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OVERVIEW
The first word that usually comes to mind when people think of
“communi-
cation” is speaking. But speaking is only part of the process of
communicat-
ing, and while it is important, there is another part that is even
more
important: listening. When no one is listening, it doesn’t matter
how many
words you speak or how clearly those words are spoken. When
no one is
listening, it is impossible to communicate.
Real listening is not easy (if it were, there would be little
reason for this
course). Real listening takes effort and attention, so listening is
where we will
begin.
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Listening:
The Foundation
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Learning Objectives
When you complete this chapter, you should be
able to:
• Explain why listening skills are the founda-
tion of clear communication.
• Explain why hearing is not necessarily
listening.
• Identify obstacles to good listening.
• Define active listening, clarifying, and para-
phrasing.
• State key actions for improving listening
skills.
• Evaluate your listening skills at work.
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WHY DOES LISTENING MATTER?
On the morning of an important presentation, Allison woke with
a bad cold—
and hardly any voice. She called Brad, who had helped put the
presentation
together, and asked him to take over for her. She gave Brad the
time and lo-
cation for the presentation and said, “My slides are in a box on
the top of my
desk. Better go through them—they might be out of order.” She
also told
him to remember that the clients had said they limit the
presentation to a
maximum of 45 minutes, including the question-and-answer
session. “These
people want a chance to ask questions,” she said, “so be sure
you leave enough
time.”
While he was on the phone with Allison, Brad went through his
calen-
dar and made a list of appointments and meetings he would need
to change
or cancel. He also downloaded a copy of the proposal so he
could review it.
When Allison finished speaking, he said, “Don’t worry. Get
some rest and
let me take care of the presentation.”
After making his phone calls and reviewing the proposal, Brad
grabbed
the slides and hurried out of the building so he could get to the
clients’
offices on time. Unfortunately, he didn’t notice that the slides
were out of
order until he had already started the presentation, so he had to
stop for sev-
eral minutes to reorganize them. He still finished the slide show
within the
time limit, but there was no time left for questions.
When Allison returned to the office two days later, she learned
that the
client had awarded the contract to a competing firm.
Brad made two mistakes that might have contributed to the loss
of this
important contract. He failed to organize the slides before the
presentation,
and he didn’t leave time for questions. What happened? Why
did Brad make
such serious mistakes?
Brad did not pay enough attention when Allison explained what
he
needed to do. Instead of listening, he was going through his
calendar, think-
ing about the changes he had to make to his schedule for the day
and down-
loading the proposal from his computer.
When people don’t listen, they often miss important information
or mis-
understand what’s being said, which can lead to mistakes like
the ones Brad
made. Not listening also wastes energy and time. Why bother
speaking if the
person you are speaking to is not paying attention?
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Think About It . . .
Have you ever missed important information because you were
not listening carefully enough?
What was the result?
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WHAT IS GOOD LISTENING?
We always hear what someone says. But there is a big
difference between
“hearing” and “listening.” What do you think the difference is?
“Hearing” is physiological. Your ears register sounds of all
kinds—the
drone of an airplane flying overhead, music from the radio, a
child’s laugh,
the words someone speaks. But hearing someone’s words is only
the begin-
ning. It’s what you do when you hear the words that makes the
difference
between hearing and listening.
Hearing is a passive process. It just happens. In fact, although
you can
close your eyes to shut out visual images, you cannot close your
ears to shut
out sounds. Listening, however, is an active process that
requires energy and
engages your mind. When you listen, you pay attention,
interpret the words,
understand them, and, if appropriate, respond to them. Real
communication
happens when you not only hear but understand a speaker’s
message.
When you really listen, you do several things:
• Consciously focus on the speaker, ignoring external or internal
distractions
so you can pay attention to the words, tone of voice, and body
language.
• Interpret the message by actively engaging your mind to make
sense of
what the person is saying.
• Clarify when needed by asking questions to make sure you
understand what
the person means.
• Select what’s important by filtering out information that is not
relevant to
the topic or of interest to you.
• Respond to the message by letting the person know he or she
has been
heard and understood and by taking action if necessary.
To make sure you are really listening, not just hearing, you first
need to
recognize the obstacles that can make listening difficult.
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Hearing and Listening
The word listen comes from two Anglo-Saxon words: hylstan,
which means “to hear,” and hlosnian,
which means “to wait in suspense.” Hylstan describes a passive
activity, hearing, while hlosnian de-
scribes an action—waiting for something to happen. (Bolton,
Robert. People Skills. New York: Simon
and Schuster, 1979. p. 32.)
OBSTACLES TO GOOD LISTENING
In the story about Brad and Allison that began this chapter,
Brad missed key
information because he was distracted. Distractions, such as
thinking of other
things, are one kind of obstacle that make it hard to listen.
There are many
others that make it hard for all of us to listen.
Think of a time during the past few days when you found it
difficult to
listen to what someone was saying. What was going on? Why
did you have
trouble listening?
You might have had difficulty listening because of one of the
common
obstacles listed in Exhibit 2–1.
Noise
Sometimes listening is difficult simply because it is difficult to
hear. Perhaps
people are talking so loudly in a restaurant that you can hardly
hear your
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xhibit 2–1
Obstacles to Good Listening
Obstacles to good listening include:
• Noise
• Distractions
• Assumptions
• Rehearsing
• Impatience
• Lack of interest
• Distrust
• Differences in status, gender, and culture
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companion. A jackhammer outside the presentation room makes
it impossi-
ble to hear the speaker. Traffic noise keeps you from hearing
the person who
has called on your cell phone.
When you cannot control noise that prevents you from listening,
let the
other person know that you cannot hear what they are saying.
That way, the
person will not think you are listening when you are not.
Distractions
Like Brad, you will find it hard to listen when your attention is
on other
things, people keep interrupting the conversation, or something
interesting
is going on nearby. Just as you cannot keep yourself from
hearing noise, you
cannot stop yourself from becoming distracted—thoughts pop
into your
mind; people come into the room. What you can do is notice
when a dis-
traction is keeping you from listening. If possible, re-focus your
attention on
the speaker. If you are unable to overcome the distraction, say,
“I’m sorry.
I’m having trouble listening to you right now. I know that what
you have to
say is important—can we talk about it later?”
Assumptions
Imagine that while you are listening to the following
conversation, you are
suddenly able to hear what Carlos is thinking.
JULIANNA: Oh, hi, Carlos. I’m glad to see you. Could you
come into my office for
a minute? There’s something we need to talk about.
CARLOS: (Uh-oh, she wants to tell me that she hates the
proposal, after all the work I
did on it.) Uh...I’m kind of busy right now.”
JULIANNA: This won’t take long. By the way, I thought you
did a great job with the
proposal.
CARLOS: Thanks. (Now she’s going to say, “But I hate it. . .
.”)
JULIANNA: I know your schedule is pretty full this week. . . .
CARLOS: You can say that again. (“I don’t care what she says.
I’m not re-doing the
proposal.”)
JULIANNA: But. . .
CARLOS: Look, I did the best I could with that proposal, and if
you don’t like it,
maybe you should get someone else to do it over.
JULIANNA: (After a moment’s hesitation) I thought I said that
I liked the proposal.
In fact, you did such a good job, I was going to ask you to make
room
in your schedule to come with me to Seattle to present it to the
clients.
Carlos was embarrassed because he had jumped to the
conclusion that
Julianna hated the proposal. He wasn’t listening because he
assumed he knew
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what she was going to say. What could Carlos have done to
avoid embar-
rassing himself?
Carlos could have checked out his assumption that Julianna
hated the
proposal. When she said, “There’s something we need to talk
about,” he could
have said, “Did you want to talk about the proposal? What did
you think of
it?” Then Julianna could have told him right away that she
thought he had
done such a good job and she wanted him to come to Seattle
with her.
Think About It . . .
Can you recall a time when you assumed you knew what
someone was going to say, only to
find out that you were wrong? What was the result?
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Rehearsing
Sometimes people fail to listen because they are busy planning
what they’re
going to say next. But the response they are preparing is to what
they think
the person is saying, not to what the person actually says.
You cannot rehearse your response and listen at the same time.
So when
you catch yourself rehearsing, stop. Focus your attention on the
speaker, and
wait until the person has finished before you even think about
what you are
going to say.
Impatience
Impatience is a serious obstacle to listening. In what kinds of
situations do
you feel impatient while people are speaking?
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You might feel impatient when you want someone to finish what
they
are saying so you can get back to work or express your own
ideas. You might
also feel impatient when people repeat themselves or take too
long to get to
the point. Whatever the reason, you stop listening. You might
convey your
irritation nonverbally through your facial expression or body
language, or
you might interrupt the person before he or she is finished.
When you feel impatient with a speaker, try to identify the
reasons. If you
really are too busy to listen, you might say, “I’m sorry, I have
to finish this work
by noon. Can we talk after lunch?” If the person seems too
long-winded, ask
questions to help him or her get the point across: “So you are
saying that we
have two problems with the phone conferencing system, not just
one?”
Lack of Interest
We spend a lot of our time listening. But only a small
percentage of the in-
formation we hear is of immediate interest and use.
If you are not interested in what someone is saying, try to find a
reason
why it might be meaningful or important. You might say, “I’m
sorry, but I
need to know why you’re telling me this,” or “Can you tell me
what the con-
nection is between the purpose of this meeting and what you’re
talking about
right now?” Sometimes you can elevate your interest simply by
understand-
ing that giving the person the chance to talk about the topic—
perhaps a prob-
lem he or she is having—is what’s important.
Think About It . . .
Remember a time when you felt bored during a conversation.
Why were you bored? Were there
any questions you could have asked to determine why the
conversation was meaningful or
important?
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Distrust
It is very hard to listen when you distrust the speaker’s motives
or the accu-
racy of what they are saying. That’s what happened to Andre.
Andre has been working with Marlena to improve her job
performance.
Several times in the past year, she has blamed mistakes she
made on other
people. Yesterday, Andre received an angry e-mail from a
customer who had
received someone else’s order instead of her own. When Andre
asked Mar-
lena to tell him what happened, she launched into a long
explanation, giving
him all the reasons the error was the customer’s fault.
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As soon as Marlena began talking, Andre thought, “Here we go
again.”
In the middle of her explanation, he snapped, “I don’t really
care what hap-
pened. Take care of it.” She did as he said, but her behavior
showed that she
was upset.
Two days later, Andre received another e-mail from the
customer, thank-
ing him for replacing the order—and apologizing for having
placed it incor-
rectly in the first place.
Andre’s distrust of Marlena’s motives got in the way of his
ability to lis-
ten to her explanation. Because he distrusted her motives, he
automatically
assumed she was trying to blame the client for her own mistake.
What might
Andre have done instead?
Andre might have tried to listen with an open mind and focus
the con-
versation on the best way to resolve the problem. Afterwards,
he could have
followed up to find out what really happened.
Differences in Status, Gender, and Culture
Think of a time when it was difficult to listen because you felt
uncomfort-
able with the other person or with the way the person was
speaking. That’s
what made it difficult for Robert to listen to June.
Robert disliked talking to June. She never looked him in the
eye, and
she spoke so softly that sometimes he could hardly hear her.
She also never
asked for anything directly. Instead, she made statements that
forced him to
guess at what she meant. He found it hard to pay attention
because he kept
wishing she would speak up, look him in the eye, and get to the
point.
Why did Robert have so much trouble listening to June?
Robert had trouble listening to June because her communication
style
was so different from his own. She was raised to believe that
women should
keep their eyes downcast when they spoke, speak softly, and not
be assertive.
These kinds of cultural and gender differences present an
obstacle to good
listening.
You might feel the same kinds of discomfort when you are
listening to
someone whom you perceive to have higher status than
yourself—your man-
ager or someone in authority like a judge. In fact, you might
feel so uncom-
fortable while they are speaking that you are unable even to
hear what they say.
