As parents, we often do not remember to behave in a way that lines up with what we preach to our children. This presentation (notes included) discusses how to build trust and respect with our children.
This document discusses the importance of being there for others, showing respect, admitting when you're wrong, asking for forgiveness, expressing gratitude, and offering help. The core messages are that truly caring for others through our words and actions can strengthen relationships and bring emotional and spiritual renewal.
The document discusses the power of simple yet meaningful 3-word phrases to strengthen interpersonal relationships. It outlines several phrases like "I'll be there", "I miss you", "I respect you", "Please forgive me", "Count on me", "Let me help", and "I love you" and how saying these to friends and family can affirm them, build trust, heal arguments, and deepen emotional bonds. Regularly expressing care, understanding, loyalty and gratitude through these short statements can enrich all relationships.
This document discusses the importance of being there for others, showing respect, admitting when you're wrong, asking for forgiveness, expressing gratitude, and offering help. The core messages are that truly caring for others through our words and actions can strengthen relationships and bring emotional and spiritual renewal.
Being there for others in times of need is one of the greatest gifts we can give. When we are truly present for people, important things happen - we strengthen our relationships through love and friendship, and are renewed emotionally and spiritually. Respecting others as equals also shows love and strengthens bonds. Admitting we may be wrong by saying "maybe you're right" can help diffuse arguments and restore emotions, opening the door to further discussion. Asking for forgiveness when we make mistakes can help heal broken relationships. Expressing gratitude and offering help show care and strengthen close relationships.
This document defines mean girls as girls who bully others using aggression, manipulation, deception, exclusion, and rumor spreading. It notes that mean girls target those they are jealous of or who stand out, and thrive on drama and cyberbullying. It provides advice on how to deal with mean girls, such as talking to trusted individuals, developing friendships for support, maintaining confidence, and being kind even to the mean girls themselves. The overall message is empowering oneself, surrounding with support, and rising above bullying with positivity.
1) Manners are unenforced standards of conduct that show politeness and refinement, like saying please, thank you, and addressing others respectfully.
2) The essay discusses going "back to basics" and encourages eating dinner together as a family without distractions, saying grace before meals, and allowing children to play outside safely.
3) It concludes by advocating returning to basic courtesies and family routines in order to improve the current state of the world.
The document discusses issues with modern relationships and love. It notes that people seem less serious about relationships nowadays, often jumping from one partner to the next without fully committing or taking the time to truly get to know each other. It also touches on people valuing their independence and personal space too much, not being willing to open up or rely on their partners. The document expresses frustration with societal pressures and changing attitudes around gender roles and expectations in relationships.
This document discusses the importance of being there for others, showing respect, admitting when you're wrong, asking for forgiveness, expressing gratitude, and offering help. The core messages are that truly caring for others through our words and actions can strengthen relationships and bring emotional and spiritual renewal.
The document discusses the power of simple yet meaningful 3-word phrases to strengthen interpersonal relationships. It outlines several phrases like "I'll be there", "I miss you", "I respect you", "Please forgive me", "Count on me", "Let me help", and "I love you" and how saying these to friends and family can affirm them, build trust, heal arguments, and deepen emotional bonds. Regularly expressing care, understanding, loyalty and gratitude through these short statements can enrich all relationships.
This document discusses the importance of being there for others, showing respect, admitting when you're wrong, asking for forgiveness, expressing gratitude, and offering help. The core messages are that truly caring for others through our words and actions can strengthen relationships and bring emotional and spiritual renewal.
Being there for others in times of need is one of the greatest gifts we can give. When we are truly present for people, important things happen - we strengthen our relationships through love and friendship, and are renewed emotionally and spiritually. Respecting others as equals also shows love and strengthens bonds. Admitting we may be wrong by saying "maybe you're right" can help diffuse arguments and restore emotions, opening the door to further discussion. Asking for forgiveness when we make mistakes can help heal broken relationships. Expressing gratitude and offering help show care and strengthen close relationships.
This document defines mean girls as girls who bully others using aggression, manipulation, deception, exclusion, and rumor spreading. It notes that mean girls target those they are jealous of or who stand out, and thrive on drama and cyberbullying. It provides advice on how to deal with mean girls, such as talking to trusted individuals, developing friendships for support, maintaining confidence, and being kind even to the mean girls themselves. The overall message is empowering oneself, surrounding with support, and rising above bullying with positivity.
1) Manners are unenforced standards of conduct that show politeness and refinement, like saying please, thank you, and addressing others respectfully.
2) The essay discusses going "back to basics" and encourages eating dinner together as a family without distractions, saying grace before meals, and allowing children to play outside safely.
