Here are a few thoughts on this topic: - Masturbation is a natural part of human sexuality and development. However, many religious and cultural traditions have stigmatized it as shameful or sinful. This stigma contributes to its taboo status. - Open discussion of masturbation could help reduce shame and stigma. Knowing one's own body and what brings pleasure is important for sexual health and satisfaction. However, topics of human sexuality can make some people uncomfortable. - If presented and discussed appropriately for different age groups, education about masturbation could help youth make informed decisions about their sexuality. It may reduce risks compared to other behaviors. However, determining appropriate approaches is complex with different cultural and family values. -

2.  Sexual Response researchers William
Masters and Virginia Johnson researched
and reported the Human Sexual Response
(1966) This model outlined the 4 stages of
physiological arousal: excitement, plateau,
orgasm, resolution.
 Excitement: 1st stage, genitals swell with
blood, nerves become sensitive. The vagina
becomes “wet”, lubricated with a fluid
known as transudate, a sign of arousal.
Breathe quickens, nipples may harden and
the skin may become flushed.

3.  Plateau- Responses may become more intense. The
clitoris glands retract under the hood.
 Orgasm- With stimulation of the clitoris or pressure on
the cervix and for some the G-Spot, a rise to a peak
or orgasm will occur. All tension releases with a series
of pleasurable muscular spasms.
 Resolution- When stimulation is over and one has
reached orgasm the Resolution stage begins. After
an orgasm, all muscles release and return to normal.
 4 Stages model is still used today by US mental health
professionals. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual
of Mental Disorders (DSM) base definitions of sexual
disorders off of Masters and Johnson’s model.

4.  What is an Orgasm? Orgasm’s differ for
everyone. For some it can be
subtle, mind blowing, body shaking
intense.
 Orgasms can differ depending on
partner, self stimulation, menstrual
cycle, how you feel emotionally/
physically.
 Some women orgasms through clitoral
stimulation, some through penetration

5.  The clitoris, also knows as the “joy button” is an
elaborate network of erectile tissue, glands and nerves.
Many forms of rubbing, touching or pressure can move
the clitoris and ignite excitement.
 Did I miss it?!- At times it is hard to tell if you have had
an orgasm. If a woman becomes aroused with out
enough stimulation to climax, the genitals / uterus may
ache. This is similar to the term “blue balls” used for men.
 Some woman orgasm once, if their lucky multiple
times. The pressure to orgasm during a sexual act can
put a strain on a person and therefore making it harder
for them to reach climax.

6.  Dr. Ernest Grafenberg was the first doctor in 1950 to
describe what the area of intense pleasure inside a
women's vagina 1/3 to ½ up the front wall. They
named it the G Spot in his honor.
 To find the G Spot using your finger, insert 2-3 inches
inside towards abdomen, feel for a rough texture or
ridges. You can stimulate the spot by using the
“come here” motion with fingers.
 After stimulation of the G Spot or clitoris, some
woman can ejaculate, also know as squirting or
spraying. Researchers are not quite sure what makes
up the liquid.

7.  The act of touching yourself sexually.
“Masturbation enables us to explore and
experiment with our own bodies and
learn what kinds of touch feels good.”
 Schools, parents, religious institutions and
culture has made masturbation a
shameful or a bad thing.
 By learning how to please yourself you
know what you like and are likely to be
satisfied and orgasm more easily.

8.  Talking about sex and what you like/don’t
like can be embarrassing and intimidating.
 Communicating to your partner about
what does/ doesn’t feel good, what you’re
willing to do and not do will only help to
reach orgasm.
 Make sure your body language and verbal
language are saying the same thing. If you
do not feel comfortable doing something
make sure you say no and not continue.
 Communication is the key to a healthy and
satisfying sex life!

9.  Sex with a partner doesn’t always mean
penetration. “Fore play” is knows as the
“build up” to the main event,
intercourse.
 Some women might be in the mood for
something else, oral sex, anal sex, mutual
masturbation. It’s important to listen to
your partner and their needs.

10.  Some women love vaginal penetration. For
others it can be un-pleasurable even painful. If
you chose to have vaginal penetration make
sure you are sexually excited, relaxed and
wet/using a lubricant. Some women may ne
ready for sex right away with out needing fore
play, for others it’s a must.
 Anal Stimulation can be highly sexual for some
people. The anus is not as flexible as the
vagina, so you must go slow, and gently. Using
lubricant is a must and also protection. The
anus can cause serious vaginal infections and
you are also at risk of HIV.

11.  Cunnilingus (Female) slang: going
down, eating out)
 Fellatio (Male) slang: blow job, giving head)
 The act of sucking, licking a partners
genitals
 Like with any type of sexual act both parties
must be aware of the others comfort level
and needs.
 Some women don’t especially like receiving
oral but don’t mind giving, same goes for
men. To some it can be a turn on giving oral
sex.

12.  Many researchers of sex claim that the
brain is the most important organ of sexual
pleasure.
 Most people have fantasies, images,
scenarios or stories that play out in the
mind. These thoughts and images can have
a very physical response.
 Fantasies are different for everyone. Some
people enjoy role playing, dressing up, and
bondage (being tied up or to something)

13.  Erotica/ Porn are enjoyed by both men and
women. Some watch it in privacy and some
watch it with a partner.
 There are many opinions on porn. Some
feminists say it is degrading and exploits
women.
 There are many kinds of porn from fetish
porn, lesbian/ gay porn, interracial porn,
hard core and soft porn and many more.
 It all comes down to what you like and
what turns you on.

14.  Sadomasochism (S/M) and Bondage and Discipline
(B&D) are playing out ones fantasy of dominance
and submission.
 S/M and B&D is not for everyone. Those who enjoy
being tied up of submissive find a sense of relief or
pleasure in being able to relinquish control.
 Some people think that S/M and B&D is taboo or
deviant. When in reality its all about consent and
trust.
 Like any sexual act make sure that its something that
both parties are comfortable with and you do not
cross the lines drawn in what one is or is not
comfortable with.

15.  Many factors affect how much lubrication a women
generates. If she is breast
feeding, peri/postmenopause, medication ( birth
control, ADHD, Chemotherapy) or if you are dehydrated.
 There is a wide variety of lubricants available either in a
store near you or online.
 Water based lube with Glycerin, Water based lube w/o
glycerin, silicone lubricant, Natural Oil based lubricant (
veggie, peanut, olive, Crisco type house hold oil. Not to
be used with latex condoms.)
 Mineral Oils, Vaseline, body lotions can be used externally
(destroys latex condoms)
 Sex Toys can be fun and enjoyed solo or with a partner.
They can be bought at a sex toy shop or online.

16. In 1994, Joycelyn Elders was at a United Nations
conference, and was asked “ whether
masturbation should be promoted as a means
of preventing young people from engaging in
riskier forms of sexual activity?” She said “ I think
that it is part of human sexuality. And perhaps it
should be taught.” She soon after, she lost her
job.
Why do you think masturbation is such a taboo
topic and seen as “bad”? Should masturbation
be talked about more openly?