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pply What You Learn . . .
What are the obstacles that make it hard for you to listen? For
the next two weeks, every time
you find it hard to listen to someone, make an entry in your log.
At the end of the two weeks,
you’ll have a much better idea of what gets in the way of good
listening—and you can use that
information to become a better listener.
LISTEN ACTIVELY
Earlier you learned that good listening is an active process in
which you pay
attention to the speaker and engage your mind so you can
interpret and re-
spond to the speaker’s message.
The opposite of active listening is passive listening. When you
listen pas-
sively, you simply take in what you hear. Perhaps you
understand it; perhaps
you do not. Perhaps you respond or take action; perhaps you do
not. What
you do not do, however, is interact with the speaker.
In this dialogue, Ralph is explaining to a new employee, Ariana,
how the
department is set up. Is Ariana an active listener, or is she a
passive listener?
RALPH: So Michael takes the orders, reviews them, and passes
them on to Pe-
dro, who enters them into the system, unless there are any
problems.
You’ll start by working with Pedro. He’ll show you how to
process the
orders. Okay so far?
ARIANA: Uh-huh.
RALPH: The important thing is to make sure that once the
orders are processed
they get followed up. Okay?
ARIANA: Okay.
RALPH: Because sometimes things fall through the cracks, if
you know what I
mean.
ARIANA: Right.
In this dialogue, Ariana is a passive listener. She may or may
not understand
what Ralph is saying—but there is no way to tell from her
responses.
Let’s replay that dialogue. This time, Ariana is listening
actively.
RALPH: So Michael takes the orders, reviews them, and passes
them on to Pe-
dro, who enters them into the system, unless there are any
problems.
You’ll start by working with Pedro. He’ll show you how to
process the
orders. Okay so far?
ARIANA: Let’s see if I’m following you. Michael takes and
reviews the orders then
gives them to Pedro for processing. Pedro will show me how to
do that.
What happens if there are problems?
RALPH: Good question. If Michael sees problems, he takes care
of them. Pedro
passes any problem orders back to Michael.
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ARIANA: I see.
RALPH: The important thing is to make sure that once the
orders are processed
they get followed up. Okay?
ARIANA: Okay. Who does the follow up?
This time, Ariana is actively involved in the communication.
Ralph has
no trouble knowing what she understands and what she doesn’t.
When you listen actively, you interact with the speaker in such
a way
that the speaker knows you are getting—or not getting—the
message. You
might ask questions that help the speaker clarify what he or she
is saying, or
you might paraphrase the speaker’s message so he or she knows
you have
heard it. Sometimes it’s not even what you say, it’s how you
behave that lets
the speaker know you have—or have not—gotten the message.
Exhibit 2–2 summarizes what you can do to listen actively.
Focus on the Speaker
Imagine that you are speaking to a small group that includes
Annie and
Lorenzo. Which of them is listening actively?
Annie sits slumped in her chair, and her eyes keep roving
around the
room. Every few moments she glances at her watch. She holds a
pen that she
keeps twirling in her fingers.
Lorenzo sits straight up in his chair, and he is leaning forward
slightly.
Every time you look his way he makes eye contact. He makes
occasional notes
on a tablet, and he nods and smiles at appropriate moments.
Annie does not appear to be listening actively. It seems as if her
mind is
elsewhere, or she is bored. Lorenzo, on the other hand, is
focusing his at-
tention on you, and his nonverbal responses indicate that he is
listening care-
fully to what you are saying.
Active listeners, like Lorenzo, keep their attention on the
speaker. Their
body positions, facial expressions, and other nonverbal gestures
show that
they are participating in the communication process.
Clarify as Needed
Active listeners participate in the communication process by
asking questions
that help them understand what the speaker is saying, as in this
example:
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How to Listen Actively
To listen actively:
• Focus on the speaker.
• Clarify as needed to make sure you understand.
• Paraphrase to summarize content and meaning.
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JOE: I sat in on the meeting with that new P.R. firm yesterday. I
sure was im-
pressed.
MARGO: Impressed with the firm? Or with their ideas for our
marketing cam-
paign?
JOE: I like the firm—they seem to know what they’re doing.
But what really
impressed me was the way the marketing campaign seems to be
just
what we need.
Notice the way in which Margo’s clarifying question helped Joe
focus
on what he was really trying to say. Clarifying lets speakers
know what de-
tails to add so listeners have enough information—and the right
information.
Clarifying also gives a speaker the chance to correct any
mistaken impres-
sions or misunderstandings, as you can see from the next part of
the dialogue
between Margo and Joe.
MARGO: So you think we should hire this firm?
JOE: No, I didn’t say that. We still have two more firms to
interview, and
their fees are pretty hefty. But I do think we should put them
high up
on the list.
Paraphrase to Summarize Meaning and Content
The third element in active listening is paraphrasing. When you
paraphrase,
you essentially repeat back what you heard the speaker say.
Like clarifying,
paraphrasing lets the speakers know they have been heard, and
it gives them
a chance to correct misunderstandings. Here’s more of Margo
and Joe’s con-
versation:
MARGO: So what you’re saying is that this firm seems to know
what they’re do-
ing and came up with a great campaign, but their fees are high
and you
don’t think we should make a decision until we’ve interviewed
all the
candidates.
JOE: Right.
Think About It . . .
Look for an opportunity to observe people while they are
listening. Notice the nonverbal ways in
which they indicate whether they are listening actively. Also
notice how they use clarifying and
paraphrasing to make sure they understand the speaker, let the
speaker know he or she has
been heard, and give the speaker a chance to correct
misunderstandings.
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Try It Yourself
Do the following activity with a partner:
1. Ask your partner to tell you about a problem or project he or
she is working on. Do not offer
advice. Simply listen actively by clarifying and paraphrasing as
needed until the person agrees
that you understand the message.
2. Switch roles and repeat the activity.
3. Discuss the results.
HOW TO BE A BETTER LISTENER
We can all improve our ability to be better listeners.
Improvement begins by
assessing your listening behaviors. Answer the questions in
Exhibit 2–3 to
evaluate your listening skills.
A rating of “3” or less on any item indicates that you need to
improve
that skill. Exhibit 2–4 shows some steps you can take.
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xhibit 2–3
What Kind of Listener Are You?
Rate your listening skills:
Always 1 2 3 4 5 Seldom
1. ___ I make an effort to pay attention to the speaker, make eye
contact, and
focus on what he or she is saying.
2. ___ While someone is speaking, I try to avoid assuming that I
already know
what the person is going to say.
3. ___ While someone is speaking, I try to avoid rehearsing
what I am going to
say next.
4. ___ I try not to let feelings of impatience interfere with my
ability to listen.
5. ___ When I feel uninterested in what someone is saying, I try
to understand
why it matters.
6. ___ When I find it hard to listen, I try to identify the obstacle
that is getting in
my way.
7. ___ I ask questions as needed to clarify what someone is
saying.
8. ___ When appropriate, I let the speaker know I have heard
the message by
paraphrasing his or her words.
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Have a Reason for Listening
Much of the time we listen without thinking about the reasons
why. But with-
out a good reason for listening, your mind might wander and
you might be-
come impatient. To improve your listening skills, think about
your reasons
for listening. Do you need the information? Do you have a
general interest
in the topic? Do you want to know the speaker’s ideas or
opinions? Does the
speaker need an opportunity or chance to express herself on an
issue? The
better able you are to identify your reason for listening, the
better able you
will be to listen.
Participate in the Process
You have already learned that active listeners participate in the
communica-
tion process. The effort you make to pay attention, focus on the
speaker, ask
clarifying questions, and paraphrase as needed will pay off in
terms of more
effective communication. Your participation as an active
listener has another
benefit as well: It helps other people be better speakers. Your
attention and
questions demonstrate an interest in what the other person is
saying and help
him or her clarify the message.
Monitor Your Listening Behavior
Improving your listening skills takes practice, and practice
begins by in-
creasing your awareness of your listening behavior. Try to
notice when you
are allowing a distraction to interfere, assuming you know what
someone is
going to say, or rehearsing your response. No one listens
attentively all the
time. But when you catch yourself thinking about where you’re
going to eat
lunch instead of listening, turn your attention back to the
speaker. If you no-
tice that you are not participating, look for an opportunity to
ask a clarify-
ing question or paraphrase what the speaker has said. And be
aware of your
body language—are you making eye contact with the speaker?
Slumping?
Fidgeting?
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xhibit 2–4
How to Improve Your Listening Skills
To improve your listening skills
• Have a reason for listening.
• Participate in the process.
• Monitor your listening behavior.
• Be patient.
• When appropriate, take notes.
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Be Patient
As you will learn in the next chapter, it is not always easy for a
speaker to get
his or her message across clearly. To be a better listener, teach
yourself to be
more patient, even when people ramble or take too much time to
say some-
thing. Try to wait until the speaker has finished a thought
before respond-
ing. If you have a tendency to jump in too quickly, try using the
“ten-second
pause”—wait for ten seconds after the person seems to have
finished. That
brief delay allows you to process what the person said.
When Appropriate, Take Notes
Taking notes forces you to concentrate on what the speaker is
saying, and the
notes will be useful later by reminding you of points you might
otherwise
forget. The process of taking notes helps you follow the
speaker’s points and
identify questions you need to ask.
pply What You Learn . . .
For the next two weeks, make a log entry every day to note the
results of your new focus on im-
proving your listening skills.
Listening skills are essential for successful communication.
When you don’t listen, you can miss important information
or misunderstand what’s being said.
To be a good listener:
• Recognize that hearing is not necessarily listening.
• Be aware of obstacles such as noise and distractions that
make it hard to listen.
• Be patient and avoid making assumptions or “rehearsing”
when you are
listening.
• Listen actively by paying attention and engaging your mind.
• Ask clarifying questions as needed to make sure you
understand what the
other person is saying.
• Paraphrase as needed to let the speaker know you understood
the content
and meaning of their message.
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recap
Review Questions
1. Which statement best describes the difference between
hearing 1. (b)
and listening?
(a) Hearing is an active process, while listening is more passive.
(b) Listening engages your mind, while hearing is
physiological.
(c) You cannot stop listening, but you can stop hearing.
(d) It is through hearing that you not only receive but
understand
someone’s message.
2. If you are not interested in what someone is saying, try to: 2.
(d)
(a) listen politely and keep your face impassive.
(b) interrupt and say, “I’m sorry, but I’m just not interested in
this.”
(c) find a reason to walk away.
(d) understand what’s important or meaningful about it.
3. Which is a good reason to take notes while someone is
speaking? 3. (c)
(a) You don’t have to make eye contact with the speaker.
(b) You look as if you are taking the speaker seriously.
(c) The process helps you follow points and identify questions
to
ask.
(d) You don’t have to pay as much attention because you’ll have
the
notes to remind you.
4. To listen actively: 4. (a)
(a) paraphrase as needed to let the speaker know he or she has
been
heard.
(b) give the speaker your opinion, as needed, of what he or she
has
said.
(c) interrupt as needed to show that you are listening.
(d) nod your head briskly, as needed, to indicate that you are
pay-
ing attention.
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5. Which statement is most accurate? 5. (d)
(a) If you already know what someone is going to say, you can
think about other things while you are waiting for them to
finish speaking.
(b) If it is too noisy to hear a speaker, a good listener tries to
look
as if he or she is paying attention anyway.
(c) It is rude to ask someone what he or she meant to say, even
if
you did not understand.
(d) To be a good listener, pay attention to tone of voice and
body
language as well as the words.
OVERVIEW
So far in this course you’ve learned how important listening and
getting your
message across clearly are to successful communication. But
there is some-
thing else you need to be able to do if you want to communicate
effectively:
Ask questions. The questions you ask and how you ask them
affect your com-
munication in many ways.
