Banish Your Inner Critic
Denise R. Jacobs
The Norwegian
Developer’s Conference
Oslo, Norway
3 June 2014
@denisejacobs
#ndcoslo
#banishyourcritic
O hai!
Photo: Derek Kearney
Upon a time…
http://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365
29 June
http://www.flickr.com/photos/jblndl/3154255478/
Instead of creativity
Photo from Flickr.com
Destructivity
http://www.flickr.com/photos/kevygee/3265941065/
The voices in my head were
merciless
http://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/
I totally freaked out
I shouldn't be writing this
I misrepresented myself
I don't know enough
This should be someone else’s book
I’m going to lo...
2 days
http://www.flickr.com/photos/fiery-phoenix/8428079916/
Worked non-stop
https://www.flickr.com/photos/53611153@N00/5827849044/
Pushed myself to burn-out
http://www.flickr.com/photos/44085287@N05/4052943367/
My internal critical voices
http://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/
Made this happen
https://www.flickr.com/photos/70938871@N05/8230432077
Physical evidence of fear
http://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/
A different kind of fear
Photo: Denise Jacobs
Internalized criticisms + fears
https://www.flickr.com/photos/remoto/5313967682
= The Inner Critic
http://www.flickr.com/photos/lance_mountain/2849396572/
The “troll under the bridge”
F.E.A.R. =
http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/7a361666e107cd36656d5a66ea2e4e80.jpg
(Also,
F.E.A.R. =
F*ck Everything And Run)
The enemy of creativity
http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardwinchell/130344669/
Creative brainwaves
http://uniteunderfreedom.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Brain-waves.jpg
Know your Brainwaves
Stress & frustration
https://www.flickr.com/photos/corneveaux/3248566797/
Suppress generative
impulses in the brain
https://www.flickr.com/photos/birthintobeing/11841180046
Dampens creative
expression
http://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8156999698/
How to ID your Inner Critic
http://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/
Not that hard, right?
http://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/
“OMG, I’m SO busy!”
“I should have done more by
now…”
http://www.flickr.com/photos/kharied/3315558702/
“They’ll find out I’m a fraud”
“I don’t know enough”
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/66/Einstein_1921_by_F_Schmutzer.jpg
vs. “NAILED IT!”
https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897
Impostor Syndrome Paradox
http://www.flickr.com/photos/x1brett/2279939232/
“It needs to be PERFECT”
http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/
“I’ll do it tomorrow…”
http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
“Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.”
http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
“I will do it tomorrow!”
http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
Feed each other
In order for
http://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/
“The goal is to manage
anxiety so that our energies
are used for the productive
and satisfying art of
creating…
…rather than the destructive
and debilitating art of self-
torture. “
- Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution
How do we…
http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/5445602998/
Banish the Inner Critic?
https://www.flickr.com/photos/31505964@N08/4691019168/
Eliminate
Should/Must/Ought/Have to
http://www.flickr.com/photos/mythoto/3822942678/
Say NO to Comparisons
http://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/
Ask it questions
http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/4749432145/
Be compassionate
http://www.flickr.com/photos/wrote/2646295354/
Reassign duty
http://www.flickr.com/photos/shavawnmarie/1326123397/
Remember your successes
http://www.flickr.com/photos/pocait/2847866615/
(My personal version)
Photo: Denise Jacobs
Maintain perspective
http://www.flickr.com/photos/daikrieg/1294053038/
*WHATEVER*
http://cdn.makeagif.com/media/1-23-2013/quhKj3.gif
Cop a Power Pose
Breaking the loop
Perfectionism
http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/
“Perfectionism is self-abuse
of the highest order.”	
― Anne Wilson Schaef
The real problem
http://cuttingthecheese.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/26810560251953842_ede18tng_f.jpg
Remember finished
product…
https://www.flickr.com/photos/phatcontroller/3667889959/
vs. process?...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/
“The Best” vs “The most”
https://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326
Remember egocentricity
“You alone are enough. You have
nothing to prove to anybody.” 
