On refraining from disobedience

On Refraining From
Disobedience
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Basics Class, Thursday nights @ Al-Taqua Mosque
The Beginning of Guidance, by Imam Al-
Ghazali

Religion is made up of Two
parts:
I. Performance of acts of Obedience
(Amr Ma’ruf)
II. Refraining from Disobedience
(Nahyi Munkar)
Ghazali

Everyone has the capacity to do good.
e.g. Solat, Charity, helping the needy, going to the mosque
But only the sincere (ikhlas) can abandon
their appetites and desires.
e.g. Lowering gaze, anger, jealousy, backbiting, slander
Ghazali

Our Prophet says:
“The True Emigrant is:
the one who abandons evil,
and the True Warrior is:
the one who fights his desires..”
Ghazali

You Disobey Allah with your
limbs:
o While they are a gift from Allah
o And they are your Amanah
o Using the gifts (your limbs) for
disobedience is the ultimate ingratitude
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o You are accountable for your limbs’ action
o Your limbs will testify against you on the day of
Judgement
o Allah says: “On this Day we will seal their mouths, and
their hands will speak to Us, and their feet will testify as
to what they have earned” [Yasin:65]
Ghazali

Parts of our Limbs:
I. Eyes
II. Ear
III. Tongue
IV. Stomach
V. Private Part
VI. Hands
VII. Feet
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I. The Eyes
They are created for you:
o to seek Guidance (Allah) within the darkness
o To assist by it with respect to your needs
(working, studying etc.)
o To witness and reflect on the wonders and
creations of the earth and the sky
Ghazali

Protect your Eyes from 4
things:
I. From looking at Mahram of the Opposite gender
II. From looking at a beautiful form in a lustful way
III. From looking at a person with an eye of Disdain
IV. From (always) being on the lookout for another
person’s fault
Ghazali

Reality check 
I. We see e.g. miniskirts & shorts everywhere we go,
and even on TV. how do we protect our eyes?
II. We look at other people’s sins, and feel we are better
than them, and as though our Iman is stronger than
theirs. How do we avoid this feeling?
III. Looking at uncovered areas might arouse our Nafs.
It gets difficult when we are alone. Is there a solution
to this?
Ghazali

Solutions:
I. “First glance is a Gift, 2nd glance is a Sin.” Always
lower your gaze.
II. Have good thoughts about a person. Reflect on our
daily sins too.
III. Keep yourself busy. Youths have a lot of energy and
free time. Evil deeds are actually misuse of time.
Ghazali

II. The Ears
Protect it from:
o Innovations
o Backbiting
o Lewd talk
o Delving into Falsehood
o Listening to Fault of others
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Reality check 
We listen to our friend’s backbiting about other
people. How do we avoid it?
We are used to listening to offensive languages
(until it becomes a norm) especially in the media.
Will it affect our lives?
Listening to our Mom complaining. How do we
handle it?
Ghazali

Use the Ears for:
o Listening to the Speech of God & His Messenger
o Wisdoms of the Awliya (people of Allah)
So that you will gain excess to the benefits of Knowledge.
Do not think that the sin will be attributed only to the
one who speaks it.
“The listener shares (in sin) with the speaker, and he (or
she) is one of the two backbiters”
Ghazali

Solutions
What we listen to daily, will eventually
become part of our life.
Look for friends who talk less about others
Occupy time with beneficial acts
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III. The Tongue
Ghazali
03/12/2015

III. The Tongue
They are created for you:
o For the remembrance of Allah (Dzikr)
o To Guide others to Goodness
o To Express your worldly needs
& Religious matters
Ghazali

The Prophet said:
“People are not thrown into Hell on their Faces
except for the harvests of their Tongues.”
[Narrated by Imam Tirmidhi]
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Struggle to gain victory over your tongue
with all your might.
The Prophet mentions in a Hadith:
“Verily, a man might utter a single word, and
for this one word he is hurled to the depths of
Hell a distance of seventy years.”
[Imam tirmidhi]
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So guard your Tongue
from Eight things:
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1. Lying
o Guard your tongue from lying, both in
seriousness or in jest.
o If you become known from lying, people will not
take your words, mistrust you and look down
upon you.
o To Understand how despicable it is, look at the
lying of others, and how you feel when being lied
to.
Ghazali

Do this with all of your faults,
for you cannot know the ugliness of your own faults,
except by seeing them in others.
What you find foul in others, they will find it equally
foul in you.
So, Do not be content with these faults in yourself.
Ghazali

2. Breaking a Promise
o Beware from not keeping your promise with others
o Prove your goodness with actions, not with words of promises
o It is among the sign of Hypocrisy (munafiq). In a Hadith, the prophet said:
“ Three qualities which, if they are within a person, render him a hypocrite,
even if he fasts and prays:
When he speaks, he lies;
When he makes a promise, he breaks it;
And when given a trust, he betrays it.”
Ghazali

3. Backbiting
o Backbiting: You make mention of someone in a
way that he would dislike, if he were to hear it.
o It is still backbiting even if what you say is True.
o If you are sincerely concern over a person,
include him silently in your prayers.
o Do not speak of one’s flaws or faults to others to
show your “concern” over him.
Ghazali

Allah mentions in the Qur’an:
“And do not backbite amongst you – would
any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead
brother? No, you would truly despise that..”
[Al-Hujarat:12]
Ghazali

How do we stop backbiting?
o Turn to yourself and ask if there is no flaw in you?
Are you committing any acts of disobedience,
especially in hidden?
o Know that the other person’s inability to free himself
from it, e.g. smoking, is the same as your own, e.g.
missing Fardhu Prayers. His excuse will be the same
as yours.
o Just as you hated to be shamed (being mention of
your hidden sins or faults), so does he.
o Allah will conceal your Aib (deficiency) if you conceal
others’.
Ghazali

If Allah wants good for you, He will give
you the ability to see your own faults.
If you do not find any flaw or deficiency in
yourself, know that your ignorance is the
vilest type of stupidity, and there is no
greater flaw than stupidity.
Ghazali

4. Disputation, Argumentation &
Competitive debate with people
o It will make the other person feel ignorant and
criticized, as well as praising oneself in his
knowledge and intelligence.
o If you debate with a fool, he will annoy you.
o And if you debate with a more intelligent
person, he will disdain and despise you.
Ghazali

The Prophet Says:
“Whoever leaves a quarrel while he is in the wrong,
Allah will build him a house on the outskirts of
Paradise.
And Whoever leaves a quarrel while he is in the right,
Allah will build him a house in the highest part of
Paradise. “
Ghazali

o Do not let Satan deceive you with his words:
“Speak the truth clearly, and do not dissemble”
o Satan will always to try to entice foolish people
by presenting them as goodness, i.e. debating in
the name of Islam
o Making the truth clear is a good thing, when
done with someone who will accept it from you.
o This is done best in honesty and sincere counsel,
in gentleness and courtesy. Otherwise, it will
turn into humiliation.
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5. Ascribing Goodness to Oneself
o Allah Says: “Do not ascribe goodness to yourselves.
He is more knowing of the one who is God-Fearing”
[An-Najm: 32]
o A Sage was once asked: “What is something true yet
vile?” He asnswered: “A person praising himself.”
o Imagine how you feel when your friends praise
themselves with merits, rank and wealth. How your
heart disapproves of it and find it unbearable.
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6. Cursing
o Never curse anything that Allah has created, be it
animals, food or a person.
o Or swear other Muslims being Kafir, or Musyrik.
These are heavy accusations.
o The Messenger of Allah Never once criticized
food that was not good.
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7. Supplication against Creation
o Restrain from supplicating against any creation
of Allah, even if he has wronged you.
o Leave the Judgement to Allah.
o The oppressor will have his rights claiming from
the one supplicated against him on the Day of
Judgement.
Ghazali

8. Jesting, Ridiculing, and Making
Fun of people
o They diminish people’s respect for you and
Damage hearts.
o They are a source of disputation and Sow hatred
in the hearts.
o If someone makes fun of you, do not respond
and turn away from them until they talk about
something else.
Ghazali

