Though we switch between the quadrants on the Corral, we each have one favorite quadrant where we spend most of our time while in script. This will be the one we decided on in childhood as our basic position.
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3. Personal change and the OK corral
Though we switch between
the quadrants on the Corral,
we each have one favorite
quadrant where we spend
most of our time while in
script. This will be the one we
decided on in childhood as
our basic position.
4. Personal change and the OK corral
I am OK, you are OK is the
healthy position, Here, I get
on with living and problem
solving. I act to achieve the
winning outcomes I desire.
This is the only position
based on reality.
5. Personal change and the OK corral
If my childhood position was I am not OK, you are OK, I am
likely to play our my script mainly from the depressive
position of feeling one down to others. Unawarely, I will
choose my bad feelings and repetitive behavior to confirm
that this is my rightful position in the world
6. Personal change and the OK corral
An early position of I am OK,
you are not OK will mean
that I live my script mostly
from the defensive position
of trying to stay one up on
others. Those around me are
likely to experience me as
overbearing, insensitive and
aggressive. This is paranoid
position and corresponds to
the psychiatric diagnosis of
character disorder.
7. Personal change and the OK corral
If I look up basic position of I
am not OK, you are not OK as
an infant, my script will be
played through principally
from the futility position.
Here I am believing that the
world and others are no
good, and neither am I . If I
wrote a banal script, my
pattern will be to get
nowhere with most of the
things I set out to do in life.
8. Personal change and the OK corral
The process of change often
entails a movement through the
Corral in a specific sequence. If
the person starts off by spending
most of time in I-U-, her next
move is likely to be into I+U-.
After some time, with that as her
most important quadrant, she
will shift to I-U+. The final goal is
to increase the time spend in
I+U+ until it becomes the
favorite position.
9. Personal change and the OK corral
It may seem strange that
people often need to shift
through I-U+ in order to get
from I+U- to I+U+. But the
experience of therapy shows
that I+U- is often a defense
against I-U+. The infant who
concluded I am OK and all
others are not OK took up that
position to defend against the
painful realization of being one
down and powerless in the face
of her parents.