Dr. Pothana's Teaching

2. Jealousy and
Envy

3. Envy

4. Jealousy
mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear
of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or
aims.
vigilance in maintaining or guarding somet
hing.

5. The emotional part.
 Jealousy is a secondary emotion and typically refers
to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity,
fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of
something that the person values, particularly in
reference to a human connection.

6. • Jealousy happens when a person feels
that a relationship that is of importance is
threatened by someone else outside of the
relationship, be it romantic, platonic,
friendship, parent-child, sibling etc.
• Jealousy can also occur in the context of
competitive situations, such as the
workplace or education.

7. What the experts think?
Psychologists have proposed several
models of the processes underlying
jealousy and have identified factors that
result in jealousy.

8. Sociologists
 Sociologists have demonstrated that cultural beliefs
and values play an important role in determining
what triggers jealousy and what constitutes socially
acceptable expressions of jealousy.

9. It Starts young
 Jealousy, has been observed in infants as young as
five months.

10. Ask a scientists
 Scientists still do not
have a universally agreed
upon definition of
jealousy

11. I'm not envy
 Our culture uses the word jealousy as a synonym for
envy, but its not an envious person can be motivated
to improve, a jealousy person can’t.

12. Double edge sword
 Psychologists and human behavior experts,
acknowledges that people can experience envy and
jealousy at the same time

13. Not a small monster
According to
scientists jealousy is
not just one emotion
its; A WHOLE
BUNDLE OF
EMOTIONS!

14. Don’t be afraid
 Jealousy is about fear-
-fear of the unknown
and of change, fear of
losing power or
control in a
relationship, fear of
loss, and fear of
abandonment.

15. Your past may be to blame
 Your core belief growing up can and almost always
contribute to how prone to jealousy you are.

16. The swings
 The lost of power or somebody gaining power
out of nowhere is one of the main causes of
jealousy

17. Gotta catch it
 There are JEALOUSY
TRIGGERS, that you can
catch before the green bug
effects you.

18. It pays to be the boss
Many people don’t address
there jealousy issue because
they don’t see it as a issue, but
controlling jealousy gives you
control over your life.

19. Fighting the demon
 Jealousy if left untreated can turn
into a big problem

20. Be proud to be you
 The main cause behind feeling
jealous is your doubting your
abilities or skills; or lack of self
confidence

21. The Remedy
 If you struggling with jealousy, the only
cure is, not with the person or thing,
but it is with in

22. Sibling Rivalry
Siblings may compare their
accomplishments with one another,
compete for the majority of their
parents’ affection, and compete to
play with the same toy.

23. Workplace Jealousy
Work jealousy arises between colleagues
vying for the same type of position.
He may feel especially jealous
if he felt that he worked more
diligently to earn accolades that
were only awarded to the other person.

24. Romantic Jealousy
Romantic jealousy is common because
strong emotional bonds leave partners
open to potential extreme heartbreak.
Even the sight of an outlying attractive
person may cause a normally secure
partner to be concerned that the other
will “upgrade” to a better model

25. Platonic Jealousy
 Jealousy arises in friendships due to the same insecurities found in other
relationships:
 feelings of comparison
 a fear of being replaced
 feelings of competition.

26. Distrust
Unfair Comparisons
Separation Anxiety
Powerlessness
Acts of Infidelity
Fear
Lack of self confidence
Causes of Jealousy

27. Signs of Jealousy
• Controlling Behavior
• Constant
Communication
• The Cold Shoulder
• Odd Behavior
• Confrontation
• Avoidance
• Competitive Behavior

28. o Fully experience the feeling.
o Love yourself.
o Stop comparing.
o Find what is threatening you.
o Change any false beliefs that
might be fueling your jealousy.
o Learn from your jealousy.
o Trust yourself.
Overcoming Jealousy

29. Envy
A feeling of discontent and resentment aroused
by and in conjunction with desire for the
possessions or qualities of another.
Envy is pain at the good fortune of others.
(Aristotle, Rhetoric, Bk II, Chapter 10)

30. Envy
Envy is that passion which views with
malignant dislike the superiority of those who
are really entitled to all the superiority they
possess. (Adam Smith, The Theory of Moral
Sentiments, p. 244)

31. Causes of Envy
 Dissatisfaction
 Comparison to others.
 Pride
 Seeking significance/Low
self-esteem
 Desire for worldly gain.
Seeking money, appearance,
status,
talents that are of
achievements, or
only
temporary value.

32. Signs of Envy
Downplaying success
Possessiveness
Insults
Talks your name with others

33. Overcoming Envy
lifestyle of
• Be honest.
• Develop a
gratitude.
• Avoid activities that
encourage comparison.
• Ask yourself why.
• Take a step back.
• Grow.
• Stop judging yourself so
harshly

34. Dealing with envious person
• Understand his/her perspective.
• Speak to him/her.
• Keep an eye out
• Reality Check

35. Is Jealousy and Envy different?

36. • It is possible to experience both jealousy and
envy at the same time.

37. • The philosopher John Rawls distinguishes
between jealousy and envy on the grounds that
jealousy involves the wish to keep what one
has and envy the wish to get what one does not
have.

40. Sins of the Heart- Jealousy and Envy
Genesis 37:1-11

41. Jealousy and Envy
• These two sins are closely related like anger and wrath

42. • One who is jealous or envious of someone else cannot love
that person as himself- Jas. 2:8
• Jealousy and envy will prevent us from rejoicing at the good
fortune of our neighbors and our brothers and sisters in
Christ- Rom. 12:15

43. Warnings Against Jealousy and Envy
• envy is rottenness to the bones- Prov. 14:30b
• It is a spiritual disease of the human soul
• Paul said that envy is evidence of a mind that is carnal or
focused on fleshly desires- I Cor. 3:3
• Both jealousy and envy are listed among the sinful works of the
flesh- Gal. 5:20-21
• Those who harbor these sins in their heart will not inherit the
kingdom of God

44. The Jealousy of Jacob’s Sons

45. The Jealousy of Jacob’s Sons
• When Joseph told them about his dreams, his brothers
envied him- Gen. 37:11

46. Cain’s Envy-1
• Jealousy and envy were among the first sins of our ancestors
• They have been common in the human race ever since
• Cain’s envy was because God had accepted his brother
sacrifice but had rejected his own- Gen. 4:4-5
• Cain wanted the acceptance that Abel had received

47. Cain’s Envy
• Cain hated and murdered Abel because his own works were evil
and Abel’s works were righteous- I Jn. 3:12

48. Saul’s Envy
• But when the women attributed the killing of ten thousand of
the enemy to David and only thousands to him, Saul eyed
David- v. 9
• Saul feared that David would take his throne- v. 29
• He became David’s enemy and tried to kill him
• Saul’s hatred of David weakened his kingdom and ruined his life

49. The Envy of the Jewish Leaders
• Envy was one of the sins that caused our Lord to be crucified
• The Jewish leaders were jealous of Jesus’ miracles and His
popularity with the people
• They feared that they would lose their prominence and power
among the Jews- Jn. 11:47-48
• They hated Jesus and plotted to kill Him- Jn. 15 :24
• Pilate recognized that they delivered Jesus to him because of
envy- Mt. 27:18

50. In Conclusion
• Jealousy and envy are common in our society today
• Their fruit shows how evil they are
• They have lead people to hate others and to kill the innocent
• Those who harbor these attitudes will not inherit the
kingdom of God- Gal. 5:21
• Genuine contentment will enable us to avoid these sins- Phil.
4:11
• Do you need to make changes in your life this Evening?