The document provides etiquettes and guidelines for attending gatherings according to Islamic teachings. It discusses the importance of remembering Allah at gatherings and avoiding secret conversations that exclude others. Specific etiquettes covered include greeting others when joining or leaving, not taking someone else's seat without permission, avoiding excessive laughter or burping in front of others, and maintaining proper sitting posture.

1. Ettiquettes
of a GatheringADAAB ASSIGNMENT, KIU SEMESTER 1

2. About Gatherings
●We Humans are social creatures and live in society where we interact with
people close to us or strangers of our same culture and ethnicity or from
completely different backgrounds.
●We meet & gather together on different occasions to share our thoughts, learn,
teach, talk, discuss and interact.
●So, In order not to transgress other’s rights, Our unique sharia give us the
guidelines for our behavior during such gatherings for our own benefit and that iof
others so we do not err or make others Sad, ‫سبحان‬‫هللا‬ .
●Upcoming slides presents few such points for us to learn and implement. ‫ان‬‫شاء‬‫هللا‬
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3. 1. Remembering Allah
It is one of the most important point to remember in our gathering, that we
mention the name of Allah, in order to get benifitted out of our meeting.
The Prophet (‫)ﷺ‬ forbade his followers from attending gatherings wherein
Allāh’s name is not mentioned.
Abu Hurairah related that the Messenger of Allāh (‫)ﷺ‬ said, “No people stand
up from a gathering in which they did not remember Allāh, except that they
stand up like from a donkey’s carcass (i.e. in terms of its filth and stench).
And it (that gathering) is regret for them (on the day of Judgement, they
will regret having attended it)”.
Related by Aboo Daawood 4855 and Al-Albaanee said, “Saheeh”
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4. Gatherings which Allah Loves
● On contrary, Gatherings are meetings that are alive with
the remembrance and praise of Allāh and with prayers upon
His Prophet (‫)ﷺ‬ .
● Allāh loves such gatherings, and its people achieve
rewards and an increase in goodness.
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5. Befriending Good People
IMPORTANCE OF COMPANIONS
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6. “ The Messenger of Allāh said :
“A person is upon the religion
of his close friend, so beware
whom you befriend.”
(Related by Abū Daawood 4833 and At-Tirmithee 2378; Al-Albaanee
ruled it Hasan)
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7. Importance of a Companion
● Selecting companions is an extremely important and
delicate task, for regardless of one’s status, confidence
and strength the influence of one’s friends and
companions is inevitable.
● Those with whom one spends a great deal of time, will
eventually have an effect over them in terms of behaviour,
morals, conducts and values as all these traits easily rub
off on others.
The Messenger of Allāh mentioned a similitude regarding this
matter which helps to clarify the issue.
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8. The Messenger of Allāh said :
“The case of the good companion and
the bad companion is like that of the
seller of musk and the blower of the
bellows (iron-smith).
As for the seller of musk, he will either
give you some of the musk, or you will
purchase some from him, or at least you
will come away having experienced its
good smell.
Whereas the blower of the bellows will
either burn your clothing, or at least you
will come away having experienced its
repugnant smell.”
(Related by Bukhaaree 5534 and Muslim 2628)
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9. ● A good companion is one who has good manners, piety, knowledge and
good culture. Such are those who grant us from their virtue. It results in
attainment of beneficial knowledge, noble manners and righteous actions.
● It is common that a person with noble character and manners befriends
those who are ignorant of their duties to Allāh , and over time due to their
ridicule and belittling the good habits , he deviate from the right path.
● The evil companion, whom we must avoid, includes an innovator (in the
religion) and an evil doer. They pose many dangers, An innovator threatens
the wellbeing of his companions, both in the religious and worldly sense. In
befriending an innovator, especially one eloquent in speech, one will
ultimately either adopt his innovations or be afflicted with doubt and
confusion, which result from hearing specious arguments
● When one sits with an evildoer, he is never protected from hearing his foul
language, falsehood, slander or backbiting. Furthermore, if he is negligent
in performing his obligatory prayers or any other act of worship, it is
probable that his negligence could rub off on his companions.
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10. Allah says:
And keep yourself patient [by being] with those who call upon their Lord in the
morning and the evening, seeking His countenance. And let not your eyes pass