Abu Bakar As-Siddiq used to put a stone in his
mouth, which would prevent him to speak except
when necessary.
The Tongue is the greatest means of your
destruction in this world and the next.
“Whoever believes in Allah & The Hereafter,
Speak in goodness or remain silent.”
- The Prophet
Ghazali

Reality check 
I. Is it okay to Lie for goodness? (Tipu Sunat)
II. If we are being forced to make a promise, how do we handle the situation?
III. Backbiting seems hard to stop especially when we are with our friends.
IV. How do we respond to those who loves to debate and “discuss” matters that
he or she isn’t qualified for?
V. We are used to cursing every time we speak, even if we don’t mean it. How
do we stop it?
VI. We see oppression and injustice for our brothers in Palestine & other
countries. Can we pray for them?
VII. Is it still okay if we ridicule our friend but knowingly he won’t be offended?
VIII.Is laughing haram?
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IV. The Stomach
17/12/15
o Strive to seek out the lawful [Halal].
Protect it from eating forbidden & even
The Doubtful
o Even if it’s halal, try not to eat until
you’re full
Ghazali

Satiety (full stomach) :
o Hardens the heart
o Ruins the intellect
o Hinders one’s carnal appetites
o Gives assistance to the soldiers of Satan
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So if satiety (being full) leads to
vices, what then if satiety from
that is haram?
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To break the desire,
maintain a state of hunger
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Hunger has Ten Benefits:
Ghazali
1. Purifies the heart
2. Softens the heart
3. Humbles the Ego
4. Reminds the suffering of the poor
5. Weakens passion & enables control of
desire

Hunger has Ten Benefits:
Ghazali
6. Reduces laziness (due to full stomach)
7. Frees up time from eating & preparing
8. Health benefits- many diseases stem
from over-eating
9. Saves money
10. More generosity

The Beginning of Guidance, by Imam Al-Ghazali
Stomach’s desire is the source of
all other desires

Sunnah & Etiquette of Eating:
o Wash hands before eating. Both sunnah & for cleanliness
o Sit properly in front of food
o Begin with Bismillah.
o Right hand practice َ‫يك‬ِّ‫ل‬َ‫ي‬ ‫ا‬‫ه‬‫م‬ِّ‫م‬ ْ‫ل‬ُ‫ك‬ َ‫و‬ ، َ‫ك‬ِّ‫ن‬‫ي‬ِّ‫م‬َ‫ي‬ِّ‫ب‬ ْ‫ل‬ُ‫ك‬ َ‫و‬ ، َ ‫ه‬‫اَّلل‬ ِّ‫م‬َ‫س‬
o Take small portions and eat slowly
o Not too hot. There’s no barakah (goodness) in it.
o Don’t leave any food behind. Barakah (goodness) might be on the
last few bites.
o Lick the fingers (for clearing leftovers of food)
o Recite Alhamdulillah for the food

“Digest your food by remembrance of Allah
and prayers, and do not go to sleep
(straight after eating) as it hardens your heart.”

Reality check 
I. What is the ruling of eating in uncertified Halal food
places?
II. What is the ruling of eating in certified Halal Non-muslim
food places?
III. Is being food-adventurous permissible?
IV. What does Halalan Toyyiban mentioned in the Quran
means?
V. Eating halal fast-food is part of our lifestyle. Is it wrong?
Ghazali

V. Genitalia (private part)
Ghazali
You will not be successful in guarding the private
part, except by:
o Guarding the eyes from looking
o The heart from contemplating
o The Stomach from satiety and doubtful food
These things stir one’s desires, and are the places
where their seeds are sown.

Ghazali
The Eyes can commit adultery, the adultery of the
eye is gazing.
o One who is unable to restrain the eye,
o break the desire through Fasting
o If one still cannot abstain, the remedy is
Marriage

Ghazali
The Caution lies in lowering one’s gaze to make it easier
to avoid temptation. But if one gives free reign to the
eye, controlling the appetite becomes more difficult.

Reality check 
I. What does it mean by Adultery of the eyes?
II. By fasting, is it really going to work?
III.Will Marriage solve all of our problems?
IV.Pornography, does it really affect us?
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VI. Hands
7/1/2016
Ghazali
Do not use it to:
a) Strike others e.g. bullying, fighting
and hurting others

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b) Receive unlawful wealth:
o Receive bribes
o Usurious money
o Profit from selling unlawful things e.g.
selling beer, things which are possessed, or
of no essence

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c) harm any of Allah’s creation:
o Hurting animals without valid reason
o Killing/burning of trees
o Destroying Nature for personal gain
o Polluting the air

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d) Betray trust of others & Ruin
something placed in your care e.g.
o Misplacing a pen after borrowing,
o Returning a damaged car to your dad,
o Going through a friend’s phone without
permission,
o Not taking good care of the house etc.

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e) write something that is unlawful to
say:
o Writing a blog about things contradicting to the teachings
of Islam
o Writing on personal views that leads to disunity &
separation of the community
o Uncovering another person’s aib (deficiency)
o Commenting on things that do not concern oneself

Ghazali
ِ‫ء‬ْ‫ر‬‫ا‬‫م‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬‫إ‬ ِ‫م‬ ‫ا‬‫َل‬ ْ‫س‬
ِ
‫إ‬ ِ‫ن‬ ْ‫س‬ُ‫ح‬ ْ‫ن‬ِ‫م‬,ِ‫ه‬‫ي‬ِ‫ن‬ْ‫ع‬‫ا‬‫ي‬ ‫ا‬‫َل‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫م‬ ُ‫ه‬ُ‫ك‬ْ‫ر‬‫ا‬‫ت‬
“A sign of one's good observance of
Islam (his taqwa) is to keep away from
that which does not concern him.”

VII. Feet
Ghazali
Do not use them to:
o Walk toward what is unlawful; going to
places
o Approach the door of an oppressive ruler

Ghazali
“Two-thirds of a person’s faith leaves him, if
he humbles himself to a righteous wealthy
person, to benefit from his wealth..”
- The Prophet
So what then, of an unjust wealthy person?

Summary for
Sins commited with
the limbs
Ghazali

Ghazali
Know that if you fall short (in this task), you will
bear the penalty.
Whereas if you roll up your sleeves (and work
hard), you will taste the fruit (of your efforts).
Indeed Allah has no need of you or your deeds,
rather, every soul is held in pledge for what it
does.

Ghazali
Take care not to say
“Allah is All-Generous, Ever-Merciful;
He forgives the sins of transgressors..!”
This is a truthful statement used wrongly.

Ghazali
“The intelligent one is he who takes account of
himself, and works for what comes after death.
And the foolish one is he who follows the
inclinations of his self, while entertaining false hopes in
Allah.”
ُ‫س‬ِ‫ي‬‫ا‬‫ك‬ْ‫إل‬:ِ‫ت‬ْ‫و‬‫ا‬‫م‬ْ‫ل‬‫إ‬ ‫دا‬ْ‫ع‬‫ا‬‫ب‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫م‬ِ‫ل‬ ‫ا‬‫ل‬ِ ‫ا‬‫َع‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ُ‫ه‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬ْ‫ف‬‫ا‬‫ن‬ ‫ا‬‫إن‬‫ا‬‫د‬ ْ‫ن‬‫ا‬‫م‬
ُ‫ق‬‫ا‬‫مح‬َ ْ‫إْل‬‫ا‬‫و‬:‫ى‬‫َّن‬‫ا‬‫م‬‫ا‬‫ت‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ه‬‫إ‬‫ا‬‫و‬‫ا‬‫ه‬ ُ‫ه‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬ْ‫ف‬‫ا‬‫ن‬ ‫ا‬‫ع‬‫ا‬‫ب‬ْ‫ت‬َ‫أ‬ ْ‫ن‬‫ا‬‫م‬ِ ِ‫ان‬‫ا‬‫م‬َ‫ْل‬‫إ‬ ِ ‫ى‬‫إَّلل‬ ‫ا‬‫َل‬‫ا‬‫ع‬

Ghazali
It resembles the statement of one who
desires wealth, yet does not engage in any
gainful occupation.

