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Promoting Emotional
Resiliency in Children
Lisa Allred, LCSW
SAS Work/Life
Resiliency
 The ability to bounce back from set backs and
overcome hardships
 “Human personality is viewed as a self-righting
mechanism that is engaged in active, ongoing
adaptation to the environment.”
-Urie Bronfenbrenner
 Is courageous
 Is motivated to move forward
 Knows him/herself
 Laughs
 Bounces back
 Asks for help
 Accomplishes goals
 Shares feelings
 Connect with others
 Gives back
A Resilient Child…
Risk Factors: Family
 Stressful pregnancy, fetal substance exposure, complications
 Poor attachment, long maternal absences
 Poverty, single parenthood
 Crowded family, close born siblings
 Frequent moves
Eric Vance, MD
Risk Factors: Child
 “Difficult” temperament
 Developmental delays, neurological disorder, mental retardation,
serious medical problem
 Early aggression (<6 y/o)
 Childhood psychiatric d/o
 Early legal problems (<12 y/o)
 School behavior problems or learning disorder
Eric Vance, MD
Risk Factors: Experiential
 Exposure to violence in home or neighborhood
 Child neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse
 Harsh punishment
 Chronic parent-child conflict
 Predominance of negative peers
 Removal from home
Eric Vance, MD
Protective Factors: Child
 First born child
 Easy, adaptable temperament
 Social competence (including peers, school, community)
 Problem-solving skills (including self-control and self-
regulation)
 Autonomy (independent, out-going toddler)
 Sense of purpose and future
 Good sense of humor
 Shows empathy and nurturance
-www.psychology.ccsu.edu
-Eric Vance, MD
Protective Factors: Family
 Secure attachment and warm relationship
 Parental- employment, HS education and social support
 Consistent routines
 Positive discipline with discussion
 Family involvement with organized religion
 Parental attention to child’s activities and friends Eric Vance, MD
Protective Factors: Involvement
 Regular structured activity or hobby
 Job, care-giving or volunteer work
 Youth group
 Adult mentor outside of family
 Close, positive peer support
Eric Vance, MD
Protective Factors: School
 Capable in student
role
 Good problem-solving
 Good reading ability
 Adult mentor in school
 Motivation towards
college
 One or two friends
Eric Vance, MD
Protective Factors: Perception
 Perceived competence at some skill or talent
 Internal locus of control
 Realistic hopes and expectations for the future
 Perception that parent cares
 Faith
 Acceptance and perspective on past problems
Eric Vance, MD
Sense of Purpose and Future
 Healthy expectancies, achievement motivation,
persistence, hope
 Strongest predictor of positive outcome
 Education aspirations better predictor than
academic achievement
www.psychology.ccsu.edu
Route to Resiliency: Predictability
 Routines, rituals
 Positive discipline (consistently warm but clear limits)
 Stable parents
 Involvements (hobbies, community, family)
 What activities does your child feel like they do well?
 Do you model the importance of hobbies?
 Does your child have a routine?
Eric Vance, MD
Route to Resiliency: Competencies
 Social/emotional skills
 Problem-solving skills
 Perceived competency in some area (for example/ music, art,
athletics)
 Does your desire to protect your child communicate to them that you don’t think
they are competent?
 Do you allow your child to fail and teach coping?
 Do you model and allow the expression of a full range of emotions?
Eric Vance, MD
Route to Resilience: Social connection
 Secure attachment and parental warmth
 Peer support
 Mentor support
 Perception of caring
 Connection to groups
 Connection to higher power or greater purpose
 How do you encourage empathy?
 What activities does your family engage in that promotes caring for others?
 What opportunities does your child have to do for others?
Eric Vance, MD
Route to Resilience: Perceived control
 Internal locus of control
 Optimistic thinking (negative events are temporary)
 Plans for future
 Use of faith or prayer
 Do you give your child choices? Allow them to make decisions and handle
consequences?
 Do you give specific and authentic praise?