3) It concludes by advocating returning to basic courtesies and family routines in order to improve the current state of the world.
The document discusses issues with modern relationships and love. It notes that people seem less serious about relationships nowadays, often jumping from one partner to the next without fully committing or taking the time to truly get to know each other. It also touches on people valuing their independence and personal space too much, not being willing to open up or rely on their partners. The document expresses frustration with societal pressures and changing attitudes around gender roles and expectations in relationships.
The document is a request from a daughter to her mother asking permission to attend a One Direction concert and purchase their CD. She provides several reasons why it would make her happy, including that music and merchandise bring her joy. She claims attending the concert and listening to the CD will improve her mood, brain function, grades, and relationship with her mother. Diagrams are included to show how allowing this would lead to positive outcomes. The daughter promises to do chores or dress up if permitted and closes by expressing her love for her mother.
This document discusses relationship banking, which is a metaphor for how relationships are strengthened or weakened based on positive or negative interactions. It explains that relationships require continuous "deposits" such as acts of service, kindness, loyalty and respect in order to stay strong. "Withdrawals" like breaking promises, gossip, or lack of attention gradually weaken the relationship over time if not addressed. Maintaining strong relationships requires consciously making deposits through both words and actions.
The document is an open letter from a mother to her daughter about the mother-daughter relationship. It discusses how the relationship changes as daughters grow up, from fully trusting their mothers as children to sometimes clashing as teenagers. The mother acknowledges how difficult the teen years can be as daughters become independent and want more privacy, while mothers still want to protect them. She promises to always support and listen to her daughter, even during disagreements. The mother emphasizes showing respect, talking often, having fun together, and compromising to maintain a strong lifelong bond.
The song describes a relationship between an older man and a 17-year old girl. In the first verse, he tries to convince her to sleep with him despite knowing their relationship is wrong. Over time, the casual relationship becomes more serious as they start living together, causing him to realize she is too young for him. Throughout the song, he repeats the refrain "they're just girls" to remind himself not to get too attached, as she is still a teenager, while their growing involvement leads to arguments as he tells her they cannot continue and she should be with someone her own age.
The father has an important conversation with his son about how to view and treat women. He tells his son that it is not a woman's responsibility if a man looks at her wrongly based on what she is wearing, but that it is the man's responsibility to see her as a human being. The father explains that objectifying or reducing someone to just their body or clothes removes their humanity. He encourages his son to see women as whole individuals and respect them, and to change how he interacts with women by truly seeing and being with them without fear or judgment.
This document discusses overcoming fears of never finding love again after a breakup. It encourages taking time to heal from the past relationship before rushing into something new. It advises keeping an open mind to different types of partners, communicating openly with potential partners, and putting yourself out there by striking up conversations to find love. The document also profiles a woman named Joan who focused on herself for 10 years and is now ready to pursue love again.
A man in China sued his ex-wife for being ugly after learning she had spent $100,000 on plastic surgery without telling him. The judge awarded the ex-husband $120,000. While looks may matter more in Chinese culture, where women are seen as trophies for men, love should be based on more than just physical attraction. Having plastic surgery does not make the ex-wife a hypocrite for valuing beauty, as looking good is now common due to the influence of plastic surgery.
Michelle Sanford taught classroom guidance lessons at Philip Simmons Elementary in Spring 2017 covering topics like self-control, kindness, perseverance, and family changes. Some of the lessons and activities included discussing the books Interrupting Chicken and The Marshmallow Test, a kindness challenge and storyboards, lessons on perseverance featuring Michael Jordan and famous failures, and group counseling games and discussions about different family structures and feelings related to family changes. Sanford also provided individual counseling using activities such as a volcano triggers activity and a calm down sandwich technique.
1. The document discusses the narrator's childhood friendship with Lucas from when they were 5 years old in school.
2. They became best friends because they were often punished together for talking in class when they should have been quiet.
3. They enjoyed playing the same games during breaks and exploring to find small insects they called "Mariquitas".
Talking about topics like gender, race, sexual orientation, and class can raise anxiety for many people, and yet we must have the conversation in our schools and our lives in order to be more inclusive and change the world for the better. What are the fears and common pitfalls that keep us from broaching courageous conversations? Gain practical skills for responding to hurtful experiences and facilitating courageous conversations.
The document discusses the power of simple three-word phrases to strengthen interpersonal relationships. It provides examples like "I'll be there", "I miss you", "I respect you", "Maybe you're right", "Please forgive me", "I thank you", "Count on me", "Let me help", "I understand you", and "I love you" and how saying these phrases with sincerity can forge new friendships, deepen old ones, and restore relationships. It encourages the reader to use these powerful three-word statements to enrich their relationships.