Ghazali
“Man will have nothing except what he
strives for.”
[An-Najm: 39]
‫عى‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬ ‫ما‬ ‫َل‬
ِ
‫إ‬ ِ‫سان‬‫ن‬
ِ
‫َل‬ِ‫ل‬ ‫ا‬‫يس‬‫ا‬‫ل‬ ‫ن‬َ‫أ‬‫ا‬‫و‬

Ghazali
It was asked of Hasan Al-Basri:
What is your opinion of people who say, “We have hope
in God”, while they are not serious about doing good?
He answered, “ How far from the mark! Those are just
wishes they are hanging on to,
for someone who really hopes for something, seeks it.
And someone who really fears something, runs from it.

Ghazali
The Actions of these outer limbs are the
result only from the qualities of the heart.
So if you wish to protect your outward
limbs, you must purify your heart.

Ghazali
‫ا‬‫َل‬َ‫أ‬‫دا‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬‫ا‬‫ف‬ ْ‫ت‬‫دا‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬‫ا‬‫ف‬ ‫إ‬‫ا‬‫ذ‬‫إ‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ،ُ‫ه‬ُّ ُ‫ُك‬ ُ‫د‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬‫ا‬‫ج‬ْ‫ل‬‫إ‬ ‫ا‬‫ح‬‫ا‬‫ل‬ ‫ا‬‫ص‬ ْ‫ت‬‫ا‬‫ح‬‫ا‬‫ل‬ ‫ا‬‫ص‬ ‫إ‬‫ا‬‫ذ‬‫إ‬ ً‫ة‬‫ا‬‫غ‬ ْ‫ض‬ُ‫م‬ ِ‫د‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬‫ا‬‫ج‬ْ‫ل‬‫إ‬ ِ‫ِف‬ ‫ى‬‫ن‬
ِ
‫إ‬‫ا‬‫و‬
‫ا‬ ِ‫ِه‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ‫ا‬‫َل‬َ‫أ‬ ،ُ‫ه‬ُّ ُ‫ُك‬ ُ‫د‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬‫ا‬‫ج‬ْ‫ل‬‫إ‬ُ‫ب‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬‫ق‬ْ‫ل‬‫إ‬."
In the body there is a morsel of flesh which,
if it is sound, all the body is sound,
and which, if it is corrupted, all of [the body] is
corrupted.
Truly, it is the heart.

Ghazali
‫إحلدإد‬ ‫مام‬‫إَل‬ ‫وقال‬:
‫ساد‬‫لف‬‫إ‬ ‫من‬ ‫ا‬‫ظ‬ِ‫ف‬ُ‫ح‬ ‫ا‬‫د‬‫إ‬‫ؤ‬‫إلف‬ ‫حفظ‬ ‫من‬
Al-Imam Al-Haddad R.A mentions in his Hikam:
Whoever protects the heart, will be protected from
corruption

Sins of the heart
14/1/2016
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Ghazali
َ‫أ‬ ْ‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ع‬ ،ٍ‫د‬ْ‫ي‬‫ا‬ ُ‫مح‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ، ٍ‫ِت‬‫ب‬ ‫ا‬‫َث‬ ْ‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ع‬ ،‫ا‬‫ة‬‫ا‬‫م‬‫ا‬‫ل‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬ ُ‫ن‬ْ‫ب‬ ُ‫د‬‫ا‬‫ى‬ ‫ا‬‫مح‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ث‬‫ى‬‫د‬‫ا‬‫ح‬ ، ٍ‫ب‬‫ا‬‫ن‬ْ‫ع‬‫ا‬‫ق‬ ِ‫ن‬ْ‫ب‬ ‫ا‬‫ة‬‫ا‬‫م‬‫ا‬‫ل‬ ْ‫س‬‫ا‬‫م‬ ُ‫ن‬ْ‫ب‬ ِ ‫ى‬‫إَّلل‬ ُ‫د‬ْ‫ب‬‫ا‬‫ع‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ث‬‫ى‬‫د‬‫ا‬‫ح‬ِ‫س‬‫ا‬‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ل‬‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ق‬ ، ٍ ِِ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫م‬ ِ‫ن‬ْ‫ب‬
‫ا‬‫ل‬‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ق‬‫يه‬‫عل‬ ‫هللا‬ ‫صَل‬ ِ ‫ى‬‫إَّلل‬ ُ‫ول‬ ُ‫س‬‫ا‬‫ر‬‫وسمل‬:
"ِ‫ب‬ ُ‫ة‬‫ى‬‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ج‬ْ‫ل‬‫إ‬ ِ‫ت‬‫ى‬‫ف‬ُ‫ح‬ِ ِ‫ر‬ ‫ا‬‫را‬‫ا‬‫م‬ْ‫ل‬ُ‫ار‬‫ى‬‫ن‬‫ل‬‫إ‬ ِ‫ت‬‫ى‬‫ف‬ُ‫ح‬‫ا‬‫و‬ِ‫إت‬‫ا‬‫او‬‫ه‬‫ى‬‫ش‬‫ل‬ ِ‫ب‬".
The Paradise is surrounded by hardships and
the Hell-Fire is surrounded by temptations.

Ghazali
‫وسمل‬ ‫عليه‬ ‫هللا‬ ‫صَل‬ ‫هللا‬ ‫رسول‬ ‫قال‬ ‫قال‬ ‫عنه‬ ‫هللا‬ ‫ريض‬ ‫خصر‬ ‫بن‬ ‫إلرمحن‬ ‫عبد‬ ‫يرة‬‫ر‬‫ه‬ ‫يب‬‫أ‬ ‫وعن‬:
"‫صورمك‬ ‫ىل‬‫إ‬ ‫وَل‬ ، ‫ساممك‬‫ج‬‫أ‬ ‫ىل‬‫إ‬ ‫نظر‬‫ي‬ ‫َل‬ ‫هللا‬ ‫ن‬‫إ‬،
‫عاملمك‬‫أ‬‫و‬ ‫بمك‬‫و‬‫قل‬ ‫ىل‬‫إ‬ ‫نظر‬‫ي‬ ‫لكن‬‫و‬"
Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬ said, "Allah does not look
at your figures, nor at your attire but He looks
at your hearts and accomplishments".

