2. ABOUT MY CHAPTER
This chapter was first given as a talk to a meeting at Oberlin
College in 1954. I was trying to pull together in more
completely organized form, some of the conceptions of therapy
which had been growing in me. I have revised it slightly.
As in customary with me, I was trying to keep my thinking
close to the grass roots of actual experience in therapeutic
interviews, so I drew heavily upon recorded interviews as the
source of generalizations which I make.
3. DISCOVERY OF SELF
In our daily lives there are thousands and one reasons for not letting
ourselves experience our attitudes fully.
It seems too dangerous to experience them freely and fully.
In safety and freedom of therapeutic relationships, they can be
experienced fully, clear to the limit what they are.
Experienced in a fashion I like to think of as a “pure culture”,
so that for the moment the person is his fear, or he is his
anger, or whatever.
4. EXAMPLE FROM A
CLIENT
A young man, a graduate student who is deep in
therapy, has been puzzling over a vague feeling
which he senses in himself.
He gradually it as a frightened feeling of some
kind, a fear of failing, a fear of not getting his
Ph.D.
6. Here he is, for a moment, experiencing himself as nothing but a pleading little
boy, supplicating, begging, dependent.
At the moment he is nothing but his pleading, all the way through
He realizes that this has bubbled through, and for the moment he is his
dependency, in a way which astonishes him.
7. CONCLUSION
What I have gradually learned from experiences such as this, is that the individual
in such a moment, is coming to be what he is.
When a person has, throughout therapy, experienced in this fashion all the
emotions which organismically arise in him, and has experienced them in this
knowing and open manner ,then has experienced himself.