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  • Relationships

    1. 1. RelationshipsCreate a duet portraying your relationship with your existing or hypothetical lover.
    2. 2. Which love/relationship type are you?
    3. 3. TextLee JA (1973). Colours of love: an exploration of the ways of loving. New York: New Press.
    4. 4. ErosEros: marital love, passionate love, with sensualdesire and longing. The Modern Greek word"erotas" means "Intimate Love". The termerotic is derived from eros.
    5. 5. Akin to limerence, eros is literally the love of Beauty. It is ahighly sensual style of love. Erotic lovers choose their loversby intuition or "chemistry." They are more likely to say theyfell in love at first sight than those of other love styles.Erotic lovers view marriage as an extended honeymoon, andsex as the ultimate aesthetic experience. They tend to addresstheir lovers with pet names, such as "sweetheart" or "honey".An erotic lover can be perceived as a hopeless romantic.Those of other love styles may see erotic lovers asunrealistic, or trapped in a fantasy.The advantage of erotic love is the sentimentality of it. It isvery relaxing to the person doing it. The disadvantage is theinevitableness of the decay in attraction, and the danger ofliving in a fantasy world. In its extreme, eros can resemblenaïveté.
    6. 6. Identify all words from this definition whichcould describe a movement, a movementquality, a movement dynamic etc.
    7. 7. Akin to limerence, eros is literally the love of Beauty. It is ahighly sensual style of love. Erotic lovers choose their loversby intuition or "chemistry." They are more likely to say theyfell in love at first sight than those of other love styles.Erotic lovers view marriage as an extended honeymoon, andsex as the ultimate aesthetic experience. They tend to addresstheir lovers with pet names, such as "sweetheart" or "honey".An erotic lover can be perceived as a hopeless romantic.Those of other love styles may see erotic lovers asunrealistic, or trapped in a fantasy.The advantage of erotic love is the sentimentality of it. It isvery relaxing to the person doing it. The disadvantage is theinevitableness of the decay in attraction, and the danger ofliving in a fantasy world. In its extreme, eros can resemblenaïveté.
    8. 8. AgapeAgape is one of several Greek words translated into English as love, one which became particularly appropriated in Christian theology as the loveof God or Christ for mankind. Many have thought that this word represents divine, unconditional, self-sacrificing, active, volitional, and thoughtfullove.AgapeAgape is one of several Greek wordstranslated into English as love, one whichbecame particularly appropriated in Christiantheology as the love of God or Christ formankind. Many have thought that this wordrepresents divine, unconditional, self-sacrificing, active, volitional, and thoughtfullove.
    9. 9. Agapic love is self-sacrificing, all-encompassing love. Agapiclovers are often spiritual or religious people. Agapic loversview their partners as blessings, and wish to take care ofthem.Agapic lovers will remain faithful to their partners to avoidcausing them pain, and will often wait patiently for theirpartners after a break-up. Marriage and children are sacredtrusts, and sex is a gift between two people. Agapic lovebelieves itself to be unconditional, though lovers taking anagapic stance to relationships risk suffering from inattention totheir own needs.The advantage of agapic love is its generosity. A disadvantageis that it can induce feelings of guilt or incompetence in apartner. In its deviant form, agape becomes martyrdom.
    10. 10. Identify all words from this definition whichcould describe a movement, a movementquality, a movement dynamic etc.
    11. 11. Agapic love is self-sacrificing, all-encompassing love. Agapiclovers are often spiritual or religious people. Agapic loversview their partners as blessings, and wish to take care ofthem.Agapic lovers will remain faithful to their partners to avoidcausing them pain, and will often wait patiently for theirpartners after a break-up. Marriage and children are sacredtrusts, and sex is a gift between two people. Agapic lovebelieves itself to be unconditional, though lovers taking anagapic stance to relationships risk suffering from inattention totheir own needs.The advantage of agapic love is its generosity. A disadvantageis that it can induce feelings of guilt or incompetence in apartner. In its deviant form, agape becomes martyrdom.
    12. 12. LudusLudic derives from Latin ludus, "play," and is anadjective meaning "playful."
    13. 13. Ludic lovers are players. More interested in quantity thanquality of relationships, ludic lovers want to have as much funas possible. Ludic lovers choose their partners by playing thefield, and quickly recover from break-ups.Ludic lovers tend to view marriage as a trap, and are the mostlikely of the love styles to commit infidelity. They might viewchildren as a sign of fertility of the parent or of the masculinityof the father. They regard sex as a conquest or a sport, andthey engage in relationships because they see them as achallenge.The disadvantage of this love style is the likelihood ofinfidelity. In its extreme form, ludic love becomes promiscuity.
    14. 14. Identify all words from this definition whichcould describe a movement, a movementquality, a movement dynamic etc.
    15. 15. Ludic lovers are players. More interested in quantity thanquality of relationships, ludic lovers want to have as much funas possible. Ludic lovers choose their partners by playing thefield, and quickly recover from break-ups.Ludic lovers tend to view marriage as a trap, and are the mostlikely of the love styles to commit infidelity. They might viewchildren as a sign of fertility of the parent or of the masculinityof the father. They regard sex as a conquest or a sport, andthey engage in relationships because they see them as achallenge.The disadvantage of this love style is the likelihood ofinfidelity. In its extreme form, ludic love becomes promiscuity.
