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1. Soulmate Stuff: What is a Soulmate?

2. So, I have some followers and viewers here that are very curious about the soulmate thing. Some people
believe that soulmates don’t exist, some think only certain people get a soulmate (I suppose those who
ask for one) and some think a soulmate is just someone who comes into your life and has a special
connection with you for a period of time. What about you? What do you think a soulmate is? So I
wanted to take some time to post what I believe a soulmate is and this isn’t necessarily what a soulmate

3. is, it’s just my view of what a soulmate should do because I just posted to someone that is a potential
soulmate that he needs to act like one but I don’t think he knows what that means because he has never
felt the way he feels now. So maybe I should tell him and all of the people who are looking for or hoping
for or have a soulmate now. I have had strong feelings for a guy before but I didn’t really consider him
my soulmate. But from all of the books I have read, from the relationships I have observed and been in
(very few and very short-lived), and from what God has revealed to me I think I know something about
what a soulmate is or what the soulmate, twin flames, star-crossed lovers should look like. So here’s my
take:
 A soulmate should be your friend, both of you actually should have some kind of friendship
under your belts so you can build from that solid foundation and then you both will trust each
other more later on. If you are not friends first then you really have nothing to build on. A friend
is someone who is there for you when you need them, they don’t ignore you, they don’t play
mind games with you and they don’t use and abuse you or mistreat you. Friends give love
generously, they invite you out to have fun with them, they call you whenever for no reason at
all, they tell you personal things that they don’t want anyone else to know, they come over
when you are sick if they can and help you get better, they give you their shoulder to lean on,
they are trustworthy and don’t steal from you but will tell you if they know of something shady
that someone is doing against you and they protect you like nothing else to make sure you are
safe and your basic needs are being met if they can help.
 A soulmate is someone who respects your body and doesn’t pressure you into sexual pleasure
before you are ready which means he or she will wait for you because they have respect for you
wishes and your body. No one owns anyone else’s body, even if you are married. Everyone has
the right to say no at any time. No one should coerce another, force, abuse or blackmail or
manipulate another for a sexual encounter they can get anywhere. It’s not easy for males to
follow this rule because sex is way too easy in the world today and it’s not just sex, it’s foreplay,
oral sex, sodomy, porn games, genital pics by text and online, and sadism or s&m. So males
have a hard time processing their emotions so they use their manhood to do that and that
means every time they are emotional they need to “call” someone or “text” someone to come
get them off. Back in the day we called this a “booty call” and it is pretty much the same these
days. So males make it difficult for the good girls like me to snag a good guy because they tell all
of the good guys to do bad things with bad girls and they get excited about it and it fuels and
soothes their emotions at the same time. So nasty girls and easy girls are being used to soothe
the emotions of guys that really want the “real” thing but get “the nasty thing” so easy they
ignore the real thing. So if you find a guy who respects the female body and can say no even
when he is fired up down there then you have yourself a jewel, a soulmate. You see, men forget
that women are watching them in more ways than one, we don’t need a Don Juan in the sack,
we need and want a lover to want our body and our body only and if you show this to your
girlfriend guys then you can get what you want. Men are too afraid and too needy and too
insecure these days to actually ask for what they really want so they end up whining and crying
for easy stuff to make them feel better and that means they push away what they are too afraid
to ask for or pursue. So the true measure of a man is in waiting, in self-control, in discipline. Plus
if you spend all of your time being idle in the mind and not having anything to do you will get
addicted to porn, you will get involved with the wrong person, you will end up hating yourself

