1. Sexuality Chapter 12 Desiree Cunningham

3. Sexual desires often reflect influences, sexual acts may feel affirming or degrading

4. Within childhood years, the body acts as a sense of home

6. Stereotypes about sexuality have arisen through racism, white dominance, etc.

7. Lesbians for example are stereotyped as ugly, masculine and assertive

8. The term “slut” is used commonly as a negative connotation of a female sexual being

10. Violent sexual experiences shape future sexuality in many cases

11. Sex should never be used as a form of dominance in any relationshipMen in a sense are more powerful in society, a fact that can surface through sex “Power dynamics” if employed correctly can develop respectful satisfying relationships for both partners

13. Any action or thought can spark sexual excitement or criticism

14. Sexual pleasure is a universal human right, whether any religious preference or spirituality a person may be

15. Restrictions on sex life through religious methods can leave negative impressions on sexuality

16. Suppression of sex can cause guilt in some cases, and in others form a new desire for change

18. Society portrays men as sexually dominant and women as passive

19. “Discrepancy” in desires among relationships can cause tension in couples

20. We must change how desire is defined, urging for new intimacy and new sexual desires

21. Media outlets portray desire narrowly

22. Desire is not a medical issue and should not be looked at through a medicinal perspective

25. Believed sex was “Three dancing spheres of energy”Pleasure Orgasm Ecstasy

27. Many different parts of the vagina can spark orgasm, and every body is different

28. The most common stimulation for orgasm is clitoral

29. Sexual tension will subside if an orgasm is not reached, however the body of both male and female may ache

30. Orgasms can occur once or multiple times

31. Not all people orgasm, understanding and exploring your body can aid in reaching orgasm

32. Factors like sexual, physical and emotional abuse can effect*Note: There are multiple resources available to learn how to achieve orgasms

34. Ejaculation, similar to male ejaculation, is caused by stimulation and results in releasing fluid

35. Ejaculation can occur with or without having an orgasm

37. Masturbation allows both men and women to be less dependent on partners

38. Masturbation is healthy and can even help keep vaginal tissue moist during menopause

39. If you have a negative connotation of masturbation, this can change over time

40. If trying masturbation, a person should seek a place that is comfortable and uninterrupted

42. Medications and hormones can cause inability to orgasm

43. Estrogen, Progesterone and Testosterone (all in women) effect desires

44. If there are problems resulting from medications or birth controls, seek a changeMany different things can effect hormones Menstrual cycles Birth control Pregnancy Nursing children Menopause Adrenal and Ovary removal

46. Societal pressures are placed on women to remain virgins

47. It is important to think about the decision of engaging in sexual activity

49. Often influenced by religious beliefs

51. Can be pleasurable but more multi-faceted because of another person

53. May only offer indirect clitoral stimulation

56. Vagina should be wet with fluids from the vagina or lubricant

58. Should also be lubricated

59. Vaseline and oils can wreck condoms and diaphragms

62. Accepting partner’s fantasies can be difficult

64. Very sensitive area and lubricant can aid

65. Should be gentle, go slow, and listen to your partner

66. Dangerous for transmitting sexual diseases

68. Helps if you feel good about yourself and your partner

70. Positive experiences with trusted partners can change negative sexual experiences

71. Disabilities often are misunderstood, knowledge can provide aid in helping your partner understand

72. Small inconveniences can be monumental barriers in relationships

73. It is often hard for a person with a disability to decide how much to disclose about their disability at one time

74. Communication helps in all aspects of a disability