beyond them, desiring adornments of the worldly life, and do not obey one
whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance and who follows
his desire and whose affair is ever [in] neglect.
[Surah Kahf 18 : 28]
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11. Greeting
MEMBERS OF THE GATHERING
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12. Among the etiquettes of attending a gathering, one must greet
members of the gathering in both occasions while joining and leaving.
Abū Hurairah related that the Messenger of Allāh said,
“If one of you ends up at a gathering, then let him extend greetings of
peace. Then, let him sit if he deems it better to sit. Then if he stands, let
him extend greetings of peace, for the first (greeting, which he gave
upon arriving) is not more worthy than the last (i.e. the greeting he gives
upon leaving).”
Greet while joining and leaving.
(Related by Abū Daawood 5208 and At-Tirmidhee 2706)
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13. 4. Taking someone
else’s seat
WANTING TO SIT
It is disliked to ask a
person to get up from his
seat and then occupy it.
ON A SHORT BREAK
If one leaves to run an
errand that doesn’t
require too much time,
upon returning he has the
greatest right to his
previous seat.
ALREADY SEATED
One seated, has the right
to his seat. However, if he
gets up and offers his
seat or allows one to take
his seat, there is nothing
wrong in accepting his
offer.
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14. Make Space and
Spread
Ibn `Umar related that the Prophet
forbade a Muslim from asking a man to
leave his seat so that someone else
can take that spot instead, but instead
‘make space and spread out’.
Ibn `Umar would hate to sit in the place
of a man who stood up (either to give
up his place or to leave momentarily).
(Related by Bukhaaree 6270, Muslim 2177 and
others)
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15. ● Reasoning behind this ruling is to avoid belittling one another as
disparagement leads to resentment; a
● Muslims have been advised and taught to be humble and kind to one
another as these virtuous traits lead to an increase in mutual love and
compassion.
● Additionally, in all lawful matters, people are equal; each and every person
has rights, and when someone takes away a right without a just cause for
doing so, he is committing a prohibited deed.
● However, if one of his own preference gets up and offers his seat or allows
other to take his seat, it is not Haraam for you to accept as he willingly
relinquishes his right to it.
● Parents must teach their children and make them aware of this etiquette.
Many children fight and push each other off chairs etc. because they want
to sit next to their friend, or closer to the teacher. If children are taught and
warned against this practice, when they grow up they will avoid it.
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16. Unfortunately, many people misinterpret this ruling and take advantage of it by reserving
themselves a place in the Masjid by placing their prayer mat on a spot
● Suppose that one does leave this rug in the said fashion (to reserve his place even
though he arrives later than others who deserve this place in the first or early rows), is
his prayer on that rug valid?
● Scholars disagree, but in essence, as it is forbidden to wrongfully usurp another
person’s land so too it is forbidden to wrongfully take another person’s place in the
Masjid, (i.e the one who arrived early at the Masjid)
● He said, “In Islām, it is legislated for people to first complete the earlier rows in the
Masjid. The Prophet said, “Will you not line up as the Angles line up with their Lord?”
The Companions asked, “And how do the Angels line up with their Lord?” He said,
“They complete the first row, and then the one that follows it (and so on), and they
are pressed together in the row.” (Related by Bukhaaree 615, Muslim 437 and others)
Misintepreting the ruling.
Shaykh-ul-Islām Ibn Taymiyyah clarified the ruling for this issue
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17. So, is it allowed to remove the rug?
●There are two opinions in that matter.
One opinion is that it is not permissible
to remove the rug, because doing so
involves handling other people’s
property without their permission, which
is categorically forbidden.
●The other opinion which is the correct
one is that one may remove the rug and
pray in that spot. By arriving to the
Masjid early, one is most deserving of
praying in the earliest rows and it is
required that the earlier rows are
completed. To fulfil the above two
requisites one is forced to remove the
rug (especially if that is the only spot left
in the first row).
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• By placing a rug and reserving a spot in the first row, one wrongfully takes the place of another
(someone who arrives early), which is an evil deed;
• Nevertheless, one must not remove the rug if he is certain that removing it will lead to a greater
evil (for example, a fight or uproar).

