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The document discusses whether it is difficult to remain friends with an ex after a breakup. An author and relationship coach, Susan Elliott, states that it is extremely difficult to be friends with an ex immediately after a breakup, though it may be possible later. A survey of 100 participants found that 65% of those who had a previous relationship lasting less than a year, and the conclusion indicates that couples who break up generally cannot remain friends.
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- 2. IS IT DIFFICULT TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX?
- 3. 48% - remained friends with their ex 18% - did not remain friends with their ex
- 4. Susan Jean Elliott (born November 19, 1956) AN AMERICAN AUTHOR, RELATIONSHIP COACH, AND A LAWYER FROM NEW YORK CITY. STATES THAT EVEN AFTER AN AMICABLE BREAKUP, IT IS EXTREMELY DIFFICULT TO BE FRIENDS, AT LEAST „INITIALLY‟.
- 5. GETTING PAST YOUR BREAKUP: HOW TO TURN A DEVASTATING LOSS INTO THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU
- 6. “MOST PEOPLE CANNOT REMAIN FRIENDS AFTER A BREAKUP, BUT IF IT WILL EVER BE, IT WILL BE LATER ... MUCH LATER. THE ATMOSPHERE IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING A BREAKUP IS TOO EMOTIONALLY CHARGED FOR IT TO HAPPEN RIGHT AWAY, IF AT ALL.” (ELLIOTT, 2012, PARA. 2 )
- 7. WHICH STATEMENT IS CORRECT? Difficult to be friends? Not Difficult to be friends?
- 8. „COUPLES THAT BREAK UP WILL STILL REMAIN AS FRIENDS‟.
- 12. THE TOTAL NO. OF PARTICIPANTS (SEPERATED BY GENDER) 45 40 35 30 25 Male 20 Female 15 10 5 0 <18 18-25 26-35 >36 Male Female Age <18 12 10 18-25 32 41 26-35 >36 0 2 0 3 Gender
- 13. TOTAL NO. OF PARTICIPANTS THAT HAD A RELATIONSHIP BEFORE 30 25 20 Male 15 Female 10 5 0 Yes No Gender Male Female Had a relationship before? Yes 17 27 No 29 27
- 14. IN THOSE 44 PARTICIPANTS WHO HAD A RELATIONSHIP BEFORE, IT LASTED:Gender Male Female Relationship lasted for <1 year 11 18 1-2 years 5 3 2-3 years 0 3 3-4 years 0 3 >4years 1 0
- 15. IF YOU HAVE AN EX (IF YOU DON‟T, IMAGINE YOU HAVE ONE), YOU WOULD: The questinos
- 16. Q.1 SAYS „HI‟ WHEN YOU MEET HE/SHE/THEM.
- 17. Q.1 Male not sure 26% strongly disagree 7% disagree 13% agree 28% strongly agree 26% SAYS „HI‟ WHEN YOU MEET HE/SHE/THE
- 18. SAYS „HI‟ WHEN YOU MEET HE/SHE/THE
- 19. Q.2 STILL THINK OF HE/SHE/THEM AS FRIEND.
- 20. Q.2 Male not sure 26% disagree 9% strongly agree 28% strongly agree 26% disagree 11% STILL THINK OF HE/SHE/THEM AS FRIE
- 21. Female not sure 17% disagree 26% strongly disagree 9% agree 39% strongly agree 9% STILL THINK OF HE/SHE/THEM AS FRIE
- 22. Q.3 CONTINUES CHATTING LIKE FRIENDS.
- 23. Q.3 Male not sure 26% disagree 19% strongly disagree 11% agree 33% strongly agree 11% CONTINUES CHATTING LIKE FRIEND
- 24. Female not sure 33% disagree 17% strongly disagree 22% agree 20% strongly agree 8% CONTINUES CHATTING LIKE FRIENDS
- 25. Q.4 WISHES THEM ON SPECIAL EVENTS (EG. BIRTHDAY, CHRISTMAS).
- 26. Q.4 Male not sure 11% disagree 9% strongly disagree 15% agree 39% strongly agree 26% WISHES THEM ON SPECIAL EVENTS (E BIRTHDAY, CHRISTMAS).
