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FFMV - November 2012 newsletter

  1. 1. FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF MURDER VICTIMS, Inc. (FFMV) Need Someone to Talk To? * Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking Newsletter November 2012 (909) 200-5499 (after 3pm) *Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after Thank-you: 4pm) *Carol Anderson – Website *Maxine Russell – (818) 378-2072 *Kaiser – Oakland Parent/Grief Counselor *Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta *St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland *Dawn Hall - Parent(951) 757-4419 *Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church *Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317) Grand Terrace Emergency Consult for Suicidal or Homicidal Portola Community Center- Palm Desert Participants *San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Victim Services/Victim Advocates *Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-490-7864 *Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim * Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133 Services/Victim Advocates *Family of Kris Flores *Janet Garcia& Barbara Christian facebook administrators Families & Friends of Murder Victims: * Ellie Rossi A non-profit organization*Anonymous Donor for sponsoring newsletter for Dedicated to providing information, support, and November 2012 friendship to persons who have experienced the death of a loved one through the violent act of murder Share Sorrow….. Share Strength Remembrance Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to Prayer Service for those provide a pathway to well-being to those who have lost a loved one to murder and to those who Lost Due to Murder are victims of attempted murder. Love Gifts Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted in newsletter. They are also made by caring professionals, organizations to help in the work that FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help with the expenses incurred in reaching out to othersWhen: Wednesday, November 7, 2012 and operating expenses. When making out a check, please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on 7:00pm—9:00pm check or envelope. Love Gifts can be mailed to Where: Diocesan Pastoral Center FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222 1201 East Highland Avenue San Bernardino, CA 92404 Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on Refreshments will follow the service. Thank-you Those who attend are encouraged to Janet Garcia bring a photo of their loved one. Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94 Barbara Christian Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell– Please RSVP to Sandra Garcia by 4/10/63 – 1/8/81 November 1, 2012 909-475-5476 or sgarcia@sbdiocese.org
  2. 2. Riverside Chapter West End Chapter -Bi-lingual ndMeets on the 3rd Wednesday of every Meets every 2 Thursday of every month at 7:00pm-8:30pm month at 7pm St. Anthony’s Catholic ChurchAvaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Conference Room Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA 2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786 Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 Participants have the option of the For directions ask for PJ at- English & Spanish Meeting 951-696-1600 x2177 – Local Grupo Bilingue M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch) Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés o en Español Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a las 7:00 p.m. Contact persons/ Personas de contacto: Colton Chapter Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 rittaatffmv@aol.com Next Meeting November 8, 2012 st 1 Tuesday of every monthChrist The Redeemer Catholic Church Grief Support Group Robinson Hall – Room 6 ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings. 12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you 92313 are suffering the loss of a loved one and in Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm need to talk to someone, we are here to Contact person for directions or listen and share emotions. information Rose – 909-754-6969 Together and with the help of the Lord, we mail4ffmv@yahoo.com can help each other heal. Meetings are held every 2nd Wednesday of Next Meeting – November 6, 2012 the month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8 St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. Coachella Valley Chapter San Bernardino (909)887-3810 New Address Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163 We will continue meeting every Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387 3rd Wednesday of