The document discusses common human fears and desires, emphasizing how perceptions shape our belief in control over our lives. It contrasts feelings of helplessness in situations like social interactions with the reality that these situations are often within our control. By altering our perceptions, tasks that seem challenging can become significantly easier.

2. Most of us have common fears and
desires.

3. We'd like more money than we've got,
and we'd like our relationships to be a
little bit better.

4. Most of us would like to lose a few
pounds, and maybe move to a nicer
place.

5. It's also pretty common to think of
these as "out of our control."

6. I remember a long time ago I was
watching a post game interview of a
baseball player whose team had just
been eliminated from the playoffs.

7. What struck me was the lack of
responsibility in his language.

8. The words and phrases he was using
suggested there was some larger force
that kept them from winning.

9. Now, most professional players don't
talk like this.

10. When they give post game interviews
after big losses, they say things like,
"WE couldn't get any hits," or "WE had
trouble getting on the board," or "OUR
defense just fell apart."

11. One of the things you'll learn if you
study hypnosis is the things people are
hiding underneath their speech.

12. Even simple things, like meeting
people, can be made to sound out of
our control.

13. For example, when heading out
socially, we say things like, "I hope I
meet somebody tonight."

14. But when you think about it, meeting
somebody is TOTALLY under your
control.

15. You see somebody interesting, you
walk up, you introduce yourself, and
you exchange names.

16. Think about if you talked about eating
like this.

17. "I hope I can find some food."

18. Maybe if you live in a cave and you're
going out with your bow and arrow,
but not if you live in a modern (or even
semi-modern) world with fast food
and convenience stores everywhere.

19. Why are some things easy, and some
things hard?

20. Is meeting people (or getting a better
job or making more money) really any
different than buying some food?

21. You want something, and you've got to
interact with others to get it.

22. The only real difference is the meaning
we put on things.

23. It's our perceptions that make them
seem difficult, not the things
themselves.

24. Once you change your inner filters and
windows through which you interpret
the world, it will seem a lot easier.

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