This document provides 10 tips for having a happy marriage. The tips include never assuming things about your spouse, complimenting them more than criticizing, remembering that there are multiple ways to do tasks, making time for just the two of you weekly, marrying someone you enjoy talking to, accepting that marriage has ups and downs, showing your children love for your spouse, being fair in splitting responsibilities and money, and not going to bed angry unless exhausted. The overall message is that communication, appreciation, understanding different perspectives, quality time together, and handling conflicts in a constructive manner can help create a successful marriage.
A boy and girl meet and fall in love, but the girl has to return to Texas while he remains behind. Despite the long distance separation, through honest communication and respect for each other, they are able to maintain their relationship. After four months apart, the girl expresses how happy and in love she is with the boy, who gives her something to smile about each day.
The document discusses how politeness can sometimes backfire and potentially offend people, even when unintended. It provides examples of commonly used polite terms like "ma'am", "sir", "guys", and "ladies" that could offend depending on the person and context. The document recommends avoiding potentially loaded terms and simply saying "thanks" as a safe default that is unlikely to cause offense.
GlobalHue: Show Love - Cyberbullying CampaignGlobalHue
This document proposes a campaign to encourage teenagers to stop cyberbullying and instead spread positivity online. The campaign would include print ads of teen testimonials about showing love, a contest for schools to share positive messages on Facebook, using Formspring as a positive forum, having celebrities endorse the message on social media, designating a "Show Some Love Day" for sharing positive posts, and a TV ad depicting mean girls warming to a peer. The overall message is that words can significantly impact others, so teenagers should spread love instead of hate online.
1) The document is a love quiz that provides definitions and explanations of common relationship terms.
2) It defines terms like "hen party" and "stag party" which refer to pre-wedding celebrations, and "fiancé/fiancée" which refer to partners that are engaged to be married.
3) The quiz also clarifies the meanings of phrases like "absence makes the heart grow fonder" which means loving someone more when apart, versus terms like "fling" which refers to a very short relationship.
Learning to respond appropriately social story educ 505DeNardes Shafter
This document provides examples of appropriate and inappropriate ways to respond in social situations through a series of scenarios. It emphasizes the importance of greeting others kindly, showing interest in friends by asking questions, and resolving conflicts respectfully. The document suggests compromising when things don't go as planned and helping others calmly rather than reacting negatively. The overall message is that learning to respond appropriately takes practice but leads to less conflict and a more pleasant life.
1) The document discusses the importance of the relationship between mothers and children, describing it as the most integral and unparalleled of all relationships.
2) It notes that Mother's Day is celebrated worldwide as an opportunity for children to express gratitude and appreciation for all that mothers do without expecting anything in return.
3) The author shares their personal experience of being orphaned and adopted into a family that only valued them for potential wealth or property, and ultimately rejected the author when those expectations were not met. The author no longer feels love or gratitude for their adopted mother.
This document provides tips for effective communication between teens and parents. It advises finding a relaxed time to talk, focusing fully on the conversation without distractions, being honest but also listening without interrupting, and discussing both serious topics and everyday things to build understanding. Effective communication requires maturity, respect, honesty and staying calm even during disagreements. Building a daily habit of small talk can strengthen relationships for more meaningful future discussions.
Name___________________________________________
Inappropriate Methods That Deter Cooperation
Method Example
Blaming and
accusing
“Look at the dirty footprints you put on my clean kitchen floor. You never
consider how hard I work.”
Name-calling “You are the sloppiest person, just look at your room!”
Threats “If you don’t start doing your share around here, I’m going to cut your
allowance.”
Commands “Take the garbage out this minute, and no back talk, young man.”
Lecturing and
moralizing
“Now, do you think that was a nice thing to say about your friend? You
should learn to treat your friends the way you want to be treated.”
Warnings “Don’t step off the sidewalk. You’ll get hit by a car.”
Martyrdom “Why are you doing this to me, hard as I work?”
Comparisons “Why can’t you try as hard in school as your sister does?”
Sarcasm “You knew you had to get up early, but you were so smart and stayed up
until midnight.”
Prophecy “If you continue in the same manner, you’ll never amount to anything.”
Skills for Engaging Cooperation
Skill Example
Describe what you
see or the problem
“Your dirty clothes are on the floor in your room.”
Give information “The battery in the flashlight will last longer when you turn it off after each
use.”
Say it with a word. (when milk is left out of the refrigerator) “Susie, the milk.”
Talk about your
feelings
“I am frustrated because you are making so much noise that I can’t hear
your father on the telephone.”
