How do we know if a person is genuinely sorry

1. How do we
know if a
person is
genuinely
sorry?

2. I am not really sorry if I use the word
if in my apology .Instead of admitting
my mistake, I am trying to have a
credit of doubt to minimize the
negative impact of my mistake.
Good apology : Sorry, I hurt your
feeling when I told you……
Bad apology : Sorry if I hurt your
feeling.

3. I am not really sorry if I use the word maybe
and but in my apology . Instead of admitting
my mistake, I am trying to put doubt in the
feeling of other so I don’t need to feel bad
about it.
Good apology : I am sorry, I make you
embarrassed in front every one when I make
jokes about ……
Bad apology 1: May be you feel embarrassed
when I make the jokes but it was not my
intention to hurt you.
Bad apology 2 : May be my joke was a bit
inappropriate but I don’t mean to hurt you.

4. I am not really sorry if I am trying to put
the blame on the personality of other. If
other feel hurt it is not because of me
but it is because they are sensitive
• Good apology: I am sorry of my
rudeness, I raise my voice on you in
front of your friend.
• Bad apology: You are so sensitive! sorry
if I hurt your feeling.

5. I am not really sorry if I give general
apology instead of specific. I am trying
to protect my self of the feeling of being
in wrong by dismissing information in
my apology.
Good apology: I am sorry I hurt your
feeling. I show bad attitude, I raised my
voice, and I was sarcastic when I told…
Bad apology: sorry if I hurt your feeling.

6. I am not really sorry if I elaborate more in my
excuses than my mistake. I am trying to tell
that I an not bad but I have a legitimate
excuse that make me look bad.
Good apology: I am sorry, I act arrogantly when
you were trying to advise me, I accuse you of
ignorance and apathy ……………..
Bad apology: Sorry about what happen, I did
not sleep last night. I had toothache, I took
pain killer it did not help and……….

7. I am not really sorry if I give
a nice name to my mistake
so I look good.
Good apology: sorry I make
fun in your glasses.
Bad apology: sorry, it was
just a joke.

8. I am not really sorry if I play the
ignorant so I do not look bad.
good apology: Sorry I hurt your
feeling when I call you this bad
nickname.
Bad apology: sorry if I hurt your
feeling but I do not understand
why you overreact I just want to
have fun with you.