18. “ The Messenger of Allāh said :
“Whosoever, among you sees
some evil, then let him change
it with his hand; and if he is not
able, then with his tongue; and
if he is not able, then with his
heart, and that is the weakest
(level of) Eemaan.”
(Related by Muslim 49, Ahmad 10689, At-Tirmidhee 2172)
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19. 5. Sitting down at end
of the gathering.
DO NOT
Force your way to front
when arriving late. Nor
trouble others by
squeezing in-between
people
DO
Sit at the end of the
gathering.
This is a noble manner, of
the Sahaba’s whereby
they were considerate
and altruistic.
Jaabir Ibn Samarah said,
“When we would go to
the Prophet, one of us
would sit where it (the
gathering) would end.”
(Related by Abū Daawood
4825.)
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20. Speaking Secretly
WHEN ONLY THREE (3) PEOPLE ARE TOGETHER
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21. Two should not speak secretly to
exclusion of the third
●The Prophet said, “Two people must not speak secretly to the exclusion of the third
(among them), for that will make him sad.” (Related by Bukhaaree 628)
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The wisdom behind this ruling is because the third person will feel awkward,
uncomfortable and will naturally feel paranoid.
Also, to bring sadness to a Muslims heart, Shaytaan will whisper to the one being
excluded and instill doubts in his heart, such that he will become suspicious of the
two with evil thoughts.
It also includes two people speaking in a foreign language which the third does not
understand, as it is a form of disrespect
The prohibition includes three people talking privately to the exclusion of a fourth and
so on

22. ●However, if the gathering consists of four people, two people may speak in private in
the need arises, as the reason for the prohibition is absent
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The Prophet said,
“If you are three, then let not to men (among you)
speak to the exclusion of the other, at least not until
you mix with people (until you are more than three, so
that you do not make him sad.”
(Related by Bukhaaree 6290, Muslim 2183 and others)

23. Eavedropping
DO NOT LISTEN TO OTHERS CONVERSATION
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24. Listening to conversations
●It is forbidden to listen in on other people’s conversations, unless they have given
consent.
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Ibn `Abbaas reported that the Messenger of Allāh said, “Whosoever gives an account
of a dream that he did not really see will be given the task of tying a knot between
two (tiny) pieces of hair, and he will not be able to do so. Whoever listens to the
conversation of a people when they dislike for him to do that or when they are trying
to escape his (hearing), then molten lead will be poured into his ear on the Day of
Resurrection. And whosoever draws a picture (of an animal or human being) will be
punished and will be charged with the task of blowing a spirit into it, and he will not be
able to blow (a spirit into it).”
(Related by Bukhaaree 7042, Ahmad 1869, At-Tirmidhee 1751, and Abū Daawood 5024)
● This ruling extends to looking through people’s private emails and text messages, diaries
etc. without their permission..
●If conversation is in an audible fashion, then it is permissible to listen to the conversation,
as if they wanted privacy, they would have lowered their voices or whispered.

25. 8. Sitting Posture
●Ash-Shareed Ibn As-Suwayd said, “The Messenger of Allāh passed by me while I
was seated thus: I had placed my left hand behind my back, and I was leaning on the
Aaliyah (the flesh that is at the root of one’s thumb) of my hand. Then he said, ‘Do you
sit in the position of those that have incurred (the) wrath (of Allāh) upon them?!’”
(Related by Ahmad 18960 and Abū Daawood 4848 and Al-Albaanee ruled that it is authentic)
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It is prohibited to sit with the left hand behind the back, while leaning on the flesh
adjacent to the thumb of the right hand.
It is forbidden to sit, with part of the body under the sun, with the other part of the
body in the shade.
●Abū Hurairah related that the Prophet said, “If one of you is under the sun (Mukhallid
said, ‘in the shade’) and then the shade diminishes around him, so that a part of him is
under the sun and a part of him is in the shade, he must stand up.” (Related by Abū
Daawood 4821); The reason behind this prohibition has been clarified in other ahaadeeth;
“(It is) the sitting of Shaytaan.” (Related by Ahmad 14874)