In chapters 2 and 3 you learned about questions that help you to
clarify
what someone says or to make sure someone has understood
you. In this
chapter, you’ll learn more about clarifying questions. You’ll
also learn about
using questions to elicit information, help people think things
through, and
encourage participation in meetings.
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Learning Objectives
When you complete this chapter, you should be
able to:
• Describe situations in which managers need
to ask good questions.
• Describe and explain the uses of four types of
questions: open-ended, closed-ended, clarify-
ing, and probing.
• List key strategies for asking useful questions.
• Ask appropriate, relevant questions during an
interview.
• Ask questions to encourage participation in a
meeting.
• Ask questions to elicit information in difficult
situations.
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WHY ASK QUESTIONS?
Much of the time you spend communicating is actually spent
asking ques-
tions. If a client wants a cost estimate for a project, you need to
ask the pur-
pose of project, the client’s objectives, the timetable, and so on.
If your team
members want help with a problem, you need to ask questions to
identify the
problem and its causes before you can help them find a solution.
Think about some of the questions you have asked during the
past few
days. What were your reasons for asking those questions?
Question:
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Reason for asking:
________________________________________________
Question:
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Reason for asking:
________________________________________________
Question:
_____________________________________________________
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Reason for asking:
________________________________________________
You might have come up with some of the common reasons for
asking
questions shown in Exhibit 4–1.
Asking Questions to Get Information
If a colleague came to you and said, “Can you give me some
feedback on my
report?” how would you know what kind of feedback she
wanted: whether
the report presented the details clearly, whether the ideas in the
report were
sound, whether the format was effective, or does she simply
want you to
proofread the report for typographical errors? Unless she tells
you exactly
what she needs, you would have to ask questions. You would
also ask ques-
tions to learn the right way to carry out a procedure, elicit
details about job
applicant’s experience, or uncover the reasons for an accident.
Asking Questions to Clarify Understanding
In chapters 2 and 3, you learned that questions are crucial for
making sure that
you understand someone accurately or that they understand you.
Thus, when your
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Why Ask Questions?
Some reasons for asking questions are to:
• Get information.
• Clarify understanding.
• Help people think things through.
• Encourage participation in a meeting or team effort.
• Create or maintain a relationship.
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manager says, “I sure hope this project is finished within a
reasonable amount of
time,” you might ask, “Are you concerned that it’s taking too
long?” If you were
teaching someone to do a new task and the person said, “There
sure are a lot of
steps to this process!,” you might ask, “Does this procedure
seem too complicated
to you? Would it help if I broke it down into small units?”
Asking Questions to Help People Think Things Through
Has someone ever come to you for advice about how to do
something, such
as write a proposal? Instead of telling the person how to write
the proposal,
you could use questions to help the person decide what he or
she wants to
say and figure out the best way to say it. You might ask,
“Who’s going to read
this proposal? Exactly what do you want your readers to do?
Why should
they do what you want?” You can use the same technique to
help people think
about problems and come up with a solution. The questions
might be, “Can
you describe the situation that needs to be changed? Why does
it need to be
changed? Who’s involved?” and so on.
Asking Questions to Encourage
Participation in a Meeting or Team Effort
People participate more actively when they are involved, and
one way of in-
volving people is to ask questions. Questions encourage people
to participate
in discussions, think about issues, and come up with ideas. For
example, to
kick off a discussion, you might ask your group, “What ideas do
you have for
marketing our new product?”
Asking Questions to Create or Maintain a Relationship
In addition to the more pointed functions discussed above,
questions can serve
the purpose of building or maintaining a relationship. For
example, asking, “How
was your vacation,” shows that you are interested in the other
person. The an-
swer is not as important as the back and forth of the
conversation itself.
Think About It . . .
Think of two or three situations in which you need information,
would like to help someone think
something through, would like to encourage participation and
involvement, or would like to build
or maintain a relationship. Briefly describe the situations and
list some questions you might ask.
Situation:
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Questions to ask:
_____________________________________________________
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_____________________________________________________
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Situation:
_____________________________________________________
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Questions to ask:
_____________________________________________________
_________________
_____________________________________________________
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_____________________________________________________
_________________
_____________________________________________________
_________________
_____________________________________________________
_________________
Situation:
_____________________________________________________
_______________
Questions to ask:
_____________________________________________________
_________________
_____________________________________________________
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_____________________________________________________
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TYPES OF QUESTIONS
In a given situation, some kinds of questions are more useful
than others. In
the dialogue below, Elena is trying to find out why Paul has not
finished a
project that is overdue. Do you think Elena is asking useful
questions?
ELENA: Paul, is there a reason that you did not finish the
project on time?
PAUL: I guess so.
ELENA: Was it because you were busy with other things?
PAUL: Uh huh.
ELENA: Do you know that other people are waiting for you to
finish your part
of the project?
PAUL: Yes.
ELENA: If I help you clear your schedule, can you finish the
work by next
Wednesday?
PAUL: Maybe.
What did you think about the kinds of questions Elena asked?
They were
not very helpful, were they? Paul’s curt responses gave Elena
very little in-
formation, and he made only a vague commitment to complete
the work.
The problem was that Elena asked “closed-ended”—questions-
questions
that Paul could answer with a “yes,” “no,” “maybe,” or other
one-word or
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two-word statements. If she had asked “open-ended”
questions—those that
could not be answered so simply—the dialogue would have been
different:
ELENA: Paul, I see that you did not finish the project on time.
Please tell me
why.
PAUL: I guess I was too busy with other things.
ELENA: I’m sure that you know other people are waiting for
you to finish your
part of the project. What would it take for you to be able to
finish it by
next Wednesday?
PAUL: I’m not sure. I have so many other things to do.
ELENA: If I help you clear your schedule, will you be able to
finish by next
Wednesday?
PAUL: Yes, I will.
This time, Elena’s open-ended questions elicited more
information and,
more importantly, involved Paul in the conversation. Notice that
all but the
last of Elena’s questions could not be answered with a simple
yes, no, or
maybe. At the end of the conversation, she used a single closed-
ended ques-
tion to get a commitment from Paul that he would, in fact,
finish the pro-
ject by Wednesday.
To ask useful questions, it helps to recognize ways in which you
can use
the types of questions shown in Exhibits 4–2 and 4–3: closed-
ended, open-
ended, clarifying, and probing.
“Closed-ended” Versus “Open-ended” Questions
In general, open-ended questions are more useful than closed-
ended ques-
tions. It’s too easy to respond to closed-ended questions without
giving the
matter much thought or providing any information.
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xhibit 4–2
Open-Ended versus Closed-Ended Questions
Ask Open-Ended Examples Ask Closed-Ended Examples
Questions Questions
• To involve the How do you plan • To get quick Are you
willing
other person to finish this answers to work next Saturday?
job on time?
• To invite a • To obtain Would you like this
lengthy or Why did you leave information desk or that one?
thoughtful response your last job? efficiently
Did you find the
• To solicit opinions What ideas do you • To get workshop
useful?
have for solving commitment
this problem?
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Ask closed-ended questions only when you want a short,
succinct
answer: “How many people will attend the meeting?” “Are you
going to hire
a new sales representative?” or “Can you send me the report by
Friday?”
Otherwise, ask open-ended questions that encourage the other
person to pro-
vide details, develop a topic, or give an explanation.
Which of the following are open-ended questions?
a. “Why did they say they had changed the design?”
b. “What do you think about the new brochure?”
c. “What ideas do you have about where should we hold the
conference?”
d. “Can you stop by my office at 10:00 tomorrow morning?”
e. “What’s the name of the person in charge of Information
Services?”
f. “What interests you about our company?”
g. “Will the newsletter be out by Wednesday?”
Questions a, b, c, and f are open-ended questions that cannot be
an-
swered with a simple “yes,” “no,” or other one- or two-word
statement. They
encourage a more complete response.
Clarifying Questions
Many of the questions you ask during the course of a day are
the kinds of
clarifying questions you learned in chapters 2 and 3: “Do you
mean that you
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Clarifying and Probing Questions
Ask Clarifying Examples Ask Probing Examples
Questions Questions
• To get more precise Do you mean that • To learn more Can
you tell me
information you would like to details more about . . .?
try the new position?
• To check out your • To encourage In what ways did
assumptions and Are you saying that speaker you use . . .?
verify your under- you find working with to express ideas
standing Tony difficult? and feelings Why do you think . . .?
What concerns you What happened next?
about the move, the
disruption or working Tell me why you
at the new facility? plan to. . . .
When will . . .?
How do you
expect to . . .?
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won’t be in the office at all on Friday? Or will you be out only
in the morn-
ing?” “Did you say that the sales figures will be better this
quarter, or that
we sold more products?” “Are you worried about meeting the
deadline?”
Some clarifying questions simply repeat the original question in
another
way, as in this dialogue:
LAURA: I am so angry about the change in work schedule.
JASON: Are you upset because your hours are going to change?
LAURA: I’ll never be able to get my son to school and get here
on time.
JASON: So you think that you’ll need to start too early?
LAURA: I can’t possibly get here before 8:00.
JASON: It sounds as if 7:30 won’t work for you. Is that right?
LAURA: That’s right.
Jason is trying to understand exactly what Laura doesn’t like
about the
new schedule. To do that, he can rephrase the same question,
“What upsets
you about the schedule?” until Laura gives him a clear answer.
Probing Questions
Think about the way in which you search the Internet. You
begin with a
general question: “A place to stay in southern France?” A list of
web sites
appears. You choose one that looks promising. It gives you
general informa-
tion, including an agency that handles rentals in Provence. You
click on the
name of the agency. When the web site appears, you click again,
this time
on the menu item, “Charming country hotels.” As you move
from web site
to web site, each click of the mouse is like a probing question.
Your ques-
tions become more and more specific until you have enough
information—
in this case, the perfect charming country hotel in a village near
Avignon.
In this dialogue, notice how Andy uses probing questions to get
more
specific information from Anita.
ANDY: What did you think of the new product brochures I sent
around for
review?
ANITA: I liked one of them a lot. The other one wasn’t so
great.
ANDY: Can you tell me what you liked and didn’t like about
each of them?
ANITA: The blue and green one, with the bird? It seemed kind
of weak.
Too soft.
ANDY: And the one with the logo?
ANITA: That was better.
ANDY: Better in what ways?
Andy can continue to ask probing questions until he gets the
information
he needs about Anita’s responses to the brochures. To do that,
he must listen
carefully because each probing question builds on the preceding
response.
Ask probing questions when you want to know more about
something
a person says. Depending on the answer, you might ask another
probing ques-
tion or a clarifying question and then a probing question, and so
on, until
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you have the information you need. Most probing questions are
open-ended
questions although you might begin asking closed-ended
questions as you get
closer to the end of the series.
Think About It . . .
Watch or listen to a television or radio interviewer such as
Larry King, Ray Suarez, Barbara Wal-
ters, or Terry Gross. Notice the types of questions the
interviewer asks and how the person uses
different types of questions to elicit more and more specific
information. On the lines below, write
several questions you thought were especially useful.
Interviewer:
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Questions:
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Try It Yourself
Work with a partner to practice using open-ended, closed-ended,
clarifying, and probing ques-
tions. Choose a topic. Then find out as much as you can about
your partner’s ideas, feelings,
and experiences with that topic by asking different kinds of
questions. Reverse roles and repeat
the activity, and then discuss the results.
KEY STRATEGIES FOR ASKING
USEFUL QUESTIONS
Even though questions are a large part of the communications
we engage in
every day, not all the questions we ask need to be asked. Some
questions are
not appropriate, and some are not relevant to the topic you’re
discussing.
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Also, if you don’t listen closely and remember your objective,
you can easily
miss important responses.
In the dialogue below, what do you think about the way
Francine asks
Benito about his job performance?
FRANCINE: So, Benito, how do you think you did this quarter?
BENITO: Okay, I guess. Yeah, pretty well. In fact, I . . .
FRANCINE: That’s great. Are you enjoying yourself here?