‫ا‬ ُ‫س‬ ُ‫ن‬ْ‫ب‬ ُ‫يث‬ِ‫غ‬ُ‫م‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ث‬‫ى‬‫د‬‫ا‬‫ح‬ ،ٍ‫د‬ِ‫ق‬‫إ‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ُ‫ن‬ْ‫ب‬ ُ‫د‬ْ‫ي‬‫ا‬‫ز‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ث‬‫ى‬‫د‬‫ا‬‫ح‬ ،‫ا‬‫ة‬‫ا‬‫ز‬ْ ‫ا‬‫مح‬ ُ‫ن‬ْ‫ب‬ ‫ا‬‫َي‬ْ‫ا‬‫َي‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ث‬‫ى‬‫د‬‫ا‬‫ح‬ ،ٍ‫ر‬‫ا‬‫ى‬ ‫ا‬‫َع‬ ُ‫ن‬ْ‫ب‬ ُ‫م‬‫ا‬ ‫شا‬ِ‫ه‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ث‬‫ى‬‫د‬‫ا‬‫ح‬ِ ‫ى‬‫إَّلل‬ ِ‫ول‬ ُ‫س‬‫ا‬‫ر‬ِ‫ل‬ ‫ا‬‫ل‬‫ي‬ِ‫ق‬ ‫ا‬‫ل‬‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ق‬ ،‫و‬ٍ‫ر‬ْ ‫ا‬‫َع‬ ِ‫ن‬ْ‫ب‬ ِ ‫ى‬‫إَّلل‬ ِ‫د‬ْ‫ب‬‫ا‬‫ع‬ ْ‫ن‬‫ا‬‫ع‬ ،ٍ‫ى‬‫صَل‬
‫وسمل‬ ‫عليه‬ ‫هللا‬
ُّ‫ي‬َ‫أ‬ِ‫اس‬‫ى‬‫ن‬‫ل‬‫إ‬‫ا‬‫ل‬‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ق‬ ‫؟‬ُ‫ل‬ ‫ضا‬ْ‫ف‬َ‫أ‬:"ِ‫ان‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬ِ‫لل‬‫إ‬ ِ‫وق‬ُ‫د‬ ‫ا‬‫ص‬ ِ‫ب‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬‫ق‬ْ‫ل‬‫إ‬ ِ‫م‬‫و‬ُ‫م‬ْ‫خ‬‫ا‬‫م‬ ُّ ُ‫ُك‬" ‫إ‬‫و‬ُ‫ل‬‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ق‬:
‫؟‬ ِ‫ب‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬‫ق‬ْ‫ل‬‫إ‬ ُ‫م‬‫و‬ُ‫م‬ْ‫خ‬‫ا‬‫م‬ ‫ا‬‫ا‬‫م‬‫ا‬‫ف‬ .ُ‫ه‬ُ‫ف‬ِ‫ر‬ْ‫ع‬‫ا‬‫ن‬ ِ‫ان‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬ِ‫لل‬‫إ‬ ُ‫وق‬ُ‫د‬ ‫ا‬‫ص‬
. " ‫دا‬ ‫ا‬‫س‬‫ا‬‫ح‬ ‫ا‬‫َل‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ‫ى‬‫ل‬ِ‫غ‬ ‫ا‬‫َل‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ‫ا‬‫ى‬ْ‫غ‬‫ا‬‫ب‬ ‫ا‬‫َل‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ِ‫ه‬‫ي‬ِ‫ف‬ ‫ا‬ ْ‫ْث‬
ِ
‫إ‬ ‫ا‬‫َل‬ ‫ي‬ِ‫ق‬‫ى‬‫ن‬‫ل‬‫إ‬ ُّ‫ي‬ِ‫ق‬‫ى‬‫ت‬‫ل‬‫إ‬ ‫ا‬‫ُو‬‫ه‬ " :‫ا‬‫ل‬‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ق‬
“It was said to the Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬Which of the
people is best?’ He said: ‘Everyone who is pure of heart
and sincere in speech.’ They said: ‘Sincere in speech, we
know what this is, but what is pure of heart?’ He said: ‘It
is (the heart) that is pious and pure, with no sin,
injustice, rancor or envy in it.’”

Ghazali
ٌ‫ث‬ ‫ا‬‫َل‬‫ا‬‫ث‬ٌ‫ت‬ ‫ا‬‫را‬ِ‫ل‬ْ‫ه‬ُ‫م‬:ِ‫ء‬ْ‫ر‬‫ا‬‫م‬ْ‫ل‬‫إ‬ ُ‫اب‬‫ا‬ْ‫ْع‬
ِ
‫إ‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ، ٌ‫ع‬‫ا‬‫ب‬‫ى‬‫ت‬ُ‫م‬ ‫ى‬ً‫و‬‫ا‬‫ه‬‫ا‬‫و‬ ، ٌ‫ع‬‫ا‬‫ا‬‫ط‬ُ‫م‬ ٌّ ُ‫ُش‬ِ‫ه‬ ِ‫س‬ْ‫ف‬‫ا‬‫ن‬ِ‫ب‬
There are three destructive vices:
1. Obeying an impulse to be stingy
2. Following your lust
3. Admiring oneself

Ghazali
1. Envy (Hasad)
2. Ostentation (Riya’)
3. Conceit, arrogance & pride (Ujub, Kibr & Fakhr)
Sins of the heart mentioned:

I. Envy (Hasad)
Ghazali
An Envious person is:
One who is pained by the wealth, or
knowledge, or love in the hearts of
people, or looks, or good fortune, on
others.

Envy (Hasad)
Ghazali
He is pained to the point where he wishes that
Allah’s favour would be taken away from that
person, even if the same favour would not transfer
to him.
ُ‫بث‬ُ‫الخ‬ ‫ى‬َ‫ه‬َ‫ت‬‫ن‬ُ‫م‬ ‫هذا‬َ‫ف‬
This is really the pinnacle of wickedness.

Examples of desiring another person
to lose a blessing:
Ghazali
a. Envious and resentful over a co-worker getting
promoted, to the point that he wishes for the
person to lose his position or job.
b. A woman envying another woman because of
her husband, such that she hopes that a marital
crisis would separate the couple. And vice versa.
c. A hawker centre owner envying over his
neighbour’s business, such that he would bad
mouth about the person’s hygiene

Envy (Hasad)
Ghazali
‫قال‬ ‫وسلم‬ ‫عليه‬ ‫الله‬ ‫صلى‬ ‫النبي‬ ‫ن‬‫ا‬ ‫عنه‬ ‫الله‬ ‫رضي‬ ‫هريرة‬ ‫بي‬‫ا‬ ‫وعن‬‫‏‬:‫‏‬‫‏‬‫‏‬‫‏‬"‫‏‬‫والحسد‬ ‫ياكم‬‫ا‬،
ّ‫ن‬‫فا‬‫النار‬ ‫كل‬‫تا‬ ‫كما‬ ‫الحسنات‬ ‫كل‬‫يا‬ ‫الحسد‬‫الحطب‬ ‫‏‬‫‏‬‫‏‬
The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬said, "Beware of envy
because envy consumes (destroys) the
virtues just as the fire consumes the
firewood,"

Envy (Hasad)
Ghazali
‫د‬َ‫س‬َ‫ح‬ ‫ا‬َ‫ذ‬ِ‫ا‬ ٍ‫د‬ِ‫اس‬َ‫ح‬ ِّ‫ر‬َ‫ش‬ ‫ن‬ِ‫م‬َ‫و‬
“And from the evil of an envier
when he envies”

Ghazali
‫فامي‬ ‫تعمكل‬‫س‬‫لي‬ ‫حاةل‬ ‫من‬ ‫خيرجك‬ ‫ن‬‫أ‬ ‫منه‬ ‫تطلب‬ ‫َل‬‫إها‬‫و‬‫س‬
‫فلو‬‫إدك‬‫ر‬‫أ‬‫إج‬‫ر‬‫خ‬‫إ‬ ‫غري‬ ‫من‬ ‫تعمكل‬‫س‬‫َل‬
Do not ask Him for taking out of a situation, so
that you will be employed in a different
situation. For had Allah intended so, He should
have employed you in it even without changing
your circumstances.
- Ibn ‘Ata’illah

Ghazali
i. Act contrary to one’s Caprice (Hawa) e.g. give a gift or
do a favour for the envied. Pray for his well-being
and seek forgiveness for him
ii. Know with certainty that holding envy brings harm
to oneself, in this world and after.
It damages his condition, constantly in grief and
resentment. (in fact, it can damage one’s sanity)
Treatment of Envy (Hasad)

Ghazali
“Its etiology (cause) includes enmity, vying for the
love of others, arrogance, poor self-worth, vanity
Love of leadership, and avaricious cupidity (for
things). These (seven) causes engender envy…..”
-Imam Al-Mawlud’s Purification of the heart
Causes of Envy (Hasad)

II. Riya’ (Ostentation)
Ghazali
Riya’ is:
When a person performs an Ibadah only
to obtain a place in the hearts of others.
In simple terms; it is showing off, doing
something to gain reputation.

Ghazali
Example:
Someone who reads the Qur’an,
only to gain praises and respect
from others for his fluency or
voice.

Ghazali
Example:
Someone who prays slowly in
the mosque e.g. lengthens his
sujud, but prays quickly when
alone or at home.