26. Placing one leg over another
●Jaabir Ibn `Abdullaah related that the Prophet said, “Let no one from you lie down and
then place one of his legs over the other.” (Related by Muslim 2099, Ahmad 13766 and At-Tirmidhee
2767)
●In another narration `Abbaad Ibn Tameem related that his uncle saw the Prophet lying
down in the Masjid, with one if his legs raised over the other. (Related by Bukhaaree 5969, Muslim
2100 and others)
The two aforementioned narrations are in apparent contradiction. Harmony between the
two ahaadeeth is achieved with the following explanations:
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ABROGATION
- Some scholars say that the
Prophet’s action abrogated the prior
prohibition. .
PERMISSIBILITY
-The prohibition is limited to one whom, by
lying down, exposes or is on the verge of
exposing a private area of his body. And Allāh
knows best
This is opinion of An-Nawawee

27. 9. Excessive Laughing
● A gathering dominated with abundant laughter, does not reflect good Islāmic
etiquettes.
● Small doses of laughter energize and relax the soul
● Too much laughter is like a disease that destroys the heart.
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Abū Hurairah related that the Prophet said,
“Do not laugh too much, for much laughter kills the heart.”
(Related by Ibn Maajah 4193 and Al-Albaanee ruled that it is authentic 3400)

28. 10. Burping in presence of others
● It is not from good manners to burp in presence of others, hence once should limit
his food so he doesn’t get to the point of belching, This is from good etiquettes..
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Ibn `Umar said, “A man belched while he was in the company of the Prophet, and the
Prophet said,
“Hold back from us your belching, for the one who is most filled (in his
stomach) among you in the world will be hungry for the longest period
among you on the Day of Resurrection.”
(Related by AtTirmidhee 478 who said, “This hadeeth is Hasan Ghareeb.” Ibn Maajah also related it
and Al-Albaanee graded it Hasan)

29. Concluding
THE GATHERING WITH INVOCATION
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30. End gathering with invocation
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● It is recommended to end a gathering with the prescribed invocation to atone for
any wrong that may have been spoken in any given gathering
`Aaishah (RA) explained that when the Prophet would sit in a gathering or when he would pray, he
would speak certain words. She asked him what those words were, and he said,
“If one spoke well (about good things), then (those words) are like a seal to them (to
the good words he spoke during a gathering) until the Day of Resurrection. And if he
spoke otherwise, then those words are atonement for him; they are:
‫سبحانك‬‫إليك‬ ‫وأتوب‬ ‫أستغفرك‬ ،‫وبحمدك‬ ‫اللهم‬‘
How perfect You are, O Allāh, and I praise You. I seek Your forgiveness
and turn in repentance to You’.”
(Related by An-Nasaa`ee 1344, Ibn Hajr said “Its chain is strong.”)

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Abū Hurairah reported that the Prophet said,
“Whoever sits in a gathering, in which there was much
clamour and noise (people speaking simultaneously out loud,
so that, to an outsider, only the sound of clamour is heard),
and says before he stands,
،‫أنت‬ ‫إل‬ ‫إله‬ ‫ال‬ ،‫وبحمدك‬ ‫ربنا‬ ‫سبحانك‬‫إليك‬ ‫أتوب‬ ‫ثم‬ ‫أستغفرك‬‘
How perfect You are, O our Lord, and I praise You. None has
the right to be worshipped except You, I seek Your
forgiveness then turn in repentance to You,’ then Allāh
forgives him for what occurred in that gathering.”
(Related by Ahmad 10043 and Al-Albaanee ruled it authentic”)

32. Summary
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‫اللهم‬ ‫سبحانك‬
‫أستغفرك‬ ،‫وبحمدك‬
‫إليك‬ ‫وأتوب‬‘
How perfect You are, O
Allāh, and I praise You. I
seek Your forgiveness
and turn in repentance
to You.
From the points we covered previously, below is short summary
for us to remember and benefit ( ‫ان‬‫شاء‬‫هللا‬ )
● Remembering Allah.
● Befriending with Good People
● Greet at joining and leaving.
● Do not take Someone else Seat
● Sit at end wherever you find space
● Do not Speak Secretly in gathering of three
● Do not Eavesdrop
● Sit in appropriate Manner
● Don’t Laugh Excessively
● Don’t Belch in presence of others
● Conclude gathering with Invocation.