    16. 16. ManiaT h e wo r d d e r i ve s f ro m t h e G re e k"μανία" (mania), "madness, frenzy" and thatfrom the verb "μαίνομαι" (mainomai), "to bemad, to rage, to be furious".
    17. 17. Mania lovers are characterized as having extreme highs andextreme lows. The manic lover loves intensely, and at the timeworries intensely about the loss of the love. For this, the maniclover may experience fear that prevents them from enjoyingrelationships. With little reason, they may also experienceextreme jealously. Manic love is obsessive; the manic lover has topossess the beloved completely. In return, the manic loverwishes to be possessed, to be loved intensely. They tend to feelthat their poor self esteem will only improve with intense love.Their sense of self-worth comes from being loved, rather thanfrom inner satisfaction. Because love is so important, dangersigns in a relationship are often ignored; the manic lover believesthat if there is love, then nothing else matters.
    18. 18. Identify all words from this definition whichcould describe a movement, a movementquality, a movement dynamic etc.
    19. 19. Mania lovers are characterized as having extreme highs andextreme lows. The manic lover loves intensely, and at the timeworries intensely about the loss of the love. For this, the maniclover may experience fear that prevents them from enjoyingrelationships. With little reason, they may also experienceextreme jealously. Manic love is obsessive; the manic lover has topossess the beloved completely. In return, the manic loverwishes to be possessed, to be loved intensely. They tend to feelthat their poor self esteem will only improve with intense love.Their sense of self-worth comes from being loved, rather thanfrom inner satisfaction. Because love is so important, dangersigns in a relationship are often ignored; the manic lover believesthat if there is love, then nothing else matters.
    20. 20. PragmaPragma refers to the Greek word identified tobe the root of the word pragmatism.
    21. 21. Pragmatic lovers think rationally and realistically about theirexpectations in a partner, and select them via comparisonshopping or shopping-list love. Pragmatic lovers want to findvalue in their partners, and ultimately want to work with theirpartner to reach a common goal.Pragmatic lovers will avoid infidelity to avoid adverseconsequences, and carefully weigh the costs and rewards of arelationship. Pragmatic lovers view sex as a reward or a means ofprocreation, and view marriage and children as potentialliabilities and assets.The advantage of pragmatic love is practicality and realism. Thedisadvantage is un-demonstrativeness and lack of emotion.Pragmatic love should not be considered as negative type of loveattitude. In collectivist culture where arranged marriage ispractised, pragmatic love is very common at the time of mateselection (Chaudhuri, 2004). One must be culturally sensitive tohave an understanding regarding pragmatic love.
    22. 22. Identify all words from this definition whichcould describe a movement, a movementquality, a movement dynamic etc.
    23. 23. Pragmatic lovers think rationally and realistically about theirexpectations in a partner, and select them via comparisonshopping or shopping-list love. Pragmatic lovers want to findvalue in their partners, and ultimately want to work with theirpartner to reach a common goal.Pragmatic lovers will avoid infidelity to avoid adverseconsequences, and carefully weigh the costs and rewards of arelationship. Pragmatic lovers view sex as a reward or a means ofprocreation, and view marriage and children as potentialliabilities and assets.The advantage of pragmatic love is practicality and realism. Thedisadvantage is un-demonstrativeness and lack of emotion.Pragmatic love should not be considered as negative type of loveattitude. In collectivist culture where arranged marriage ispractised, pragmatic love is very common at the time of mateselection (Chaudhuri, 2004). One must be culturally sensitive tohave an understanding regarding pragmatic love.
    24. 24. StorgeStorge: familial love, the Greek word fornatural affection - such as the love of a parenttoward a child, "cherishing ones kindred,especially parents or children". In socialpsychology, storge is the form of love betweenfriends.
    25. 25. Storge: Peace and SlownessStorge love lacks passion and intensity, Storgic lovers set out notto find a love, but to find a compatiable relationship withsomeone they already know and share common interests. Storgelove is gradual prossess of unfolding feelings and emotions. Attimes the storge love can move so slowly it is hard to definewhere relationship stands. Sex in storge love comes late, andwhen it does it usually assumes no great importance.
    26. 26. Identify all words from this definition whichcould describe a movement, a movementquality, a movement dynamic etc.
    27. 27. Storge: Peace and SlownessStorge love lacks passion and intensity, Storgic lovers set out notto find a love, but to find a compatiable relationship withsomeone they already know and share common interests. Storgelove is a gradual process of unfolding feelings and emotions. Attimes the storge love can move so slowly it is hard to definewhere relationship stands. Sex in storge love comes late, andwhen it does it usually assumes no great importance.
    28. 28. Task: Create a duet por traying yourrelationship with your existing or hypotheticallover.
    29. 29. 1. Complete the “love type” test and find out which typeyou are.2. Find a partner of your “love type”.3. Identify all words from your “love type” definitionwhich could describe a movement, a movement quality, amovement dynamic etc.
    30. 30. 3. Use these words to generate dance material for a1min duet.You are not allowed to share your “love type”with anyone else apart from your dance partner!4. Complete your choreography during your Monday/Thursday session. You may consider using any of thefollowing: music, costume, lights, props etc.5. Present your duet during the next session.If your audience can guess your love type from yourperformance you will have completed this task successfully!
    31. 31. Next week: Find a dance duet on youtube thatyou like and share it during next week’ssession.

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