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Understanding Mental Illness - Sadhguru
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There was a man with four wives. He
loved his fourth wife the most and took
a great care of her and gave her the best.
He also loved his third wife and always
wanted to show her off to his friends.
However, he was always had a fear that
she might runaway with some other man.
He loved his second wife too. Whenever
he faced some problems, he always turned
to his second wife and she would always
help him out.
He did not love his first wife, though she
loved him deeply, was very loyal to him and
took great care of him. One day the man fell
very ill and knew that he is going to die soon.
He told himself, “I have four wives with
me. I will take one of them along with me
when I die to keep company in my death.”
Thus, he asked the fourth wife to die along
withhimandkeepcompany.“Noway!”shere-
plied and walked away without another word.
He asked his third wife. She said “Life is so
goodoverhere.I’mgoingtoremarrywhenyou
die”.
He then asked his second wife. She said “I’m
Sorry. I can’t help you this time around. At the
mostIcanonlyaccompanyyoutillyourgrave.”
By now his heart sank and turned cold.
Then a voice called out: “I’ll leave with you.
I’ll follow you no matter where you go.”
the man looked up and there was his first
wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suf-
fered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved,
the man said, “I should have taken much
better care of you while I could have!”
Actually, we all have four wives in our lives.
a. The fourth wife is our body. No matter
how much time and effort we lavish in mak-
ing it look good, it’ll leave us when we die.
b. The third wife is our possessions, status
and wealth. When we die, they go to others.
c. The second wife is our family and
friends. No matter how close they had
been there for us when we’re alive, the fur-
thest they can stay by us is up to the grave.
d. The first wife is our soul, ne-
glected in our pursuit of material
wealth and pleasure. It is actually the only
thing that follows us wherever we go!
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4. I
f you have witnessed it, you know there is no
other suffering like mental illness because the
human mind has enormous capabilities. If these
capabilities work in your favor, life becomes fantas-
tic. If they work against you, there is no escape be-
cause the stimuli for suffering is not even coming
from outside. If the stimuli for your suffering were
coming from your neighbor, your mother-in-law or
your boss, you could run away. Nobody can cause
suffering to you, mentally. They do things and you
reacttoitinacertainway.Butifyoucometoaplace
where, without anyone doing anything, suffering is
simply happening, it is a psychological condition.
How does one come out of it? It depends on the
level of damage. There are some who can come
out of it, but in some pathological cases, it would
have manifested in a physical form in the brain.
Such conditions have to be supported chemically
from outside. Sedating it is largely what people are
doing, but you cannot just put down one aspect of
yourmindorbrain–thewholesystemgetsaffected.
The line between sanity and insanity is very thin.
Many of you enjoy crossing it. Suppose you burst
out on someone in anger and they got scared and
didwhatyouwanted.Youwillsay,“Youknowwhat?I
got really mad at him and he immediately squirmed
and did what I wanted.” You got mad and you came
back, so you seem to enjoy it. Suppose you got mad
and did not come back, then it is a different matter.
You keep crossing the line with anger, hatred,
jealousy, alcohol or drugs. You are crossing the
line of sanity, enjoying the little bit of mad-
ness that you go through, and coming back.
I want you to know that many of the people
who have lost it were perfectly “normal” peo-
ple like you. Just one day, it is gone. Something
fused out and suddenly they are on the streets.
It is like how the physical body can get ailments.
You could be fine today, but tomorrow morning
your doctor tells you something. These things
happen to people every day. Similar things can
happen to the mind. At least if it happens to your
body, you will get sympathy from everyone around
you. When it happens to your mind, you do not get
sympathy; no one wants to be anywhere around
you because it is very difficult. You do not know
when they are acting up or when it is for real – you
cannot make a judgment. When they are acting up,
you want to get tough on them, when it is real, you
have to be compassionate with them. It is a tight-
rope walk; it is not easy. It is painful for that person
and even more painful for people around them.