each month (FFMV Participants) 6:00pm – 8:00pm Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744 Portola Community Center Room 2 45-480 Portola Ave (parking on Shadow Mountain) Palm Desert, CA 92260 760-568-2560- Call for directions Birthdays, anniversaries & Rose – 909-754-6969 mail4ffmv@yahoo.com holidays -times that used to Candy- 619-200-0547 mean joy and celebration - can Candyclb@aol.comNO MEETING in NOVEMBER we will now be among the toughestresume December 19, 2012 for a special now. Holiday Meeting Observe them with care and Oakland Chapter simple ceremony to ease the Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at pain. Broadway, 12th floor Room 1200 East Contact Helene (510) 452-2553
  3. 3. FFMV FundraisersResources and Additional Support Services Office Depot - Staples – Office Max If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207, (909) 387-6540 Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803 Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241* for all three. We get reward points that help Victorville/Desert area: (760) 552-6994* defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of office supplies. Victim Witness Centers: Riverside: (951) 955-5450 PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old inkMurrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130 cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or * Indio: (760) 863-8408 take them to Office Max, Staples or Office *Los Angeles County District Attorneys Victim Depot and give them 909-798-4803 Witness Assistance Program offices: It’s an easy way to help Pomona: 909) 620-3381 FFMV purchase office supplies. *Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts. 323-816-9651 www.laurala.org* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Websitewww.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice Sunny days seem to hurt the most *Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348 www.wagv.org Wear my pain like a heavy coat *www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web See you everywhere I go site See your smile* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss – 818-378-2072– RussellBliss21@aol.com See your face * Crime Victims United of California – 916-928- 4797 www.crimevictimsunited.com or Hear your laughing in the rain mail@crimevictimsunited.com * North American Victim Assistance (NOVA) Still can’t believe youre gone www.trynova.org It isn’t fair you died to young * Victims of Crime Resources Center (800) Like a story that had just begun VICTIMS * POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org But death tore the pages all away* Greater Orange County POMC – Marie – 714-999- God knows how I miss you 7132 – 562-508-2397 And the hell that Ive been through * Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944 * Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367 Just knowing no one can take your * The Crime Victims Assistance Network (iCAN) place Foundation (916) 273-3603 * Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470 MOVE@cox.net Excerpt from "who youd be today" * Resource for the Grieving and Kenny Chesney Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com * Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895 www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings held in Orange County * Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com * MADD – (909) 888-6233 www.maddsanbernardino.org Give yourself time to grieve. It may *JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457- take several years just to accept the 0030 -jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com finality of a loss, that someone is* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities -S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com gone forever, and even more to oneunikadvocate2@aol.com work through your emotions * www.psychic4themissing.com *Homicide Survivors Inc.
  4. 4. November 2012 Birthdays Alfonso Lopez ** Ashley Nicole Randles Amber Martnez ** Anthony Prudhomme Anthony Turner Jr. ** Aubrey Maloy Balam Alcaraz Vega ** Charles Shaw Christina Duran ** Christhopher Heyman Damon L. Jones Sr. ** David Leon II Derek Wiltz II ** Doctor Fernandez Dwayne Durston III ** Eileen Ponce Frankie Salas ** Herbert Souther Jerry Sehrs ** Jonathan Olagues Jose Tamez III ** Jose Funtes Juan Macias ** Juanita Martinez Katie Brennar ** Lindel Fields Marcus Ringo ** Maria SanchezMaria DeLos Angeles Maggallon ** Mark Adam Rodriguez Michael Villegas Jr. ** Michele Lynette Baily Michiel A. Hyder-Blamey Raymond Cole ** Richard Albidrez Roy Hall ** Sebastian Orioli Salvador Olivas Jr. ** Teresa Soto Del Rio Timothy Gaines ** Tommy Matthews Jr.