Ghazali
ْ‫ك‬ِ‫ر‬ْ‫ش‬ُ‫ي‬ ‫ا‬َ‫ل‬َ‫و‬ ‫ا‬ً‫ح‬ِ‫ال‬ َ‫ص‬ ‫ًا‬‫ل‬َ‫م‬َ‫ع‬ ْ‫ل‬َ‫م‬ْ‫ع‬َ‫ي‬ْ‫ل‬َ‫ف‬ ِ‫ه‬ِّ‫ب‬َ‫ر‬ َ‫َاء‬‫ق‬ِ‫ل‬ ‫و‬ُ‫ج‬ْ‫ر‬َ‫ي‬ َ‫ن‬‫ا‬َ‫ك‬ ‫ن‬َ‫م‬َ‫ف‬
ِ‫ه‬ِّ‫ب‬َ‫ر‬ ِ‫ة‬َ‫د‬‫ا‬َ‫ب‬ِ‫ع‬ِ‫ب‬‫ًا‬‫د‬َ‫ح‬َ‫ا‬
So whoever hopes to meet his Lord - let
him do righteous deeds, and not associate
in the worship of his Lord with anyone."

Context and occasion of the verse:
‫ية‬‫الا‬ ‫نزول‬ ‫سبب‬
Tafsir Ibn 'Abbas:
“This verse was revealed about Jundub ibn Zuhayr al-
'Amiri who said: 'I do the deed seeking Allah but I get
happy when other people come to know about it'.
The Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬ said to him: 'Allah Ta’ala
is pure and does not accept except that which is pure.
He does not accept that in which other than Him is
associated'. Allah, exalted is He, then revealed this
verse”.

‫ـ‬ ‫وسلم‬ ‫عليه‬ ‫الله‬ ‫صلى‬ ‫ـ‬ ِ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ال‬ ُ‫ل‬‫و‬ُ‫س‬َ‫ر‬ َ‫ل‬‫ا‬َ‫ق‬‫‏‬‫‏‬"‫‏‬ُ‫ف‬َّ‫و‬َ‫خ‬َ‫ت‬َ‫ا‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬ َ‫ف‬َ‫و‬ْ‫خ‬َ‫ا‬ َّ‫ن‬ِ‫ا‬
‫ا‬ً‫ر‬َ‫م‬َ‫ق‬ َ‫ا‬‫ل‬َ‫و‬ ‫ا‬ً‫س‬ْ‫م‬َ‫ش‬ َ‫ن‬‫ُو‬‫د‬ُ‫ب‬ْ‫ع‬َ‫ي‬ ُ‫ل‬‫و‬ُ‫ق‬َ‫ا‬ ُ‫ت‬ْ‫س‬َ‫ل‬ ‫ِّي‬‫ن‬ِ‫ا‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬َ‫ا‬ ِ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ال‬ِ‫ب‬ ُ‫ك‬‫ا‬َ‫ر‬ْ‫ش‬ِ‫الا‬ ‫ي‬ِ‫ت‬َّ‫م‬ُ‫ا‬ ‫ى‬َ‫ل‬َ‫ع‬
ً‫ة‬َّ‫ي‬ِ‫ف‬َ‫خ‬ ً‫ة‬َ‫و‬ْ‫ه‬َ‫ش‬َ‫و‬ ِ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ال‬ ِ‫ر‬ْ‫ي‬َ‫غ‬ِ‫ل‬ ً‫ا‬‫ال‬َ‫م‬ْ‫ع‬َ‫ا‬ ْ‫ن‬ِ‫ك‬َ‫ل‬َ‫و‬ ‫ا‬ً‫ن‬َ‫ث‬َ‫و‬ َ‫ا‬‫ل‬َ‫و‬‫‏‬"‫‏‬‫‏‬‫‏‬.‫‏‬
“The thing that I fear most for my nation is
associating others with Allah. I do not say that they
will worship the sun or the moon or idols, but deeds
done for the sake of anyone other than Allah, and
hidden desires.”

“On the day of Resurrection, it will be decreed that a
martyr be taken to the fire. He will say: ‘O Lord, I was
matyred fighting in Your path.’ Allah will proclaim,
‘You wanted it to be said that you were brave; it was
said, and that was your reward.”
[narrated by Imam Muslim]
The same will happen to the scholar, the pilgrim
(Hajj), the warrior and the reciter of the Qur’an, who
showed off their deeds.

Signs of Riya’
i. Laziness
ii. Lack of action when alone
iii. Increasing actions when praised

‫اء‬َ‫ي‬ِ‫ر‬ ِ‫س‬‫ا‬َّ‫ن‬‫ال‬ ِ‫ل‬‫ج‬َ‫ا‬ ‫ن‬ِ‫م‬ ِ‫ل‬َ‫م‬َ‫ع‬‫ال‬ ُ‫ك‬‫ر‬َ‫ت‬
‫رك‬ِ‫ش‬ ِ‫س‬‫ا‬َّ‫ن‬‫ال‬ ِ‫جل‬َ‫ا‬ ‫ن‬ِ‫م‬ ُ‫ل‬َ‫م‬َ‫ع‬‫ال‬ َ‫و‬
Abandoning an action fearing from people is Riya’
And doing a deed for the sake of others is Syirk
- Imam Qadhi ‘Iyad

Solution:
Be consistent (istiqamah) in doing
something, even if it’s very small.

Treatment:
i. Being always conscious of its harm
and punishment;
insincerity actions is not acceptable when
presented Allah. Also,
“Allah forbids those who are Riya’ from (entering)
Heaven.”

Treatment:
ii. Veiling/hiding good actions from
others;
This way, one’s good actions will be protected
from vanity.
e.g. dhikr, tahajjud, reciting Qur’an in privacy.

Six types of Riya’
mentioned by Sheikh Abdul Qadir Al-Mandili in his book
Penawar bagi Hati
i. Riya’ through limbs
ii. Riya’ through movement
iii. Riya’ through clothes
iv. Riya’ through words
v. Riya’ through actions
vi. Riya’ through students and teachers

Reality check:
i. If there is slight Riya’ in our actions, should we
stop doing it immediately?
ii. If a person donates and publicizes it e.g. in the
media, is that considered Riya’?
iii. I feel motivated to do more good when sitting in
the mosque. Does that count as Riya’?

II. Takabbur (arrogance)
Ghazali
Takabbur is:
When the servant looks at himself
with honour & self-glorification,
while looking down on others.

Ghazali
Its effect on the tongue:
“I this….” “I that….”

Ghazali
Examples of being arrogant:
o “I am better than him because I have higher
education.”
o “Who is she to advise me on Islam? At least I
pray five times a day!”
o “My father is a well-respected man.”

Ghazali
One of the first sins, is the arrogance of Iblis:
“I am better than him; You created
me from fire, and You created him
from clay.”
[Al-A’raf:12]

Ghazali
During the time of the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬‫‏‬ ,
the Jews & the disbelievers couldn’t accept Islam not
because of lacking proofs, but instead out of arrogance.
The most villainous beings in history were filled with
arrogance & false pride: Iblis, Pharaoh etc.

Ghazali
ٍ‫ر‬‫ا‬َّ‫ب‬َ‫ج‬ ٍ‫ر‬ِّ‫ب‬َ‫ك‬َ‫ت‬ُ‫م‬ ِ‫ب‬ْ‫ل‬َ‫ق‬ ِّ‫ل‬‫ـ‬ُ‫ك‬ ٰ‫ى‬َ‫ل‬َ‫ع‬ ُ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ٱل‬ ُ‫ع‬َ‫ب‬ْ‫ط‬َ‫ي‬ َ‫ك‬ِ‫ل‬َ‫ذ‬َ‫ك‬
Thus does Allah seal over every heart
[belonging to] an arrogant tyrant.
[Ghafir:35]

Ghazali
‫قال‬ ‫وسلم‬ ‫عليه‬ ‫الله‬ ‫صلى‬ ‫النبى‬ ‫عن‬‫‏‬:
...ٍ‫ر‬‫كب‬ ‫من‬ ٍ‫ة‬‫ذر‬ َ‫ل‬‫مثقا‬ ‫قلبه‬ ‫في‬ ‫كان‬ ‫من‬ َ‫ة‬‫الجن‬ ‫يدخل‬ ‫لا‬ ‫‏‬
The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬ said, "He who has, in his heart, an
atom's weight of arrogance will not enter Jannah…
Someone said: “(what if) a man likes to wear beautiful clothes and
shoes?" Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬ said, "Allah is Beautiful, He loves beauty.
Arrogance means: ridiculing and rejecting the Truth and despising
people."

