This document provides relationship advice focused on helping partners reconnect by spending quality time together. It suggests making the relationship a priority by greeting each other warmly when one arrives home, going on regular date nights without children, taking occasional weekend getaways as a couple, and having an annual one-week vacation without kids to strengthen the bond between partners. Doing these small acts regularly is presented as a way to save a relationship from potential future problems compared to spending thousands on counseling later.

1. Email 2….
Hi (………),
This week we shall continue on from last week’s email….
You will learn the tools and know what to say and do and see results. Both you and your partner start a
chain reaction.
You don’t need to spend thousands of dollars in therapy. You just need good quality knowledge and
information, that I give in your programs and you apply it. There is no psycho-babble or philosophical
constructs – just good down to earth information which you can use straight away.
With my information, you will have the knowledge to help friends and families in their relationships
because you will become extremely well-educated.
The reason why men fall in love is because of the way he feels about himself when he is with his wife.
Often times men say, when I’m with this woman, I feel like I’m a king. He feels more confident, sexier,
and capable – he feels more like a man. The reason why women fall in love is because of how she feels
about herself when she is with her husband. Many times a woman will say I feel prettier, sexier, more
worthy or important.
This is what an affair is all about – it is when one partner does not feel good about themselves, so they
go searching for someone who fills that need. It is not that they are in love with the other person. They
are in love with how they feel when they are around this new person. So if you want to fight fire with
fire, it is up to you to start making your partner feel good about themselves when they are in your
presence. It is as simple as that. I cannot make it any simpler.
One of the ways you made each other feel good in the beginning is by spending time together. You went
out on dates, spoke on the phone, stayed up all night and were dead the next day at work yet had such a
wonderful time with each other. You joked, laughed, kissed, touched, listened, and shared. You did it all.
Now let’s compare a few years later.
You have children. Wake up in the morning. Make and have breakfast. Get ready to go to work. Take the
kids to school. Go to work which you hate. Finish work to start cooking at home, take the children to
soccer, karate etc. Have dinner. Help the kids with their homework. And by the end of it, you are
absolutely exhausted. One of you wants to make love and your partner is thinking – are you joking, I am
exhausted. And this happens for 335 days of the year. Then you go on holidays with the children. They

2. argue between each other. You argue with your partner. By the end of it, you need a holiday to get over
the holiday.
Go back to your early days together and do what you did then. Spend time together, alone. Talk, touch,
go out, share, and make each other feel good about each other.
With this alone, you can save thousands of dollars and months in counselling or therapy.
Here are some helpful ideas for you to use:
• Lack of time is one of the biggest excuses people make as to why they are not in a loving relationship. I
use the word excuse because if it were important enough to you, one would find the time, and make it a
priority.
To get over the time factor excuse, as soon as your partner walks through the door upon arriving home,
and before the dog or kids get to them, you are to give them a 10 second kiss, and 20 second hug. The
dog and kids can do it after you. This sets off endorphins for good feelings to arise as well as it sets the
tone for the remainder of the evening. It creates a connection.
If you come home and find your partner on the phone, going through the mail or doing anything other
than greeting you, physically, I can bet you will be arguing 20 minutes later, and not even know why. I
can tell you why. It is because you ignored them and didn’t connect. Remember in the last weeks email
about why people fall in love? It is about making another human being feel good about themselves. So
you have to put them and your relationship first.
• The best thing you can give yourself is a loving relationship with your partner. It is absolutely
exhausting being in a terrible relationship.
• The healthiest children come from a home where mum and dad love each other. They are more
socially comfortable, mentally and emotionally healthy, flexible and adaptable.
• Date night – once a week alone. No children or friends. Can be over a coffee if finances are tight. As
long as minimum time constraints so you can enjoy each others company and connect.
• Every 3 months – go away for a weekend, again alone with no children or friends. Stay overnight at a
hotel. Some couples call it a mini-moon. I heard of a couple with 10 children so to save costs, they sent
the kids to a hotel, who loved it because it had a pool, spa and gym, while the couple made love in every
room in the house.
• Once a year – go on a one week long vacation, and once more, without the kids. It takes 2-3 days to re-
connect with your partner. This doesn’t happen if you have your children with you. If that means one
week you two together and the second week with the parents, that is fine. Just ensure you have a
minimum of one week alone time with your partner. I heard of a story of a woman who went on a
cruise, and she overheard a mother yelling in the background to her children, “there is no McDonalds in
the middle of the Caribbean.” Use this time to become lovers again and re-connect. By the third day,
you’ll forget you even have children.
If you do not do these things, you’re looking for trouble in your relationship at some time in the future.

3. Obviously it is your choice and please consider this – either you pay now, or you pay later. You either
pay $150 for a hotel stay or you’ll spend thousands of dollars in solicitors costs. You either buy flowers
for your wife (if that is what she wants) or pay the price of having a cold, disinterested and disconnected
wife. The time to do things is…Now.
“Blessed are the married ones who strive first of all to make their partners happy rather than good” –
Glen Clark
We now communicate now on a deeper level. We understand each other's feelings. There is a closeness
I never thought possible - Marrianne B.