Eric Vance, MD
The
Resiliency
Wheel
Increase
Prosocial
Bonding
Set Clear,
Consistent
Boundaries
Teach “Life
Skills”
Provide
Caring and
Support
Set and
Communicate
High but
Realistic
Expectations
Provide
Opportunities
for
Meaningful
Participation
International Resilience Project
 To overcome adversities, children draw from three sources of resilience :
 I HAVE…
 I AM…
 I CAN…
Three Sources of Resilience
International Resilience Project
 People around me I trust and who love me, no matter what
 People who set limits for me so I know when to stop before there is danger or
trouble
 People who show me how to do things right by the way they do things
 People who want me to learn to do things on my own
 People who help me when I am sick, in danger or need to learn
I HAVE…
International Resilience Project
 A person people can like and love
 Glad to do nice things for others and show my concern
 Respectful of myself and others
 Willing to be responsible for what I do
I AM…
International Resilience Project
 Talk to others about things that bother or frighten me
 Find ways to solve problems that I face
 Control myself when I feel like doing something not right or dangerous
 Figure out when it is a good time to talk to someone or to take action
 Find someone to help me when I need it
I CAN…
International Resilience Project
6 step problem solving
1. What is the problem?
2. What could I do? (encourage lots of ideas)
3. List what might happen for each idea
4. Pick the best solution
5. Do it!
6. Did it work?
2. Writes a speech and reads it in front of mirror
Coping step plan for
having to do a talk to
the class
1. Read a short story to mother / father
3. Presents speech to mother / father
4. Presents speech to the entire family
5. Presents speech to a friend
6. Presents speech to close group of
friends
7. Presents speech in front of class
Step
Step
For Help…
 Start with Pediatrician
 Contact a Child Therapist for additional help
 On-line resources:
 http://resilienceresearch.org/research/projects/international-resilience
 www.psychology.ccsu.edu
 https://www.healthychildren.org/English/healthy-living/emotional-wellness/Building-
Resilience/Pages/default.aspx
 http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/road-resilience.aspx

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resilience

  • 1. Promoting Emotional Resiliency in Children Lisa Allred, LCSW SAS Work/Life
  • 2. Resiliency  The ability to bounce back from set backs and overcome hardships  “Human personality is viewed as a self-righting mechanism that is engaged in active, ongoing adaptation to the environment.” -Urie Bronfenbrenner
  • 3.  Is courageous  Is motivated to move forward  Knows him/herself  Laughs  Bounces back  Asks for help  Accomplishes goals  Shares feelings  Connect with others  Gives back A Resilient Child…
  • 4. Risk Factors: Family  Stressful pregnancy, fetal substance exposure, complications  Poor attachment, long maternal absences  Poverty, single parenthood  Crowded family, close born siblings  Frequent moves Eric Vance, MD
  • 5. Risk Factors: Child  “Difficult” temperament  Developmental delays, neurological disorder, mental retardation, serious medical problem  Early aggression (<6 y/o)  Childhood psychiatric d/o  Early legal problems (<12 y/o)  School behavior problems or learning disorder Eric Vance, MD
  • 6. Risk Factors: Experiential  Exposure to violence in home or neighborhood  Child neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse  Harsh punishment  Chronic parent-child conflict  Predominance of negative peers  Removal from home Eric Vance, MD
  • 7. Protective Factors: Child  First born child  Easy, adaptable temperament  Social competence (including peers, school, community)  Problem-solving skills (including self-control and self- regulation)  Autonomy (independent, out-going toddler)  Sense of purpose and future  Good sense of humor  Shows empathy and nurturance -www.psychology.ccsu.edu -Eric Vance, MD
  • 8. Protective Factors: Family  Secure attachment and warm relationship  Parental- employment, HS education and social support  Consistent routines  Positive discipline with discussion  Family involvement with organized religion  Parental attention to child’s activities and friends Eric Vance, MD
  • 9. Protective Factors: Involvement  Regular structured activity or hobby  Job, care-giving or volunteer work  Youth group  Adult mentor outside of family  Close, positive peer support Eric Vance, MD