We need to build structures in society where the
margin for mental illness is very low. Why I go back
pining for the culture that existed in this land is
because about 200 to 300 years ago, there were
hardly any mentally ill people in this country sim-
ply because of certain structures in the society.
Slowly, without awareness, we are pulling it down.
Today, even in villages, there are psychologically
broken people, which was never so in the past. If
it happened, it was an extremely negligible per-
centage of people. The percentage is increasing.
You can distinctly see that in so-called “affluent”
societies, the percentage is becoming quite high.
This is because a human being is a social animal
unless he transcends certain things. Either we
should work for transcendence or we should
create a society which is supportive, which is
not demanding. Right now, the social structures
that we have created are horribly demanding.
This is happening to urban India, but it has hap-
pened even more so in the West. If you want to live
inAmerica,evenifyoufastforthenext30days,your
bills will still add up to 3,000 dollars. The society is
structured in such a way that it is very demanding
on the individual person – someone cannot take a
break and just sit down. Not everyone may be ca-
pable of continually being on. A whole lot of peo-
ple need to withdraw from certain things. If there
is sufficient sadhana in their life, then you can drive
them 24 hours, 365 days because life is brief and we
don’t want to sit back. But if there is no sadhana, it
is very important that people have space and time.
We have created societies which are a constant
challenge to live in, always in a mode of compe-
tition. There is something called “fight and flight”
response within the human being. Irresponsibly,
people are using the words, “I like the adrena-
line.” You do not understand what adrenaline is.
Adrenaline is an emergency device in the system.
If a tiger comes at you, adrenaline pumps so that
you can escape. But if you simply pump adrena-
line and go walking in New York City, you will
burst. You are not supposed to be in that state
all the time. If you do not die, you will break.
Our education systems are horribly demanding.
Not everyone is geared for it. For someone, it may
be a cakewalk. For somebody else, they may read
one sentence 25 times and not get it, but they may
be capable of doing something else. “No, we don’t
allow them to do something else. They must do
this first.” There are so many horribly cruel struc-
tures – these are not structures for the well-being
of the human being. We are trying to manufacture
cogs for a larger machine we have built. We want
the machine to live; we do not care what hap-
pens to the individual human being. We need to
produce parts for that big machine we have built
which is fake; it may collapse any time. If you are
not made of the material to make a proper part for
that big machine, you will break in so many ways.
A human being needs a certain level of psycholog-
ical, emotional, and physical space, and a certain
atmosphere for him to be nurtured. Those atmo-
spheres are missing right from day one; even an
infant is not getting it anymore. There was a time
when the mother held the infant to her breast and
was not bothered by the time. Now she looks at
her watch, “Why don’t you drink fast? I have to
go!” One week after her delivery, she is back in
the workspace.
I am not saying women should not work. I am
saying human beings should live well. If human
beings have to live well, there are certain inner
realities. A child should grow up without concern
about what will happen to him. But from the first
day of school, he is worried about getting two
marks less than the neighbor’s child. This is all
rubbish. This will destroy human beings and we
think this is performance, well-being and efficien-
cy – no. If you break the human being, what is the
purpose of the rubbish that you have created?
There are some who have come with pathological
situations within themselves which may naturally
occur, but that is a small percentage. We are re-
sponsible for breaking the rest of them. But what
is the way out for the person who is already there?
If they have crossed a certain line, medicine is a
must. Over a period of time, if we work with some
sadhana in parallel, it could work better; the depen-
dence on the chemical medicine could be lowered.
Above all, each individual is not the same in the
body, and even more so in the mind. There is no
particular way; it is difficult. If you want to cre-
ate a healthy atmosphere to take care of such
people, it will take a whole lot of infrastructure
– both material and human infrastructure. Un-
fortunately, I do not think anyone is willing to in-
vest so much material and people towards that.
It will take a lot of expertise, caring, and a cer-
tain level of involvement to bring them out of
that. Even then, you may not totally bring them
out. Within their limitations, you could make
them comfortable so that they are not suffering.
But it needs a lot of dedicated attention to that
and a certain level of expertise and empathy..
Love & Grace,
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