― Dr. Maya Angelou
Decouple your performance
from who you are
https://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878
Fear of failure
http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/
“Fear is not real. It is a
product of the thoughts you
create.
Do not misunderstand me.
Danger is very real. But fear
is a...
Reframe failure
http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717326642/
And mistakes
https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/
(maybe even embrace them)
http://www.flickr.com/photos/danielagama_fotografando/4029208908/
“Failure is only the
opportunity to begin again
more intelligently.”
- Henry Ford
Humble beginnings
Twitter, circa 2006
Copy the #fail masters
Photo: Denise Jacobs
Take steps
http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/
Fail in private
http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959867550/
Try again
http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/
Satisfice
https://www.flickr.com/photos/sleepyvalley/3650673328
Be bad/make it ugly
https://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684
“Being right keeps us in
place. Being wrong forces us
to explore.” 
– Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From
Perfection ≠ Excellence
https://www.flickr.com/photos/kaldoche/4771465356
Procrastination
http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
The trick is not determining
which you are…
http://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/
Nor administering a dose of
https://www.flickr.com/photos/116357579@N08/13178367583
Increase the meaning/value
http://www.flickr.com/photos/eyeliam/2460475510/
Mind Tricks
https://www.flickr.com/photos/32135758@N02/5325454434/
Don’t do it, just get ready to
Photo: Denise Jacobs
“Structured procrastination”
https://www.flickr.com/photos/superamit/1043379069
Time & Space Tricks
http://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/
Eliminate distractions
From “Shit Black Girls Say”, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I
Ignore to focus
Tools
RescueTime.com
GetConcentrating.com
HeyFocus.com
Browser Extensions
Firefox:
LeechBlock
Idderall
Google Chrome:
Stri...
Airplane mode
http://www.flickr.com/photos/pieterouwerkerk/699475144/
Make it a Sprint
http://www.flickr.com/photos/lucamascaro/4975166968/
Fill a Quota
https://www.flickr.com/photos/teosaurio/3392883329/
Remember this:
Photo: Denise Jacobs
My story’s end?
http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/
February
http://www.flickr.com/photos/doug88888/3709856898/
#FAIL
http://www.flickr.com/photos/eliseporter/2315794956/
#WINNING!
http://www.flickr.com/photos/clappstar/6297835482/
I wrote a book!
Photo: Denise Jacobs
https://www.flickr.com/photos/thatconference/9532425040/
Which created AMAZING
things for me
Bad dreams
“The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam
yesterday—but never jam to-day.”
“It MUST come sometimes to ‘jam to-
day’,” Alice obje...
“Jam” =
Reward / Satisfaction
https://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766
YOU NEVER GET JAM
By sharing my experience
Photo: Deloria Jacobs
Show you there is an
alternative
https://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144
By understanding that
You’ll look at yourself
differently
https://www.flickr.com/photos/edenpictures/3460562429
Let yourself create those
imperfect, yet amazing ideas
http://www.flickr.com/photos/bcymet/3564484236/
Because, after all…
https://www.flickr.com/photos/aoberg/9652158212
The End
Photo: Denise Jacobs
Four Secrets to Enhancing Creative Productivity
www.creativebloq.com/inspiration/four-secrets-enhancing-creative-productiv...
DeniseJacobs.com
 Sign up on my mailing list here!
denise@denisejacobs.com
twitter.com/denisejacobs
facebook.com/deniseja...
Thank you!
http://www.flickr.com/photos/theredproject/3302110152/
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Your inner critic is an unconscious deterrent that stands between the seeds of great ideas and the fruits of achievement, keeping you stuck by telling you you’re just faking it, that others have more talent, that you’ll never achieve the success you seek. Let's take a look at ways to banish your inner critic to give you the mental space and energy to let your true talents emerge.