- 27. Female disagree 13% strongly disagree 20% not sure 28% agree 26% strongly agree 13% WISHES THEM ON SPECIAL EVENTS (E BIRTHDAY, CHRISTMAS).
- 28. VOLUNTARY OFFERS HELP WHEN Q.5 HE/SHE/THEY ARE IN TROUBLE.)
- 29. Q.5 Male agree 22% not sure 26% disagree 11% strongly agree 41% strongly disagree 0% VOLUNTARY OFFERS HELP WHEN HE/SHE/THEY ARE IN TROUBLE.)
- 30. Female not sure 44% disagree 13% strongly disagree 6% agree 31% strongly agree 6% VOLUNTARY OFFERS HELP WHEN HE/SHE/THEY ARE IN TROUBLE.)
- 31. Q.6 CONTINUES TO HANG OUT WITH THEM.
- 32. Q.6 Male disagree 26% not sure 33% agree 17% strongly disagree 15% strongly agree 9% CONTINUES TO HANG OUT WITH THEM
- 33. Female disagree 20% strongly agree 6% strongly disagree 31% not sure 30% agree 13% CONTINUES TO HANG OUT WITH THEM
- 34. WILL MENTION THEM IN FRONT OF YOUR Q.7 FRIENDS.
- 35. Q.7 Male disagree 17% strongly disagree 31% strongly agree 9% not sure 41% agree 2% WILL MENTION THEM IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.
- 36. Female disagree 17% strongly disagree 18% strongly agree 4% not sure 46% agree 15% WILL MENTION THEM IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.
- 37. Q.8 KEEPS THINKING ABOUT THEM.
- 38. Q.8 Male not sure 33% disagree 22% agree 17% strongly disagree 17% strongly agree 11% KEEPS THINKING ABOUT THEM.
- 39. Female disagree 35% strongly agree 2% strongly disagree 30% not sure 20% agree 13% KEEPS THINKING ABOUT THEM.
- 40. Q.9 Hopes to get back into a relationship with him/her.
- 41. Q.9 Male disagree 13% strongly disagree 19% not sure 48% agree 9% strongly agree 11% Hopes to get back into a relationship with him/her
- 42. Female disagree 24% strongly disagree 39% strongly agree 6% not sure 31% agree 0% Hopes to get back into a relationship with him/her
- 43. Q.10 Not date another person.
- 44. Q.10 Male disagree 20% strongly disagree 46% strongly agree 6% not sure 24% agree 4% Not date another person.
- 45. Female strongly disagree 48% disagree 28% not sure 17% strongly agree 2% agree 5% Not date another person.
- 46. CONCLUSION Out of 100 participants, 44 of them broke up before and 65% of those who broke up, their relationship lasted less than a year.
- 47. CONLUSION: COUPLES THAT BREAK UP CANNOT REMAIN AS FRIENDS
- 48. REFERENCE McLeod, S. A. (2011), Psychology Research Report, Retrieved from http://www.simplypsychology.org/researchreport.html The Lifescript Editorial Staff ( 2007, November 09 ) , Should You Be Friends with Your Ex? Retrieved from http://www.lifescript.com/life/relationships/wreckag e/should_you_be_friends_with_your_ex.aspx Elliott, S. ( 2012, May 15 ), Friends With Ex: Should You Be Friends With Your Ex Post-Split? Retrieved from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/15/friends-
- 49. THANK YOU FOR LISTENING~ A ROUND OF APPLAUSE IS APPRECIATED ;)
Editor's Notes
- Before we start our presentation, we would like to express our sincere gratitude to Miss Pang Chia Yee, our social psychology lecturer for guiding us and giving us some useful tips for this study and also for teaching us about social psychology which has helped us to complete this project more efficiently. We would like to thank all the participants involved in this study for providing us with the required information for this project, excusing us of our intrusion and also for taking the time to fill up the questionnaires. Lastly, we would like to thank our group members who have given their cooperation and participation and have set apart time to contribute to this report in the midst of their busy schedule.
- Optional<Brief explanation on how difficult can it being friends after breaking up>Not how it used to be?blablalbalba
- According to a 2004 NBC.com poll, 48% of people surveyed said they remained friends with their ex. And 18% of those surveyed said that they have tried (to be friends), but it did not work.
