2. • I am so fond of interracial relationships. From my point of view, love
has no color- supposing it has, it will embrace and tolerant all the color
of the rainbow. But life will not always go in such a simple way. It is
such a huge challenge for them to simply date a different race. I have
had great interracial relationships. They enlarged my life experience to
some extent. But troubles still exist. We find that life can be hard when
we have to face the differences of our culture background, our view of
ethnicity, and every tiny thing about the interracial relationship. Most
of these annoying things come from others’ prejudice of interracial
love.
3. • If you have had an interracial relationship or are in an interracial
relationship now, you must know how it feels like when you two need
to deal with the stress from your family, your neighbor, even your best
friends. Opposition and partial opinion can somehow kill true love
though you think that you have made enough preparation to these
obstacles. The way you and your lover choose to solve these problems
can decide whether your love will be alive in this complex society.
Here are 4 tips for interracial relationship:
4. 1. Talk with Opposingand Contemptuous
Family Members Right Now
• Opposing and contemptuous family members are
obstacles in any kind of relationship. But these
“troublemakers”can be even more hard to deal
with in interracial relationships. If your family
members show their dissatisfaction and prejudice
of interracial relationship, then you need to have a
talk with them right now. It’s very necessary for
you to sit down with your family members and tell
them that how much you cherish this relationship.
Remember, be polite, patient and resolutely.
Because you have to let everybody have the
awareness that you won’t bear any kind of
discrimination of your love and all the interracial
relationship.
5. • If it’s your lover’s family that’s expressing disagreement and
showing negative behavior, then it is his duty to communicate with
them. He should be the handler of his own love. While communicating
with family members about your interracial relationship, the last thing
you can do is be ignorant. Because this response will let your family
members think that they are correct to poke their nose into your love.
The first thing you need to do is tell them about your feeling of this
interracial relationship and stand up for your lover immediately.
6. 2. Do Not Pay Too Much Attention to
Others’ Words
• It’s 21st century now, not 1950’s
anymore. However, race discrimination
and prejudice of black people still exist.
Some people even don not have to say
that they disagree with your interracial
love because you can know it from all the
expression of their face and all the gesture
of their body. Their looks and gestures are
tough enough to say that they think your
relationship is wrongful and it will not be
blessed. So what can you do with these
trouble-makers who stare at you and your
lover just like you two are committing an
unforgivable sin?
7. • You can not use the same method to solve it like talking this with your
family. You can totally ignore them if they are not menacing or
overawing you. You can even laugh at them! In most of the time, life
means learning to be dauntless and courageous. So if you ever faced
with problems that people unrelated are using non-verbal violence to
you and your interracial lover, think of this sentence by Dr. Seuss-
“Be who you are and say what you feel because of those who mind
don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
8. 3. Acquaint and Congratulate Your
Differences on Culture and Ethnicity
• In the matter of ethnicity, this society
has been very tolerant now.
Sometimes people are stimulated to
have the consciousness of “ There
is nothing different between black
and white because we are all human.”
in mind for getting rid of
uncomfortable feelings in important
conversations about culture and
ethnicity. We can not deny that
we’re all human but actually
everyone is not the same.
9. • We’re all different individual in an interracial relationship (interracial
kids are the same) and we do not need to force ourselves to ignore our
culture or ethnicity difference. The way people acquire knowledge,
learn new things and react to irritant are totally different when they
grow up in a different cultural background. But this is not an obstacle.
Thus, you should not disregard your differences if you plan to start an
interracial love. Get to know it, esteem it, learn to form it and celebrate
it is the right thing to do in an interracial relationship.
10. 4. Reverently Talking Sensitive Themes
Like Culture and Ethnicity
• You are not supposed to come up
with some extreme points of racially-
charged or culturally-sensitive if you
have been in an interracial
relationship for a long time. And also,
the last thing you and your
interracial lover should do is
focusing on winning a debate but
forget your love relationship while
both of you two like discussing
ethnicity and culture differences
between black and white.
11. • What’s more, you should always be aware of the depth you
discussing in spite of any ethnic or cultural points you are trying to
make. That is because any debate of race or ethnicity can be so heated
that you may even take the risk of losing your interracial lover. So,
you should always take care of your lovers’feeling.