Wrote a note (taped to basket of clean laundry) “Marlin, please fold me.”
Reference: Hamner, T.J. & Turner, P.H. (2001). Parenting in Contemporary Society, 4
th
ed. ____Allyn and Bacon.
Positive Guidance
Children are more likely to respond to positive statements than negative ones. Rewrite each
statement below so it tells the child what he or she is expected to do.
1. “Don’t put the scissors on the floor.”
2. “Don’t spill your milk.”
3. “Don’t walk in front of the slide.”
4. “You’re pouring too fast.”
5. “Don’t walk so slowly.”
6. “Don’t touch all of the muffins.”
Reference: Herr, J. (2008) Working With Young Children; Study Guide. Tinley Park, ILL: Goodheart-Wilcox,
Co. (page 80).
1
15 Techniques to use with children which invite cooperation
1. Give children valid, appropriate and limited choices. Limit use of commands. Offering options gives
the child a sense of empowerment. This works especially well with children who are strong willed and
in need of a great deal of control. Giving choices eliminates power struggles and “NO” answers.
ie: Do you want your milk poured into the green cup or the blue cup?
ie: You may walk to get your diaper changed or I can carry you. (either way, the diaper is getting
changed).
ie: Say “It’s naptime” rather than “Do you want to take a nap?” which offers the ch.
The document contains short quotes from different fathers on their philosophies and approaches to parenting. Some common themes that emerge are providing love, respect and quality time for children, open communication, teaching life skills and values like responsibility, and being consistent while allowing children freedom to learn and grow.
The document is a request from a daughter to her mother asking permission to attend a One Direction concert and purchase their CD. She provides several reasons why it would make her happy, including that music and merchandise bring her joy. She claims attending the concert and listening to the CD will improve her mood, brain function, grades, and relationship with her mother. Diagrams are included to show how allowing this would lead to positive outcomes. The daughter promises to do chores or dress up if permitted and closes by expressing her love for her mother.
This document discusses relationship banking, which is a metaphor for how relationships are strengthened or weakened based on positive or negative interactions. It explains that relationships require continuous "deposits" such as acts of service, kindness, loyalty and respect in order to stay strong. "Withdrawals" like breaking promises, gossip, or lack of attention gradually weaken the relationship over time if not addressed. Maintaining strong relationships requires consciously making deposits through both words and actions.
The document is an open letter from a mother to her daughter about the mother-daughter relationship. It discusses how the relationship changes as daughters grow up, from fully trusting their mothers as children to sometimes clashing as teenagers. The mother acknowledges how difficult the teen years can be as daughters become independent and want more privacy, while mothers still want to protect them. She promises to always support and listen to her daughter, even during disagreements. The mother emphasizes showing respect, talking often, having fun together, and compromising to maintain a strong lifelong bond.
The song describes a relationship between an older man and a 17-year old girl. In the first verse, he tries to convince her to sleep with him despite knowing their relationship is wrong. Over time, the casual relationship becomes more serious as they start living together, causing him to realize she is too young for him. Throughout the song, he repeats the refrain "they're just girls" to remind himself not to get too attached, as she is still a teenager, while their growing involvement leads to arguments as he tells her they cannot continue and she should be with someone her own age.
The father has an important conversation with his son about how to view and treat women. He tells his son that it is not a woman's responsibility if a man looks at her wrongly based on what she is wearing, but that it is the man's responsibility to see her as a human being. The father explains that objectifying or reducing someone to just their body or clothes removes their humanity. He encourages his son to see women as whole individuals and respect them, and to change how he interacts with women by truly seeing and being with them without fear or judgment.
This document discusses overcoming fears of never finding love again after a breakup. It encourages taking time to heal from the past relationship before rushing into something new. It advises keeping an open mind to different types of partners, communicating openly with potential partners, and putting yourself out there by striking up conversations to find love. The document also profiles a woman named Joan who focused on herself for 10 years and is now ready to pursue love again.
A man in China sued his ex-wife for being ugly after learning she had spent $100,000 on plastic surgery without telling him. The judge awarded the ex-husband $120,000. While looks may matter more in Chinese culture, where women are seen as trophies for men, love should be based on more than just physical attraction. Having plastic surgery does not make the ex-wife a hypocrite for valuing beauty, as looking good is now common due to the influence of plastic surgery.
Michelle Sanford taught classroom guidance lessons at Philip Simmons Elementary in Spring 2017 covering topics like self-control, kindness, perseverance, and family changes. Some of the lessons and activities included discussing the books Interrupting Chicken and The Marshmallow Test, a kindness challenge and storyboards, lessons on perseverance featuring Michael Jordan and famous failures, and group counseling games and discussions about different family structures and feelings related to family changes. Sanford also provided individual counseling using activities such as a volcano triggers activity and a calm down sandwich technique.