4. and feeling guilty every time you call for a booty call and ignore your heart and you may end up
really hurting the one you truly love. So men, males, need to find a safe outlet to express their
emotions and keep themselves busy and they will be ok and not be called whores or
whoremongers. Males also need to be creative with the female body because most males just
want you to go down on them or flash the butthole and they are done and they forget that the
rest of your body needs pleasure and needs to be loved too. Where are all of the men that are
either skilled to love all of you or are willing to learn with their lady how to be skilled to love all
of you? Talk about this, learn about each other’s bodies so you can respect them and appreciate
them and really have fun with each other. (Your body is a wonderland)
 A soulmate will respect your space and your time and make sure you have your freedom to be
independent. A soulmate will not force you into anything you don’t want or are not ready for. A
soulmate will not give you ultimatums and rules and regulations so you feel like you just signed
a contract you can’t get out of. A soulmate will not make you stay at home with the kids or give
up your business so he can feel like a man or get more attention. A soulmate will let you know
that he loves your brilliant mind, he loves the way you laugh when you are watching funny
movies, he loves the way you make him feel when you are together, he will be able to express
what he feels so you know and you stick around. Women need a soulmate who will make sure
she sticks around and that means he showers her with love and affection and lets her know how
beautiful she is even when she looks or feels her worst. Spoil her so she can spoil you. He won’t
pressure her to wear makeup nor wear certain clothes so he looks good, nor force her to do
things that she doesn’t feel comfortable doing.
 A soulmate can wait for marriage because if he knows he has his soulmate by his side all they
need to do is talk about what they want and need from each other and hopefully they can get at
least 80% of that because no one is perfect and no one is going to give you every single thing
that you want except yourself and that means you should marry yourself. We have to allow
people room to be themselves and disappoint us and not be the perfect person because there
isn’t one and people make mistakes and have hang-ups that they can’t seem to shake
sometimes. So, we have to give some wiggle room to each other and then take some time to get
used to the wiggle and be ready to protest what you don’t want or won’t allow in your marriage
or relationship.
 A soulmate will take time to think of creative things to do for you and with their loved one
because you have to work at your relationships otherwise, they won’t work…. get it, work at or
they don’t work…lol, ok you get it. We spend so many hours working at a job or a career or
running a business and then we half-way give love to the one waiting at home for us because
they are always there. We take them for granted. We have to spend hours working at love too
and if you aren’t willing to give to get then you are not going to get anything you want or need.
Just a quick lay or easy hump from time to time and if you truly want a soulmate, if you truly
want to connect with that one person like no one else, if you really want to spend your money
and time making sure they know they are loved then you will give up the quick lays and easy
humps because you can do that with your soulmate.

5.  A soulmate will do his or her best to not allow other people to interfere with their soulmate
journey or connection and that means keep your mouth shut for the most part. Don’t go telling
all of your friends or buddies or family members that you finally found your soulmate. Wait for a
while, allow your ebb and flow to ebb and flow and get to know the person you believe to be
your soulmate. That means long phone calls, sexy text messages, sweet nothings whispered,
plans made about the future, secrets shared, time spent laughing and learning about who you
were when they didn’t know you and who you are now, chatting about what you two will be like
as parents living in the same house and sharing the load of the household and raising the kids if
you have them. This also means not telling other people about these things or sharing them
with siblings and friends and associates or family members. This stuff is sacred and you two
should only know about this stuff to keep your love safe and make sure no one interferes or
sabotages what you have. A soulmate connection is powerful and people will get jealous if you
blab too much about what you think you have or what could be. So be careful who you talk to
about your soulmate especially if you two are not involved yet because someone somewhere
will make sure they keep you from colliding with that potential soulmate. I know someone who
is going through this right now because someone who thinks he is this females soulmate keeps
telling people he is afraid to talk to her because she is so different from the females he is used
to hanging out with so they get in his head and attempt to get in his bed and then males in his
life do the same thing and try to pull him away from what he really wants with her and then it
keeps them apart. So, in a nutshell, he needs to stop talking to everyone else and start talking to
her.
 Lastly, a soulmate listens to his or heart, not head because we tend to think too much and if we
do we may think ourselves out of doing something we really want to do. So soulmates out there
here is what you need to do on a daily basis to collide with your soulmate and to keep your
soulmate:
o Call them, text them, email them, write letters or notes, or poetry if you are a poet so
you can connect with them every day and keep that connection strong and when you
talk have the intent to get closer and share your heart and deepest desires so no one
else can get this but them. Talk about sex, foreplay, lovemaking, family, kids, homes,
cooking, love, friendship, fun, holidays, birthdays, money, work, jobs, business, cars,
vacations, and anything and everything you can possibly think of to protect your
connection. Remember, no one else should nor deserves this but that one person you
want to share your life with.
o Take time to spend being with your soulmate so you get to know each other in person
and let your goal be to have fun, have a good time and let sex be on the back burner in
the beginning so you can get to know each other in mind and spirit first and then in
body, which will be much sweeter because you waited. The anticipation will grow and
mature and you will be ready to bond physically and it will be powerful because you
developed a strong and solid connection, a foundation that is true and valuable so your
physical encounters will bring sparks and joy, not guilt and shame.

