This document discusses healthy relationships and responsibilities in love. It defines true love as requiring commitment, trust and respect rather than manipulation or compromising one's values. While physical attraction is natural, love is not just lust. The document outlines five laws for relationships, including valuing what is difficult to obtain and differences in how each gender views love. It advises setting boundaries to avoid going too far physically and reaping negative consequences. Overall, it encourages making wise choices to honor one's body and wait for marriage before engaging in sexual intimacy.

1. LOVE, ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS AND
RESPONSIBILITIES

3. Manipulation
(exploitation)
"If you loved me, then
you would..." isn't
love, but rather
infatuation
(obsession).

4. Compromising who
you are If someone
asks you to do or say
something that isn't
in your nature, that
isn't true love.
Someone who is in
love with you will
never ask you to
change who you are
in order to be loved.

5. Love doesn’t
hurt. If it hurts
it’s something
else. Fear.
Attachment.
Idolatry.
Addiction.
Possessiveness

6. LOVE
follows and
obey the
TRUTH
rather than
what the
heart
dictates.

7. LOVE is NOT
Lust
(hunger)
Yes, chemistry
and physical
attraction are
important, but
true love also
includes
commitment,
trust and
respect. So
then, what
exactly is love?

8. Characteristics of LOVE…

9. THE FIVE LAWS OF A GUY/GIRL
RELATIONSHIP…

10. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
There is a strange TRUTH about human nature: We
value and prize that which is difficult to get and we
treat lightly or despise that which is obtained with
little or no effort on our part.

11. DON’T SMOTHER A RELATIONSHIP
To Summarize:
We value that which is hard to get and we think little of that
which is easily obtained. In guy-girl relationships, you are
attracted to the person who is hard to get and you run from the
one who chases you. Do not smother a relationship!

12. WHAT YOU MUST LEARN…
DON’T CHASE SOMEONE OF THE
OPPOSITE SEX. WHEN YOU DO IT,
IT WIPES OUT YOUR DIGNITY AND
SELF-RESPECT, AND IT LOWERS
YOUR VALUE IN THE OTHER
PERSON’S SIGHT.

13. THE LAW OF SELF IMAGE
You are controlled by the way you see
yourself inwardly…

14. WHAT YOU MUST LEARN…
THE LAW OF SELF-IMAGE WILL
WORK FOR YOU IF YOU CAN SEE
YOURSELF AS YOU REALLY ARE…
A PERSON OF PRICELESS VALUE.
EVERY HUMAN BEING IS
PRICELESS.

15. THE LAW OF DIFFERENCE
There is a difference in the way guys and girls think
of love. A girl thinks of romantic love— someone to
hold her close and tell her that she is special. A guy
thinks of love more in terms of sex.

16. WHAT YOU MUST LEARN…
IT HAS BEEN SAID, “A GIRL PLAYS AT
SEX, FOR WHICH SHE IS NOT
READY, BECAUSE WHAT SHE WANTS
IS LOVE. A GUY PLAYS AT LOVE,
FOR WHICH HE IS NOT READY,
BECAUSE WHAT HE PRIMARILY
WANTS IS SEX.”

17. HOW FAR IS TOO FAR?
• You are going too far when a guy’s or a girl’s hands start
roaming.
• You are going too far when either of you starts removing
clothing. Keep all of your clothing on all of the time.
• You are going too far when you are doing something you
would not want to be doing around someone you really
respect.
• You are going too far when you cannot make an
intelligent decision as to what you should or should not
do and carry out that decision.

18. TAKE NOTE & DO IT!
BEFORE YOU EVEN THINK OF
DATING, YOU NEED TO SET YOUR
GUIDELINES AS TO HOW FAR TO GO.
THE ONLY GUIDELINE THAT IS
100% SAFE IS:
KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF AND YOUR
CLOTHES ON!!!

19. THE LAW OF PROGRESSION
There is a progressive nature in sex—you tend to move toward
greater physical intimacy.

20. What satisfies you now will not
satisfy you later on…

22. To Summarize:
There is a progressive (gradual,
increasing, step-by-step) nature in sex.
You tend to move steadily toward
more and more physical intimacy
unless you take definite steps to
control things on the physical
side to prevent this.

23. THE LAW OF HARVEST
To Summarize:
The Law of Harvest says that you will reap what you sow. Movies and
TV promote The Big Lie that no one has to pay the price of illicit sex,
but it is different in the real world. You will reap what you sow.

24. IT’S YOUR CHOICE!

25. That is the way it is with sex—you deny
yourself some thrills now in order to provide
for your brightest possible future.

26. PRACTICAL STEPS TO SAY “NO”
Saying NO begins in the heart, but it must be lived
out in your actions

27. Why haven't you had sex yet?
• Pre-marital Sex is like math: you add the bed,
subtract the clothes, divide the legs and pray you
don’t multiply. I don't want to multiply!
• Pre-marital Sex is like high school...you miss a
period and you're in trouble.
• Pre-marital Sex takes up the least amount of time
and causes the most amount of trouble.

28. LOOK TO YOUR FUTURE IN SAYING “NO”

29. To Summarize:
Saying “NO” may take place in a
house, a park, a school ground or a
motel… but it has to start in your
heart long before then. You can say
“NO”, and there are ways to do it.
You need to program yourself ahead
of time to know exactly what you
will do…and then do it!

30. A Command to Follow…
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins
people commit are outside their bodies, but
those who sin sexually sin against their own
bodies. Do you not know that your bodies are
temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you,
whom you have received from God? You are
not your own; you were bought at a price.
Therefore honor God with your bodies.
( 1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

31. “Wait for the ring until you do the thing.”

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