  • 10. Protective Factors: School  Capable in student role  Good problem-solving  Good reading ability  Adult mentor in school  Motivation towards college  One or two friends Eric Vance, MD
  • 11. Protective Factors: Perception  Perceived competence at some skill or talent  Internal locus of control  Realistic hopes and expectations for the future  Perception that parent cares  Faith  Acceptance and perspective on past problems Eric Vance, MD
  • 12. Sense of Purpose and Future  Healthy expectancies, achievement motivation, persistence, hope  Strongest predictor of positive outcome  Education aspirations better predictor than academic achievement www.psychology.ccsu.edu
  • 13. Route to Resiliency: Predictability  Routines, rituals  Positive discipline (consistently warm but clear limits)  Stable parents  Involvements (hobbies, community, family)  What activities does your child feel like they do well?  Do you model the importance of hobbies?  Does your child have a routine? Eric Vance, MD
  • 14. Route to Resiliency: Competencies  Social/emotional skills  Problem-solving skills  Perceived competency in some area (for example/ music, art, athletics)  Does your desire to protect your child communicate to them that you don’t think they are competent?  Do you allow your child to fail and teach coping?  Do you model and allow the expression of a full range of emotions? Eric Vance, MD
  • 15. Route to Resilience: Social connection  Secure attachment and parental warmth  Peer support  Mentor support  Perception of caring  Connection to groups  Connection to higher power or greater purpose  How do you encourage empathy?  What activities does your family engage in that promotes caring for others?  What opportunities does your child have to do for others? Eric Vance, MD
  • 16. Route to Resilience: Perceived control  Internal locus of control  Optimistic thinking (negative events are temporary)  Plans for future  Use of faith or prayer  Do you give your child choices? Allow them to make decisions and handle consequences?  Do you give specific and authentic praise? Eric Vance, MD
  • 17. The Resiliency Wheel Increase Prosocial Bonding Set Clear, Consistent Boundaries Teach “Life Skills” Provide Caring and Support Set and Communicate High but Realistic Expectations Provide Opportunities for Meaningful Participation International Resilience Project
  • 18.  To overcome adversities, children draw from three sources of resilience :  I HAVE…  I AM…  I CAN… Three Sources of Resilience International Resilience Project
  • 19.  People around me I trust and who love me, no matter what  People who set limits for me so I know when to stop before there is danger or trouble  People who show me how to do things right by the way they do things  People who want me to learn to do things on my own  People who help me when I am sick, in danger or need to learn I HAVE… International Resilience Project
  • 20.  A person people can like and love  Glad to do nice things for others and show my concern  Respectful of myself and others  Willing to be responsible for what I do I AM… International Resilience Project
  • 21.  Talk to others about things that bother or frighten me  Find ways to solve problems that I face  Control myself when I feel like doing something not right or dangerous  Figure out when it is a good time to talk to someone or to take action  Find someone to help me when I need it I CAN… International Resilience Project
  • 22. 6 step problem solving 1. What is the problem? 2. What could I do? (encourage lots of ideas) 3. List what might happen for each idea 4. Pick the best solution 5. Do it! 6. Did it work?
  • 23. 2. Writes a speech and reads it in front of mirror Coping step plan for having to do a talk to the class 1. Read a short story to mother / father 3. Presents speech to mother / father 4. Presents speech to the entire family 5. Presents speech to a friend 6. Presents speech to close group of friends 7. Presents speech in front of class Step Step
  • 24. For Help…  Start with Pediatrician  Contact a Child Therapist for additional help  On-line resources:  http://resilienceresearch.org/research/projects/international-resilience  www.psychology.ccsu.edu  https://www.healthychildren.org/English/healthy-living/emotional-wellness/Building- Resilience/Pages/default.aspx  http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/road-resilience.aspx