- (The Lifescript Editorial Staff, 2007) However, on the other hand, Susan Jean Elliott (born November 19, 1956) is an American author, media commentator, and lawyer[1] from New York City,, states that even after an amicable breakup, it’s extremely difficult to be friends, at least initially.Now what does she mean by extremely difficult to be friends, ‘initially’
- Now first things first, let’s talk about Susan Jean Elliott, she got divorced, and she’s was working at the same place where her husband is during that time, do you see how difficult that situation is? She’s with him at the same office for the past 2 years and now is having difficult functioning and also being friends with him.She wrote the book, Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss Into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You.*show picture*
- This is one of the things that she wrote“Most people cannot remain friends after a breakup, but if it will ever be, it will be later ... much later. The atmosphere immediately following a breakup is too emotionally charged for it to happen right away, if at all.” (Elliott, 2012, para. 2 )This is the statement in which she believes that it is difficult to be friends with your ex
- So which statement is correct?in order to investigate, we conducted a survey. The aim of this survey is to identify whether couples that break up can still remain as friends or not. The hypothesis is
- METHODSParticipants:We randomly selected 100 persons that comprises of random strangers, friends and family members both around campus and our respective homes and hang-out spots.
- Procedure:We constructed a survey questionnaire of around 10 questions excluding personal details such as age, gender and whether the participant had an ex before. Participants were approached and asked if they can help us to complete our survey questionnaire for social psychology assignment. Upon completion of the questionnaire, we retrieved it and replied with a simple thanks. We repeated this steps until we obtained our desired amount of information which is 100 surveys. Then we analyzed the data and wrote a report containing our findings.
- We will not do anything that would make the participant feel uncomfortableEthnic considerations 1,Surveys will be conducted by voluntary participants only.2.Even the experiment had started, participants are allow to stop the survey if they wanted to. 3.The filled survey forms will not be exposed except for the experiment conducting team.
- A. From this question we found that more males (25 out of 46) would say ‘hi’ to their ex than compared to females (20 out of 54). On average, males agree to this statement while females are not sure.
- B. From this question we found that more males (25 out of 46) would still think of their ex as friends than compared to females (26 out of 54). On average, males agree to this statement whereas females are not sure.
- C. From this question we found that more males (20 out of 46) would continue chatting with their ex than compared to females (15 out of 54). On average, both males and females are not sure about this statement.
- D. From this question we found that more males (30 out of 46) would wish their ex on special events than compared to females (21 out of 54). On average, males agree to this statement while females are not sure.
- E. From this question we found that more males (29 out of 46) would voluntarily offer help to their ex than compared to females (20 out of 54). On average, males agree to this statement whereas females are not sure.
- F. From this question we found that more males (12 out of 46) would continue to hang out with their ex than compared to females (10 out of 54). On average, males are not sure about this statement while females disagree with it.
- G. From this question we found that more females (10 out of 54) would mention their ex in front of their friends than compared to males (5 out of 46). On average, both males and females are not sure about this statement.
- H. From this question we found that more males (13 out of 46) would keep thinking about their ex than compared to females (8 out of 54). On average, males are not sure about this statement while females disagree with it.
- I. From this question we found that more males (9 out of 46) would hope to get back into a relationship with their ex than compared to females (3 out of 54). On average, males are not sure about this statement while females disagree with it.
- J. From this question we found that more males (5 out of 46) would not date another person than compared to females (4 out of 54). On average, both males and females disagree with this statement.
- Based on the survey we carried out, the female participants are slightly more than the amount of male participants which majority of them are aged from18-25 years old. Out of 100 participants, 44 of them broke up before and 65% of those who broke up, their relationship lasted less than a year.
- All in all, we can see that males tend to agree more to this survey whereas females tend to disagree more. In total average, males have 4 ‘agree’s, 5 ‘not sure’s and 1 ‘disagree’ whereas females have 6 ‘not sure’s and 4 ‘disagree’s. Since we have obtained slightly more disagrees than we have agree, we have to conclude that couples that break up cannot remain as friends. The hypothesis is not accepted.