
.
‫ت‬ ‫انك‬ ‫على‬ ‫القدرة‬ ‫بيديك‬ ‫وربنا‬
‫ال‬ ‫قول‬
‫اإلندفاع‬ ‫لذلك‬ ، ‫الرغبة‬ ‫لتلك‬ ، ‫المشاعر‬ ‫لهذه‬
.
God’s grace gives you the power to do what is right. God gives you
the ability to say no to that feeling, to that desire, to that impulse.

10. ‫تصرفاتك‬ ‫على‬ ‫تسيطر‬ ‫إعتقاداتك‬
:
‫مشاع‬ ‫تحدد‬ ‫تفكيرك‬ ‫طريقة‬
‫رك‬
،
‫تصرفاتك‬ ‫تحدد‬ ‫ومشاعرك‬
.
Your beliefs do control your behavior: The way you think
determines the way you feel. And the way you feel determines
the way you act.
‫لذلك‬
‫احقاء‬ ‫منطقوا‬
‫ال‬ ‫النعمة‬ ‫على‬ ‫بالتمام‬ ‫رجاءكم‬ ‫فالقوا‬ ‫صاحين‬ ‫ذهنكم‬
‫تي‬
‫المسيح‬ ‫يسوع‬ ‫استعالن‬ ‫عند‬ ‫اليكم‬ ‫بها‬ ‫يؤتى‬
(
1
‫بط‬
1
:
13
)
Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and rest
[your] hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at
the revelation of Jesus Christ; (1Pe 1 : 13)
(
4
)
‫تتغير‬ ‫ممكن‬ ‫إنك‬ ‫صدق‬
(4) Believe you can change

11. ‫أفكارنا‬ ‫الختيار‬ ‫قوة‬ ‫ادانا‬ ‫لما‬ ‫عاداتنا‬ ‫لتغيير‬ ‫قوة‬ ‫ادانا‬ ‫ربنا‬
.
God gave us the power to change our habits when he
gave us the power to choose our thoughts.
‫لتختب‬ ‫اذهانكم‬ ‫بتجديد‬ ‫شكلكم‬ ‫عن‬ ‫تغيروا‬ ‫بل‬ ‫الدهر‬ ‫هذا‬ ‫تشاكلوا‬ ‫ال‬ ‫و‬
‫ما‬ ‫روا‬
‫الكاملة‬ ‫المرضية‬ ‫الصالحة‬ ‫هللا‬ ‫ارادة‬ ‫هي‬
( .
‫رو‬
12
:
2
)
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed
by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what [is]
that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. (Rom. 12:2)
‫ربنا‬ ‫بوعود‬ ‫عقلك‬ ‫تمال‬ ‫محتاج‬ ‫انت‬
.
You need to fill your mind with the promises of God.

12. ‫ا‬ ‫فى‬ ‫هيشجعك‬ ،‫عشانك‬ ‫هيصلى‬ ،‫حياتك‬ ‫هيتابع‬ ‫اللى‬ ‫اإلنسان‬ ‫القى‬
‫لحاجات‬
‫النفس‬ ‫لضبط‬ ‫فيها‬ ‫محتاج‬ ‫اللى‬
....
‫صديق‬ ،‫مرشد‬ ،‫اعتراف‬ ‫أب‬
....
Find someone who will check up on you, will pray for you, encourage
you in the areas where you want to develop more self-control.
‫االثنا‬ ‫مقابله‬ ‫يقف‬ ‫الواحد‬ ‫على‬ ‫احد‬ ‫غلب‬ ‫ان‬ ‫و‬
‫ن‬
‫سريعا‬ ‫ينقطع‬ ‫ال‬ ‫المثلوث‬ ‫الخيط‬ ‫و‬
( .
‫جا‬
4
:
12
)
Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand
him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken. (Ecc. 4:12)
(
5
)
‫بإنتظام‬ ‫إعترف‬
(5) Make yourself accountable
‫المدمنين‬ ‫معالجة‬
-
”
‫الرفيق‬ ‫بنظام‬
“
“the buddy system”