BENITO: Sure. Everyone’s pretty nice. I’ve made some good
friends. In fact,
Brett and I are talking about getting an apartment together. . . .
FRANCINE: That would be nice. Rents are so expensive, aren’t
they? So is there
anything about the job you want to talk about?
BENITO: Don’t think so.
FRANCINE: Well, I think you’re doing well, too. By the way,
what do you think
about this thing with the election? Isn’t it amazing?
Francine didn’t do a very good job of asking questions. Her
questions were
so general that Benito gave her no useful information. In fact,
she interrupted
him just as he seemed about to say something specific. She
asked closed-ended
instead of open-ended questions. Worse, the question about the
election was
not relevant, and it was not an appropriate question for a
manager to ask of an
employee, especially in a job performance interview. Francine
would have done
a better job if she had followed the guidelines in Exhibit 4–4.
Know Why You’re Asking the Question
It’s always important to know the purpose of the questions you
ask. Are you
simply asking questions to build or maintain a relationship? Is
there specific
information you need? Why do you need it? What might happen
if you do
not get it? Are you trying to help people clarify their thinking
or get them
to participate in a discussion? Why does it matter whether those
people are
able to resolve their problem or express their ideas?
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Key Strategies for Asking Useful Questions
Some key strategies for asking questions are:
• Know why you’re asking the question.
• Ask the right type of question.
• Be sure the question is relevant, necessary, and appropriate.
• State the question clearly.
• Give people time to respond.
• Listen attentively to responses.
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Francine’s purpose should have been to elicit information that
could help
her determine how well Benito thought he was doing his job and
identify any
problems that might be interfering with his performance.
Focusing on that
purpose would have helped her formulate more useful questions.
Think About It . . .
Think of a situation in which asking questions can help you
achieve a specific objective. What
is that objective? Why does it matter? What might happen if you
are unable to achieve it?
Situation:
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Your objective:
_____________________________________________________
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Why it matters:
_____________________________________________________
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_____________________________________________________
_________________
_____________________________________________________
_______________________
Ask the Right Type of Question
As you learned earlier in this chapter, there are different types
of questions.
The types of questions you ask depend on such factors as the
situation and
your purpose. Which type of questions would be most effective
in each of
the situations in Exercise 4–1?
Exercise 4–1
Instructions: For each of the situations below, circle the type or
types of questions that would be
most effective.
Situation 1
Sandy needs to ask Marvin, who works in Accounting, whether
a vendor has been paid. Marvin
is very friendly and likes to talk. In fact, when Marvin is asked
almost any question, he is likely
to answer with a great deal of unnecessary information. What
type or types of questions should
Sandy ask?
a. closed-ended b. open-ended c. clarifying d. probing
Situation 2
Bruno is interviewing Delilah, who has applied for a position in
his department. When Bruno asks
why she has applied for the position, Delilah says, “It sounded
interesting.” What type or types
of questions should Bruno ask?
a. closed-ended b. open-ended c. clarifying d. probing
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Answers to Exercise 4–1
Situation 1
Sandy should use closed-ended questions, which are more likely
to focus Marvin on the infor-
mation she needs without encouraging him to add unnecessary
information. For instance, she
might say, “Did Vendor X receive a check?” instead of, “What
can you tell me about the payment
situation for Vendor X?” If she needs additional information,
she can continue to ask closed-
ended questions: “Did you receive the invoice Vendor X sent on
such and such a date?” “Can I
tell Vendor X that she will receive her check by the end of the
month?”
Situation 2
Bruno should ask open-ended, probing questions. He could
begin with a broad question such
as, “What sounded interesting about the position?” and then
continue to probe for more infor-
mation by asking for more specifics.
Be Sure the Question Is Relevant, Necessary, and Appropriate
Francine’s question about whether Benito was enjoying himself
at the com-
pany threw the conversation off track and brought in
information that was
not relevant to Benito’s job performance. While you might use
that kind of
question to establish rapport at the beginning of a meeting or
interview, it is
not helpful during the interview itself. Inappropriate questions,
such as
Francine’s question about the election, can also throw a
conversation off track.
They can also offend people or make them uncomfortable.
Before asking a question, think about whether it serves a
purpose and is
relevant to the topic at hand. Consider what would happen if
you didn’t ask
that question. Sometimes it’s helpful to wait for 10 seconds
before asking a
question so you can consider how to phrase it or whether to ask
it at all.
Be especially careful to avoid questions that might be offensive
or cause
discomfort. The problem might be the content, such as
Francine’s question
about the election. In the workplace, it is usually best not to
inquire about a
person’s politics, religion, sexual preference, or personal life.
Sometimes the problem is not so much the content as it is the
way a
question is asked. Think about how you would feel if you were
asked ques-
tions like the ones shown below:
“Why did you dye your hair that color?”
“Don’t you think you’re being too sensitive?”
“Do you really believe that anyone will take that idea
seriously?”
“When are you going to learn to do that right?”
All of these questions challenge people to defend themselves.
Instead of
eliciting a useful response, these kinds of questions are likely to
elicit bad
feelings, hostility, and anger.
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Think About It . . .
Has anyone ever asked you a question that made you
uncomfortable? Was it the content of the
question or the way the question was phrased?
State the Question Clearly
If you don’t get a helpful answer to your question, perhaps you
haven’t asked
the question clearly. Suppose someone asks, “What do you think
about the
meeting next week?” Does the person want to know whether you
think the
meeting should be held, whether it’s worth attending, whether
the right peo-
ple have been invited, or whether it’s being held in the right
place?
People often assume that the other person understands what they
mean,
and they do not realize that the question is unclear. But people
also ask un-
clear questions because they haven’t figured out what they want
to know, as
in this example:
TRACY: Jean-Paul, I heard that some people have been having
trouble with the
new invoice processing procedures, and I agree that they are
sort of con-
fusing, although I’m not sure what I can do about it, but maybe
you
could fill me in?
If you were Jean-Paul, could you tell from Tracy’s rambling
question
what she really wants to know? Probably not. Tracy might not
know herself.
If she did, she could ask the question more clearly:
TRACY: Jean-Paul, I heard that some of the staff have been
having trouble with
the new invoice processing procedures. I agree that the
procedures are
a little confusing, and I’d like to help if I can. Can you tell me
who is
having trouble, and what it is about the procedures that they
don’t un-
derstand?
Give People Time to Respond
What do you think is going on in the following situation? How
do you think
Julia feels?
SUZANNE: I’d like your opinion about Mario’s suggestion that
we delay the prod-
uct launch.
JULIA: Hm. He made some good points, that’s for sure. . . .
SUZANNE: So you agree we should delay the launch?
JULIA: That’s not what I said; it’s just that his point about the
test cycle....
SUZANNE: Oh, you mean we need to run more tests?
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Suzanne is jumping in with assumptions about what Julia is
about to say,
so Julia probably feels frustrated because she has no time to
respond. If
you are really interested in the answers to your questions, give
people the
time they need to respond, and avoid assuming that you already
know their
answers.
Listen Attentively to Responses
Suzanne was not really listening to Julia’s responses, so she was
not getting
the information she needed. An important part of asking
questions is listen-
ing carefully to the way people respond. That’s how you’ll
know the person
has understood what you asked and whether you need to ask
additional clar-
ifying or probing questions.
“Listen” to more than the other person’s words. As you learned
in Chap-
ter 2, real listening means paying attention to nonverbal cues
such as tone of
voice and facial expressions because those cues often give you
more infor-
mation than people’s words. Dissonance between what people
say and their
nonverbal expressions can indicate that the words might not be
an accurate
indication of what they really think or feel.
What do you think might be going on in this example?
Bill asks Jeffery, “Would you mind working overtime
tomorrow?” Jef-
fery replies, “Uh, sure, no problem.” But his tone is clipped and
abrupt, he
frowns, and he looks down at the floor as he speaks.
The nonverbal cues conflict with Jeffery’s words, implying that
he cer-
tainly would mind working overtime. If Bill “listens” carefully,
he can check
out his perception by asking a clarifying question and giving
Jeffery a chance
to back out: “Are you sure that it’s all right for you to work
overtime to-
morrow? If not, I’ll be glad to ask someone else.”
Think About It . . .
Look for opportunities to notice the ways in which people ask
questions. What do they do that
works? What might they do differently so their questions are
more useful?
HOW TO ASK QUESTIONS DURING AN INTERVIEW
Two common situations in which managers need to ask
questions is when in-
terviewing job applicants and conducting performance appraisal
interviews.
To improve the usefulness of the interviews you conduct, take
the steps shown
in Exhibit 4–5.
Know Your Objective
Before beginning any interview, decide what you hope to
accomplish. Why
are you interviewing the person? What can you learn from a
face-to-face
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interview that you could not learn through other means? What
kind of in-
formation do you need? How are you going to use the
information?
Be Prepared
The more you know going into an interview, the more you can
learn. For
hiring interviews, read the applicant’s application and résumé,
and review the
job description. For performance evaluation interviews, review
the employee’s
previous evaluations and other relevant documents. For
informational inter-
views, read any relevant material that might be available.
Develop a list of questions to ask. You might not ask them all,
but cre-
ating the list helps you focus on the information you need. The
list can also
be a useful reference during the interview, reminding you of
important ques-
tions you might otherwise forget to ask. Consider providing the
interviewee
with some questions ahead of time so he or she can prepare by
thinking about
the answers or gathering necessary documents.
Choose the Right Time and Place
A private, comfortable setting and a convenient time go a long
way toward
determining the success of any interview. Few people are
comfortable being
interviewed in public, especially if the interview is of a
personal nature,
such as a hiring or job performance interview, or the topic is
sensitive or
confidential.
Look for a private place where you will not be disturbed, and
set the
place up so that both you and the interviewee will be
comfortable. If possi-
ble, arrange seating at the corner of a table or in comfortable
chairs placed
at an angle to one another. Minimize distractions by arranging
for your calls
to go into voicemail or be answered by someone else—and turn
off cell
phones. Schedule the interview for a time when neither you nor
the person
you are interviewing will feel rushed.
Establish Rapport
Unless you know the person you are interviewing well, take a
few minutes
to establish rapport before launching into your questions.
Introduce yourself.
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Conducting Useful Interviews
To conduct useful interviews:
• Know your objective.
• Be prepared.
• Choose the right time and place.
• Establish rapport.
• Ask the right questions and listen carefully.
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Set the stage by explaining the interview process and what you
want to ac-
complish. Give the person a chance to ask about the process
before you be-
gin. Exhibit 4–6 shows things you might say to start off an
interview.
Ask the Right Questions and Listen Carefully
To conduct an interview, you will use everything you have
learned in this
chapter about asking questions. The success of the interview
will depend to
a large extent on whether you ask the right type of questions
and whether
you listen carefully to responses.
Notice how the questions Sylvia asks throw this interview off
track:
SYLVIA: Karl, can you tell me why you’re interested in
working for our
company?
KARL: My friend told me that it’s a great company to work for.
SYLVIA: Well, we always like to hear that! What department
does your friend
work in?
KARL: She’s in Purchasing.
SYLVIA: We have a lot of good people in Purchasing. Has she
been here long?
KARL: I don’t know. We only met a couple of weeks ago.
Except for the first one, Sylvia’s questions are unlikely to help
her learn
whether Karl is qualified for the position with her company. To
keep the in-
terview on track, what question might she have asked after Karl
mentioned
his friend?
Sylvia might have asked, “What was it she said about the
company that
interested you?” The answer to that question would have
provided useful in-
formation about Karl’s reasons for wanting to work for the
company.
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How to Begin An Interview
Some sample phrases to use to begin an interview:
• “Hi, Joan, I’m Kathleen, manager of the Research Department.
I’m glad to see you
here today.”
• “Here’s what I’d like to accomplish in the interview today.”
• “Before we begin, I’d like to give a quick summary of what
kinds of questions I’ll
be asking.”
