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RELIGIOUS
COMMUNITY LIFE

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History Of Religious Communities

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A Community is a place wherepeople come
together to share commoninterests and
resources.
The origin of “community” is from the Latin word …
"The word "community" is derived from the Old French communité
which is derived from the Latin communitas (cum, "with/together" +
munus, "gift"), a broad term for fellowship or organized society."
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community)
"Community: The origin of the word "community" comes
from the Latin munus, which means the gift, and cum, which
means together, among each other. So community literally
means to give among each other."
What is community-

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A community is not
“MyCommunity”.
It is “Our

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is a social unit of any size
that shares common
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It is a group of people whoareconnected by
durable/strongrelationsthat extend beyond
immediategenealogicalties, andwho usually
define that relationshipas important to their social
identity and practice.
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Different communities fulfil different
needs:• The spiritualcommunity
• The familycommunity
• The living community/ReligiousCom.
• The recreationalcommunity
• The learningcommunity
• The employment community
• The health community
• The internet community

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Christian Religious Communities
• Began a few centuries after the Resurrection of
Jesus – desert to pray, meditate on the word of
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• Each group is unique and has a unique charism –
ministry and a unique rule of life on how to live out that
charism Acts 2: 38-
42

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History

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First Monastic Communities
 Basil of Caesarea
established communities
for both men and, working
with his sister Macrina,
women
 The Rule Basil wrote for
his communities would
become the basis for
Orthodox monasticism

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St. Benedict
 Benedict of Nursia
established a religious
community at Monte
Cassino, Italy
 The Rule he (The
Benedictine Rule) wrote for
the monks there would
become the basis for
monastic life in the Catholic
Church
 The order he founded still
flourishes in the Church
today

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• First built in the 7th century; it has been rebuilt several times.
The most recent was in the late 20th century after its almost
complete destruction during World War II.
Benedict’s Abbey at Monte Cassino

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• Today there are two types of religious
communities:
– Contemplative – live and work in their
monasteries and convents
– Active – live in community, but work “in the
world”

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Characteristics:
• All membersof religiouscommunitiestakethe
three vowsofpoverty, chastity and
obedience
• Allcommunities haveaspecific “habit” –
• something in their clothing that identifiesthem
as belonging tothat particularcommunity

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Traditional Benedictine nun

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Active Communities
• Work “in the world”
• Often may work at any job that does not
contradict Church teaching and beliefs, but most
work for the Church.
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• Attend Mass daily; pray a modified form of the
Liturgy of the Hours
• Live in community

24. The aspects ( characteristic)
of “Community Life”
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“BuildingaHealthyCommunity” –
Need Five most important and crucial moments…
where the community comes together to share and
grow in one direction.
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25. Five most important and
crucial (necessary) moments
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ThefivemomentsasmentionedbyBrotherDonald
are surely present andvery important; the
community in generalcomestogether, and,so to
say, comingtogether “- provide opportunity to
listen to others,
-Share one’sown thoughts,
-Review and evaluate experiences;
-Think and plan together”.

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no lovewill last
without equalamounts ofrespectand trust.
Accept and celebrate
differencesSo accepting andcelebratingthatwe are
all differentis a great startingpoint.

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Develop empathy:
There is a great expressionthat I learneda long
time ago: “Peoplewillforgetwhatyousaid,
peoplewillforgetwhatyoudid,butpeoplewill
neverforgethowyoumadethemfeel.”
Community Bonds

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Positive and
supportive relationshipswillhelp us to feel
healthier, happier, andmore satisfiedwith our
lives.
Communicationoccurs
when someone understandsyou, notjustwhen you
speak.
Community Bonds

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-Assertive communicationis an effective
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Assertiveness is a key skillin maintaininghealthy
relationships.
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Four DifferentStyles…
Generally speaking, communication can be characterized
by four different styles.
1. Passive communication: (without active response)
2. Aggressive Communication: (attac kor confront)
3. Passive-Aggressive Communication
4. Assertive Communication: (showing confident forceful
personality)

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 Not standing(position/status)up for your rights;
 Not setting limitsor boundaries on another’s
behavior
 Continually putting others needs before your
own
Takingon the roleof “martyr”
 Not being able to say “no”
Passive/Reactive/Submissive/Unreceptive/unthinking/i
1. Passive communication:

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2. Aggressive Communication
 Bullying(irritation) and threatening others to get what
you want
 Threatening people
Ignoring(pay no attention) to needs and rights
of others
Shouting, yelling (roar), screaming(loud )or physically
abusing others
EX. You’re completely selfish and a bad example to your son.

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3. Passive-Aggressive Communication
 Indirectly communicating – Ex. saying something that is
designed/ planned for the other person to hear without
saying it to them directly
 Withdrawing love and affection
Using sarcasm/put downs
Using humor to be nasty or hurtful

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Being direct and honest
Being able to negotiate – having a sense of
give and take
 Asking for your own needs to be met, while
respecting needs of others
 Being able to say “no” and set limits
 Being able to acknowledge when you are in
the wrong

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When you are assertive
 Others will feel comfortable, know
where you stand & respect you for your
honesty...

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Active or
reflective listening is the single most useful and important
listening skill. In active listening, we also are genuinely
interested in understanding what the other person is thinking,
feeling, wanting, or what the message means.
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Active or reflective listeningis the singlemost usefuland
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Community Bonds

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HEALTHY COMMUNITY
BUILDING

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Healthy Community Building
By Definition -
Community building is a planned effort
made in order to improve communications
and working relationships…
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 Know the individuals
 skills and abilities
 strengths, weaknesses, blind spots
 Know what the team needs to do
Increases creativity, Increases brainstorming
Increases resources, Increases efficiency
Increasestalents andabilities
 Condition the team for the work
 coach individuals and the team monitor
team conditions
 nurture the team
How To Build a team or
Healthy Community …

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COMMUNITY BUILDING

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Clear
Objectives
Sound
Procedures/
masures
Good
Communication Openness
Support and
Trust
Appropriate
Leadership
Individual
Development
Cooperation
and Conflict
Balanced
Roles/task
Regular
Review
Building Blocks/bone/element to
Successful Community

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Top 9 Tools
for Constructive Community Building
 Collaboration
 Patience
 Flexibility
 Assertiveness/boldness
 Creativity
 Commitment
 Honesty
 Appreciation

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What to Look For…
 Essential Elements of Community Building
 Listening
 Questioning
 Persuading (make somebody believe you)
 Respecting
 Helping
 Sharing
 Participating

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BE A GOOD
person
TO BECOME A
BETTER religious

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The End

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