Tired of feeling like you're out of step with everyone else in the world and that if only THEY would change, YOU would be happy? Happiness comes from within. It's a state of mind. Change yourself, change your world! Learn more in this quick presentation.

1. CHANGE YOURSELF,
CHANGE YOUR
WORLD
Better Relationships
Made Easy

2. INTRODUCTION
 We all long for a better life and easier
relationships.
 What if we could gain these with just a
few small changes in our lives?
 Instead of trying to re-direct the river,
you can learn how to go with the flow.
 Define your best self and travel towards
it.
 It will be a challenge, but easier than
trying to change the entire world.
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3. 1: RELATIONSHIPS START WITH
YOU
 If you find yourself often wishing that the
people around you could be different in
some way, you will have a lot of work cut
out for you to mold and manipulate them
into exactly the person you are insisting
they should be.
 If you are thinking, “Why should I change?
Why should I make the first move?” you
might damage the relationship beyond
repair.
 Your relationships start with YOU.
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4. 2: WINNING FRIENDS AND
INFLUENCING PEOPLE
 There are a huge number of self-help guides on
relationships. You don’t need to spend ages
studying all of these how-to manuals if you just
take some time to evaluate where you are in your
life at the present.
 What do you really want?
 Examples might include:
 I wish I had a better relationship with my kids.
 I wish I was more valued at work.
 I wish my partner and I were closer.
 Once you identify the problem, then you can come
up with the right strategies to achieve your goals.
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5. 3: CHANGING CLOSE
RELATIONSHIPS
 Most people try to change their loved one by
nagging and complaining.
 But if YOU make any change you are hoping for all
about them and the benefits they will gain, it will
be much easier to bring about the result you wish.
Make the change about THEM, not you.
 For example, if you partner smokes cigarettes,
complaining about the smell, etc won’t work.
 Instead, leave brochures all over the house about
the fabulous vacations you could enjoy if you just
had a bit more money. Tally of how much they
spend smoking every month. Then they have a
choice-vacation, or unhealthy habit that means
their cash is literally going up in smoke.
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6. 4: BEING YOUR TRUE SELF
 In order to maintain happy relationships, you need to
be your true self, not who others wish you to be.
 This can be difficult if you have been taught to be or
have fallen into the role of ‘People Pleaser’ (PP).
 Most PPs end up making everyone else happy but
themselves.
 PP have few boundaries and do not know how to say
no.
 They get imposed upon and exhausted.
 They run on an empty gas tank with few of their
needs ever being met.
 It’s time to break the cycle so you can drive forward
on your journey towards the life of your dreams.
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7. 5: CHANGING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
WITH YOUR FAMILY
 Ever feel like a human doormat? Here’s an
even more painful question: Are you
inviting people to walk all over you?
 Most people would say, Of course not!
Don’t be ridiculous!” In fact, it might be
exactly what you are doing without even
realizing it.
 Family relationships are most difficult
because they are the longest-standing and
almost inescapable.
 But if the dynamic isn’t healthy, it’s time
to change it for the better.
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8. 6: POSITIVE CHANGES AT WORK
 Most of us like to feel appreciated in our jobs
and proud of our careers.
 But sometimes we hit a wall, or a glass
ceiling.
 Then it seems as if nothing we do can change
the situation except suffer in silence, or go to
another company.
 The new job might seem like the best option,
but it can also be a great deal more work. You
will need to prove yourself all over again.
 You will also need to navigate successfully
through a whole new set of relationships.
 Perhaps some simple changes on your part can
transform the situation for the better?
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9. 7: HOW TO DEAL WITH PEOPLE
WHO SABOTAGE YOU
 It is great to want to improve yourself
in order to improve your relationships.
 But you might discover that you meet
with unexpected resistance from the
important people in your life.
 What should you do if you discover
someone you care about is sabotaging
you and putting obstacles in the way of
you working towards a better self?
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10. 8: HOW TO PUT THE SPARK BACK
IN YOUR ROMANTIC
RELATIONSHIP
 Whenever we hear the word relationship,
we immediately think romance, such as
boyfriend, girlfriend, partner or spouse.
There are of course many different kinds
of relationships, but for many of us,
romantic ones are at the top of the list.
 However, all relationship change over
time, for a number of reasons. How you
handle that change can make all the
difference between sizzle and fizzle.
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11. 9: IMPROVING YOUR
RELATIONSHIPS ONLINE AND
OFFLINE
 We ALL do it. We are so busy and pressured to get
everything done that we dash off an email without
reading it through, checking the spelling, and so
on.
 Or we make a comment or what we think is a joke
in email or on one of the social networks, only to
find at the end of our plane flight that our boss
has fired us.
 Fortunately, a little bit of foresight and common
sense can help smooth over some of the major
trouble spots in online and offline communication.
 You will be amazed at how a few simple changes
can lead to big results.
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12. 10: CHANGE YOURSELF,
CHANGE YOUR WORLD
 Sometimes small changes can lead to
big results.
 Change your mind, change your world
 Re-frame your ‘difficult’ mother or boss
into someone who deserves compassion
because they are obviously so unhappy
 Also know you have choices-you don’t
need to be stuck in unhappy situations
when a bit of effort can change things
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13. CONCLUSION
 Most of us try to get the world to
change according to what suits us best
 If we all try to do that at the same
time, there are bound to be winners
and losers
 If we try to change others, we will get
pushy and be resented, and the
relationship can end
 On the other hand, if we change
ourselves, we can change our life for
the better!
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