• “I’m going to use the information from today’s interview to . .
.”
• “Can I answer any questions before we get started?”
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Think About It . . .
Imagine that you are about to interview someone for a specific
position in your department. What
are some of the questions you would ask?
Position:
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Try It Yourself
Working with a partner, use what you learned in this section to
plan and conduct a mock job in-
terview. Reverse roles and repeat the activity. Then discuss the
results.
USING QUESTIONS TO ENCOURAGE
PARTICIPATION IN MEETINGS
Jeremy facilitates a staff meeting every other Wednesday
morning. The pur-
pose of the meeting is to bring everyone up to date on the
department’s pro-
jects and give people a chance to share ideas and perspectives.
After the team
leaders give brief reports, Jeremy says, “So—does anyone have
any questions?
Anything you want to talk about?” Most of the time people
simply shake their
heads, so Jeremy declares the meeting over and everyone
leaves.
Lately, Jeremy has been hearing that people think the meetings
are a
waste of time. “We don’t talk about anything,” one staffer
complained. “Can’t
the team leaders send out their reports on e-mail?” But Jeremy
thinks it’s im-
portant for people to get together regularly and talk about
what’s going on
in the department. He knows the meetings would be more useful
if every-
one participated—but they don’t.
Jeremy discusses the situation with a colleague who suggests
that he ask
questions to encourage participation. “I do ask questions,”
Jeremy says. What
he doesn’t realize is that the questions he asks are far too
general and vague
to encourage participation. People probably don’t realize that he
really wants
answers when he says, “Any questions? Anything you want to
talk about?”
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You already know that questions are key to eliciting
information during
an interview. Questions are also an effective way to increase
response and
participation in groups. When you “tell” people something, they
might hear
what you say without realizing that you want a response. Even
general ques-
tions like Jeremy’s might not elicit much participation. But
when you make
it clear that you are interested in people’s ideas, information, or
feedback,
they will be more likely to respond.
Exhibit 4–7 shows some strategies for using questions to
encourage par-
ticipation in meetings.
Create a Safe Environment
To feel comfortable sharing ideas and asking questions, people
need to know
that it’s okay to say whatever is on their mind and even to ask
“dumb” ques-
tions. Establish ground rules specifying that everyone’s idea is
to be taken se-
riously and every question or concern is important.
Ask Specific, Open-ended Questions
Not only were Jeremy’s questions too general, they were closed-
ended ques-
tions, making it easy for the members of the group to answer
with a shake
of their heads. What if Jeremy said something like, “Now that
you’ve heard
the team reports, what questions do you have about these
projects?” or “Now
that we’re finished with the team reports, let’s talk about what’s
going on in
the department. For example, I’ve been hearing concerns that
the meeting
rooms are booked back-to-back so people are having to meet in
the cafe-
teria. What kinds of problems is this situation causing for you?
What
suggestions do you have for improving the situation?”
Give Everyone a Chance to Participate
Remember elementary school? The same few kids always had
their hands in
the air before the teacher had finished asking the question. It’s
the same way
in meetings. If the same few people always answer your
questions, try going
around the room and giving everyone a minute or two to
respond (letting
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Using Questions to Encourage Participation in Meetings
Some strategies for using questions in meetings include:
• Create a safe environment.
• Ask specific, open-ended questions.
• Give everyone a chance to participate.
• Send out questions ahead of time.
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people pass if they wish). That way, people will learn that you
are interested
in hearing from everyone.
Send Out Questions Ahead of Time
If people know you will be asking certain questions, they can
think about how
they might respond. For example, Jeremy might have sent
around an e-mail
asking people to come prepared with ideas for handling the
problem of the
overbooked meeting rooms. That way, he had a better chance of
getting a
lively discussion going.
Think About It . . .
Think about a meeting you will be facilitating. List some
actions you can take before the meet-
ing and some questions to ask during the meeting to encourage
participation and discussion.
Brief description of meeting:
____________________________________________________
To do before the meeting:
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Questions to ask during the meeting:
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Meeting by Telephone
When you meet with people by telephone, it takes a special
effort to keep the meeting on track, in-
clude everyone, and make sure that everyone knows who’s
speaking. Here are some
suggestions:
• Send out a meeting agenda, questions to think about, and
supplementary information ahead
of time.
• Use people’s names when addressing them: “Andrew, what do
you think about Marie’s idea
for improving the . . .?”
• Keep a list of names in front of you so you can keep track of
who is participating and who
is not: “Sienna, we haven’t heard your ideas yet. What
suggestion would you make for . . .?”
• Ask people to identify themselves when they speak: “This is
Marie. I’m intrigued by Sienna’s
idea. Sienna, can you tell us more about . . .?”
• After the meeting, summarize key points and send them out to
participants.
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USING QUESTIONS TO ELICIT
INFORMATION IN DIFFICULT
SITUATIONS
Pat was doing everything right, but he was still having
difficulty getting Lu-
cinda to answer his questions about a customer complaint that
needed his
follow-up.
PAT: Lucinda, please tell me what you know about the problem
with Mr. Mal-
donado’s account.
LUCINDA: (arms crossed, lips set in a thin line, flat tone of
voice) I don’t know any-
thing about it.
PAT: Aren’t you the customer service representative assigned to
his account?
LUCINDA: (staring at the floor) Yeah, I guess so.
PAT: Are you saying that you didn’t speak to him about the lost
payment?
LUCINDA: (shrugs) Maybe. I talk to 20 people a day. Look,
I’ve got a pile of work
on my desk. . . .
PAT: I understand, but I really need to straighten this out. Why
was this
account cancelled before we sent a warning notice?
LUCINDA: (in an angry tone) What am I supposed to do? It’s
not my fault. Can I
go now?
People resist answering questions for various reasons. They
might feel
uncomfortable because they think they are supposed to come up
with a “right”
answer. They might feel that the questions are putting them on
the spot.
The questions might feel threatening to them, as if they are
being accused
of something.
Lucinda’s tone, facial expressions, and body language were
obvious cues
that she did not want to answer Pat’s questions—that she would,
in fact, re-
sist answering them as long as possible. What do you think Pat
might have
done when he became aware of those cues?
One thing Pat might have done was to try to relieve some of the
pres-
sure on Lucinda. He might have restated his initial question
with a preface:
“I know this is a difficult situation for you. Mr. Maldenado has
let all of us
know how angry he is. I’m not blaming you for the problem—
these things
happen. But I need to know the details so I can help straighten
the situation
out. What can you tell me?”
People send a lot of signals to indicate they do not want to
answer your
questions. The reason might be simple: Perhaps the person is
busy or doesn’t
know why you are asking the questions. Or the reason might be
more com-
plex, as in the example of Pat and Lucinda: The questioning
itself raises
issues that make the person uncomfortable.
What should you do when you are having trouble getting
answers to
your questions? It depends on the situation and on how
important getting
the answers is to you, but you can try the suggestions in Exhibit
4–8.
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Be Sure the Person Knows Why You are Asking Questions
If you suspect the other person is resisting answering your
questions, first make
sure that they understand the reason for the questions. You
might say, “I’m sorry,
I might not have explained clearly why I’m asking these
questions. . . . I need the
information so I can give my manager a budget request for a
new sales assistant.”
Be Patient
Some people need extra time to put their ideas into words. They
feel rushed
or pressured if they’re expected to have an answer on the tip of
their tongues.
Allow a long pause after you finish the question. You might
even say, “Take
your time.” During the pause, try to relax and do nothing but
wait. If the
person still has trouble answering, you might offer time to
think: “Why don’t
you think about this for a while? I’ll stop by later this afternoon
to see what
ideas you’ve come up with.”
Rephrase the Question
If you are not getting the answers you had expected, perhaps the
person
didn’t understand the question. You might say, “I’m sorry, that
question might
not have been clear. What I meant to say was. . . .”
Let the Person Know You Appreciate
and Value Their Responses
“What a good observation—I had not thought of that. Now let
me ask you.
. . .”; “I can really use your help with [this situation]”; “You
know so much
about [this situation or topic], and I would really like to know
what you think
about. . . .”
Remain Calm and Focus on the Issue
If the person seems angry or hostile, try to defuse the situation.
You might
say, “I understand that you are upset. We need to set a time to
talk about
[this situation/your concern/this issue]. Right now, though, I
need to know
what it will take to finish this project by the deadline.”
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Eliciting Information in Difficult Situations
Some ways to elicit information in difficult situations are:
• Be sure the person knows why you are asking questions.
• Be patient.
• Rephrase the question.
• Let the person know you appreciate and value their responses.
• Remain calm and focus on the issue.
• Ask closed-ended questions.
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Ask Closed-ended Questions
If a person continues to resist answering your questions and it’s
important
that you have the information, open-ended questions might not
work. Try
asking closed-ended questions instead: “If I assign an editor to
work with you,
can you finish the report by the fifteenth of the month?” “Did
the customer
tell you that the technician showed up on the wrong date?” “Are
you willing
to make the presentation if Frank can’t do it?”
Think About It . . .
Think about a time in which you were having trouble getting
answers to your questions. What
do you think might have been going on? What might you have
said or done differently to en-
courage a more helpful response?
Try It Yourself
Work with a partner to practice the techniques you learned in
this section. Ask your partner to
resist answering your questions about a specific topic. Try the
techniques to help you get the re-
sponses you need. Reverse roles and repeat the activity, and
then discuss the results.
pply What You Learn . . .
For the next two weeks, try out specific techniques learned in
the chapter and record the results
in your log. Write down the techniques you used, what worked
and what didn’t, and what you
might do differently in the future.
The questions you ask and the way you ask them are important
to clear communication. You ask questions to get information
from people, clarify understanding, help people think things
through, and encourage participation in a meeting. The types
of questions you ask—open-ended, closed-ended, clarifying,
or probing—depend on the situation and what you want to
accomplish.
To ask useful questions:
• Know why you’re asking the question, ask the right type of
question, and
be sure that the question is relevant, necessary, and appropriate.
• State the question clearly so the other person understands what
you are
asking.
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• Give people enough time to respond and pay attention to the
responses,
including nonverbal cues that might conflict with the person’s
words.
• Prepare for interviews by identifying questions that will elicit
useful
information, and begin by establishing rapport with the person
you are
interviewing.
• For meetings, send out questions ahead of time when
appropriate, and use
questions to encourage participation.
• When people resist answering questions, be patient and remain
calm; make
sure they know the reasons for your questions; and if necessary,
ask closed-
ended questions to get the information you need.
Review Questions
1. Open-ended questions: 1. (c)
(a) can be answered with a “yes” or a “no.”
(b) are the best way to get a succinct response from a talkative
person.
(c) encourage people to expand on their ideas.
(d) should not be used in a job interview.
2. Which is an appropriate question to ask during a hiring
interview? 2. (a)
(a) What interests you about working for our company?
(b) Who did you vote for in the presidential election?
(c) Do you plan on having children?
(d) What church do you go to?
3. If you don’t get a helpful answer to your question, you can 3.
(b)
assume that:
(a) the other person doesn’t want to answer.
(b) you might not have asked the question clearly.
(c) the question did not need to be asked.
(d) you didn’t listen carefully enough to the response.
4. Which would be the most useful question to get a discussion
4. (d)
started in a meeting?
(a) Does anyone have anything they want to say?
(b) Do you want to discuss this issue?
(c) How many people think we need to talk about this?
(d) What suggestions do you have for solving this problem?
5. Which is a recommended strategy when people resist 5. (b)
answering your questions?
(a) Stop asking the questions.
(b) Be sure the person knows why you’re asking the questions.
(c) Tell the person to give you the answer in writing.
(d) Insist the person give you an answer immediately.
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OVERVIEW
As a manager, much of your job involves communication, so the
ability to
communicate clearly is crucial to your ability to succeed. You
need to give
explanations, ask questions, work with people to solve problems
and come up
with new ideas, coach and train, provide performance feedback,
and more.