1. The document discusses the narrator's childhood friendship with Lucas from when they were 5 years old in school.
2. They became best friends because they were often punished together for talking in class when they should have been quiet.
3. They enjoyed playing the same games during breaks and exploring to find small insects they called "Mariquitas".
Talking about topics like gender, race, sexual orientation, and class can raise anxiety for many people, and yet we must have the conversation in our schools and our lives in order to be more inclusive and change the world for the better. What are the fears and common pitfalls that keep us from broaching courageous conversations? Gain practical skills for responding to hurtful experiences and facilitating courageous conversations.
The document discusses the power of simple three-word phrases to strengthen interpersonal relationships. It provides examples like "I'll be there", "I miss you", "I respect you", "Maybe you're right", "Please forgive me", "I thank you", "Count on me", "Let me help", "I understand you", and "I love you" and how saying these phrases with sincerity can forge new friendships, deepen old ones, and restore relationships. It encourages the reader to use these powerful three-word statements to enrich their relationships.
This document provides 10 tips for having a happy marriage. The tips include never assuming things about your spouse, complimenting them more than criticizing, remembering that there are multiple ways to do tasks, making time for just the two of you weekly, marrying someone you enjoy talking to, accepting that marriage has ups and downs, showing your children love for your spouse, being fair in splitting responsibilities and money, and not going to bed angry unless exhausted. The overall message is that communication, appreciation, understanding different perspectives, quality time together, and handling conflicts in a constructive manner can help create a successful marriage.
A boy and girl meet and fall in love, but the girl has to return to Texas while he remains behind. Despite the long distance separation, through honest communication and respect for each other, they are able to maintain their relationship. After four months apart, the girl expresses how happy and in love she is with the boy, who gives her something to smile about each day.
The document discusses how politeness can sometimes backfire and potentially offend people, even when unintended. It provides examples of commonly used polite terms like "ma'am", "sir", "guys", and "ladies" that could offend depending on the person and context. The document recommends avoiding potentially loaded terms and simply saying "thanks" as a safe default that is unlikely to cause offense.
GlobalHue: Show Love - Cyberbullying CampaignGlobalHue
This document proposes a campaign to encourage teenagers to stop cyberbullying and instead spread positivity online. The campaign would include print ads of teen testimonials about showing love, a contest for schools to share positive messages on Facebook, using Formspring as a positive forum, having celebrities endorse the message on social media, designating a "Show Some Love Day" for sharing positive posts, and a TV ad depicting mean girls warming to a peer. The overall message is that words can significantly impact others, so teenagers should spread love instead of hate online.
1) The document is a love quiz that provides definitions and explanations of common relationship terms.
2) It defines terms like "hen party" and "stag party" which refer to pre-wedding celebrations, and "fiancé/fiancée" which refer to partners that are engaged to be married.
3) The quiz also clarifies the meanings of phrases like "absence makes the heart grow fonder" which means loving someone more when apart, versus terms like "fling" which refers to a very short relationship.
Learning to respond appropriately social story educ 505DeNardes Shafter
This document provides examples of appropriate and inappropriate ways to respond in social situations through a series of scenarios. It emphasizes the importance of greeting others kindly, showing interest in friends by asking questions, and resolving conflicts respectfully. The document suggests compromising when things don't go as planned and helping others calmly rather than reacting negatively. The overall message is that learning to respond appropriately takes practice but leads to less conflict and a more pleasant life.
1) The document discusses the importance of the relationship between mothers and children, describing it as the most integral and unparalleled of all relationships.
2) It notes that Mother's Day is celebrated worldwide as an opportunity for children to express gratitude and appreciation for all that mothers do without expecting anything in return.
3) The author shares their personal experience of being orphaned and adopted into a family that only valued them for potential wealth or property, and ultimately rejected the author when those expectations were not met. The author no longer feels love or gratitude for their adopted mother.
This document provides tips for effective communication between teens and parents. It advises finding a relaxed time to talk, focusing fully on the conversation without distractions, being honest but also listening without interrupting, and discussing both serious topics and everyday things to build understanding. Effective communication requires maturity, respect, honesty and staying calm even during disagreements. Building a daily habit of small talk can strengthen relationships for more meaningful future discussions.
Name___________________________________________
Inappropriate Methods That Deter Cooperation
Method Example
Blaming and
accusing
“Look at the dirty footprints you put on my clean kitchen floor. You never
consider how hard I work.”
Name-calling “You are the sloppiest person, just look at your room!”