‫‏‬َ‫ل‬‫ا‬َ‫ق‬ ‫وسلم‬ ‫عليه‬ ‫الله‬ ‫صلى‬ َّ‫ي‬ِ‫ب‬َّ‫ن‬‫ال‬ َّ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬‫:‏‬‫ا‬َ‫م‬َ‫ن‬ْ‫ي‬َ‫ب‬‫ل‬ُ‫ج‬َ‫ر‬ُ‫ه‬َ‫ر‬‫ا‬َ‫ز‬ِ‫ا‬ ُّ‫ر‬ُ‫ج‬َ‫ي‬ِ‫ء‬َ‫ا‬‫ل‬َ‫ي‬ُ‫خ‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬ َ‫ن‬ِ‫م‬
ِ‫ة‬َ‫م‬‫ا‬َ‫ي‬ِ‫ق‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬ ِ‫م‬ْ‫و‬َ‫ي‬ ‫ى‬َ‫ل‬ِ‫ا‬ ِ‫ض‬ْ‫ر‬َ‫ا‬‫ال‬ ‫ي‬ِ‫ف‬ ُ‫ل‬َ‫ج‬ْ‫ل‬َ‫ج‬َ‫ت‬َ‫ي‬ َ‫و‬ْ‫ه‬َ‫ف‬ ،ِ‫ه‬ِ‫ب‬ َ‫ف‬ ِ‫س‬ُ‫خ‬‫‏‬
The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬ said: While a man was walking,
dragging his dress (on the ground) with pride, he was
caused to be swallowed by the earth and will go on
sinking in it till the Day of Resurrection.

Types of Arrogance:
1. Deems himself superior to others.
2. In displaying contempt & scorn
3. Relating to Lineage
4. Owing to Beauty (Appearance & voice)
5. Stems from having Wealth
6. Base on Physical Strength
7. Possessing an abundance of something e.g. Students
8. Due to having knowledge

Treatment:
1. Remember our humble origins. As the Qur’an
reminds us, every one of us is created from a drop
of Semen. [Al-Qiyamah:37]
2. And remember that we will be carcasses when we
die.

Reality check:
i. Does wearing beautiful clothes considered as
arrogant?
ii. Beauty & wealth are gifts from Allah and
adornments of this world. It will not last forever.
iii. When you look down on someone ignorant about
the Deen, Remember that you were also once as
ignorant as him.
iv. If we think highly of ourselves, reflect: Are we
great in the eyes of Allah?

The Etiquette of
Companionship with
The Creator &
with creation
Basics for Youth

• Allah is our Companion when we acknowledge he is Our
Master, He reaches out to those trying to reach Him.
‫ى‬َ‫ل‬ِ‫ا‬ ِ‫ات‬َ‫م‬ُ‫ل‬ُّ‫ظ‬‫ٱل‬ َ‫ن‬ِّ‫م‬ ْ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬ُ‫ِج‬‫ر‬ْ‫خ‬ُ‫ي‬ ْ‫ا‬‫و‬ُ‫ن‬َ‫م‬‫ا‬ َ‫ين‬ِ‫ذ‬َّ‫ل‬‫ٱ‬ ُّ‫ي‬ِ‫ل‬َ‫و‬ ُ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ٱل‬ِ‫ر‬‫و‬ُّ‫ن‬‫ٱل‬
“Allah is the Companion of those who believe. He brings them out of darkness into light…”
• The One who created us, knows the most of our weaknesses,
and how to take care of us, of our hearts, our provisions, our
safety.
• Tests are means to get us closer to Him , to know He is Near.
• Differentiate between, companions, friends, acquaintances.
“Know that your Companion, the one
who never parts from you…”
Basics for Youth

Ghazali Basics for Youth

• Allah takes care of our health, our needs, our comfort
(internet, food in fridge, “unlimited” clean water etc.).
• He does not leave you alone when you’re going out to
school or work, or when you’re on a holiday.
• You reached school & back home safely almost
everyday.
• He does not leave His creation, but often we forget
Him
“..whether you are at home or you are
travelling, whether you are asleep or awake,
and indeed, your life and death-”
Basics for Youth

• -‫ي‬ِّ‫ب‬َ‫ر‬ُ‫ي‬ ‫ى‬َّ‫ب‬َ‫ر‬‫‏‬‫ة‬َ‫ي‬ِ‫ب‬‫ر‬َ‫ت‬ bring up ; cradle ; cultivate ; culture ; discipline ;
educate ; foster ; instruct ; nurse ; nurture ; polish ; raise, etc.
• ‫ى‬ّ‫ب‬‫ر‬‫:‏‬‫قية‬ُ‫ل‬ُ‫والخ‬ ‫العقلية‬ ‫و‬ ‫الجسدية‬ ‫قواه‬ ‫ى‬ّ‫م‬‫ن‬ – To invigorate & nurture
one’s physical, intellectual & ethics. [source: Mu’jam Al-Wasit]
• ‫ى‬َ‫ل‬‫و‬َ‫م‬‫ال‬ – Protector, master (‫د‬‫السي‬) , giver of blessing (‫م‬ِّ‫ع‬‫ن‬ُ‫م‬‫ال‬) , affectionate
(‫ب‬ ِّ‫ح‬ُ‫م‬‫ال‬) , fellow (‫ب‬ ِّ‫الصاح‬) [Source: Al-Munjid fi Al-lughah wa al-A’lam]
• ‫د‬ِّ‫ي‬َ‫س‬‫ال‬
“…is (none other than) your Lord, your
Protector, your Master, …”
Basics for Youth