All those activities require communication skills.
In this course, you will learn what happens when real
communication
takes place and what makes communication difficult. You will
evaluate your
own communication skills and learn how to improve them. You
will also learn
how to apply what you learn to ensure that the communications
you engage
in every day are more satisfactory, useful, and productive.
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Learning Objectives
When you complete this chapter, you should be
able to:
• Define communication accurately in one brief
statement.
• State the reasons managers communicate and
identify the four major types of communication.
• Describe what can happen when communi-
cation doesn’t work.
• State obstacles to clear communication.
• List the key actions that are essential for clear
written or spoken communication.
• Evaluate your communication skills at work.
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WHAT IS “COMMUNICATION”?
We hear the word communication everywhere these days as
technological ad-
vances make it possible for us to communicate in an increasing
number of
ways. But what does the word communication really mean?
No matter what the form of communication or whether it is one-
way or
interactive, between individuals or within a group,
communication takes place
only when a message sent by one person has been received and
understood
by another person. That’s what Jory didn’t realize.
Feeling rushed by a looming deadline for a report her manager
wanted
right away, Jory asked Saul to help by getting her some
marketing statistics.
“I need the figures from the last three years,” she said. “Will
that be a prob-
lem?”
“Not at all,” Saul replied.
But by mid-day, Saul had still not gotten the statistics to Jory—
and her
report was due first thing in the morning. Saul was out, so she
left him a
voicemail: “This is Jory,” she said. “I was wondering, how soon
do you think
you can get me those stats for the marketing report?”
Two hours later, Jory received an e-mail from Saul: “I’ll have
those stats
to you the day after tomorrow.”
Jory called Saul again, relieved to find that he was in his office.
“Friday’s
too late,” she said. “The report’s due tomorrow.”
“Why didn’t you say you needed them so soon?” Saul said. “I’m
sorry,
but I have to leave in twenty minutes, and I’m at an off-site
meeting all day
tomorrow.”
Jory thought she had told Saul what she wanted, and Saul
thought he
had heard her. But no real communication took place in this
situation, and
now Jory is left without the statistics she needs to complete her
report. What
happened?
Jory knew Saul had received her message, but she didn’t check
to make
sure that he understood how urgently she needed the statistics.
She did not
realize that it is not enough to send a message. Real
communication takes
place only when the person at the other end understands exactly
what you
meant to say.
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WHY MANAGERS COMMUNICATE
Think about all the communications you engage in as you go
about your day-
to-day business—face-to-face conversations with individuals
and groups, tele-
phone calls, e-mail messages, letters and reports, meetings,
interviews, and
presentations. One reason for all that communicating is to pass
on informa-
tion people need. What are some of the other reasons?
Reasons for communicating:
You might have listed some of the reasons in Exhibit 1–1.
When you look at all the reasons you have for communicating,
it is easy
to see why it is so important to communicate successfully. Poor
communica-
tions waste time, lower productivity, and make it difficult to
maintain good
relationships. Along with misunderstandings and confusion, the
results of
poor communication include hurt feelings, frustration, and
anger.
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Reasons Managers Communicate
Managers communicate to:
• Pass on and receive information.
• Establish and maintain relationships.
• Tell people what they are expected to do and help them learn.
• Give feedback and criticism.
• Encourage, motivate, and influence.
• Help others solve problems and develop action plans.
• Work with others to come up with new ideas.
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Think About It . . .
Think of some communications you were part of that did not go
well. What were the results?
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WHY PEOPLE FAIL TO
COMMUNICATE CLEARLY
Even the best communicators find that communicating clearly is
often diffi-
cult. No matter how clearly they try to send their messages,
people do not
always understand them. No matter how attentively they try to
listen to oth-
ers, they do not always understand the message the way the
other person
meant it.
Think of a time when you had trouble communicating with
someone.
What obstacle or obstacles stood in the way?
You might have listed one of the common obstacles shown in
Exhibit 1–2.
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Obstacles to Clear Communication
Obstacles to clear communication include:
• Lack of time and planning.
• Competing messages.
• Differences in knowledge, perspectives, needs, expectations,
priorities, status, cul-
ture, and gender.
• Assumptions.
• Fears.
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Lack of Time and Planning
Jory asked Saul to get her the statistics because she was feeling
rushed. In
fact, she was feeling so rushed that she didn’t even take enough
time to think
about what she wanted him to do. As a result, she conveyed an
incomplete
message.
People commonly blurt out their messages without thinking,
especially
when they feel rushed. Sometimes those messages come out
clearly; often,
they do not. If you expect others to understand your messages,
you must first
be sure that you know exactly what you want to say.
Competing Messages
We receive thousands of messages every day. They come at us
in every di-
rection, competing for our attention. The telephone rings and an
e-mail lands
in your mailbox while you are trying to conduct an interview;
people are
telling jokes in the next cubicle while you are trying to explain
something to
an employee; newspaper headlines catch your attention and a
radio talk show
blares in your ear while you are trying to help a colleague solve
a problem.
Screening out the unnecessary messages can be almost
impossible, but un-
less we can screen them out, we will find it hard to pay
attention to relevant,
useful messages.
Differences in Knowledge, Perspectives, Needs, Expectations,
Priorities, Status, Culture, and Gender
Jory’s miscommunication to Saul occurred partly because they
had differing
priorities. Jory’s top priority was getting the report to her
manager on time.
Although Saul was willing to help, he felt no sense of urgency
because the
report was not important to him.
In the same way, it can be hard to communicate clearly to
someone who
has a very different level of knowledge from your own or a very
different
point of view about the topic. For example, suppose you need to
explain how
to use word processing software to someone who has never used
a computer.
You might not stop to think about the basic computer
knowledge the person
needs to have before the new software can be learned.
Communication would be far easier if other people had your
level of
knowledge, background, sense of what was important, and way
of looking at
the world. The reality is that people differ in many ways. Those
differences
have a great many advantages, but they also mean that we have
to work hard
to be understood and to understand one another.
Assumptions
Jory made the assumption that Saul understood she needed the
report right
away; obviously, she was wrong. Assuming that someone
understands what
you are trying to say often leads to that kind of
miscommunication, as does
assuming that you have understood someone else’s message
correctly or that
you know what a person is going to say as soon as they begin
speaking.
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Think About It . . .
Can you think of a time when you made the assumption that
someone understood you when
they did not? That you understood someone else’s message
when you did not? Or that you mis-
takenly believed you already knew what someone was going to
say? What was the result?
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Fears
Instead of saying what we mean, we sometimes convey
messages that are lit-
tle more than hints. We leave out key information. We say Yes
when we mean
No. We also hesitate to speak up when we don’t understand
what someone
else is saying. Why do we behave this way? Why don’t we just
say what we
mean, and why don’t we ask questions when someone sends us a
confusing
message?
People do not always say what they mean because they are
afraid of
what will happen if they do. They do not want to hurt people’s
feelings, dis-
appoint them, or make them angry. They also do not want to
take the risk
of appearing foolish or being disliked. But indirect, incomplete,
and vague
messages make it difficult or impossible to achieve real
communication.
Think About It . . .
What are communications that you find difficult? Think of a
time when you felt unable to say
what you meant or when you did not feel comfortable asking
questions when someone was un-
clear. What were the results?
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HOW WELL DO YOU COMMUNICATE?
Before you can improve your communication skills, you need to
recognize
your strengths and weaknesses. Rate your communication skills
by filling out
the self-assessment in Exhibit 1–3. When you are finished,
highlight or cir-
cle any items that you rated 1, 2, or 3. Pay special attention to
those skills
during this course.
WHAT IT TAKES TO COMMUNICATE
CLEARLY
In this course you will learn and practice specific techniques for
communicat-
ing clearly, whether you are holding a conversation, facilitating
a meeting, con-
ducting an interview, giving a presentation, or writing a
business document. In
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xhibit 1–3
How Well Do You Communicate?
Use the scale below to rate your communication skills.
Seldom 1 2 3 4 5 Most of the time
1. ___ I listen attentively when other people are speaking.
2. ___ I understand what other people say to me.
3. ___ I ask for clarification when I don’t understand what
someone is saying.
4. ___ I listen with an open mind even if I don’t agree or I
already know what a
person is going to say.
5. ___ I do not interrupt when people are speaking.
6. ___ I let people know that I have heard and understood their
message.
7. ___ I am able to express my ideas and feelings clearly.
8. ___ I make sure that people have understood my message.
9. ___ I know how to deliver unwelcome news.
10. ___ I am comfortable discussing other people’s feelings.
11. ___ I make eye contact with other people when I am
listening or speaking
to them.
12. ___ I am able to get my ideas across in meetings.
13. ___ I am able to give people helpful feedback and criticism.
14. ___ I am able to ask questions that help people think
something through.
15. ___ I am able to ask questions to elicit useful information.
16. ___ When facilitating a meeting, I am able to ask questions
that encourage
participation.
17. ___ I am able to use communication skills to help people
learn.
18. ___ I am able to give a successful presentation to a small
group of people
I know.
19. ___ I am able to give a successful presentation to any group.
20. ___ I am able to communicate clearly, confidently, and
successfully in writing.
E
fact, you will find that the key actions presented in Exhibit 1–4
apply to all the
forms of communication we will discuss.
Know and Respect Your Audience
Two of the key actions for communicating clearly are knowing
and respect-
ing your audience. Throughout the course, you will be asked to
look at your
message from your audience’s point of view. By doing that, you
increase the
chances that the message you send will be understood.
Know Why You are Communicating
As we mentioned earlier in this chapter and will repeat from
time to time,
knowing what you want to achieve by communicating is
essential for your
communications to be clear.
Know What You Want to Say
Even in a casual conversation, you have to know what you want
to say
before you can express your message clearly. As you will see, it
is especially
difficult—even impossible—to deliver a successful presentation
or write an
effective business document without first determining what you
want to say.
Pay Attention
In our busy lives, we are surrounded by distractions. It takes a
special effort
to pay attention to what someone is saying or even to pay
attention to what
you yourself are trying to communicate. But paying attention is
key to suc-
cessful communication.
Keep an Open Mind
As you learned in this chapter, assumptions are a common
obstacle to suc-
cessful communication. Later in this course you will learn how
assuming you
already know what someone is going to say or why they are
saying it gets in
8 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS
© American Management Association. All rights reserved.
xhibit 1–4
What It Takes to Communicate Clearly
To communicate clearly:
• Know and respect your audience.
• Know why you are communicating.
• Know what you want to say.
• Pay attention.
• Keep an open mind.
• Be specific.
• Take enough time.
E
the way of listening, making it difficult or impossible for real
communica-
tion to take place.
Be Specific
The more specific your messages, the more useful information
you will con-
vey. Hints and vague messages lead to misunderstandings and
confusion. To
communicate successfully, try to use specific language that
communicates ex-
actly what you want to say.
Take Enough Time
Trying to communicate in a hurry leads people to stumble over
their words,
leave out important information, and miss what others have to
say. As you
will learn in this course, the time you spend planning a
communication,
delivering a message, and listening to others will pay off in
fewer misunder-
standings and less confusion. Taking enough time is a key
action for
communicating successfully.
pply What You Learn . . .
Think about the communication skills you would like to
improve. What are your goals for this
course? List your most important goals on the first page of the
Communication Skills Log in the
Appendix at the end of the course.
Real communication takes place when someone receives a
message we send and understands what we intended to say.
Poor communication leads to problems such as wasted time,
misunderstandings, and bad feelings. But communication is
not always easy because obstacles such as lack of planning,
differences in points of view, assumptions and fears get in the
way. Some of the actions you can take to communicate clearly
are to respect your audience, know what you want to say, pay
attention, and keep an open mind.