6. o Don’t tell anyone about anything unless you want to share your good times with some
friends and family, leave the private stuff private or people will interfere.
o Tell each other about your dreams and goals for the future and make sure you work
together to make those things happen so you can be there for one another and see each
other through the hard work and effort it takes to get what you really want in life. Share
your woes, your sorrows, your mistakes, your sadness, your depressed moments, the
times when you feel like a failure and the times when you feel like no one else cares or
is not there for you so you can be there for each other, this will strengthen your bond
and don’t be afraid to reveal past heartaches so you know what each other went
through before you collided.
o Be each other’s best friend and make sure God is in the center of your relationship and
that basically means putting God first. What does this mean? Read your bible before you
call your soulmate. Pray and talk to God before you talk to your soulmate. Go to church
on Sunday with your soulmate so you can share religion or spirituality together (sex will
be amazing if you do this because a spiritual connection before or in addition to a
physical one is super powerful and you won’t want to stray). Do a bible study together
or apart in a small group or alone and then share what you learned about your God and
your spirituality. Take time to do things to help others together. One thing I want to do
with my soulmate is volunteer in the community together because it will increase our
bond because we are helping someone else in need without being paid for it and that is
a total turn on to me. Cook for each other, tell stories, write poetry, learn something
new together and share an adventure or two because this will help you trust one
another too.
o Lastly, if you have a soulmate or think you have found a soulmate, I encourage you to let
go of your indiscretions if you have any, let go of any easy lays or quick humps that are
lingering on your cell phone waiting for a text or phone call or down the hall or next
door to you, let go of the things you have done in the past or are doing so you can
create something new and lasting and meaningful with your soulmate, give up your bad
boy ways or bad girl ways so you two can be safe and cling to each other without
interference or secret “jobs” on the side that the other doesn’t know about. Let go of
your addictions to drug, porn, sex, drugs, alcohol or anything else unhealthy so you can
trust each other and trust yourself to build something healthy and clean with someone
who is healthy and clean. Make sure you are working on your maturity and spiritual
growth and working on goals for your life and future so you have something to offer
your soulmate when they come into your life. Do your best to let go of your hang-ups
and baggage, old relationships, so-called friends that don’t serve you nor have your best
interest at hand (even if it’s your sibling, if they aim to harm and exhibit signs of jealousy
cut them loose and let them know you want a better sibling than they have been
behaving as and hopefully they will show you a different side so they can keep you

7. close). Let go of the need to please everyone, the need to get tons of attention, the
need to be superficial and look perfect or be perfect, let go of harming others or doing
dirty deeds behind closed doors or excessive greed or dealings with darkness like black
magic or mind control. These things will only put you and your soulmate in danger and
the soulmate thing will go out the window quick because God is the soulmate bearer
and God hands out the soulmates and God is not of darkness, God is of the light so you
will not receive what you refuse to give so stay in the light so God, your soulmate giver
will show you what you need to know and bless you with spiritual gifts that make you
look good and feel good.
 My fellow soulmatees, go out there and be brave in your pursuit to win your soulmates heart
over. Do the work that it takes to get them to want you back so you get what you want. Don’t be
lazy, don’t let fear get in your way and don’t let insecurities and hang-ups freeze you into silence
and inaction. Don’t tell your soulmate you love them and you refuse to show it with your
actions. Take the lead men, women love this, let them know they are worth your pursuit and
then let them go so they will want to come back to you. Hostage holding and barking orders will
not produce love so let each other go and trust that each of you will come back clean, free of
infidelity and dirty side deeds so your collision will not be painful. Ever. Take each other out,
wine and dine each other, get to know something different that you don’t normally do, play,
have fun and ignore naysayers because they don’t feel what you feel and they don’t have what
you have so how do they know what you need? They don’t. Ignore them. They are jealous. Go.
Now. Just do it. Lol!