• ‫الخالق‬ Al-Khāliq : The Creator, create out of nothing
• ‫‏‬‫البارئ‬ Al-Bāri’: The Producer, According to the plan
• ‫ر‬ّ‫و‬‫المص‬ Al-Muṣawwir : The Fashioner, Designs in
intricacy & perfection
“…and your Creator.”
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‫ي‬ِ‫ن‬َ‫ر‬َ‫ك‬َ‫ذ‬ ‫ن‬َ‫م‬ ُ‫يس‬ِ‫ل‬َ‫ج‬ ‫َا‬‫ن‬َ‫ا‬
[I am the Companion of the one who engages in
remembrance of Me.]
• Allah is with those seeking for Him & His guidance.
• Remembrance (zikr), can be in forms of Solat, reading
the Qur’an, Seeking knowledge, Litanies (wird) etc.
• Remembering Allah gives you the strength & calmness
to not react thoughtlessly, e.g.:
not getting angry and react on impulse, when someone
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• How many disobediences did we do in a day?
• The prophet once said: “There is nothing dearer to Allah than a
repentant youth”.
• One who regrets and does not strive, is like one who
acknowledges his thirst, but expects the water to flow into his
mouth.
• ‫القبول‬ ‫عالمات‬ ‫من‬,‫المتابعة‬ - amongst the signs of acceptance, is continuity.
“..and whenever your heart breaks with sorrow
over your shortcomings in fulfilling His rights,
indeed He is your
Friend & Constant Companion..”
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‫ي‬ِ‫ل‬‫ج‬َ‫ا‬ِ‫ل‬ ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬ُ‫ب‬‫و‬ُ‫ل‬ُ‫ق‬ ِ‫ة‬َ‫ر‬ِ‫س‬َ‫ك‬‫ن‬ُ‫م‬‫ال‬ َ‫د‬‫ن‬ِ‫ع‬ ‫َا‬‫ن‬َ‫ا‬
[I am with those whose hearts are broken
for My Sake.]
• Know that Allah will always forgive our sins, even if we fail Him
every day.
• Know that Allah is Near.
• Don’t feel awkward when asking Allah. There’s a problem in our
hearts if we do.
• We do not know when death comes, in what condition are we in
when the time comes.
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ْ‫م‬ُ‫ك‬َ‫ل‬ ُ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ال‬ ‫ا‬َ‫ه‬ُ‫ر‬ِ‫ف‬ْ‫غ‬َ‫ي‬ ‫ُوب‬‫ن‬ُ‫ذ‬ ْ‫م‬ُ‫ك‬َ‫ل‬ ْ‫ن‬ُ‫ك‬َ‫ت‬ ْ‫م‬َ‫ل‬ ْ‫م‬ُ‫ك‬َّ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬ ْ‫و‬َ‫ل‬
َ‫اء‬َ‫ج‬َ‫ل‬ْ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬َ‫ل‬ ‫ا‬َ‫ه‬ُ‫ر‬ِ‫ف‬ْ‫غ‬َ‫ي‬ ‫ُوب‬‫ن‬ُ‫ذ‬ ْ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬َ‫ل‬ ٍ‫م‬ْ‫و‬َ‫ق‬ِ‫ب‬ ُ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ال‬
‫‏‬)‫‏‬‫‏‬ (‫مسلم‬ ‫مام‬‫الا‬ ‫رواه‬ ‫‏‬‫‏‬
If you were not to commit sins, Allah would have swept you out of existence
and would have replaced you by another people who have committed sin,
and then asked forgiveness from Allah, and He would have granted them
pardon.
In other words, Allah loves to forgive.
Part of our purpose is to experience the mercy of Allah.
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“If you knew Him truly as He should be known, you would take Him as your
Companion & leave people aside.
If you are not able to do this all the time, then beware of
leaving your entire night and day devoid of a time spent alone
with your Master, therein to taste sweetness of intimate
dialogue with Him.”
• We should not leave Allah in our daily routines. There’s wisdom
behind the obligation of our 5 daily prayers.
• Allocate time specifically for Allah. (prayers,zikr,litanies, reciting qur’an etc.)
• There’s intimacy & sincerity in Tahajjud (night prayers): you are
seeking Allah in private, and it’s your choice to do it.
• Avoid spending our time on something hugely unbeneficial.
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ْ‫ن‬َ‫ع‬ٍ‫س‬َ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬‫وسلم‬ ‫عليه‬ ‫الله‬ ‫صلى‬ ِّ‫ي‬ِ‫ب‬َّ‫ن‬‫ال‬ ِ‫ن‬َ‫ع‬َ‫ل‬‫ا‬َ‫ق‬:‫‏‬
‫‏‬‫‏‬‫‏‬‫‏‬َ‫ة‬َ‫و‬َ‫ا‬‫ل‬َ‫ح‬ َ‫د‬َ‫ج‬َ‫و‬ ِ‫ه‬‫ي‬ِ‫ف‬ َّ‫ن‬ُ‫ك‬ ْ‫ن‬َ‫م‬ ‫ث‬َ‫ا‬‫ل‬َ‫ث‬ِ‫ان‬َ‫م‬‫ي‬ِ‫الا‬:
‫‏‬‫ا‬َّ‫م‬ِ‫م‬ ِ‫ه‬ْ‫ي‬َ‫ل‬ِ‫ا‬ َّ‫ب‬َ‫ح‬َ‫ا‬ ُ‫ه‬ُ‫ل‬‫و‬ُ‫س‬َ‫ر‬َ‫و‬ ُ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ال‬ َ‫ن‬‫و‬ُ‫ك‬َ‫ي‬ ْ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬‫ا‬َ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬‫ا‬َ‫و‬ِ‫س‬
‫‏‬َّ‫ا‬‫ل‬ِ‫ا‬ ُ‫ه‬ُّ‫ب‬ ِ‫ح‬ُ‫ي‬ َ‫ا‬‫ل‬ َ‫ء‬ْ‫ر‬َ‫م‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬ َّ‫ب‬ ِ‫ح‬ُ‫ي‬ ْ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬َ‫و‬ِ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬ِ‫ل‬
‫‏‬ِ‫ر‬‫ا‬َّ‫ن‬‫ال‬ ‫ي‬ِ‫ف‬ َ‫ف‬َ‫ذ‬ْ‫ق‬ُ‫ي‬ ْ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬ ُ‫ه‬َ‫ر‬ْ‫ك‬َ‫ي‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬َ‫ك‬ ِ‫ر‬ْ‫ف‬ُ‫ك‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬ ‫ي‬ِ‫ف‬ َ‫د‬‫و‬ُ‫ع‬َ‫ي‬ ْ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬ َ‫ه‬َ‫ر‬ْ‫ك‬َ‫ي‬ ْ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬َ‫و‬‫‏‬" ‫‏‬‫‏‬
Narrated Anas: The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬ said:
"Whoever possesses the following three qualities will taste the
sweetness (delight) of faith:
1. The one to whom Allah and His Messenger becomes dearer than
anything else.
2. Who loves a person and he loves him only for Allah's sake.
3. Who hates to revert to Atheism (disbelief) as he hates to be thrown into the fire."
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Manners when in company with Allah:
1. Keeping the eyes downcast
2. Full concentration
3. Remaining silent
4. Stillness of the limbs
5. Hastening to fulfil His command
6. Avoiding prohibited things
7. Minimal objection to what He decrees for you
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8. Constant remembrance of Him
9. Persevering in contemplation (tafakkur)
10.Giving preference to the Truth
11. Despairing of created being
12. Humility with extreme reverence (before Allah)
13. A feeling of brokenness (with modesty)
14. Peace of mind* (in earnings of livelihood)
15. Complete trust in Allah
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Exerpts from Hadith Jibril:
َ‫ل‬‫ا‬َ‫ق‬‫:‏‬‫ت‬ْ‫ق‬َ‫د‬ َ‫ص‬‫.‏‬َ‫ل‬‫ا‬َ‫ق‬‫:‏‬ِ‫ان‬َ‫س‬ْ‫ح‬ِ‫ا‬ْ‫ل‬‫ا‬ ْ‫ن‬َ‫ع‬ ‫ي‬ِ‫ن‬ْ‫ر‬ِ‫ب‬ْ‫خ‬َ‫ا‬َ‫ف‬.‫‏‬
َ‫ل‬‫ا‬َ‫ق‬‫:‏‬‫اك‬َ‫ر‬َ‫ي‬ ُ‫ه‬َّ‫ن‬ِ‫ا‬َ‫ف‬ ُ‫ه‬‫ا‬َ‫ر‬َ‫ت‬ ْ‫ن‬ُ‫ك‬َ‫ت‬ ْ‫م‬َ‫ل‬ ْ‫ن‬ِ‫ا‬َ‫ف‬ ،ُ‫ه‬‫ا‬َ‫ر‬َ‫ت‬ ‫َّك‬‫ن‬َ‫ا‬َ‫ك‬ َ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ال‬ َ‫د‬ُ‫ب‬ْ‫ع‬َ‫ت‬ ْ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬
He (Jibril) said, "You have spoken the truth." Then he said,
"Inform me about Ihsan." He (the Prophet) answered, "It is that
you should serve Allah as though you could see Him, although
you cannot see Him, yet He sees you."
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Conclusion:
1. ‫ي‬ِ‫ت‬َ‫م‬ْ‫ح‬َ‫ر‬َ‫و‬ْ‫ت‬َ‫ع‬ِ‫س‬َ‫و‬‫‏‬َّ‫ل‬ُ‫ك‬ٍ‫ء‬ْ‫ي‬َ‫ش‬ Allah’s mercy surpasses everything else.
He will forgive us instantly if we seek His Forgiveness.
2. Have full awareness that Allah is always watching.
3. There’s adab in everything; while eating, while with our
teachers, in a meeting, with our parents etc. We should
act accordingly while with our Creator.
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ْ‫عن‬‫وسلم‬ ‫عليه‬ ‫الله‬ ‫صلى‬ ِ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬‫ال‬ َ‫ل‬‫و‬ُ‫س‬َ‫ر‬ َّ‫ن‬َ‫ا‬ ،َ‫ة‬َ‫ر‬ْ‫ي‬َ‫ر‬ُ‫ه‬ ‫ي‬ِ‫ب‬َ‫ا‬َ‫ل‬‫ا‬َ‫ق‬
‫َة‬‫د‬َّ‫ن‬َ‫ج‬ُ‫م‬ ‫ود‬ُ‫ن‬ُ‫ج‬ ُ‫اح‬َ‫و‬ْ‫ر‬َ‫ا‬‫ال‬
َ‫ف‬َ‫ل‬َ‫ت‬ْ‫اخ‬ ‫ا‬َ‫ه‬ْ‫ن‬ِ‫م‬ َ‫ر‬َ‫ك‬‫ا‬َ‫ن‬َ‫ت‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬َ‫و‬ َ‫ف‬َ‫ل‬َ‫ت‬ْ‫ئ‬‫ا‬ ‫ا‬َ‫ه‬ْ‫ن‬ِ‫م‬ َ‫ف‬َ‫ر‬‫ا‬َ‫ع‬َ‫ت‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬َ‫ف‬ ‫‏‬‫‏‬‫‏‬
Gems from Al-Kahf
Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger ‫ﷺ‬Saying:
The souls are “troops” collected together;
those which get along in the heavens, will be inclined to
and familiar with each other,
and those who do not, will keep apart.
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Relationship with
our Parents
Within the teachings of Islam
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Who are our parents?
They are the ones who brought you up.
They are the ones who fed you,
cleaned you when you were helpless,
calmed you when you were crying,
attended you when you were sick,
worked hard, just for your education,
Sacrificed their desires for you,
They are the ones who brought you up.
Now, are we being fair?
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َّ‫ن‬َ‫غ‬ُ‫ل‬ۡ‫ب‬َ‫ي‬ ‫ا‬َّ‫م‬ِ‫ا‬ ۚ‫ا‬ً‫ن‬ٰ‫ـ‬َ‫س‬ ۡ‫ح‬ِ‫ا‬ ِ‫ن‬ۡ‫ي‬َ‫د‬ِ‫ل‬‫ٲ‬َ‫و‬ۡ‫ل‬‫ٱ‬ِ‫ب‬َ‫و‬ ُ‫ه‬‫ا‬َّ‫ي‬ِ‫ا‬ ‫ا‬َّ‫ل‬ِ‫ا‬ ْ‫ا‬‫ُو‬‫د‬ُ‫ب‬ۡ‫ع‬َ‫ت‬ ‫ا‬َّ‫ل‬َ‫ا‬ َ‫ك‬ُّ‫ب‬َ‫ر‬ ٰ‫ى‬ َ‫ض‬َ‫ق‬َ‫و‬
‫ف‬ُ‫ا‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬ ‫ُل‬‫ق‬َ‫ت‬ ‫َا‬‫ل‬َ‫ف‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬‫َا‬‫ل‬ِ‫ك‬ ۡ‫و‬َ‫ا‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬ُ‫د‬َ‫ح‬َ‫ا‬ َ‫ر‬َ‫ب‬ ِ‫ڪ‬ۡ‫ل‬‫ٱ‬ َ‫ك‬َ‫د‬‫ن‬ِ‫ع‬
‫ا‬ً‫م‬‫ِي‬‫ر‬َ‫ڪ‬ ً‫ا‬‫ل‬ ۡ‫و‬َ‫ق‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬ ‫ل‬ُ‫ق‬َ‫و‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬ۡ‫ر‬َ‫ہ‬ۡ‫ن‬َ‫ت‬ ‫ا‬َ‫ل‬َ‫و‬
And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but
Him. And that you be the best to your parents. If one
of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say
not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them
but address them in terms of honour.
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‫ا‬َ‫م‬َ‫ك‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬ۡ‫م‬َ‫ح‬ۡ‫ٱر‬ ِّ‫ب‬َّ‫ر‬ ‫ل‬ُ‫ق‬َ‫و‬ ِ‫ة‬َ‫م‬ ۡ‫ح‬َّ‫ر‬‫ٱل‬ َ‫ن‬ِ‫م‬ ِّ‫ل‬ُّ‫ذ‬‫ٱل‬ َ‫اح‬َ‫ن‬َ‫ج‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬َ‫ل‬ ۡ‫ض‬ِ‫ف‬ ۡ‫ٱخ‬َ‫‏و‬
‫ا‬ً‫ير‬ِ‫غ‬ َ‫ص‬ ‫ى‬ِ‫ن‬‫ا‬َ‫ي‬َّ‫ب‬َ‫ر‬
And lower unto them the wing of humility
through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on
them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I
was young.“
[Al-Isra’: 23 & 24]
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“be the best to your parents”
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• Ihsan means to do the best. Not just doing something good,
with minimal or normal effort. But do it with your best effort.
• This is the only command in the Quran that, other than doing
the best, you become sinful. You can’t settle for lesser than that.
[Unlike prayers, fasting, etc.]
• Feeding them, giving money, cleaning them when they are
unable to, it is not an act of goodness (birrul waalidain). It is just
paying back your debt.
• Be the best means to keep them happy , loved & appreciated.

