"Polygyny enables the society to
                        - reduce social crisis,
                        - prevent the mistress problem
                        - cure the society from illegitimate children.“
    Suleha Alamgir
 (GR101 presentation)
                              Gustav Le Bon (French psychologist)
Arab Open University
                                                Arabic Civilization
   Kuwait Branch
   To present to you the concept of polygyny

   To inform you why one should support those
    engaged in it and avoid opposing them

   To state why polygyny, when practiced by
    properly applying the rules, is good for the
    society as a whole


These points will be majorly presented through facts,
         statistics and clinical researches
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POLYGAMY
                The practice or custom of
                 having more than one
                spouse at the same time




     POLYGYNY                        POLYANDRY
The practice or custom of       The practice or custom of
having more than one wife         having more than one
     at the same time           husband at the same time



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   “Marry of the women that please you: 2, 3 or 4.
    But if you feel that you shall not be able to deal
    justly, then (marry) only one or what your right
    hand possesses. That would be more suitable to
    prevent you from doing injustice.”
                                                                    (Quran 4: 3)

To deal justly:
   “to be able to divide his time and wealth in an equitable
    fashion (before he is allowed to have more than one wife)”
   “nor should a husband having more than one wife make his
    inclination (to one wife) so obvious as to kindle jealousy and
    ill-feeling which may lead to constant hostility among the
    wives”
        Polygamy in Islam (Dr. Bilal Philips & Dr. Jameela Jones – IIPH) pg. 44 & pg. 60
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“Men must have a greater instinctual sexual drive
   and a natural desire to have more than one wife.

    The first of the two facts is borne out by scientific studies
    conducted by Dr. Masters and Dr. Johnson. It has clearly
  been established through their clinical researches that men
     in general are much more easily aroused sexually than
                               women.

   The second fact is obvious from the high frequency of extra-
  marital sex among western males as opposed to females and
  the historical existence of institutionalized polygyny in human
    society at all stages of recorded human history and in all
    present day „primitive societies‟ which have been studied,
                     with very few exceptions.”
Polygamy in Islam (Dr. Bilal Philps & Dr. Jamila Jones - IIPH) Pg. 48
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 Grants Legal and social status
 Financial security
 Protection and dignity
 Physical and emotional fulfillment
 Children and family life
 Provision in illness and old age




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 Her children are protected against
 illegitimacy, single parenthood, and financial
 deprivation.

 Polygyny also provides for her after the death
 of the husband

 Men hide behind „monogamy‟ and have extra
 marital affairs

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 A woman has the right to deny polygyny in her
 marriage contract

 Thehusband cannot force polygyny on her –
 she has the right to divorce if she believes
 she is unable to bear a polygynous marriage




                                         8
 It
   prevents the spread of diseases like AIDS
  and Herpes
 Because in almost all countries, there are
  more females than males




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   After the WW II, - 7.3 million women more than
    men in Germany
                      Source: Wikipedia - Trümmerfrau

   Russia has about 8,000,000 more females than
    males
                      Source: Official Russian Census (2010) http://www.perepis-2010.ru/

   USA has about 4,800,000 more females than
    males
                      Source: Wikipedia – Demographics of USA

       New York City alone has about 1,500,000 more
        females than males
                      Source: Wikipedia – Demographics of NY City



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According to
        CIA World Factbook

 Country            Male / Female Ratio

   Ukraine                85 / 100
   Armenia                89 / 100
 Kazakhstan               92 / 100
   Croatia
                          93 / 100
     Italy
  Hong Kong
    Japan
 North Korea              94 / 100
   Poland
   Slovakia
Czech Republic
   Portugal               95 / 100
  Romania
                                     11
101 / 100 male / female (current population: 7 bn approx.)

         105 / 100 male/female (2001 population: 6 bn approx.)
( indexmundi.com/en/facts/2001/world/demographics_profile.html )   12
According to suicide.org:
 More males die from suicide than females.
 4 male deaths by suicide for each female
  death by suicide

According to
             gazette/1998/10.01/WhyWomenLiveLon.html
  news.harvard.edu/

 “Between ages 15 and 24 years, men are 4 to 5
  times more likely to die than women.”
 Most deaths … from vehicle accidents, homicide,
  suicide, cancer, and drowning.

                                             13
According to igfculturewatch.com/1999/11/30/more-gays-than-
 lesbians:




 “The studies have varying degrees of reliability
  … But they seem to converge on a finding that
  there about twice as many gay men as lesbians,
  no matter what measures are used.”

