The document discusses how to properly handle mistakes. It provides examples of poor reactions to mistakes, such as overreacting by repeatedly apologizing or trying to hide the mistake. A better approach is to remain calm, analyze solutions, and address the mistake by clearly communicating what happened, apologizing once, and proposing solutions. The document also advocates for following the "Six A's" to properly apologize: admit, apologize, acknowledge, attest, assure, and abstain from repeating the mistake. The overall message is that mistakes are opportunities for learning rather than judgment, and being open about mistakes can help others improve as well.
7. As quickly as it happened, Amy is out the door and telling anyone she encounters that she
has made a big mistake and needs help. “ I’m so sorry,” she repeats dramatically , over and
over, convinced that her spelling error means the end of the business.
This approach poses several problems.
8. As quickly as it happened, Amy is out the door and telling anyone she encounters that she
has made a big mistake and needs help. “ I’m so sorry,” she repeats dramatically , over and
over, convinced that her spelling error means the end of the business.
This approach poses several problems.
→ To Amy, she’s showing remorse and that she cares, but
→ To everyone else, she’s demonstrating that she’s not able to handle tough situations.
(And frankly, she’s being annoying.)
# TOO HOT
9. Bob realized he made a mistake yesterday - and has yet to react simply because he doesn’t
want to look bad. When someone else finally realizes his mistake, he makes a weak excuse
and brushes the issue aside like it’s no big deal.
10. Bob realized he made a mistake yesterday - and has yet to react simply because he doesn’t
want to look bad. When someone else finally realizes his mistake, he makes a weak excuse
and brushes the issue aside like it’s no big deal.
→ To Bob, he’s mitigating the situation, making sure no one around him panics, and is
protecting his reputation - but
→ To everyone else, he’s insincere and doesn’t care about his job.
# TOO COLD
11. Upon realizing your error, don’t react right away. Instead, take a deep breath and analyze
possible solutions.
・If the mistake is something that you can address, act immediately.
・If your mistake isn’t retractable (or your attempt at retracting would cause more harm than
good), devise a couple solutions to the problem. Decide who the most appropriate person to
talk to would be, and approach that person (and only that person) with a clear, concise
description of what happened. Tell them you’d appreciate their help and understand you’re
utilizing their valuable time. Apologize-once-and then present your solutions.
# JUST RIGHT
13. Great People Practice The SA (Six A’s) of a Proper Apology
・Admit - I made a mistake
・Apologize - I am sorry for making the mistake
・Acknowledge - I recognize where I went wrong that caused my mistake to occur
・Attest - I plan to do the following to fix the mistake on this specific timeline
・Assure - I will put the following protections in place to ensure that I do not make the
same mistake again
・Abstain – Never repeat that same mistake twice
15. FORGIVE
Never judge a person for their mistakes,
judge a person on how they fix them.
16. Next time, won't you tell
us your mistakes ?
Be brave !
We’re willing to listen
GROW FROM
MISTAKE
Editor's Notes
What’s more, she’s ultimately wasting everyone’s time-and thus, company money. Look at it this way: If you’re a consultant, lawyer, or working at an agency, you’re trained to think about your time as billable (doing work that makes money for the firm) versus non-billable. By apologizing and stressing everyone else out versus taking actionable steps to fix the problem, Amy is taking everyone away from that billable work.
Truth be told, Bob’s reaction is common: Our brains are predisposed to protect our egos from blame when we mess up (this article on Art of Manliness does a good job explaining why it is naturally so hard to own up to our mistakes). But by giving into this instinct-and by not taking action on your mistake or reaching out to others who could help you mitigate it -you not only give co-workers the impression that you don’t care, you risk not resolving the situation and making it worse over time.
The less time you spend hemming and hawing and the more quickly you fix the mistake, the more your boss will see you as someone who does well under pressure and cares about the success of the company.
Remember, everyone makes mistakes, and as awful as it feels when it happens, you will recover and your co-workers will move on. In fact, if handled right, a mistake can do more to impress those around you than to tarnish their view of your work.
・Admit - I made a mistake.
- Take time (but not too long) to be upset about it
- Life’s best lessons are learned at unexpected times
Many of the greatest lessons we learn in life we don’t seek on purpose. In fact, life’s best lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. So yes, you will fail sometimes, and that’s okay. The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant.
- Be honest with yourself and others
When you screw up, don’t hide the fact and don’t try to sugar-coat it. Even though it’s often a really difficult thing to do, it’s important that you accept full responsibility for your actions.
The sooner you fess up, the sooner you can get yourself back on track. If you’re making excuses for yourself, you’ll probably just prolong this process.
・Apologize - I am sorry for making the mistake.
- Practice saying “I’m sorry” & say it
Saying these words filled with meaning forces you to move from your comfort zone and look at things from a different side
・Acknowledge - I recognize where I went wrong that caused my mistake to occur.
- Recognise exactly what you did wrong
Are you aware of exactly what went wrong? If you’re confused about something, it’s worth having a chat to someone else who’s involved so that you’re totally sure of what not to do next time.
・Attest - I plan to do the following to fix the mistake on this specific timeline.
- Think about ways you might be able to fix or improve the situation
So, you stuffed up. Now what? If possible, have a think about some of the conversations you could have, or things you could do, to improve the situation. You might find that you can smooth some things over and that it’s not as bad as you initially thought.
・Assure - I will put the following protections in place to ensure that I do not make the same mistake again.
・Abstain – Never repeat that same mistake twice.
- Evaluate what you need to do differently next time to make sure this same mistake doesn’t happen again.