Brief explanation of purpose of our conversation and methods.

2. Importance of Conversation In Islam
O you who believe! Keep your duty to Allah and fear Him, and speak (always) the
truth. ( 33 : 70 )

3. Why we have to learn methodology of Conversation
...To seek the pleasure of Allah
That’s why Allah has mentioned taqwa before telling us how to
speak.
Don’t speak for your desire.

4. • 1
Definition of Conversation:
Cambridge Dictionary defines conversation
as a talk between two or more people in
which thoughts , feelings and ideas are
expressed , questions are asked and answered
,or news and information are exchanged .

5. Islamic Manners Concerning Conversation
1
• While conversing with others, a Muslim must keep away from falsehood ,
slander, backbiting and shameful talk.
2
• He should protect his tongue from all that Allah and His Messenger (PBUH)
have forbidden.
4
• The tongue is like a beast of prey. If you do not control it, it will surely land
you in trouble.
5
• Hadith:
• The Prophet ( PBUH ) said , "Those who keep quiet will be safe . " ( Tirmidhi )

6. Islamic Manners Concerning Conversation
6
• A Muslim is required to keep quiet especially to avoid
evil speech to be saved from evil in this life and the
Hereafter.
7
• He should not talk about things that do not concern
him , nor should he engage in any kind of speech from
which he may not get any benefit.
8
• Failure to control the tongue is the fastest way to
Hellfire.

7. Prophet’s (PBUH ) way of conversation
The Prophet's excellent
qualities in eloquence and
fluency of speech are well
known .
Prophet was fluent, very
short and very clear.
Prophet used meaningful
words and his speech was
free from exaggeration .
Prophet never used too few
or too many words. It was as
if his speech consisted of
threaded pearls.
Prophet had a loud voice
which was melodious.
Prophet’s speech was so clear
that all those who listened to
him understood him .

8. The Teachings of the Prophet ( PBUH ) About Conversation
Hadith:
Sufyan ibn Abdullah (RA) once asked the Prophet (PBUH) ,
Messenger of Allah , tell me something that I should follow to. He
replied , say: My Lord is Allah , then remain steadfast. Sufyan
then asked , Messenger of Allah , what do you fear most for me?
The Prophet (PUBH ) took hold of his own tongue”
(At-Tirmidhi)

9. The Teachings of the Prophet ( PBUH ) Concerning Conversatio
Hadith
Even the slightest carelessness by the tongue can make all the other organs
suffer. The Prophet (PBUH ) said, when the son of Adam gets up in the
morning , all the organs (of his body) humble themselves before the tongue and
say, Fear Allah for our sake because we are with you . If you are straight, we
will be straight, but if you are crooked , we will also be crooked.
(At-Tirmidhee)
The Prophet (PBUH) also said , It is great treachery that you tell your
brother something he accepts as truth from you when you are lying .
(Abu Dawood)

10. The Teachings of the Prophet ( PBUH ) Concerning Conversatio
Hadith
• He also said , "Woe to him who tells lies to
make people laugh ; woe to him; woe to him ! "
• (At-Tirmidhee)

11. The Impact of Words:
Words have a great impact.
Hadith:
The Prophet ( PBUH ) said, “Truly, a person says a word that
is pleasing to Allah and though he does not give it any
importance, Allah raises him a number of degrees because
of it. And truly, a person says a word that is displeasing to
Allah , and though he does not give it any importance (when
he says it) , he will sink because of it into Hellfire.”
( Al-Bukhari )

12. Speak Good or Keep Silent
• A Muslim should weigh his words before he speaks. If he feels that
what he is about to say is pleasing to Allah, then he should surely
speak; otherwise, he should remain silent.
Hadith:
• The Prophet ( PBUH ) said, “Let him who believes in Allah and the
Last Day either speak good Or keep Silent.”
(AI-Bukhari and Muslim)

13. Speak Good or Keep Silent
Hadith
Prophet mentioned that saying a good word is an act of charity.
(Bukhari)
• Being talkative often leads to sinning, and carelessness in the choice of words often
leads to mistakes.
Hadith
• Once the Prophet ( PBUH ) asked his companions, you know what backbiting is?
They replied, Allah and His Messenger know best . Then prophet said, Backbiting
is talking about your brother in a way that he dislikes. Someone asked , What if
my brother is as I say? The Prophet ( PBUH ) replied , lf he is as you say, you
have backbitten him; and if he is not as you say, you have slandered him.
(Muslim)

14. Gossip and Unkindness are Signs of Bad Manners
It is also bad manners to discuss other people's
affairs that are damaging or harmful to them .
Only jokes that are in good taste and free
from lies should be told.
A good Muslim does not engage in vulgar,
tactless or cruel jokes.

15. Do not Interrupt Someone while He is Speaking
1
• It is bad manners to start to speak in
the middle of another person’s speech .
2
• A wise person does not speak until
there is an interval of silence.
3
• Avoid interruption unless it is very
important and unavoidable.

16. Speaking in a Low Voice:
1
• In Qur'an Surah Al- Luqman (31) : 19 Allah says,
2
3
• And be moderate (or show no rudeness) in your walking, and lower your
voice. Verily, the harshest of all voices is the voice (braying) of the ass."
4
• By keeping your voice low, you not only show good manners with people
but also obey Allah’s commands.
5
• Speaking with a loud voice is bad manners. When a person speaks in a loud
, harsh voice, he shows that he has no manners and he has no respect for
others.
• Surah 49 :2 loud voice infornt of prophet.

