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What are the Behaviors of children that are secure and not secure?
The Behaviors in the Child are associated with their upbringing of
course, this is something that is affiliated through a chain that is taught
through strong upbringing and the Parents making a child feel secure,
It’s not an easy job for any parent and it does take a lot of hours and
hard work but the dedication pays off when you have a child with the
security’s that are supposed to be strong and secure in the areas that
they are supposed to be.
In Chapter 6 Developmental of attachment talks about how a child can
develop in a positive manner with detachment from the parents, the
parents (caregiver) if it’s the grandparent or whoever is raising them
giving the positive encouragement this helps, Now If the parental
guidance is always yelling and putting the child down and telling them
their whole life of course this is what is going to happen there is no
choice, I have found that in my own life being that I have four kids my
oldest was molested by my ex and I had three children from him and
since we involved in church I thought this would heal it all not knowing
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finally did the anger had already built up inside me and the other
children already seen it and now my kids are all grown but all of them
hold a lot of anger when I should have made it all better as the mother
instead of just divorcing him I should have helped us in other kinds of
ways.
That’s the roll of a good Caretaker to take control of the situation and
making it all better and helping the child get through the bad and low
things in their past or terrible things that happened in their childhood
and helping them cope so there not ashamed for the rest of their lives
right?,
You don’t have to feel quilt though you have to move on because there
are grandchildren that come into the picture and it’s time to stay
positive and go to the sport games and proms and weddings and all the
good things to make up to start over again, this builds Self-esteem back
to your own child as they become a parent, see in chapter 11 it talks
about that and they become a good parent and your able to be that good
part of their life and there are a lot of people out there that are not able
to make up for their past but with the Grace of God this is possible.

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In one of the texts there was a reference that mentioned what a child
would get out of the way they were taught, authoritative, authorization
uninvolved, and permissive. I think a child can either benefit from these
or grow from these they can be lessons in their lives, If a person could
get ahold of this at a very young age this might be a Great learning tool
for the reason is this follows them into adulthood, for example if the
person is permissive in their childhood then they settle with everything,
there mate their homes their careers their cars etc. things that could have
been better in their lives but they settle.
If the child is authoritative they grow up normally to be a bully if not
directed in the right way, authoritarian always looking for approval etc.
Things can be changed or made better in our lives if directed in a
positive way, it kind of reminds me of the fictional “spider-man” movie
and the grandparents or aunt and uncle that raised him I always thought
what good parents they were and how positive they were. Permissive is
spoiled and do you really want your child to be throwing cans in the
grocery store when you shop or having a tantrum it just makes you look
bad as a parent, they hit or grab, The Chapter talks about making them

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accountable and I think this might be a tool they are addressing in this
manner.
Also This Chapter Stress’s how The Child acts out in this behavior for
the reason is the insecurities, I’d say Yes a child acts out not knowing
where they belong with that parent does that parent love them?
I think it does all come down to the parent and the skills they carry.
You can tell that this slows a child down when it comes to her or his
physical or mental learning ability, and proper exercise can help them
you can tell.
This is something that is through your mind, could be from a child or
the way you are raised but it is the way you see things it, Its goals is
change patterns of thinking or behavior that are behind people’s
difficulties, and so change the way they feel.
Now let’s keep in mind through studies Cognitive behavioral therapy
(CBT) is a short-term psychotherapy originally used for a number of
mental illnesses it works to solve current problems and change
unhelpful thinking and behavior, most patients dealing with anxiety and
depression, also (CBT) has been demonstrated to be effective for the

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treatment of Varity of conditions, including mood, anxiety, personality,
eating, substance abuse, tic, and psychotic disorders.
Cognitive science has given rise to models of human cognitive bias and
risk perception, and has been influential in the development of
behavioral finance, part of economics. It has also given rise to a new
theory of the philosophy of mathematics, and many theories of artificial
intelligence, persuasion and coercion. It has made its presence known in
the philosophy of language and epistemology it has helped to uncover
the root causes and results of specific dysfunction, such as dyslexia,
anoxia, and hemi spatial neglect.
Reference; internet: cognitive science (journal)
Miller George this is the reason I believe I would be best suited for the
job, I’d understand what a person went through and I’d be
compassionate toward anyone. I see everyday people going to jail for
being homeless or for not being on the right medications, it’s not their
fault I want to help them, I understand this is a hit and miss theory from
my teaching. Everyone has different disorders and dysfunctions and

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they feel as though they don’t belong and it’s up to someone who cares
to help them find their way no matter what.

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they feel as though they don’t belong and it’s up to someone who cares
to help them find their way no matter what.