  5. 5. November 2012 Memories Alexander Ray Esparza Amber Martinez Andrian Rivas Anthony Prudhomme Brandon Michael Selph Bryan O’Meara Christina Duran David Garcia Evan Todd Kinard Greg W. Gibson II Gilbert Rivera Jennifer LeAnne Balber Jerry Ramirez Jr. Jose Esparza Joshua Rexford Lisel Wiedeman Mark Mireles Maraslee Ann Nicholas Mary Estes Michele Jeanette Carson Roberto Nanito De La VegasSr. Roberto “Bobby” Ruiz Sonia Herrera Terry L. Stutson Thomas Charles Pagent Jr. Yanize Lizette MoraWe Will Always Remember You
  6. 6. This page is dedicated to Michele Jeanette Carson 12/22/84 – 11/7/10November 7, 2010 a day that changed the lives of our family forever. I can’t believe it is going to be 2years since we lost our daughter Michele. Michele was so loved and we all miss her so much.She was taken from us at such a young age by a senseless murder. Michele was a loving young womanwith compassion for her family, friends and strangers. She had a tender heart and true empathy for thosewho were troubled or less fortunate than herself. She loved children and children just gravitated to her.Her whole life she hungered for knowledge, and just knew she wanted to give back. She was a collegegraduate and was about to continue her education working towards her Master’s degree. Her goal was towork with children to help lead them in a path to stay out of trouble as they grew older. We all know in ourhearts that Michele would have made a wonderful mom.Michele was murdered by someone she cared about very much, and by someone she believed caredabout her. She was strangled and her body had been set on fire in the Las Vegas desert. The utter shockand emotional despair our family has endured is truly indescribable and beyond any words. Our beautifulgirl was only 25 years old. Her murderer was her ex-boyfriend who is currently in jail awaiting trial in LasVegas. Reality is that this can happen to anyone. We pray that justice will be served someday.Now, we do all that we can to honor our daughter. Our family will do our best to reach out to as manypeople as possible and to raise awareness about domestic violence and victim’s rights. Although difficult,we will continue to share our tragedy of how much it has affected our lives. We do not want to see otherfamilies have to feel what we are going through. This has become a personal priority and we will reachout, support and speak out against domestic violence whenever possible. No matter how small thegesture we have to try and make this world a little better place to live.We love you Michele, you will always be in our hearts. We will meet again in heaven someday.With Love,The Carson Family
  7. 7. LOVE GIFTS In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of Yanzie Lizette Mora Terry L. Stutson Joshua Rexford 3/28/94 – 11/2/10 4/4/58 – 11/84 10/8/76 – 11/27/94In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11 Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi) --------------------------------------------------------------Love Gift-----------------------------------------------------------------Donation $_______________Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________Email address: __________________________________________________________Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______________
  8. 8. CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County DistrictAttorneys Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Childrens Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violentdeath in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to CampCedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designedto help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. Thiscamp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims ProgramTeen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previouslyparticipated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be acombination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good GriefPeer Counselors.Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapistsand interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and DistrictAttorneys Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp.The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Childrens Hospital have pledged to continuefundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting futureCamp Good Grief-SVP programs.Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073 COLD CASES FYII attended JHV Memorial in April, guest Speaker Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News andsenior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures andinformation regarding unsolved homicide cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I knowpersonally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICEIf your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frankwill get it published in the newspaper.You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. Thepaper also has the project listed on Facebook …This is a response Frank gave me when I e-mailed him about this project:Hi Rose, If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interestedcan contact me and I promise to get them set up.Sincerely,Frank Girardot911 E. Colorado BlvdPasadena, CA 91106626-578-6300 ext.4478frank.girardot@sgvn.comHere is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one: Your full name, address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder, Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?, Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was murdered I encourage you to submit your story if you still have an unsolved case!
  9. 9. Come and Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. to their Annual Christmas Candlelight/Memorial Luncheon All FFMV chapter members, their family, children, friends and supporters of FFMV are invited to attend When: Sunday December 9, 2012 Time: 2pm - 5pm Where: The Diocese of San Bernardino Pastoral Center 1201 E. Highland Ave., San Bernardino, CA. 92404-4641 (909) 475-5300 **HONOR YOUR LOVED ONE AT OUR CHRISTMAS LUNCHEON**You can give special honor to your loved one by making a monetary donation towards the main course, annual gift raffle, table centerpieces or ornaments to be hung by each family in Memory of your Loved One. Your Loved One’s name will be acknowledged in the program. (We are seeking a sponsor(s) for this event) If you would like to be a sponsor contact: Rose 909-798-4803 mail4ffmv@yahoo.com FFMV will be accepting gifts/toys for our Annual Raffle November 1, 2012 thru December 5, 2012, please contact Rose @ 909-798-4803 or email mail4ffmv@yahoo.com to make arrangements for drop-off or we can pick up gifts. ~ Our Goal is to have all children receive a special gift at Annual Raffle ~