                IGF – Independent Gay Forum



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 Men, by nature, are polygynous
 Polygyny protects the woman
 Women have the right to refuse a polygynous
  marriage
 Statistics prove that in most countries, there are
  more women than men
 Research proves that between ages 15 – 24, men
  are more 4 to 5 times like to die than women
 Various studies prove that there are nearly twice
  as many gays as lesbians


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Suppose you have a sister / aunt / daughter
  who is among the unmarried women, what
  would you suggest to her:
 Extra marital affairs
 Celibacy (no marital relation)
 Polygyny




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“Polygyny enables the society to
 reduce social crisis,
 prevent the mistress problem
 cure the society from illegitimate children.”




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Polygyny gr 101 presentation

  • 1.
    "Polygyny enables thesociety to - reduce social crisis, - prevent the mistress problem - cure the society from illegitimate children.“ Suleha Alamgir (GR101 presentation) Gustav Le Bon (French psychologist) Arab Open University Arabic Civilization Kuwait Branch
  • 2.
    To present to you the concept of polygyny  To inform you why one should support those engaged in it and avoid opposing them  To state why polygyny, when practiced by properly applying the rules, is good for the society as a whole These points will be majorly presented through facts, statistics and clinical researches 2
  • 3.
    POLYGAMY The practice or custom of having more than one spouse at the same time POLYGYNY POLYANDRY The practice or custom of The practice or custom of having more than one wife having more than one at the same time husband at the same time 3
  • 4.
    “Marry of the women that please you: 2, 3 or 4. But if you feel that you shall not be able to deal justly, then (marry) only one or what your right hand possesses. That would be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice.” (Quran 4: 3) To deal justly:  “to be able to divide his time and wealth in an equitable fashion (before he is allowed to have more than one wife)”  “nor should a husband having more than one wife make his inclination (to one wife) so obvious as to kindle jealousy and ill-feeling which may lead to constant hostility among the wives” Polygamy in Islam (Dr. Bilal Philips & Dr. Jameela Jones – IIPH) pg. 44 & pg. 60 4
  • 5.
    “Men must havea greater instinctual sexual drive and a natural desire to have more than one wife. The first of the two facts is borne out by scientific studies conducted by Dr. Masters and Dr. Johnson. It has clearly been established through their clinical researches that men in general are much more easily aroused sexually than women. The second fact is obvious from the high frequency of extra- marital sex among western males as opposed to females and the historical existence of institutionalized polygyny in human society at all stages of recorded human history and in all present day „primitive societies‟ which have been studied, with very few exceptions.” Polygamy in Islam (Dr. Bilal Philps & Dr. Jamila Jones - IIPH) Pg. 48 5
  • 6.
     Grants Legaland social status  Financial security  Protection and dignity  Physical and emotional fulfillment  Children and family life  Provision in illness and old age 6
  • 7.
     Her childrenare protected against illegitimacy, single parenthood, and financial deprivation.  Polygyny also provides for her after the death of the husband  Men hide behind „monogamy‟ and have extra marital affairs 7
  • 8.
     A womanhas the right to deny polygyny in her marriage contract  Thehusband cannot force polygyny on her – she has the right to divorce if she believes she is unable to bear a polygynous marriage 8
  • 9.
     It prevents the spread of diseases like AIDS and Herpes  Because in almost all countries, there are more females than males 9
  • 10.
    After the WW II, - 7.3 million women more than men in Germany  Source: Wikipedia - Trümmerfrau  Russia has about 8,000,000 more females than males  Source: Official Russian Census (2010) http://www.perepis-2010.ru/  USA has about 4,800,000 more females than males  Source: Wikipedia – Demographics of USA  New York City alone has about 1,500,000 more females than males  Source: Wikipedia – Demographics of NY City 10
  • 11.
    According to CIA World Factbook Country Male / Female Ratio Ukraine 85 / 100 Armenia 89 / 100 Kazakhstan 92 / 100 Croatia 93 / 100 Italy Hong Kong Japan North Korea 94 / 100 Poland Slovakia Czech Republic Portugal 95 / 100 Romania 11
  • 12.
    101 / 100male / female (current population: 7 bn approx.) 105 / 100 male/female (2001 population: 6 bn approx.) ( indexmundi.com/en/facts/2001/world/demographics_profile.html ) 12
  • 13.
    According to suicide.org: More males die from suicide than females.  4 male deaths by suicide for each female death by suicide According to gazette/1998/10.01/WhyWomenLiveLon.html news.harvard.edu/  “Between ages 15 and 24 years, men are 4 to 5 times more likely to die than women.”  Most deaths … from vehicle accidents, homicide, suicide, cancer, and drowning. 13
  • 14.
    According to igfculturewatch.com/1999/11/30/more-gays-than- lesbians:  “The studies have varying degrees of reliability … But they seem to converge on a finding that there about twice as many gay men as lesbians, no matter what measures are used.” IGF – Independent Gay Forum 14
  • 15.
     Men, bynature, are polygynous  Polygyny protects the woman  Women have the right to refuse a polygynous marriage  Statistics prove that in most countries, there are more women than men  Research proves that between ages 15 – 24, men are more 4 to 5 times like to die than women  Various studies prove that there are nearly twice as many gays as lesbians 15
  • 16.
    Suppose you havea sister / aunt / daughter who is among the unmarried women, what would you suggest to her:  Extra marital affairs  Celibacy (no marital relation)  Polygyny 16
  • 17.
    “Polygyny enables thesociety to  reduce social crisis,  prevent the mistress problem  cure the society from illegitimate children.” 17

