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Safe Conversations & Academic Advising
1. “Utilizing Safe
Conversations® as a
Relational Tool to Improve
Academic Advising”
Pre-conference Workshop
March 8, 2019
Facilitator, Dr. Curtis Hill
7. relationships first
• Developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix & Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt
• Education program
• Provide some tools to create, nurture and sustain a
healthy relationship
• Not therapy (see me if you are in crisis)
8.
9. • Video demonstrations
• Group discussions
• Writing exercises (Assessments)
• Practice exercises (Modeling or Role Playing)
12. Learn To Do Three Things:
I. Learn One Concept
Promoting NACADA’s Framework for Academic Advising
Core Competencies
II. Learn One Skill
Safe Conversations
III. Make One Decision
Take the Zero Negativity Pledge
13. • It’s a Skill
• It Promotes Connecting…
• It’s foundational for effectively
conveying the other two components
to the advisee or student
14. Underpinning the core competencies for academic advising and serving as the
foundational elements for effective advisor training programs and advising practice
are three content categories – the conceptual, informational, and relational. An
understanding of these three major areas provides advisors the knowledge and
skills to be effective guides for their students.
1. The Conceptual component provides the context for the delivery of academic
advising. It covers the ideas and theories that advisors must understand to
effectively advise students.
2. The Informational component provides the substance of academic advising. It
covers the knowledge advisors must gain to be able to guide students at their
institution.
3. The Relational component provides the skills that enable academic advisors to
convey the concepts and information from the other two components for
advising students.
15. • Articulate a personal philosophy of academic advising.
• Create rapport and build academic advising relationships.
• Communicate in an inclusive and respectful manner.
• Plan and conduct successful advising interactions.
• Promote student understanding of the logic and purpose of the
curriculum.
• Facilitate problem solving, decision-making, meaning-making,
planning, and goal setting.
NACADA: The Global Community for Academic Advising. (2017). NACADA academic advising core
competencies model. Retrieved from https://www.nacada.ksu.edu/Resources/Pillars/CoreCompetencies.aspx
16. Learn the skill of…
Safe Conversations
The core skills that drives Safe Conversations (SC) dialogue is mirroring,
validating, and empathizing. In the learning stage it’s a guided process,
but as elements of the process become familiar they can be comfortably
integrated as a tool used in dialogue for academic advising. Safe
Conversation dialogue is a dyadic process where respectful speaking and
listening replaces negativity with mutual respect and cohesiveness. The
negativity commonly manifested in the form of shaming, blaming,
criticizing, or showing contempt is minimized if not eliminated in
conversation (Hendrix and Hunt, 2017).
21. BECAUSE IT CAN TRANSFORM RELATIONSHIPS!
ALL relationships
can benefit by
using these tools!
And these skills
can help
advisors with
students too!
22. I Am Talking
To You!!!
I Am Not Listening
Just Pretending!!
Monologue
Creates Inequality
Creates Anxiety
23. I Am Talking I Am Listening
Dialogue
Creates Equality
Creates Connecting
24. A Safe Conversation is a…
structured process;
that helps people talk without criticism;
listen without judgment;
avoid polarization; and
connect beyond their differences.
27. 1. Advisor conflicts with co-workers and students
2. Negative attitude (Advisor or Advisee)
3. Unclear expectations and stability in the workplace
4. Differences in values and expectations of advisor
and/or advisee
34. If your student experiences it
– even if it wasn’t your intention –
it is negative!
35.
36. We understand that “negativity” is any transaction that ruptures our
connecting – whether intentional or accidental.
We pledge to make our relationship a Zone of Zero Negativity for the
duration of the workshop. To that end we pledge to avoid any transactions
that could be experienced as a “put-down,” thus rupturing our connection.
If we have a frustration, we will change it into a request and ask for what
we want without criticism.
If we experience a rupture, we will send a gentle signal (ooh, ouch, wow!)
to communicate that we have experienced a “put-down,” and then begin
repairing the rupture by re-sending the message or re-doing the action.
We pledge to gift one other an appreciation each today, no matter what!
Signatures: ________________________________________________
37. The person who feels put down says a gentle signal (ooh, ouch, wow!).
It’s TIME TO REPAIR!
There are various options to help the repair process:
1. Ask for a RE-DO. Take time out, start over, and re-do the transaction.
2. Model for your student how s/he might RE-SEND the message so it
doesn’t produce a “put down.”
3. Offer a RE-CONNECTing behavior, a single behavior like an apology,
token of appreciation, or a hug.
4. Have a Safe Conversation about the feelings that came up.
5. Create your own repair process!
38. REMEMBER:
The key to a healthy relationship
is how quickly you can repair a rupture due to a
“put down” or negative comment!
39.
40. The
Foundational
Tools
MIRRORING
• “Let me see if I’ve got it. You
said…”
• “Did I get that?”
• “Is there more about that?”
VALIDATION
• “That makes sense
to me.”
EMPATHY
• “I imagine you might be
feeling…”
44. • Ask for an appointment
• Take a moment to relax
45.
46. RECEIVER (OR ADVISOR)
Says: “Let me see if I got that.”
Mirrors: “You said…” Accuracy
Check: “Did I get it?”
Asks: “ Is there More”
Mirrors the “More” & Checks for
accuracy
Summarizes:
“Let me see if I got that.”
SENDER (OR STUDENT)
Sends Message
Responds “Yes” or “No”
Sends more if there is
“More”
Answers “Yes” or “No”
47. Tell your student: “I am on overload.
Let me see if I can mirror
what you’ve said so far.”
Raise your hand
57. • Little focus on the brain (H2 & Me)
• 1990s – New Discoveries
• Neuro-plasticity – You can change your brain
• The brain is experience dependent
• It takes practice
79. 1. Honoring Boundaries – Implementation: “Is now a good time to
talk about…”
2. Creating a Safe Space – Implementation: “I am wonderful” You are
wonderful.” We are wonderful.”
3. Making non-verbal contact before and while speaking –
Implementation: “Make eye contact and take a deep breath before
speaking.”
4. Accurate Mirroring – Implementation: “If I got that, you said…”
5. Speaker Responsibility Using “I” Language – Implementation: “I
think…” “I feel…” “I want…”
6. Show Appreciation – Implementation: “One thing I appreciate
about you is…”
80. 8. Show Curiosity – Implementation: Ask “Is there more about that?”
And keep the focus on current topic, and not some other topic.
9. Validate the other person point of view – Implementation: “You
make sense, and what makes sense is, that given…(your
experience), you feel or think…”
10.Expressing Empathy – Implementation: “I can imagine, with that
you might have felt or be feeling...” “Is that your feeling?” “Do you
have other feelings?”
11.Acknowledging Care – Implementation: “I felt/feel cared about
when you (said/did)…”
12.Make Request – Implementation: “Instead of saying you are late
(whatever frustrated you). Say, I would like you to… (describe a
83. RECEIVER (COLLEAGUE)
GRANTS APPOINTMENT
MAKES EYE CONTACT
Says: “Let me see if I got it. You
said.… Did I get that?”
“Is there more about that?”
Mirrors feelings and memory.
“Did I get that? …Is there more
about that?”
Summarizes: “Let me see if I got
ALL that. In summary, you are
saying…. Did I get it all?”
SENDER (COLLEAGUE)
ASKS FOR AN APPOINTMENT
MAKES EYE CONTACT
One thing I appreciate about you
is…
Responds “Yes” or “No”
“When you do that, I feel…..”
“And it reminds me that when I
was little, I…”
Answers “Yes” or “No”