This document provides tips for getting an ex-girlfriend back. It advises that being impatient will not work and can make the situation worse. It suggests respecting her decision to break up and looking for subtle signs that she may be open to reconnecting, like asking for help or advice, rather than immediately pressuring her to get back together. An effective plan should speak to her emotions and make her want the person more than she might feel embarrassed to reconnect with them after telling others the relationship is over. Hitting her "emotional hot buttons" is described as the way to potentially win her back, though it may not be easy.
2. Being patient when trying to get back together with your
girlfriend is difficult. There's no question about it. You
worry that someone else is going to come along and
scoop her up, if that isn't the case already. You worry
that she's going to forget about you. You worry that
she's going to get used to living her life without you. But
even more, you just worry that the window of
opportunity is closing so you're frantic to find a solution
to your problem and get her back as soon as possible.
3. It's natural to be a little anxious about getting your
girlfriend back. It's natural to get upset, nervous,
suspicious and jealous. It's natural to doubt that she'll
ever give you that second chance but the fact is that
these emotions can cause us to do drastic things that
can kill our chances of winning back the woman that we
love. Our impatient nature can cause us to do stupid
things that actually make matters worse rather than
better.
4. You can never really win an argument with a woman and
even if you win, you've lost. Hounding her and wanting
to discuss what went wrong and how you think the
relationship can be fixed only shows that you don't
respect her decision. When the time comes and she
decides that she wants to get back together, you'll
respect that decision, correct?
5. First, your intincts might tell you that the best way to
end the pain from your breakup is to get your ex back.
While this is very true, you can't count on him arriving at
your door tonight with tears in his eyes while he begs for
forgiveness. If it happens and he shows up at your
doorstep then you can deal with that when the time
comes. Remember that processing these negative
emotions as quickly as possible is your goal.
6. In case you didn't know already, all of these methods
will fail you. No matter how much your frantic mind
might want to convince you that these are the right
things to do, it's lying to you. Your mind will try to tell
you all sorts of things to get you to just act and do the
wrong things. It is filled with fear right now.
7. On the other hand, be on the lookout for requests for
help when she does begin to feel something for you
again. Often a woman won't come right out and say that
she misses you or that she is thinking about you after a
breakup. She might find a lame excuse to call you for
advice or ask for your help with something. Don't allow
yourself to be used, of course, but look for these
openings as a sign that she is beginning to miss you.
8. A real plan to get your girlfriend back should be based
upon female psychology and what a woman needs to
feel in order to overcome the biggest hurdle that
confronts you right now which is the fact that she broke
up with you. She has told all of her friends and family
that she is done with you. That is going to be a big
obstacle to overcome so you're going to have to speak to
her emotions. Her decision is going to have to be an
emotional one. She is going to have to want you more
than she might be embarassed to tell everyone that she
is getting back together with you.
9. It certainly is possible to win her back by hitting her
emotional hot buttons. It's might not be easy for you but
it is rather simple. Like many things in life, it's only when
we really care that things get difficult. If you didn't care
about her and love her then it would be a piece of cake
to win her over. Your heart is involved though. You want
things to work out so it's important that you have a well
laid out plan that is bomb proof and effective.