Editor's Notes

  • #2 Title Slide 1 ************************************************************I first came across polygyny when I read this quote from Gustav Le Bon and I was like does this guy even know what he’s talking about --- he’s looking at polygyny like it’s a good thing – I grew up in a society where anyone who married twice was looked down upon (some were even rejected by their families)So I searched and searched and researched … and I reached a conclusion – that which I’ll try to prove through this presentation
  • #3 Slide 2What is polygamy?
  • #4 Slide 3First: What is polygamy Polygamy is further divided into : Polygyny and PolyandryAs is clear through the image, polygyny is : ….
  • #5 Now when we usually speak about Polygyny, we think of Islam – so let’s look at polygyny in Islam************************************************************(after explaining “to deal justly”) I read advice for men on a website “Men, be careful. Marry more than one woman at your expense – remember they love to shop” Imagine he spends 50 KD on one of his wife’s – he’ll have to spend 200 KD in total in one night – poor chap!!!
  • #6 Why does Islam support polygyny? One of the reasons is apparent through this quote
  • #7 ************************************************************Explanation last point) And please don’t say that there are no extra marital affairs – the numbers are shocking. According to infidelityfacts.com, some statistics of those who have been unfaithful are: US – 50%Britain – 48 % Germany / Mexico – 40%France – 38% Spain – 22% Men are the ones protected by monogamy while women continue to be victims of men's desires. (Easy birth control and easy legal abortion has opened the door of illicit sex to woman, and she has been lured into the so-called sexual revolution. But she is still the one who suffers the trauma of abortion and the side effects of the birth control methods.) Polygamy forces men to face up to responsibility and fidelity. It forces them to take responsibility for their polygamous inclinations and protects and provides for women and children.
  • #8 ************************************************************Explanation last point) And please don’t say that there are no extra marital affairs – the numbers are shocking. According to infidelityfacts.com, some statistics of those who have been unfaithful are: US – 50%Britain – 48 % Germany / Mexico – 40%France – 38% Spain – 22% Men are the ones protected by monogamy while women continue to be victims of men's desires. (Easy birth control and easy legal abortion has opened the door of illicit sex to woman, and she has been lured into the so-called sexual revolution. But she is still the one who suffers the trauma of abortion and the side effects of the birth control methods.) Polygamy forces men to face up to responsibility and fidelity. It forces them to take responsibility for their polygamous inclinations and protects and provides for women and children.
  • #13 ************************************************************If we compare the current ratio with the one from 10 years ago – we will notice a huge difference (we are talking in 100 millions here)It is not because more men are dying, this is because more women are living – decrease in female infanticide, decrease in death during childbirth, better healthcare, urbanization and many other factors contribute to the increase in female population. Also, please note that women live longer than men – women have stronger immune systems than men. Also, it has been established that more males die before reaching adulthood, many men die through suicide and due to wars as is evident from the next slide
  • #15 And to make matters worse, there are nearly twice as many gays than lesbians.************************************************************Which means that there are more females not involved in relationshipsthan males
  • #17 Celibacy - It may be possible in exceptional cases of one in ten thousand. In the vast majority, the person either gets married or performs illicit sex or indulges in other sexual perversions. Sex hormones are released in the adult body every day.************************************************************Only a minority will practice polygamy in Muslim society. In spite of polygamy being legal in Muslim countries, only 10-15% of Muslims in these countries practice polygamy. Although the majority of men would like to have more than one wife, they cannot afford the expense of maintaining more than one family. Even those who are financially capable of looking after additional families are often reluctant due to the psychological burdens of handling more than one wife.Islam does not promote nor force polygamy, it only allows it as it recognizes the problem instead of ignoring it.Polygamy in Islam is the most practical answer for the welfare of the widows and the orphans. Furthermore, it is the only honorable way for the unmarried women to have families of their own.