“If one of them or both of them attain old age
in your life..”
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• In a different ayat, [al-ahqaf:15] : “And We have enjoined on man to be
dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship, And she
brings him forth with hardship, and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him
is thirty months, until when he attains full strength, and reaches
forty years (old)”
• Not remembering their effort raising you, doesn’t mean that
you don’t have to appreciate it. You almost killed her during
birth.
• The Quran states that by the age of 40, we have reached the
summit of our “journey”. The physical human body & mind
gradually deteriorates after that.

“If one of them or both of them attain old age
in your life..” (part two)
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• Our parents are not getting stronger & healthier, they need
our support as much as they can. They become more easily
angst, emotionally unstable, seeking more of attention.
• We do not know how annoying we will be when we’re old.
• Doing household chores when they’re in their 20s or 30s is
very different compared to now, It takes more effort. Fathers
become more easily fatigued after work.
• ّ‫ف‬‫ا‬ means expressing disgust, dislike, anger, e.g. loud deep
exhaling, rolling eyes.

“And lower unto them the wings of humility
through mercy…”
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• You have the ability to fly high, but you descend to the
ground anyway. Lower yourself when with them, show
respect.
• through mercy, has three meanings:
o they are in an age where they need our mercy the most.
E.g. learning about phones.
o They showed you mercy when you were small.
o If you want Allah’s mercy, show our parents mercy.

‫ى‬ِ‫ف‬ ‫ا‬َ‫م‬ِ‫ب‬ ُ‫م‬َ‫ل‬ۡ‫ع‬َ‫ا‬ ۡ‫م‬ُ‫ك‬ُّ‫ب‬َّ‫ر‬ۚۡ‫م‬ُ‫ك‬ِ‫ُوس‬‫ف‬ُ‫ن‬
Your Lord knows best what is in your inner-selves.
[Ál-Isra’:25]
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How timely the next following ayat is:
• We always feel our own parents are an exception case,
they’re very difficult when compared to others
• While Allah knows what’s going on. This is a test for
EVERYONE.

Ettiquette with parents
according to Imam Al-Ghazzali:
Listen to what they say;
 stand up when they stand (out of respect);
Submit to doing what they say;
 not to walk ahead of them;
 not to raise your voice over theirs;
answer them when they call you;
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be intent upon seeking their good pleasure;
lower to them the wing of humility;
 not to remind them of your goodness;
toward them;
not to look at them in doubt;
 not to frown in their faces;
 not to travel except with their consent
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