Aimed Towards School Aged
By: Lana Mazurek
CHILDREN AND DIVORCE
Divorce can be a challenging life change for
children. A child can often feel a wide variety of
emotions. It is important for children to have an
understanding of what they are going through
and have the support of their parents and loved
FEELINGS YOU MAY BE EXPERIENCING
QUESTIONS YOU MAY HAVE FOR YOUR PARENTS
IS IT MY FAULT?
WHERE WILL I LIVE?
WILL I STILL SEE MY GRANDMA AND GRANDPA?
WHY IS MOMMY SO SAD?
DO MOMMY AND DADDY STILL LOVE ME?
WHY DID THIS HAPPEN?
WHAT DOES DIVORCE MEAN?
HOW YOUR HOME LIFE COULD
-Your mom and dad will live in different homes.
-You might spend more time with one of your
-Your parents might be sad for awhile.
-You may live in a different community or go to a
-You may have special belongings at both your
mom’s home and your dad’s.
ACTIVITIES FOR CHILDREN DEALING WITH
Communicating from a distance
Creating two comfortable homes
Retrieved from. http://extension.missouri.edu/p/GH6602
WHAT I NEED FROM MY MOM AND DAD: A CHILD’S
LIST OF WANTS
I need both of you to stay involved in my life. Please write letters,
make phone calls, and ask me lots of questions. When you don’t stay
involved, I feel like I’m not important and that you don’t really love
Please stop fighting and work hard to get along with each other. Try
to agree on matters related to me. When you fight about me, I think
that I did something wrong and I feel guilty.
I want to love you both and enjoy the time that I spend with each of
you. Please support me and the time that I spend with each of you. If
you act jealous or upset, I feel like I need to take sides and love one
parent more than the other.
Please communicate directly with my other parent so that I don’t
have to send messages back and forth.
When talking about my other parent, please say only nice things, or
don’t say anything at all. When you say mean, unkind things about
my other parent, I feel like you are expecting me to take your side.
Please remember that I want both of you to be a part of my life. I
count on my mom and dad to raise me, to teach me what is
important, and to help me when I have problems.
Source: University of Missouri
HELP AND ADVICE FOR CHILDREN IN
You must remember these things:
-Your mom and dad still LOVE YOU.
-They will ALWAYS LOVE YOU, no matter where you all live.
-They are not splitting up because of anything you have done.
-You may feel sad or upset but you will feel better.
-Always talk to your mom or dad or another adult you can trust in
Retrieved from. http://www.divorceaid.co.uk/child/children.htm
RESOURCES FOR CHILDREN DEALING