Threats “If you don’t start doing your share around here, I’m going to cut your
allowance.”
Commands “Take the garbage out this minute, and no back talk, young man.”
Lecturing and
moralizing
“Now, do you think that was a nice thing to say about your friend? You
should learn to treat your friends the way you want to be treated.”
Warnings “Don’t step off the sidewalk. You’ll get hit by a car.”
Martyrdom “Why are you doing this to me, hard as I work?”
Comparisons “Why can’t you try as hard in school as your sister does?”
Sarcasm “You knew you had to get up early, but you were so smart and stayed up
until midnight.”
Prophecy “If you continue in the same manner, you’ll never amount to anything.”
Skills for Engaging Cooperation
Skill Example
Describe what you
see or the problem
“Your dirty clothes are on the floor in your room.”
Give information “The battery in the flashlight will last longer when you turn it off after each
use.”
Say it with a word. (when milk is left out of the refrigerator) “Susie, the milk.”
Talk about your
feelings
“I am frustrated because you are making so much noise that I can’t hear
your father on the telephone.”
Wrote a note (taped to basket of clean laundry) “Marlin, please fold me.”
Reference: Hamner, T.J. & Turner, P.H. (2001). Parenting in Contemporary Society, 4
th
ed. ____Allyn and Bacon.
Positive Guidance
Children are more likely to respond to positive statements than negative ones. Rewrite each
statement below so it tells the child what he or she is expected to do.
1. “Don’t put the scissors on the floor.”
2. “Don’t spill your milk.”
3. “Don’t walk in front of the slide.”
4. “You’re pouring too fast.”
5. “Don’t walk so slowly.”
6. “Don’t touch all of the muffins.”
Reference: Herr, J. (2008) Working With Young Children; Study Guide. Tinley Park, ILL: Goodheart-Wilcox,
Co. (page 80).
1
15 Techniques to use with children which invite cooperation
1. Give children valid, appropriate and limited choices. Limit use of commands. Offering options gives
the child a sense of empowerment. This works especially well with children who are strong willed and
in need of a great deal of control. Giving choices eliminates power struggles and “NO” answers.
ie: Do you want your milk poured into the green cup or the blue cup?
ie: You may walk to get your diaper changed or I can carry you. (either way, the diaper is getting
changed).
ie: Say “It’s naptime” rather than “Do you want to take a nap?” which offers the ch.
The document contains short quotes from different fathers on their philosophies and approaches to parenting. Some common themes that emerge are providing love, respect and quality time for children, open communication, teaching life skills and values like responsibility, and being consistent while allowing children freedom to learn and grow.
This document discusses the importance of fathers teaching boys how to become men. It argues that many boys are not learning responsibility and are remaining like "older boys" rather than maturing into men. It provides several areas that fathers should teach their sons, including teaching them about God, the value of work, the effects of peer influence, obedience, leadership through service, love, and how to handle the physical changes of puberty. The overall message is that mentoring boys is crucial for their development into responsible men.
Disability is a natural part of the human experienceLubna Nawaz
When parents learn that their child has a developmental delay or disability, it comes as a tremendous shock and trauma. Common initial reactions include denial, fear for the child's future, guilt, rejection, confusion, and depression. However, seeking support from other parents, communicating with family, learning about the condition, focusing on the child's humanity rather than the disability, and maintaining hope can help parents cope and provide the best support for their child. The key is accepting reality, finding programs and resources, and remembering that the child's worth is not defined by any condition.
To be a good parent, you need to make your children feel loved and valued while teaching them right from wrong. This involves praising positive behavior, listening to children, being present for important events, enforcing consistent rules calmly as a united front with your spouse, and providing a nurturing home environment where children can thrive.
This man that the narrator met by the lake taught them many lessons about life through their conversations. He shared stories of his past successes and disappointments. The man encouraged the narrator to follow their dreams but also taught them to be humble, selfless, and make wise choices. While the man's life did not turn out as he expected, he remained positive and hoped to face what had challenged him in the past. The narrator was grateful for the wisdom the man imparted before they both continued on their separate journeys.
Change Child Behavior: 3 Proven Ways To Make Your Kid BehaveMichael Lee
1) Be a positive role model and avoid violence and negative behaviors in front of children.
2) When correcting bad behavior, show compassion by explaining what they did wrong and why rather than just reprimanding.
3) Reward good behavior occasionally but ignore bad behavior by not giving attention until an apology, keeping an eye on their safety.
Children and Divorce
- Divorce can be stressful, sad, and confusing for children of any age as they feel uncertain or angry about their parents splitting up.