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  1. Banish Your Inner Critic Denise R. Jacobs The Norwegian Developer’s Conference Oslo, Norway 3 June 2014
  2. @denisejacobs #ndcoslo #banishyourcritic
  3. O hai! Photo: Derek Kearney
  4. Upon a time… http://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365
  5. 29 June http://www.flickr.com/photos/jblndl/3154255478/
  6. Instead of creativity Photo from Flickr.com
  7. Destructivity http://www.flickr.com/photos/kevygee/3265941065/
  8. The voices in my head were merciless http://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/
  9. I totally freaked out
  10. I shouldn't be writing this I misrepresented myself I don't know enough This should be someone else’s book I’m going to look stupid Everyone will see that I’m a fake What if it's not good enough? What if I'm not good enough? No…really!
  11. 2 days http://www.flickr.com/photos/fiery-phoenix/8428079916/
  12. Worked non-stop https://www.flickr.com/photos/53611153@N00/5827849044/
  13. Pushed myself to burn-out http://www.flickr.com/photos/44085287@N05/4052943367/
  14. My internal critical voices http://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/
  15. Made this happen https://www.flickr.com/photos/70938871@N05/8230432077
  16. Physical evidence of fear http://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/
  17. A different kind of fear Photo: Denise Jacobs
  18. Internalized criticisms + fears https://www.flickr.com/photos/remoto/5313967682
  19. = The Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lance_mountain/2849396572/
  20. The “troll under the bridge”
  21. F.E.A.R. = http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/7a361666e107cd36656d5a66ea2e4e80.jpg
  22. (Also, F.E.A.R. = F*ck Everything And Run)
  23. The enemy of creativity http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardwinchell/130344669/
  24. Creative brainwaves http://uniteunderfreedom.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Brain-waves.jpg
  25. Know your Brainwaves
  26. Stress & frustration https://www.flickr.com/photos/corneveaux/3248566797/
  27. Suppress generative impulses in the brain https://www.flickr.com/photos/birthintobeing/11841180046
  28. Dampens creative expression http://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8156999698/
  29. How to ID your Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/
  30. Not that hard, right? http://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/
  31. “OMG, I’m SO busy!”
  32. “I should have done more by now…” http://www.flickr.com/photos/kharied/3315558702/
  33. “They’ll find out I’m a fraud”
  34. “I don’t know enough” http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/66/Einstein_1921_by_F_Schmutzer.jpg
  35. vs. “NAILED IT!” https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897
  36. Impostor Syndrome Paradox http://www.flickr.com/photos/x1brett/2279939232/
  37. “It needs to be PERFECT” http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/
  38. “I’ll do it tomorrow…” http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
  39. “Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.” http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
  40. “I will do it tomorrow!” http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
  41. Feed each other
  42. In order for http://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/
  43. “The goal is to manage anxiety so that our energies are used for the productive and satisfying art of creating…
  44. …rather than the destructive and debilitating art of self- torture. “ - Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution
  45. How do we… http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/5445602998/
  46. Banish the Inner Critic? https://www.flickr.com/photos/31505964@N08/4691019168/
  47. Eliminate Should/Must/Ought/Have to http://www.flickr.com/photos/mythoto/3822942678/
  48. Say NO to Comparisons http://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/
  49. Ask it questions http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/4749432145/
  50. Be compassionate http://www.flickr.com/photos/wrote/2646295354/
  51. Reassign duty http://www.flickr.com/photos/shavawnmarie/1326123397/
  52. Remember your successes http://www.flickr.com/photos/pocait/2847866615/
  53. (My personal version) Photo: Denise Jacobs
  54. Maintain perspective http://www.flickr.com/photos/daikrieg/1294053038/
  55. *WHATEVER* http://cdn.makeagif.com/media/1-23-2013/quhKj3.gif
  56. Cop a Power Pose
  57. Breaking the loop
  58. Perfectionism http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/
  59. “Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.” ― Anne Wilson Schaef
  60. The real problem http://cuttingthecheese.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/26810560251953842_ede18tng_f.jpg
  61. Remember finished product… https://www.flickr.com/photos/phatcontroller/3667889959/
  62. vs. process?... http://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/
