The document discusses issues with modern relationships and love. It notes that people seem less serious about relationships nowadays, often jumping from one partner to the next without fully committing or taking the time to truly get to know each other. It also touches on people valuing their independence and personal space too much, not being willing to open up or rely on their partners. The document expresses frustration with societal pressures and changing attitudes around gender roles and expectations in relationships.

1. Love and Space
Maybe I am dumb but I feel that something is seriously wrong with what goes as love these days. I do
not seem to understand what it means or what it entails.
Let’s take the example of love between a girl and a boy. First there is the ‘seeing each other’, then the
‘kind-of-dating’, then the ‘dating’ and then the ‘boyfriend-girlfriend’. What divides all these phases?
What makes these phases different? I do not know for sure. Falling in love has become something like
buying clothes. You try out several and throw them away as soon as you find a more fashionable one or
just because you are bored with wearing the same clothes. This is true for both boys and girls. No one
seems to be serious about it anymore. No one seems to be willing to spend some time together (outside
the bed), to get to know each other and then dive headlong into a relationship. They just dive in and if
they do not like it, they bail out. Maybe this is the wise thing to do – life is too short – but no one seems
to be happy. No one is willing to go the extra mile. The moment that things get hard, they look for
newer pastures.
We are not happy. We want our own space (I am still unclear what that exactly means). We do not want
to share our lives, our hopes, joys and frustrations. As long as you are cheerful, things work, but the
moment you want to rest your head on someone’s shoulder, they run saying that you do not give them
space. No one likes people nagging around them – it is irritating – but once in a while listening to the
person you say you are in a relationship with I do not think is asking too much. I do not question the fact
that people need time to themselves, to think, to brood, to hang out with friends, but I believe that it is
also essential to take time out to spend with your loved ones.
Everything has become a rat race around us. Our parents do not have time for us because they are too
busy trying to provide for us. We do not want them to interfere in our lives and if we listen to their
advice we are considered ‘Mama’s Boy’ or ‘Daddy’s Girl’. I mean, come one, give them a break. I agree
that some parents are control freaks but most parents just want us not to make mistakes but rather
learn from theirs. Parents are not our friends – they are our parents and we should treat them as such.
I am kind of getting frustrated with all the space and love around me. Is it a big deal to take a girl out on
a date and not letting her pay? This whole idea of equality is irritating. Women are women and men are
men and we are not equal – we are different. Not letting the girl pay is a way to show respect towards
her, and is not a statement of superiority. And why is it necessary to sleep with her at the first
opportunity – where has the whole courtship thing gone?
Maybe it is easier for me to say such things because I find it difficult to woo a girl with fancy chat and
looks. I am not tall, dark, not handsome enough, not well built enough and neither am I impressive in
any way. But I am not unhappy as I have really great friends and parents and relatives. Rather, it is my
tall, handsome, fair friends who seem to be unhappy. They definitely do ‘pick up’ girls off and on, some
even are dating, but no one seems to be in love. “There is always another girl”, they say, and they seem
to find them, but after all this they are still sad – as if there is something missing in their lives. No one is

2. serious these days about the right things. People seem to be very serious about how to earn money and
how to pass exams and how to drive their career, but no one is serious about any of their relationships
in life – neither with parents and relatives, nor with their partners and friends. We have got our
priorities wrong and things are going seriously wrong.