2. Leading to Mentoring
What is a leader?
8. Cope with criticism and manage conflict.
9. Know when to seek mentoring or coaching.
Caution: The confidence, drive, and boldness that
makes us a good leader can also make us
un-mentorable UNLESS we are in step with the Spirit.
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Goals of Mentoring
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INNER LIFE MATURING
LIFE MATURING
MINISTRY MATURING
• soul care; disciple
• walk with God
• works well with people
• dependable
• serves God not people
• uses gift mix faithfully
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Value of Mentoring
Integrates theory and practice.
Discovers what God is doing in one’s life: helps see need
for grace, judgment, sin, redemption, or call.
A great test of teachability.
Story-telling and secret-telling.
Develops the whole person by the whole person.
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Who is a mentor?
1. Readily sees the potential in others.
2. Tolerant with mistakes and brashness to see the
potential developed; gifts cultivated; encourages.
3. Flexible in responding to people and issues.
4. Patient —allows the time needed to grow.
5. Sees possibilities and suggests next steps.
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Who is a mentor?
6. Develops mature relationships (1 Thes. 5:14-15)
Andweurgeyou,brothers,admonishtheidle,encouragethe
fainthearted,helptheweak,bepatientwiththemall.
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When being mentored—AVOID
1. False sense of sufficiency —you may not be identifying the
real problem or asking the right question.
2. Not trusting or accepting guidance.
3. Expecting too much from a mentor.
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As a mentor—AVOID
1. Cloning or inordinate dependence
2. Doing more than help a growth process or affirm
3. Criticizing
4. Rescuing
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12. Leading to Mentoring
Barnabas
He was open to change (Acts 11:22-23)
Encouraged the church to be faithful (11:23)
A good man, full of the Holy Spirit and faith (11:24)
Took initiative to get Saul from Tarsus (11:25)
Spent a year working with Saul (11:26)—a co-worker
Allowed Paul to excel beyond him (Acts 13, 14)
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Types of Mentoring
INTENSIVE: discipler-spiritual guide-coach
OCCASIONAL: counselor-teacher-sponsor
PASSIVE MODELS: contemporary-historical
--Stanley and Clinton (1992)
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14. Leading to Mentoring
“Mentoring is a brain to pick,
a shoulder to cry on, and
a kick in the pants.”
--John C. Crosby
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