  10. 10. Christmas Memorial RSVP by November 30, 2012 ~We ask that you please bring a salad or side dish and dessert to share ~ ~ Bring your Loved Ones picture to display on our Memorial Table ~ ~ Each family will receive an ornament in Memory of their Loved One ~ ~ Our Loved Ones Slide Show Presentation (send your picture) ~ FFMV will provide the main course, & beverage, and one ornament for each family *We are in need of additional donations. If you are interested in donating a gift/toy for our annual raffle, or if you know of a business that would like to help sponsor this memorial please call and leave a message at (909)798-4803 or e-mail mail4ffmv@yahoo.com with your interest or questions. *We will be taking reservations for individual tables if you have 8 or more in your party attending. This will be on a first come basis only, please mention your interest when you RSVP.Directions to the Diocese:From I-210 East; exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then go left on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the rightFrom I-10 E, to I-215 N towards San Bernardino, merge onto I-210-E, HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then goleft on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the rightFrom 91 E , 91E becomes I-215 N , merge onto CA I-210 E / HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then left onHighland Ave. Diocese is on the right,From Beaumont take I-10 W, merge onto I-210-Pasadena/CA-30 W toward HIGHLAND, continue going west on I- 210, exit Del Rosa Ave, and go left,then right on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the left Diocese is on Highland Ave & Golden Ave (signal)----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------( ) Yes I will be attending ( ) Yes I would like to request an individual family table for a family of _____________I would like ________ additional ornaments at $1ea - Enclosed is $_____________ for ___________ additional ornaments( ) Enclosed is my loved ones picture ( ) I will e-mail my loved ones picture ( ) Use my loved ones picture that youhave on filePLEASE PRINT: Your loved ones DOB_________________________ DOD _______________________Loved Ones First Name________________________ Last Name____________________________________Your Name: _________________________________________________________________Your Contact phone # with area code ( ) _____________________email____________________________# of adults________ # of children ________ # Boys______ Ages_______________________________# of Girls_______ Ages________________________________________________________________ I will bring (circle one) Salad Side Dish Mail or e-mail this completed form no later than November 30, 2012 to: FFMV ~ P.O. Box 11222 ~ San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222 ~ mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
  11. 11. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber 12/02/73 – 11/10/94 A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader, Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CANovember 10, 1994, my life forever changed….it will be 18yrs that my Jen wastaken…. I continue my journey of healing …still trying to understand why thishappened…. in this journey I have encountered a new circle of friends thatunderstand me… I cherish their friendship and support. I thank my family for theircontinued love and support!ThoughtfullyRose My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands… But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, MomFFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims ofattempted murder. Our main purpose is grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance providedto victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the policies ofFFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to 909-798-4803. FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the InternalRevenue Service.Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operationalexpenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ RightsWeek Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the abovee-mail or phone if you are interested.Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions Are Tax Deductible
  12. 12. 2013 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non VictimPlease PrintDate________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________Victim’s First Name_________________________________________Victim’s Last Name_________________________________________Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list toreceive monthly newsletter and event informationI grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to usephotograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use andpublish the same in print and/or electronically.I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and forany lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration,advertising, and Web content.I have read and understand the above.Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________Signature _________________________________________________________Print Full Name _____________________________________________________Address___________________________________________________________City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________Phone with area code ______________________________________E-mail ____________________________________________________________ Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: mail4ffmv@yahoo.com FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222 I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file I have included a $_________ donation for 2012 Thank-you… if you have already sent your 2013 donation
  13. 13. Please help with this legislation, to either sponsor or co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.Write to your congressperson and Senators Barbara Boxer and Dianne FeinsteinCongresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen as the Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee and CongressmanHoward Berman as the Ranking Member.Chief of Staff Margaret Mott (mail wont be stalled thru radiation there as it is inDC)14546 Hamlin St. # 202 Van Nuys, California 91401 Phone (818) 994-7200 Fax: (818) 994-1050Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee2206 Rayburn House Office Building Washington, DC 20515-0918 to either sponsor orCo-sponsor this urgently needed bill.Thanks, Maxine B. Russell - Mother of Darren - russellbliss21@aol.comOn the web: www.russellcase.net (UPDATED)On Twitter: @killed_in_chinaIn U.S. Federal Court: Case No. CV-09-06050