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1. 11 Signs You Are Dating The Right Person
Ever question “is this really the right person for me?” or say to yourself “this isn’t how it is
supposed to go…is it?” these are important questions, and luckily we have got some
answers for you. First of all uncertainty is NORMAL, it is actually part of the dating process,
so breathe easy, you are in the perfectly right place.
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2. In fact, my mentor the legendary Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus author Dr
John Gray described 5 stages of Dating. From Attraction to Uncertainty to Commitment,
Intimacy and all the way to Engagement. So, if you are unsure about increasing* the level
of commitment in your relationship, or have any second thoughts about the ones you are
dating, consider the guidelines below.
These signposts are less about eliminating doubts, and more about noticing what triggers
them and how often they pop up, as well as alerting you to what you require to meet your
relationship needs. These eleven signs both reaffirm you are on the right track and nudge
you back on track when you sense something might be off with your partner.
11. You Are Turned On
There are so many ways to be turned on, enlivened, feeling fully alive and engaged with
life, I just happen to think intimate relationships are the best way to Turn On. What about
this person turns you on mentally and gets you thinking, engages your curiosity? Physically
what about them attracts you, catches your eye and draws you in? Emotionally, what feels
good about being with him/her? Spiritual turn on, is all about connecting on a deeper level.
Sensually arousal can stand on its own, or elements of mental, physical, emotional and
spiritual attraction & connection can feed into your sexual chemistry. Turn On is really
about fully engaging with life, and with the right person there is a heightened experience of
life and all it’s pleasures.
10. Your Greatness Shines Brighter

3. We have all heard the age old “she/he brings out the best in me….makes me want to be a
better person”, however that is only half the story of the right partner. Often times in order
for our greatest gifts to be revealed, there must be an awakening. Wake-up calls are not
always rainbows and butterflies, they might actually be jarring slaps in the face.
Our ideal partner is the best mirror to lovingly show us opportunities for personal growth,
new perspectives and most importantly a greater love & compassion toward ourselves.
Not only does he/she see us for who we really are, they also see us for our potential, our
latent gifts and abilities, and they usher our moving towards our next higher evolution of
ourselves.
9. Space to Grow

4. With the right person for you, you get to honor everything in your life in addition to the
relationship. It means holding the relationship as a top priority and continuing to make
time for the things you love and have been important to you. So often we fall in love and it
starts consuming so much of our time that the passions, hobbies, workouts, and people we
loved spending time with, no longer fit. Especially when these aspects are some of the
reasons we connected in the first place, removing* them can mean losing a sense of
oneself. Honoring yourself in a relationship means creating space for your autonomous life,
your shared passions and of course your relationship as a couple.
8. Your Requests Are Honored
Sometimes asking for what we want can be a challenge, therefore it is important to have a
partner that we can practice asking for what we want and need in the relationship. In order
to feel safe to make a request or express yourself freely, we need to trust that our partner
has our best interest at heart, that they will respect how we feel and what is important to
us (our core values) and that we are also willing to do the same. If we start anticipating
“no’s” from our partner, we often stopping asking and either sell-out on what we need, or
silently start building up resentments. I always say, asking is not required for a happy
relationship, but it definitely expedites getting what you want.
7. Getting Physical
Whether early on the courting process or well into a long-term relationship, physical touch
is vital for creating a bond. In the beginning a simple touch on the hand or shoulder ignites
the electricity long before the first kiss. This has nothing to do with sex, but long before you

5. get in bed you want to know that the chemistry is firing. For many of us physical contact
releases more of the bonding hormone oxytocin, which can both put you at ease and
spark sexual arousal, quite a delicious combination.
6. Don’t Compromise
One of worst myths out there is that relationships take compromise. Yuck! Compromise
means that someone wins and someone loses, and that you take turns in either position.
No thank you. Instead, having a relationship on your terms means that your core values
are always honored, and you are clear about your boundaries (anything you are not ok
with).

6. Relationships are NOT about doing something you don’t want to do, especially when it
violates your core values. When however you want different things, instead of the individual
needs of You versus Me, you go up one level higher to the needs of the relationship and
ask “What will be the best thing for the relationship?” The right partner will work with you to
co-create a solution that serves both of you and the relationship.
5. Mutual Commitments Before Sex
Now that you are turned on and getting physical, you might be thinking about sex. In my
chapter in Love & Coaching co-authored with Dr John Gray I talk about how to navigate
sex and dating. In summary, to mitigate regret, shame, upset or any negative feeling the
morning after, I propose aligning your commitments in advance.

7. If both of you are committed to exploration, fun & adventure than one night of passion may
be perfect. However if one of those parties is interested in true love, deep connection &
long term relationship, than there might be some disappointment if things don’t continue
to develop after said night. To find out someone’s commitments ask what is important to
them, what they value & what they are looking for out of this sexual encounter.
4. Future Alignment
Beyond being on the same page currently, your ideal partner also has a similar view of
what life in the future they want to create. Which is why as soon as possible, major
milestones or potential deal breakers are important to broach before things get serious. It
is much easier to discuss your desires around marriage, kids, and lifestyle before you are in
love and not wanting to lose* someone.
3. 70% Rule
If you are wondering how much uncertainty is “normal” before any real cause for concern, I
give you the 70% rule. In the beginning (before engagement) 70% is the new 100%, at most
you can expect to be 70% sure about someone. Therefore when you think about them, how
you feel around them, the possibility of seeing them again or getting to know them better,
if about 70% of the time it’s a Yes, than go with it.
Know you are going to have doubts. You are going to fast forward into the future and
wonder “are they marriage material?” “is this really how it’s all supposed to go?” and mostly
the answer will be NO. It will mostly likely NOT go how you’ve envisioned it (consciously or
unconsciously), that is to be expected. The circumstances of how it looks, how they look,

8. the details of how you get together will probably come in a different package than you
thought. Embrace it. As long as the core values and your vision for the future align and the
spark is alive, and you think Yes when it comes to them around 70% of the time…it’s Right.
2. Big Fear
Another huge myth is that when the right person comes along, all of your insecurities and
baggage disappear and there will be a clear knowing inside that this is the right person for
you. WRONG.
Yes, once you are committed and have explored a relationship with someone there will be
a clear knowing if they are right to spend your life with, but not early on! In fact, in my
experience, the Right person activates our Fear way more than the wrong ones ever could.

9. We worry about losing them, screwing it up, we worry that we chose wrong and this
couldn’t possibly be the real thing (see #3), because we actually have something to lose*.
With the right person, there will most likely be fear, and it will indicate you are on the right
track!
1. Feeling Good
Number one most important guidepost is feeling really good around them. Feeling happy,
important, valued, a priority, drawn to come back for more as a start. Notice I didn’t say
“You think it makes sense around them”. The feeling is void of logic, reasoning or thought,
you don’t have to explain it, it just is. Follow what feels good and right for you, along with
numbers 1 through 10 and you will have the kind of love that fuels you and your life.
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10. Contributor : Lesley Edwards (Consumer Health Digest)
Dating Expert & Relationship Coach Lesley Edwards is known for helping
single women unleash their inner goddess to find the love of their life.
Coauthor of Love & Coaching with Men are from Mars expert Dr John
Gray, Lesley is passionate about the kind of love that unlocks our
greatest potential. Lesley’s mission is for women to know they are
always supported & guided by wisdom & truth greater than we can
fathom, a conspiracy by the divine & their own feminine inner goddess
to fulfill their deepest desires with ease. Learn more at
www.marsvenuscoachlesley.com.

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