13. ‫مكانا‬ ‫ابليس‬ ‫تعطوا‬ ‫ال‬ ‫و‬
( .
‫أف‬
4
:
27
)
nor give place to the devil. (Eph. 4:27)
‫إبعد‬
‫عن‬
‫المواقف‬
‫اللى‬
‫هتكسر‬
‫ضبطك‬
‫لنفسك‬
.
Stay away from situations that weaken your self-control.
‫حياتك‬ ‫فى‬ ‫إيه‬
‫تتفاد‬ ‫إنك‬ ‫محتاج‬
‫اه؟‬
‫إنك‬ ‫محتاج‬ ‫وإيه‬
‫منه؟‬ ‫تتخلص‬
What in your life do you need to avoid?
What do you need to get rid of?
(
6
)
‫العثرات‬ ‫تجنب‬
(6) Avoid temptation
‫بعض‬
،‫المجالت‬
‫بعض‬
‫الكتب‬
‫أو‬
‫الفيديو؟‬
‫ربما‬
‫تحتاج‬
‫لتوقف‬
‫عالقة‬
‫أ‬
‫نت‬
‫عارف‬
‫إنها‬
‫غلط؟‬
........
Some magazine, some books or videos? Maybe you need to
break off a relationship you know is bad for you?.....

14. ‫الجسد‬ ‫شهوة‬ ‫تكملوا‬ ‫فال‬ ‫بالروح‬ ‫اسلكوا‬ ‫اقول‬ ‫انما‬ ‫و‬
( .
‫غل‬
5
:
16
)
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill
the lust of the flesh. ( Gal. 5:16)
‫بيقول‬ ‫ربنا‬
:
...
‫حياتك‬ ‫يوجه‬ ‫القدوس‬ ‫روحى‬ ‫دع‬
‫ان‬ ‫بعدها‬ ،‫المشكلة‬ ‫فى‬ ‫تجاهد‬ ‫مازلت‬ ‫انت‬ ‫بينما‬
‫ت‬
‫البشرية‬ ‫الطبيعة‬ ‫رغبات‬ ‫هترضي‬ ‫مش‬
.
God says “the sequence: first let my Holy Spirit direct
your life while you are still struggling with your problem,
then you will not satisfy the desires of the human nature.
(
7
)
‫المسيح‬ ‫قوة‬ ‫على‬ ‫إعتمد‬
(7) Depend on Christ’s power
‫اصلي‬ ‫ابقى‬ ، ‫ابطل‬ ‫لما‬ ،‫لربنا‬ ‫اروح‬ ‫ابقى‬ ‫كويس‬ ‫ابقى‬ ‫لما‬ ‫تقولش‬ ‫ما‬
...
..

15. ‫الت‬ ‫للناس‬ ،‫للقديسين‬ ‫فندق‬ ‫مش‬ ،‫للمذنبين‬ ‫مستشفى‬ ‫هى‬ ‫الكنيسة‬
،‫عبانيين‬
‫بيقولوا‬ ‫اللى‬ ‫للناس‬
:
‫ننمو‬ ‫عاوزين‬ ‫لكن‬ ‫مثاليين‬ ‫مش‬ ‫احنا‬
.
The church is a hospital for sinners, not a hotel for saints.
For people who are hurting, people who are saying “we’re
not perfect, but we want to grow”.
‫ا‬ ‫على‬ ‫هللا‬ ‫شعب‬ ‫مع‬ ‫يذل‬ ‫ان‬ ‫باالحرى‬ ‫مفضال‬
‫ن‬
‫بالخطية‬ ‫وقتي‬ ‫تمتع‬ ‫له‬ ‫يكون‬
( .
‫عب‬
11
:
25
)
choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God
than to enjoy the passing pleasures of sin. (Heb. 11:25)
(
7
)
‫المسيح‬ ‫قوة‬ ‫على‬ ‫إعتمد‬
(7) Depend on Christ’s power
‫المسرة‬ ‫اجل‬ ‫من‬ ‫تعملوا‬ ‫ان‬ ‫و‬ ‫تريدوا‬ ‫ان‬ ‫فيكم‬ ‫العامل‬ ‫هو‬ ‫هللا‬ ‫الن‬
( .
‫في‬
2
:
13
)
for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for
[His] good pleasure. (Phi. 2:13)

16. Conclusion
In what areas of your life do you
have a hard time saying no?
‫؟‬ ‫أل‬ ‫تقوله‬ ‫انك‬ ‫صعب‬ ‫حياتك‬ ‫فى‬ ‫إيه‬ ‫فى‬
‫المسيح‬ ‫السيد‬ ‫سيطرة‬ ‫هو‬ ‫النفس‬ ‫ضبط‬ ‫سر‬
.
The secret of self-control is Christ's control.
‫تقول‬ ‫صعب‬ ‫هل‬
”
‫ال‬
“
‫المسرف؟‬ ‫لإلنفاق‬ ‫لألكل؟‬
....
‫لمشاعرك؟‬
Is it hard for you to say no to food? To
excessive spending? …… to your feeling?