17. Types of Conversation mentioned in Quran :
And he had property (or fruit) and he said to his companion, in the
course of mutual talk: I am more than you in wealth and stronger in
respect of men.“
Surah kahf (18 ) : 34
An example of disliked conversation
Talking about “me” (pride)

18. Example of Liked conversation
An example of liked conversation
o He’s telling his friend not to disbelieve in Allah
o Talking about the right path.
His companion said to him, during the talk with him: "Do you disbelieve in Him Who created you
out of dust (i.e. your father Adam), then out of Nutfah (mixed semen drops of male and female
discharge), then fashioned you into a man? Surah kahf (18 ) : 37

19. Problem solving Conversation In Islam
Indeed Allah has heard the statement of her (Khaulah bint Tha'labah) that disputes with you (O
Muhammad SAW) concerning her husband (Aus bin As-Samit), and complains to Allah. And
Allah hears the argument between you both. Verily, Allah is All-Hearer, All-Seer. [ Surah 58 : 1
]

20. Problem solving Conversation In Islam
o A lady came to Prophet Muhammad , arguing about her husband (but she was actually
complaining to Allah).
o This was the conversation between this lady and Prophet Muhammad.
o She was asking about something very important.
o This is an example of someone who is in a problem and is going to speak to a leader about
it.
o The lady was speaking to the prophet (PBUH) and Allah (swt) could hear them speaking.
o The art of conversation is something that’s greatly needed.

21. Etiquettes of Conversation according to Quran
"And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear
Allah.“ surah Taha (20) :44

22. Etiquettes of Conversation according to Quran
 No one can be like Firaoun in this world.
 Allah (swt) is commanding Musa (as) and Haroon (as) to speak with soft words.
 Did Allah say to speak tough with Firaoun? No. People think if you’re speaking to
a tyrant, then they need to scream and shout at him, but you need to do the
opposite, speak with soft words.
 The more you have knowledge, the more you need to learn this skill with the
help of Allah (swt).

23. Etiquettes of Conversation with
Non- Mahram according to Quran
O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allah), then be
not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery,
etc.) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner. 33: 32

24. Etiquettes of Conversation with
Non-Mahram according to Quran
• Forbidden is being too soft in speech.
• It is obligatory for women to speak in an honorable manner, which means, that they
should not make their voices soft when addressing men.
• Between a woman and a non-Mahram man there should be no tone, gestures, chat,
joking, flirting or playful talk, so that there will be no room for provocation of desires
and doubts.
• Women are not prevented from talking to non-Mahram men. when it is necessary can
talk in a dignified manner, only about matters that are permissible and honorable, not
evil.

25. Etiquettes of Conversation according to Sunnah
 When you speak to someone, don’t make it difficult for them.
 Don’t make the person feel pity for himself and feel miserable
 Give good tidings when you speak.
 The more you know about Allah (swt), the more you want to avoid
negative people. Allah (swt) is teaching us to be positive.
 No one wants to be with negative people.

26. Methodology to follow during Conversation.
1. Always speak the truth.
2. Be open-minded, others can share their opinion.
3. Speak easy speech
4. Choose a suitable situation / condition
5. Don’t just talk – let others speak as well
6. Be a good listener
7. Don’t interrupt
8. Don’t start with a disagreement
9. Say “I don’t know”
10.Don’t be Angry
11.Confess your mistake
12.Lower your voice
13.Respect everyone
14.Don’t use “me” and use we
15.Say the name of the person
Don’t busy yourself with other people’s mistakes, but focus on your mistakes because you want the
pleasure of Allah (swt) and you want to enter paradise.

27. Dua
O Allah! Purify my heart from hypocrisy, my deeds from any
kind of Riya (show off), my tongue from lying and my eye
from treachery. For indeed only You know the treachery of the
eyes and what lays hidden in the breasts. (Al-Baihaqi)
َ‫م‬َ‫ع‬ َ‫و‬ ،ِّ‫اق‬َ‫ف‬ِّّ‫ن‬‫ال‬ َ‫ن‬ِّ‫م‬ ْ‫ى‬ِّ‫ب‬ْ‫ل‬َ‫ق‬ ْ‫ر‬ِّّ‫ه‬َ‫ط‬ َّ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬ّ‫ل‬‫ل‬َ‫ا‬ِّ‫م‬ ْ‫ى‬ِّ‫ن‬‫ا‬َ‫س‬ِّ‫ل‬ َ‫و‬ ،ِّ‫آء‬َ‫ي‬ ِّّ‫الر‬ َ‫ن‬ِّ‫م‬ ْ‫ى‬ِّ‫ل‬َ‫ن‬
َ‫ك‬َّ‫ن‬ِّ‫إ‬َ‫ف‬ ،ِّ‫ة‬َ‫ن‬‫ا‬َ‫ي‬ ِّ‫خ‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬ َ‫ن‬ِّ‫م‬ ْ‫ى‬ِّ‫ن‬ْ‫ي‬َ‫ع‬ َ‫و‬ ،ِّ‫ب‬ِّ‫ذ‬َ‫ك‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬َ‫م‬َ‫و‬ ،ِّ‫ن‬ُ‫ي‬ْ‫ع‬ ْ‫اْل‬ َ‫ة‬َ‫ن‬ِّ‫ئ‬‫آ‬َ‫خ‬ ُ‫م‬َ‫ل‬ْ‫ع‬َ‫ت‬‫ا‬
ْ‫ى‬ِّ‫ف‬ْ‫خ‬ُ‫ت‬ِّ‫ر‬ ْ‫ُو‬‫د‬ُّ‫ص‬‫ال‬