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2. 1Temperament is not Destiny ?
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
&
PSYCHOLOGY OF TEMPERAMENT

3. Why is
Temperament not Destiny ?
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Temperament is simply the part of your character that affects
your mood and the way you behave
Temperamentcan be defined in terms of the mood that
typify our emotional life.
It is the background murmur of feeling that mark our basic deposition

5. Why is Temperament not Destiny ?
Who we are is who we have
grown to become.
We are products of influence
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6. Why is Temperament not Destiny ?
THEY CAUSED IT
Family,
Neighbours,
Religious circle and philosophy,
Culture,
School,
Peers,
media,
Society…
Every one, Every thing you’ve met..
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7. Why is Temperament not Destiny ?
THEY CAUSED IT
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There is a range of possibility even within genetic
constraints, as behavioural genetics observe, genes alone
do not determine behaviours; our environment, especially
what we experience and learn as we grew, shapes how a
temperament disposition expresses itself as life unfolds.

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While Temperament is real,
it does not determine Destiny!

9. Temperament is not Destiny ?
All temperament types comes with their share of strength
as well as weakness,
what we were Made to believe is that how we perform in life
will be determined by these natural traits.
And that we cannot do any thing about it.
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10. Temperament is not Destiny ?
The Truth!
The Brain is Plastic !
“No human quality is beyond change”
Jerome Kagan- Development Psychologist at Harvard University
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11. 10Temperament is not Destiny ?
“A child who comes into the world easily frightened can learn to be calmer,
or even outgoing, in the face of the unfamiliar.”
“Fearfulness- or any other temperament- may be part of the biological givens
of our emotional lives, but we are not necessarily limited to a
specific emotional menu by our inherited traits.”
“Our emotional capacities are not given; with the right learning they
can be improved. All learning implies a change in the brain, a strengthening of
synaptic connection.”
“The brain remains plastic through out life. Emotional habits are
malleable throughout life, with some sustained effort, even at neural level.”

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While Temperament is real,
it does not determine Destiny!
Temperament is not Destiny ?

13. 12Temperament is not Destiny ?

14. Temperament is not Destiny ?
While they caused it,
Youallowed it,
You accepted it,
You retained it,
Consciously or Unconsciously
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15. 14Temperament is not Destiny ?

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CHOICE!
Temperament is not Destiny ?

17. Temperament is not Destiny ?
•Your Level of Proactiveness
•Your Paradigm (Believe system and Value system)
•Your Knowledge/Ignorance
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18. Temperament is not Destiny ?
Unlearning and Relearning
“Our emotional capacities are not given; with the right learning they
can be improved. All learning implies a change in the brain, a strengthening of
synaptic connection.”
“The brain remains plastic through out life. Emotional habits are
malleable throughout life, with some sustained effort, even at neural
level.”
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19. 18Temperament is not Destiny ?
Growth Matrix
© Fortequip
Continuity
Awareness Acceptance
Choice
Will
DecisionAction
Growth
1 2
3
3/4 3
3
4
3/4
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INERTIA &
LETHARGY
AWARENESS
ACCEPTANCE
LOOK INTO THE
WINDOW
STAY
COMMITTED
HAPPINESS, PEACE,
EFFECTIVENES
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1
2
3
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AWARENESS
To thyself be true
~Williams Shakespeare

21. •Self awareness means being aware of both our mood and our
thoughts about that mood.
•Recognising feelings and building a vocabulary for them, and seeing the
links between thoughts, or feelings are ruling a decision; seeing the
consequence of alternative choices and applying these insights to
decisions about such issues.
•Self awareness also takes a form of recognizing your strengths and
weaknesses and seeing your self in a positive but realistic light
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ACCEPTANCE
We are who we have grown
to become, not who
we truly are.

23. •Acceptance is knowing your strengths,
weaknesses and difference, as your given, but also
knowing they are not eternal tags…
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24. What Growth opportunities
are available ?
LOOK INTO THE WINDOW 23

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LOOK INTO THE WINDOW
SWOTStrengths. Weaknesses.
Opportunities. Threats
Analysis

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LOOK INTO THE WINDOW
SLOTStrengths. Loop-Holes.
Opportunities. Threats
Analysis

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LOOK INTO THE WINDOW
SPOTStrengths. Potential for growth.
Opportunities. Threats
Analysis

28. Temperament is not Destiny ?
Experiences sculpt the brain…
Psychotherapy is he systematic emotional relearning…
Create today a new experience consistently….
STAY
COMMITTED!
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