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AGILE LEADERSHIP NETWORK
APRIL 10, 2012
AT
Rapid Rapport:
CREATING INFLUENCE
ON DEMAND
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2. What you get:
INCREASE COMMUNICATION
EFFECTIVENESS UP TO 5X
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4. Bernie Maloney, CSP
PE, CSM, CSPO
Strategic Program Management
matrix management
= Influence without Authority
Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner
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5. I’VE GOT GOOD NEWS & BAD NEWS
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8. Outcome: Recognize and Practice
Verbal Technology to Build Rapport Fast
• Why: Significance and Basis
• How: Applications in Technology Teams
• What’s Behind This: Get the Abstraction
• Summary & Resources
OUTLINE
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9. WHY = FIRST IMPRESSIONS MATTER
Before Confirmation Bias
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10. Does the 1st 60 seconds really matter?
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11. Ever had a telemarketer call?
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12. & you asked to hear more?
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15. HOW: APPLICATIONS IN TECHNOLOGY TEAMS
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16. 7%
Physiology
Tonality 38%
Words 55%
Communication Goes (way, way, way) Beyond Words
e.g. Ray Birdwhistle, University of Pennsylvania
Verbal vectors: Tone, Pitch
Tempo: Speed & Cadence
Timbre
Volume
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21. What if teams increase communication effectiveness by even half this?
5X? OR 10X?
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23. THE TIP? LOWER UNCONSCIOUS BARRIERS
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25. Build Rapport: Offer similar patterns
Tonality (35+%!)
--------------------- how people represent information – another talk
Words (7%): keys to
---------------------
Physiological (55%!)
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26. Pair off: Verbal Mirroring & Matching
Keep statements short (get multiple practice exchanges) Tone, Pitch
Person A: Start with a Question Tempo: Speed & Cadence
Person B: Short response, using similar verbal behaviors > Question Timbre
Switch roles at signal Volume
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28. Get the Abstraction
WHAT’S BEHIND THIS?
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29. It began in the Santa Cruz Mountains…
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32. 2B bps info
NLP MODEL OF COMMUNICATION
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33. 2MB (~16 Mb)
(HD 1920x1080)
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34. Conscious Mind processes
~134 bps
in groups of
2B bps info 7 +/- 2 “chunks”
Delete
Distort
Generalize
Unconscious Programming = Barrier: Friend or Foe? Fight or Flight?
NLP MODEL OF COMMUNICATION
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35. Pair off: Layer in Physical Mirroring & Matching
Keep statements short (get multiple practice exchanges) Tone, Pitch
Question || Short Response || Question back Tempo: Speed & Cadence
Keep movements gentle, and when noticed, offer similar behavior Timbre
Volume
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38. BONUS (time permitting): Pacing & Leading
Keep statements short (get multiple practice exchanges)
Question || Short Response || Question back
Keep movements gentle,
once physical rapport noticed, shift a little & observe
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39. BONUS (time permitting): Mis-Matching
Keep statements short Tone, Pitch
Person A: State an insight from this or another source today Tempo: Speed & Cadence
Person B: Respond using VERY DIFFERENT verbal behaviors Timbre
Switch roles at signal Volume
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41. TWO TYPES OF STUDENTS
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44. DECIDE: WHICH TYPE ARE YOU?
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45. 7%
Physiology
Tonality 38%
Words 55%
Communication Goes (way, way, way) Beyond Words
Tonality (35+%!)
Words (7%): keys to how people represent information
Physiological (55%!)
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47. 35+%: Observe & Signal Rapport by Verbal Matching
Tone, Pitch
Tempo: Speed & Cadence
Timbre
Volume
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48. Seminal Work:
Richard Bandler & John Grinder,
Frogs into Princes
For a far easier Introduction:
Michael Brooks,
Instant Rapport
(available in libraries)
RESOURCES
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49. A practical application to inspire action:
Simon Sinek
Start With Why
A guide leveraging Agile to transform organizations :
Stephen Denning
The Leader’s Guide to Radical Management
APPLIED RESOURCES
FOR THOSE WHO LEAD
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50. Bernie Maloney, CSP
PE, CSM, CSPO
Turning Strategies into Results
From Startup to Beyond $100M
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