Do you know what true and impeccable self-confidence is or are you guilty of spreading and believing the fallacies people tell about self-confidence?

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Ten Fallacies People Tell About Self-
Confidence

2. Self-Confidence & Self-
Esteem
Are The Same
They most definitely are not. Self-confidence is what you
believe in yourself, your abilities, skills, powers, judgment
and potential. Self-esteem is what you think of yourself and
it’s quite superficial in nature and requires you to compare
yourself to others and to “standards”. Self-confident people
have high self-esteem however, they can also “feel” bad
about themselves and still feel be full of confidence. Self-
esteem is threaten by discovering you might not be what you
thought you were or what others told you; you were. Self-
confidence is built on becoming more than you thought you
were.
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3. You Can Fake It Until You
Make It
If you are fake, what you’ll become is a fake. You
are what you do and think and if what you do is
fake…don’t expect it to miraculously become real.
Instead of “faking” it, decide you are going to
actually do it. You are going to actually face your
fears, step into the unknown, and be more
assertive. Be real about it!
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4. Self-Confident People
Are Arrogant
Self-confident people have nothing to prove so they
can’t be arrogant. They might be perceived that way by
arrogant and or very insecure people because they
won’t engage in unnecessary drama and stupidity. Self-
confident people will walk away from drama and gossip
because they have better things to do with their time
and they make positive not negative investment in their
well being and thought process.
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5. A Smile And Eye Contact
Are Signs Of Confidence
People who are out there faking it are smiling and
making eye contact…need I say more?!? Okay,
yes, confident people smile and make eye contact
– it’s a byproduct of being secured in who you are
but to find the really confident people…you need
find those who are looking their worst and still
smiling, still making eye contact and still carrying
themselves with
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6. A Pretty Outfit/Looking Good
Will
Give You Self-Confidence
Feeling good because you look good will give you
a boost to your self-esteem and that gets
confused with self-confidence. Because you look
good you might be more energize and empowered
but if it’s all based on the fact that you look good
today – what happens if you get caught in the rain
and your hair, makeup and outfit get
ruined? You’ll feel like crap, deflated and you’ll
want to go hide. That is not the actions or
thoughts of a confident person.
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7. I’m Confident In Only
Some Areas Of My Life
I hear this a lot from people, they want to sell
me on their confidence at work or some other
area of their lives but are afraid in my other
area of their lives. That is NOT true and
impeccable self-confidence. A truly confident
person doesn’t designate areas in their lives in
which they are confident – they are confident in
all areas of their lives, all the time.
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8. People With Good
Looks, Money And Power
Are Confident
The biggest impostors and folks with self-confidence issues
are people with money, good looks and power. They live in
fear that someday someone will discover they are not worthy
of what they have…that they are fake. They might or might not
have earned where they are and what they have. If you didn’t
start out with self-confidence adding layers of material things
will only increase your self-doubt, not your self-confidence. A
confident person who has money, power and good looks will
not be attached to any of those things and will always be free
to just be themselves – they do not live in fear of losing what
they have or of being discovered as a fraud.
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9. I Was Confident But
Someone Took It Away
From Me
If you are truly confident – NO
ONE or no event can take it away
from you.
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10. Fat And Ugly People
Shouldn’t Have Confidence
I often see this statement on twitter and it really ticks me off. It
takes serious arrogance and ignorance to make such a
statement and having a complete misunderstanding of what
self-confidence actually is. Looks have nothing to do with self-
confidence. What you believe about yourself does. And what
you believe about yourself doesn’t have to be what is currently
reflected back to you – but what you know your potential to
be. Achieving goals and overcoming obstacles has nothing to
do with looks. Adversity doesn’t care what you look like.
Perseverance doesn’t care what you look like. Hard work
doesn’t care what you look like. Knowledge doesn’t care what
you like. Self-confidence comes from your inner self.
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11. Other People Boost
My Self-Confidence
Perhaps this can be true…if other people help you
work through challenges, your fears, self-limitations
and comfort zones. However, compliments and empty
praise are superficial boosts and if you can be
impacted by those, than you are open and vulnerable
to be impacted by negative comments and criticism.
Accept compliments but take them in stride. Know
who you are and be the person who provides yourself
with all the compliments and love you need. If your
mood and self-worth yo-yos based on other peoples’
opinions – you are not a confident person.
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