A
COMMUNICATION: THE KEY TO A MANAGER’S SUCCESS
9
© American Management Association. All rights reserved.
recap
Review Questions
1. A recommended way of increasing the chances of successful
1. (c)
communication is to:
(a) speak loudly.
(b) repeat your message at least once.
(c) pay attention.
(d) use polite phrases such as Please.
2. Which statement accurately describes communication? 2. (a)
(a) A message that has been received and understood
(b) The act of sending a message
(c) Active listening
(d) The art of using language to impress people
3. Learning to communicate clearly is important to managers
because: 3. (b)
(a) most managers communicate poorly.
(b) poor communications make it difficult to maintain good
relationships.
(c) managers spend almost 50 percent of their time giving
feedback
and criticism.
(d) open office systems have increased the amount of
communica-
tion managers need to do.
4. Which is an assumption that gets in the way of clear
communication? 4. (a)
(a) Not listening because you think you already know what the
other
person is going to say
(b) Rude behavior that makes the other person angry
(c) Interrupting someone before they are finished because you
are
late for a meeting
(d) Not being able to hear because people are talking loudly
nearby
5. Which statement is most accurate? 5. (c)
(a) When it comes to communicating, the most important thing
is
to make sure the other person hears you.
(b) If you think you might hurt someone’s feelings, it is better
to
keep your message vague.
(c) To communicate clearly, look at your message from your
audi-
ence’s point of view.
(d) Once you learn to be a good communicator, you will not be
bothered by competing messages.
10 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS
© American Management Association. All rights reserved.
Do you have questions? Comments? Need clarification?
Call Educational Services at 1-800-225-3215, ext. 600
or email at [email protected]
Imagine that these are three of your articles for your literature
review. Please complete the following in responding to this
discussion thread.
1. List the article’s in APA format.
2. Write a 100 word annotation of each article in which you not
only summarize each article but also evaluate its theme (the
main point the article tries to make).
3) Once you have your annotations done, post a paragraph in
which you discuss the three sources and how they are related or
not related to each other. You should also list the three articles
in correct APA reference list documentation style.
Again, you are not necessarily using these articles in your
literature review. And you will not necessarily write about
CommunicationSkills for Managers for your research report
assignment. However, this exercise is designed to help you
become familiar with listing a source in APA format and with
writing an evaluative annotation for it that you can use as the
basis for discussions of articles with similar themes in your
literature review.
References
Chan, J. F. (2009). Chapter 2: Listening: The Foundation. In ,
Communication Skills for Managers, 5th Edition (pp. 11-26).
American Management Association International.
References
Chan, J. F. (2009). Chapter 4: The Art of Asking Questions. In ,
Communication Skills for Managers, 5th Edition (pp. 51-72).
American Management Association International.
References
Chan, J. F. (2009). Chapter 1: Communication: The Key to a
Manager's Success. In , Communication Skills for Managers,
5th Edition (pp. 1-10). American Management Association
International.
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  • 1. OVERVIEW The first word that usually comes to mind when people think of “communi- cation” is speaking. But speaking is only part of the process of communicat- ing, and while it is important, there is another part that is even more important: listening. When no one is listening, it doesn’t matter how many words you speak or how clearly those words are spoken. When no one is listening, it is impossible to communicate. Real listening is not easy (if it were, there would be little reason for this course). Real listening takes effort and attention, so listening is where we will begin. 2 Listening: The Foundation © American Management Association. All rights reserved. 11 Learning Objectives When you complete this chapter, you should be able to: • Explain why listening skills are the founda-
  • 2. tion of clear communication. • Explain why hearing is not necessarily listening. • Identify obstacles to good listening. • Define active listening, clarifying, and para- phrasing. • State key actions for improving listening skills. • Evaluate your listening skills at work. focusfocus WHY DOES LISTENING MATTER? On the morning of an important presentation, Allison woke with a bad cold— and hardly any voice. She called Brad, who had helped put the presentation together, and asked him to take over for her. She gave Brad the time and lo- cation for the presentation and said, “My slides are in a box on the top of my desk. Better go through them—they might be out of order.” She also told him to remember that the clients had said they limit the presentation to a maximum of 45 minutes, including the question-and-answer session. “These people want a chance to ask questions,” she said, “so be sure you leave enough time.”
  • 3. While he was on the phone with Allison, Brad went through his calen- dar and made a list of appointments and meetings he would need to change or cancel. He also downloaded a copy of the proposal so he could review it. When Allison finished speaking, he said, “Don’t worry. Get some rest and let me take care of the presentation.” After making his phone calls and reviewing the proposal, Brad grabbed the slides and hurried out of the building so he could get to the clients’ offices on time. Unfortunately, he didn’t notice that the slides were out of order until he had already started the presentation, so he had to stop for sev- eral minutes to reorganize them. He still finished the slide show within the time limit, but there was no time left for questions. When Allison returned to the office two days later, she learned that the client had awarded the contract to a competing firm. Brad made two mistakes that might have contributed to the loss of this important contract. He failed to organize the slides before the presentation, and he didn’t leave time for questions. What happened? Why did Brad make such serious mistakes? Brad did not pay enough attention when Allison explained what
  • 4. he needed to do. Instead of listening, he was going through his calendar, think- ing about the changes he had to make to his schedule for the day and down- loading the proposal from his computer. When people don’t listen, they often miss important information or mis- understand what’s being said, which can lead to mistakes like the ones Brad made. Not listening also wastes energy and time. Why bother speaking if the person you are speaking to is not paying attention? 12 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Think About It . . . Have you ever missed important information because you were not listening carefully enough? What was the result? _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________________
  • 5. WHAT IS GOOD LISTENING? We always hear what someone says. But there is a big difference between “hearing” and “listening.” What do you think the difference is? “Hearing” is physiological. Your ears register sounds of all kinds—the drone of an airplane flying overhead, music from the radio, a child’s laugh, the words someone speaks. But hearing someone’s words is only the begin- ning. It’s what you do when you hear the words that makes the difference between hearing and listening. Hearing is a passive process. It just happens. In fact, although you can close your eyes to shut out visual images, you cannot close your ears to shut out sounds. Listening, however, is an active process that requires energy and engages your mind. When you listen, you pay attention, interpret the words, understand them, and, if appropriate, respond to them. Real communication happens when you not only hear but understand a speaker’s message. When you really listen, you do several things: • Consciously focus on the speaker, ignoring external or internal distractions so you can pay attention to the words, tone of voice, and body language. • Interpret the message by actively engaging your mind to make
  • 6. sense of what the person is saying. • Clarify when needed by asking questions to make sure you understand what the person means. • Select what’s important by filtering out information that is not relevant to the topic or of interest to you. • Respond to the message by letting the person know he or she has been heard and understood and by taking action if necessary. To make sure you are really listening, not just hearing, you first need to recognize the obstacles that can make listening difficult. LISTENING: THE FOUNDATION 13 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Hearing and Listening The word listen comes from two Anglo-Saxon words: hylstan, which means “to hear,” and hlosnian, which means “to wait in suspense.” Hylstan describes a passive activity, hearing, while hlosnian de- scribes an action—waiting for something to happen. (Bolton, Robert. People Skills. New York: Simon and Schuster, 1979. p. 32.) OBSTACLES TO GOOD LISTENING
  • 7. In the story about Brad and Allison that began this chapter, Brad missed key information because he was distracted. Distractions, such as thinking of other things, are one kind of obstacle that make it hard to listen. There are many others that make it hard for all of us to listen. Think of a time during the past few days when you found it difficult to listen to what someone was saying. What was going on? Why did you have trouble listening? You might have had difficulty listening because of one of the common obstacles listed in Exhibit 2–1. Noise Sometimes listening is difficult simply because it is difficult to hear. Perhaps people are talking so loudly in a restaurant that you can hardly hear your 14 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 2–1 Obstacles to Good Listening Obstacles to good listening include: • Noise • Distractions • Assumptions
  • 8. • Rehearsing • Impatience • Lack of interest • Distrust • Differences in status, gender, and culture E companion. A jackhammer outside the presentation room makes it impossi- ble to hear the speaker. Traffic noise keeps you from hearing the person who has called on your cell phone. When you cannot control noise that prevents you from listening, let the other person know that you cannot hear what they are saying. That way, the person will not think you are listening when you are not. Distractions Like Brad, you will find it hard to listen when your attention is on other things, people keep interrupting the conversation, or something interesting is going on nearby. Just as you cannot keep yourself from hearing noise, you cannot stop yourself from becoming distracted—thoughts pop into your mind; people come into the room. What you can do is notice when a dis- traction is keeping you from listening. If possible, re-focus your attention on the speaker. If you are unable to overcome the distraction, say,
  • 9. “I’m sorry. I’m having trouble listening to you right now. I know that what you have to say is important—can we talk about it later?” Assumptions Imagine that while you are listening to the following conversation, you are suddenly able to hear what Carlos is thinking. JULIANNA: Oh, hi, Carlos. I’m glad to see you. Could you come into my office for a minute? There’s something we need to talk about. CARLOS: (Uh-oh, she wants to tell me that she hates the proposal, after all the work I did on it.) Uh...I’m kind of busy right now.” JULIANNA: This won’t take long. By the way, I thought you did a great job with the proposal. CARLOS: Thanks. (Now she’s going to say, “But I hate it. . . .”) JULIANNA: I know your schedule is pretty full this week. . . . CARLOS: You can say that again. (“I don’t care what she says. I’m not re-doing the proposal.”) JULIANNA: But. . . CARLOS: Look, I did the best I could with that proposal, and if you don’t like it, maybe you should get someone else to do it over. JULIANNA: (After a moment’s hesitation) I thought I said that I liked the proposal.
  • 10. In fact, you did such a good job, I was going to ask you to make room in your schedule to come with me to Seattle to present it to the clients. Carlos was embarrassed because he had jumped to the conclusion that Julianna hated the proposal. He wasn’t listening because he assumed he knew LISTENING: THE FOUNDATION 15 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. what she was going to say. What could Carlos have done to avoid embar- rassing himself? Carlos could have checked out his assumption that Julianna hated the proposal. When she said, “There’s something we need to talk about,” he could have said, “Did you want to talk about the proposal? What did you think of it?” Then Julianna could have told him right away that she thought he had done such a good job and she wanted him to come to Seattle with her. Think About It . . . Can you recall a time when you assumed you knew what someone was going to say, only to
  • 11. find out that you were wrong? What was the result? _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________________ Rehearsing Sometimes people fail to listen because they are busy planning what they’re going to say next. But the response they are preparing is to what they think the person is saying, not to what the person actually says. You cannot rehearse your response and listen at the same time. So when you catch yourself rehearsing, stop. Focus your attention on the speaker, and wait until the person has finished before you even think about what you are going to say. Impatience Impatience is a serious obstacle to listening. In what kinds of situations do you feel impatient while people are speaking? 16 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved.