- Parents can help their children cope with divorce by providing stability, attending to their needs with a positive attitude, and helping them express their feelings.
- Routines, reassurance of love, clear communication, and spending quality time with each parent can help children adjust and feel supported through this difficult time.
Social Psychology Individual Journal FNBE 0814Zi Shan
This document contains a student's journal submissions for a social psychology course. It discusses various topics:
1) Motivation, describing intrinsic motivation as things done for enjoyment and extrinsic motivation as things done due to obligation. An example of intrinsic motivation is described.
2) Counterfactual thinking, which involves imagining alternative outcomes for past events. Upward counterfactuals involve regret over what could have been better, while downward counterfactuals provide relief over what could have been worse. Examples of both are given.
3) Self-fulfilling prophecy, where one's expectations shape one's actions and cause the expected outcome to occur. Examples of how expectations can negatively impact students, employees, and oneself are provided.
Top 5 Things You Should NEVER Say to Your Kidshoferjerome
Women often become entrepreneurs to have a flexible work schedule that allows them to spend more time with their children. While it's important to be careful about what we say to kids, being open and honest with them about things like mistakes, asking for help, and apologies can teach valuable life lessons and build trust. Sharing appropriate details about finances and other challenges with kids in an age-appropriate way prepares them for dealing with real-world issues on their own as adults. Seeking a coach can help ensure conversations with children are handled well.
40 reasons why your relationship is not workingalwayswrite
Most often than not, most of us struggle with our relationships. Many of us have thought about quitting several times. It is a lovely thing to be in a relationship with the opposite sex, but a different ball of game if the relationship is not working. The key is that we have to examine ourselves when relationships are not working as expected. Yes, there are many times when it wasn’t your fault, it was her fault. However, regardless of who’s at fault
it is, it is time to know the reasons why your relationship is not working and how you can fix it.
The document discusses the importance of mentoring boys and guiding them into healthy manhood. It notes that society has become more complicated, making it difficult for boys to learn from parents who are busy pursuing careers. Men need to make time to speak to boys about the changes they are experiencing and be role models. The document provides guidance on how to support boys' development, including encouraging nurturing behaviors, having open discussions about difficult topics, helping them express feelings, and opportunities to participate in their community. The conclusion calls on men to take their role in mentoring boys seriously to help the next generation of men develop fully.
Here are a few ways that how you, as a parent, can help your child deal with peer pressure:
1) Don’t Overreact
2) Invite Friends Over
3) Set Family Rules
4) Have a Heart-To-Heart Talk
5) Teach Them Effective Responses
6) Agree on a Bailout Phrase
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2. » As parents, we are responsible for how we raise
our children. Today’s topic discusses two case
studies and a cultural aspect to throw some
light.
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3. »The greatest way to live with
honor in this world is to be what
we pretend to be.
— Socrates
5. » Would you have acted
that way if he was
sitting in front of you?
6.
7. »“Why should I care to talk
politely to someone who calls me
so late in the night to disturb my
dinner?”
8. »First, you are
illogical and
unreasonable
in not owning
up your
mistakes.
» Second, you are
covering up and
trying to
protect yourself
when you
certainly are in
the wrong.
9. » Instead you should be upfront and humble
yourself and say “I could give you excuses
about why I spoke to that fellow rudely, but
you’re right. I don’t feel good about how I was
with him.” This second reply will be far more
edifying than the first one because you had the
courage to admit that you made a mistake and
are willing to take full responsibility for it. Also,
you validated your child who was thinking
correctly and soundly.
10. The child will thus feel
safe to own up their
mistakes and take
responsibility for erring.
» It is ok to make mistakes.
11. They know that you too
make mistakes and are
honest and upfront about it
» They will not feel ashamed
and hide their own mistakes.
12. To ensure that they learn
the lesson and do not
repeat it, you must also
say, “I hope not to behave
so badly the next time.”
» It is important not to repeat
them.
13.
14. They too will make
amends when they
err and change past
behaviours which are
problematic.
» When the telemarketer calls
again, you must do as you
promised and speak politely
instead of rudely to help your
child acknowledge that you
have made amends to your
behaviour.
15. » When we know that we are loved even after we
have lost our way, it is far easier for us to
acknowledge our wrongdoing and look for ways
to make amends, restoring the trust of those
we care about.
16. » He felt pretty bad
» He was upset that
he’d been grounded
17. » So much easier to
blame his mom than
to claim ownership
for his contribution to
the situation.
» Pretty bad choices,
which had led to him
getting in trouble.
19. » Adhering to the notion that
how we do anything is how
we do everything can be a
real burden. We have to be
willing to forgive ourselves
— often. But by
demonstrating consistency
in our character, we
establish ourselves as a
reliable North Star, worthy
of being a reference point
for our children as they
navigate their lives with
honour and integrity.
