2. WHO ARE THEY?
At times ladies and gentlemen go into relationships long or
short term without getting to know the person first. Trust is
the first step to a great relationship. The next biggest step is
communication. Knowing them first is important. What type
of person are they and are they willing to change aspects of
their lives that don’t make you feel comfortable in the
relationship. It is crucial that you do not try to change them
all together as a person. You are there to be with who they
are, but work together to meet each other’s needs short and
long term.
3. WHY DO YOU WANT TO CONTINUE?
• Before continuing any further with your
relationship you have to ask yourself why are
you moving forward? Are you only in the
relationship because you are lonely? Are you
being pressured to be with someone by
family? Or if you are simply just having fun but
not taking it serious that is okay too as long as
you talk to your partner. Allowing one
character trait of the person such as them
being really fun might be overwhelming great
and lead you to think the relationship will last
forever solely based on that trait.
4. THE NEXT STEP
• After finding out who the person is and why you’re with them, it is vital to know
how they make you feel. In a relationship you don’t want to be the Debbie
downer when you’re with your significant other. Do they lift your spirits when
you’re together? Do they encourage you to do the things you love? Do they help
you accomplish goals? Ultimately you want to feel as though they make you want
to be a better person.
6. FAMILY
How do they treat their family? If they are
rude and spiteful they will most likely be the
same to you as well. They are very
comfortable with their family and once they
comfortable with you it will be the same
result once the honeymoon fades. This also
goes for how they treat strangers and if they
tip well. Good karma is a boomerang waiting
to return. You don’t want someone who
attracts bad energy into your life.
7. CONFLICT
How do you guys resolve conflict? When arguing no one should always find the
easy way out and want to quit the relationship. A conflict should be a conversation
and yes emotions and a lot of hand gesture will arise but ultimately will you be able
to compromise.
8. GOALS
If you guys are in the relationship
long or short term. What is the
outcome of everything? Would
you like to have kids? Do you not
want kids? Dogs? Cats? In how
long would you like to buy a
house? Would you like to travel
together? Compatibility is great,
but what you want out of life
sometimes can be a deal breaker
and breaks up even the strongest
relationships.
9. FINANCES
All couples handle their finances differently. I
have heard of couples splitting everything in
half. Or they will choose certain things to pay
for to make up for their half. There are couples
who have a certain amount of their check to be
deposited in a joint checking account but also
keep separate accounts. As long as you are able
to talk about it as adults and come up with a
plan without one person feeling like they are
taking on too much.
10. HAPPY
What is life with all these plans and formula to love if you aren’t happy! Why choose
a career, a lifestyle, a partner if you aren’t happy? None of it matters. Humans are
emotional, but we all strive for happiness and fullness out of life.