  63. “The Best” vs “The most” https://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326
  64. Remember egocentricity
  65. “You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” ― Dr. Maya Angelou
  66. Decouple your performance from who you are https://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878
  67. Fear of failure http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/
  68. “Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” - character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth
  69. Reframe failure http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717326642/
  70. And mistakes https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/
  71. (maybe even embrace them) http://www.flickr.com/photos/danielagama_fotografando/4029208908/
  72. “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” - Henry Ford
  73. Humble beginnings Twitter, circa 2006
  74. Copy the #fail masters Photo: Denise Jacobs
  75. Take steps http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/
  76. Fail in private http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959867550/
  77. Try again http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/
  78. Satisfice https://www.flickr.com/photos/sleepyvalley/3650673328
  79. Be bad/make it ugly https://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684
  80. “Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore.” – Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From
  81. Perfection ≠ Excellence https://www.flickr.com/photos/kaldoche/4771465356
  82. Procrastination http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
  83. The trick is not determining which you are… http://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/
  84. Nor administering a dose of https://www.flickr.com/photos/116357579@N08/13178367583
  85. Increase the meaning/value http://www.flickr.com/photos/eyeliam/2460475510/
  86. Mind Tricks https://www.flickr.com/photos/32135758@N02/5325454434/
  87. Don’t do it, just get ready to Photo: Denise Jacobs
  88. “Structured procrastination” https://www.flickr.com/photos/superamit/1043379069
  89. Time & Space Tricks http://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/
  90. Eliminate distractions From “Shit Black Girls Say”, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I
  91. Ignore to focus
  92. Tools RescueTime.com GetConcentrating.com HeyFocus.com Browser Extensions Firefox: LeechBlock Idderall Google Chrome: Strict Workflow StayFocusd Aids for digital blocking
  93. Airplane mode http://www.flickr.com/photos/pieterouwerkerk/699475144/
  94. Make it a Sprint http://www.flickr.com/photos/lucamascaro/4975166968/
  95. Fill a Quota https://www.flickr.com/photos/teosaurio/3392883329/
  96. Remember this: Photo: Denise Jacobs
  97. My story’s end? http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/
  98. February http://www.flickr.com/photos/doug88888/3709856898/
  99. #FAIL http://www.flickr.com/photos/eliseporter/2315794956/
  100. #WINNING! http://www.flickr.com/photos/clappstar/6297835482/
  101. I wrote a book! Photo: Denise Jacobs
  102. https://www.flickr.com/photos/thatconference/9532425040/ Which created AMAZING things for me
  103. Bad dreams
  104. “The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday—but never jam to-day.” “It MUST come sometimes to ‘jam to- day’,” Alice objected. “No, it can’t,” said the Queen. “It’s jam every OTHER day: to-day isn’t any OTHER day, you know.” — from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll
  105. “Jam” = Reward / Satisfaction https://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766
  106. YOU NEVER GET JAM
  107. By sharing my experience Photo: Deloria Jacobs
  108. Show you there is an alternative https://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144
  109. By understanding that
  110. You’ll look at yourself differently https://www.flickr.com/photos/edenpictures/3460562429
  111. Let yourself create those imperfect, yet amazing ideas http://www.flickr.com/photos/bcymet/3564484236/
  112. Because, after all… https://www.flickr.com/photos/aoberg/9652158212
  113. The End Photo: Denise Jacobs
  114. Four Secrets to Enhancing Creative Productivity www.creativebloq.com/inspiration/four-secrets-enhancing-creative-productivity-9126098 Banishing Your Inner Critic alistapart.com/articles/banishing-your-inner-critic/ Reigniting Your Creative Spark alistapart.com/articles/reigniting-your-creative-spark/ Breaking the Perfectionism-Procrastination Infinite Loop webstandardssherpa.com/reviews/breaking-the-perfectionism-procrastination-infinite-loop/ My articles for further reading
  115. DeniseJacobs.com  Sign up on my mailing list here! denise@denisejacobs.com twitter.com/denisejacobs facebook.com/denisejacobsdotcom slideshare.net/denisejacobs Connect with me! Photo used with permission: http://www.flickr.com/photos/aarronwalter/4629078087/
  116. Thank you! http://www.flickr.com/photos/theredproject/3302110152/

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