» Teaching our children to be
accountable for how they
show up in the world — on
their good days and their
not-so-good ones— gives
them an enormous
advantage in life. We are all
drawn to people we can
trust — those who follow
through on their
commitments and keep
their word — and we trust
those who take
responsibility for their
actions.
Today’s topic is on how parents must walk the talk and thus help their children learn from them.
Socrates said, “The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.”
As parents, our children see us at our best and our worst; everything we do makes an impression.
Once my daughter overheard me speaking rudely to a telemarketer who had called during dinner. She reacted promptly, “It was rude of you to not listen to what he had to say. Would you have acted that way if he was sitting in front of you?” “Well, no...not at all,” I replied sheepishly.
The fact is the way we speak to a telemarketer or follow through on a promise to help with a science project is all duly noted by our children. We may forget our manners, or find we don’t have time after all to help as promised with a science project. That’s okay; we’re human, and will inevitably fall short of who we most want to be now and again. But when we behave in a way that doesn’t line up with what we preach to our children, we need to take responsibility.
I advise parents to use every opportunity – even their faux pas. Instead of making the situation worse by defending yourself, be honest with them and show them the real ‘you’.
In the case of the telemarketer, you could say, “Why should I care to talk politely to someone who calls me so late in the night to disturb my dinner?” And take up the argument with your child.
But this will only make the child feel emotionally unsafe with you for two reasons: First, you are illogical and unreasonable in not owning up your mistakes. Second, you are covering up and trying to protect yourself when you certainly are in the wrong.
This way the child learns that it is ok to make mistakes. You send the message that humans do make mistakes. It is acceptable to make mistakes but it is important not to repeat them. The child will thus feel safe to own up their mistakes and take responsibility for erring.
And they will not feel ashamed and hide it because they know that you too make mistakes and are honest and upfront about it.
However to ensure that they learn the lesson and do not repeat it, you must also say, “I hope not to behave so badly the next time.”
And when the telemarketer calls again, you must do as you promised and speak politely instead of rudely to help your child acknowledge that you have made amends to your behaviour and so they too must make amends when they err and change past behaviours which are problematic.
As in the case of fifteen-year-old Karthik who came to see me after a blowout argument with his mother, during which he had called her some pretty ugly names. I asked him to tell me the story of what had led to him getting grounded for a month. His story went like this: “She made me really mad so I said #$%*. Then she said I was grounded for a week! I got madder and told her I thought she was @ˆ&*!. And then she said I was grounded for another week and so I said *#$%.”
When I asked Karthik how he’d felt about it afterward, he told me that he felt pretty bad, but he was also upset that he’d been grounded. I asked if I could offer him my take on what he had just shared with me. “I get the impression that you felt kind of forced to say hurtful things because your mom was upsetting you. Is that how you see it?” He agreed. But he smiled a little; he knew me well enough to know that I was probably going to encourage him to step outside his version of events to see things from a wider perspective.
I said, “Karthik, can you tell me the same story, but this time, as you describe what you did or said, please first use the words I decided to or I chose to.” He squirmed a little, but he was a good sport. “My mom made me really mad when she was coming down on me about something so I decided to say #$%* to her. She got really mad and said I was grounded for a week. So I got even madder and chose to tell her I thought she was @ˆ&*!. Then she got super mad at me and said I was grounded for two weeks, so I decided to say *#$%.” When he finished, I asked him how it felt to tell the second version of his story. Poor guy — it was so much easier to blame his mom than to claim ownership for his contribution to the situation.
To his credit, though, he admitted that he had made some pretty bad choices, which had led to him getting in trouble. I talked about how we all make mistakes, but that if own up to them and commit to making amends, we can set things right again. It is all well and good to talk to our children about the importance of facing the consequences of bad decisions in the hopes that they will be thoughtful and prudent with the choices they make.
I once read about a tribe in Africa whose members do something quite extraordinary when somebody does something wrong. They believe that every person comes into the world wanting love and peace but that sometimes people make mistakes. For two days the whole tribe surrounds the wrongdoer, telling him everything good he has done in his life. They view the man’s transgression as a cry for help and come together to hold him up and remind him of who he is, until he remembers the core goodness from which he temporarily became disconnected.
Consider what might happen if we did that with kids who are troubled or hurting? Imagine compassionately reminding them of their goodness instead of berating them when they make a mistake? When we know that we are loved even after we have lost our way, it is far easier for us to acknowledge our wrongdoing and look for ways to make amends, restoring the trust of those we care about.