2. Six Types of Love
From Lee (1976)
My Favorite Classic Romance
3. The Theory of Love Types
x 1. We have all of these 6 “love types” in
our relationships
x 2. What separates us is the degrees of
each (each person is different) 6
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x 3. Degrees can change with time 5
– In 10 years, #6 is largest / #4 is smallest
x 4. Every relationship we have may
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differ:
– In your first relationship, you are insecure 4
& passionate 3
» (Because s/he was non-committal &
sexual)
My Chart
– In your next, you are calm & relaxed
» (Because s/he was nurturing and
warm)
– Key: Others make us who we are in
relationships
4. 1) Eros Love
x Highly passionate, sexual, &
intense
x Often Believe in:
– Love as Magical
– Love as fate
– Love at first sight
x Very “American”
x Movie: Titanic / Romeo and Juliet /
Ghosts / Sweet Home Alabama / Natural
Born Killers / Princess Bride / Sleepless
in Seattle / Snow White, Sleeping Beauty
& Cinderella
– Hollywood loves eros love!
5. 2) Ludus Love
x The “Players” love
x Will often:
– Keep their passions in check
– Avoid trouble and intensity
– Feel uncomfortable about commitment
– Keep secrets
– Have affairs
x Remember, we all have a little ludus in us
x When a relationship gets too intense (or is
no longer fun), they leave
x Movie: Great Expectations / St. Elmo’s
Fire / Cruel Intentions / Dangerous
Liaisons
– Hollywood’s Formula: Ludus plays with Eros--
Eros is crushed