  • 12. You might feel impatient when you want someone to finish what they are saying so you can get back to work or express your own ideas. You might also feel impatient when people repeat themselves or take too long to get to the point. Whatever the reason, you stop listening. You might convey your irritation nonverbally through your facial expression or body language, or you might interrupt the person before he or she is finished. When you feel impatient with a speaker, try to identify the reasons. If you really are too busy to listen, you might say, “I’m sorry, I have to finish this work by noon. Can we talk after lunch?” If the person seems too long-winded, ask questions to help him or her get the point across: “So you are saying that we have two problems with the phone conferencing system, not just one?” Lack of Interest We spend a lot of our time listening. But only a small percentage of the in- formation we hear is of immediate interest and use. If you are not interested in what someone is saying, try to find a reason why it might be meaningful or important. You might say, “I’m sorry, but I need to know why you’re telling me this,” or “Can you tell me what the con- nection is between the purpose of this meeting and what you’re
  • 13. talking about right now?” Sometimes you can elevate your interest simply by understand- ing that giving the person the chance to talk about the topic— perhaps a prob- lem he or she is having—is what’s important. Think About It . . . Remember a time when you felt bored during a conversation. Why were you bored? Were there any questions you could have asked to determine why the conversation was meaningful or important? _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________________ Distrust It is very hard to listen when you distrust the speaker’s motives or the accu- racy of what they are saying. That’s what happened to Andre. Andre has been working with Marlena to improve her job performance. Several times in the past year, she has blamed mistakes she made on other people. Yesterday, Andre received an angry e-mail from a customer who had received someone else’s order instead of her own. When Andre
  • 14. asked Mar- lena to tell him what happened, she launched into a long explanation, giving him all the reasons the error was the customer’s fault. LISTENING: THE FOUNDATION 17 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. As soon as Marlena began talking, Andre thought, “Here we go again.” In the middle of her explanation, he snapped, “I don’t really care what hap- pened. Take care of it.” She did as he said, but her behavior showed that she was upset. Two days later, Andre received another e-mail from the customer, thank- ing him for replacing the order—and apologizing for having placed it incor- rectly in the first place. Andre’s distrust of Marlena’s motives got in the way of his ability to lis- ten to her explanation. Because he distrusted her motives, he automatically assumed she was trying to blame the client for her own mistake. What might Andre have done instead? Andre might have tried to listen with an open mind and focus the con- versation on the best way to resolve the problem. Afterwards,
  • 15. he could have followed up to find out what really happened. Differences in Status, Gender, and Culture Think of a time when it was difficult to listen because you felt uncomfort- able with the other person or with the way the person was speaking. That’s what made it difficult for Robert to listen to June. Robert disliked talking to June. She never looked him in the eye, and she spoke so softly that sometimes he could hardly hear her. She also never asked for anything directly. Instead, she made statements that forced him to guess at what she meant. He found it hard to pay attention because he kept wishing she would speak up, look him in the eye, and get to the point. Why did Robert have so much trouble listening to June? Robert had trouble listening to June because her communication style was so different from his own. She was raised to believe that women should keep their eyes downcast when they spoke, speak softly, and not be assertive. These kinds of cultural and gender differences present an obstacle to good listening. You might feel the same kinds of discomfort when you are listening to someone whom you perceive to have higher status than
  • 16. yourself—your man- ager or someone in authority like a judge. In fact, you might feel so uncom- fortable while they are speaking that you are unable even to hear what they say. 18 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. pply What You Learn . . . What are the obstacles that make it hard for you to listen? For the next two weeks, every time you find it hard to listen to someone, make an entry in your log. At the end of the two weeks, you’ll have a much better idea of what gets in the way of good listening—and you can use that information to become a better listener. LISTEN ACTIVELY Earlier you learned that good listening is an active process in which you pay attention to the speaker and engage your mind so you can interpret and re- spond to the speaker’s message. The opposite of active listening is passive listening. When you listen pas- sively, you simply take in what you hear. Perhaps you understand it; perhaps you do not. Perhaps you respond or take action; perhaps you do not. What you do not do, however, is interact with the speaker.
  • 17. In this dialogue, Ralph is explaining to a new employee, Ariana, how the department is set up. Is Ariana an active listener, or is she a passive listener? RALPH: So Michael takes the orders, reviews them, and passes them on to Pe- dro, who enters them into the system, unless there are any problems. You’ll start by working with Pedro. He’ll show you how to process the orders. Okay so far? ARIANA: Uh-huh. RALPH: The important thing is to make sure that once the orders are processed they get followed up. Okay? ARIANA: Okay. RALPH: Because sometimes things fall through the cracks, if you know what I mean. ARIANA: Right. In this dialogue, Ariana is a passive listener. She may or may not understand what Ralph is saying—but there is no way to tell from her responses. Let’s replay that dialogue. This time, Ariana is listening actively. RALPH: So Michael takes the orders, reviews them, and passes them on to Pe-
  • 18. dro, who enters them into the system, unless there are any problems. You’ll start by working with Pedro. He’ll show you how to process the orders. Okay so far? ARIANA: Let’s see if I’m following you. Michael takes and reviews the orders then gives them to Pedro for processing. Pedro will show me how to do that. What happens if there are problems? RALPH: Good question. If Michael sees problems, he takes care of them. Pedro passes any problem orders back to Michael. A LISTENING: THE FOUNDATION 19 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. ARIANA: I see. RALPH: The important thing is to make sure that once the orders are processed they get followed up. Okay? ARIANA: Okay. Who does the follow up? This time, Ariana is actively involved in the communication. Ralph has no trouble knowing what she understands and what she doesn’t. When you listen actively, you interact with the speaker in such a way
  • 19. that the speaker knows you are getting—or not getting—the message. You might ask questions that help the speaker clarify what he or she is saying, or you might paraphrase the speaker’s message so he or she knows you have heard it. Sometimes it’s not even what you say, it’s how you behave that lets the speaker know you have—or have not—gotten the message. Exhibit 2–2 summarizes what you can do to listen actively. Focus on the Speaker Imagine that you are speaking to a small group that includes Annie and Lorenzo. Which of them is listening actively? Annie sits slumped in her chair, and her eyes keep roving around the room. Every few moments she glances at her watch. She holds a pen that she keeps twirling in her fingers. Lorenzo sits straight up in his chair, and he is leaning forward slightly. Every time you look his way he makes eye contact. He makes occasional notes on a tablet, and he nods and smiles at appropriate moments. Annie does not appear to be listening actively. It seems as if her mind is elsewhere, or she is bored. Lorenzo, on the other hand, is focusing his at- tention on you, and his nonverbal responses indicate that he is listening care- fully to what you are saying.
  • 20. Active listeners, like Lorenzo, keep their attention on the speaker. Their body positions, facial expressions, and other nonverbal gestures show that they are participating in the communication process. Clarify as Needed Active listeners participate in the communication process by asking questions that help them understand what the speaker is saying, as in this example: 20 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 2–2 How to Listen Actively To listen actively: • Focus on the speaker. • Clarify as needed to make sure you understand. • Paraphrase to summarize content and meaning. E JOE: I sat in on the meeting with that new P.R. firm yesterday. I sure was im- pressed. MARGO: Impressed with the firm? Or with their ideas for our marketing cam-
  • 21. paign? JOE: I like the firm—they seem to know what they’re doing. But what really impressed me was the way the marketing campaign seems to be just what we need. Notice the way in which Margo’s clarifying question helped Joe focus on what he was really trying to say. Clarifying lets speakers know what de- tails to add so listeners have enough information—and the right information. Clarifying also gives a speaker the chance to correct any mistaken impres- sions or misunderstandings, as you can see from the next part of the dialogue between Margo and Joe. MARGO: So you think we should hire this firm? JOE: No, I didn’t say that. We still have two more firms to interview, and their fees are pretty hefty. But I do think we should put them high up on the list. Paraphrase to Summarize Meaning and Content The third element in active listening is paraphrasing. When you paraphrase, you essentially repeat back what you heard the speaker say. Like clarifying, paraphrasing lets the speakers know they have been heard, and it gives them a chance to correct misunderstandings. Here’s more of Margo
  • 22. and Joe’s con- versation: MARGO: So what you’re saying is that this firm seems to know what they’re do- ing and came up with a great campaign, but their fees are high and you don’t think we should make a decision until we’ve interviewed all the candidates. JOE: Right. Think About It . . . Look for an opportunity to observe people while they are listening. Notice the nonverbal ways in which they indicate whether they are listening actively. Also notice how they use clarifying and paraphrasing to make sure they understand the speaker, let the speaker know he or she has been heard, and give the speaker a chance to correct misunderstandings. LISTENING: THE FOUNDATION 21 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Try It Yourself Do the following activity with a partner: 1. Ask your partner to tell you about a problem or project he or she is working on. Do not offer
  • 23. advice. Simply listen actively by clarifying and paraphrasing as needed until the person agrees that you understand the message. 2. Switch roles and repeat the activity. 3. Discuss the results. HOW TO BE A BETTER LISTENER We can all improve our ability to be better listeners. Improvement begins by assessing your listening behaviors. Answer the questions in Exhibit 2–3 to evaluate your listening skills. A rating of “3” or less on any item indicates that you need to improve that skill. Exhibit 2–4 shows some steps you can take. ✍ 22 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 2–3 What Kind of Listener Are You? Rate your listening skills: Always 1 2 3 4 5 Seldom 1. ___ I make an effort to pay attention to the speaker, make eye contact, and focus on what he or she is saying. 2. ___ While someone is speaking, I try to avoid assuming that I
  • 24. already know what the person is going to say. 3. ___ While someone is speaking, I try to avoid rehearsing what I am going to say next. 4. ___ I try not to let feelings of impatience interfere with my ability to listen. 5. ___ When I feel uninterested in what someone is saying, I try to understand why it matters. 6. ___ When I find it hard to listen, I try to identify the obstacle that is getting in my way. 7. ___ I ask questions as needed to clarify what someone is saying. 8. ___ When appropriate, I let the speaker know I have heard the message by paraphrasing his or her words. E Have a Reason for Listening Much of the time we listen without thinking about the reasons why. But with- out a good reason for listening, your mind might wander and you might be- come impatient. To improve your listening skills, think about your reasons
  • 25. for listening. Do you need the information? Do you have a general interest in the topic? Do you want to know the speaker’s ideas or opinions? Does the speaker need an opportunity or chance to express herself on an issue? The better able you are to identify your reason for listening, the better able you will be to listen. Participate in the Process You have already learned that active listeners participate in the communica- tion process. The effort you make to pay attention, focus on the speaker, ask clarifying questions, and paraphrase as needed will pay off in terms of more effective communication. Your participation as an active listener has another benefit as well: It helps other people be better speakers. Your attention and questions demonstrate an interest in what the other person is saying and help him or her clarify the message. Monitor Your Listening Behavior Improving your listening skills takes practice, and practice begins by in- creasing your awareness of your listening behavior. Try to notice when you are allowing a distraction to interfere, assuming you know what someone is going to say, or rehearsing your response. No one listens attentively all the time. But when you catch yourself thinking about where you’re going to eat
  • 26. lunch instead of listening, turn your attention back to the speaker. If you no- tice that you are not participating, look for an opportunity to ask a clarify- ing question or paraphrase what the speaker has said. And be aware of your body language—are you making eye contact with the speaker? Slumping? Fidgeting? LISTENING: THE FOUNDATION 23 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 2–4 How to Improve Your Listening Skills To improve your listening skills • Have a reason for listening. • Participate in the process. • Monitor your listening behavior. • Be patient. • When appropriate, take notes. E Be Patient As you will learn in the next chapter, it is not always easy for a speaker to get his or her message across clearly. To be a better listener, teach yourself to be more patient, even when people ramble or take too much time to say some-
  • 27. thing. Try to wait until the speaker has finished a thought before respond- ing. If you have a tendency to jump in too quickly, try using the “ten-second pause”—wait for ten seconds after the person seems to have finished. That brief delay allows you to process what the person said. When Appropriate, Take Notes Taking notes forces you to concentrate on what the speaker is saying, and the notes will be useful later by reminding you of points you might otherwise forget. The process of taking notes helps you follow the speaker’s points and identify questions you need to ask. pply What You Learn . . . For the next two weeks, make a log entry every day to note the results of your new focus on im- proving your listening skills. Listening skills are essential for successful communication. When you don’t listen, you can miss important information or misunderstand what’s being said. To be a good listener: • Recognize that hearing is not necessarily listening. • Be aware of obstacles such as noise and distractions that make it hard to listen. • Be patient and avoid making assumptions or “rehearsing” when you are
  • 28. listening. • Listen actively by paying attention and engaging your mind. • Ask clarifying questions as needed to make sure you understand what the other person is saying. • Paraphrase as needed to let the speaker know you understood the content and meaning of their message. A 24 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. recap Review Questions 1. Which statement best describes the difference between hearing 1. (b) and listening? (a) Hearing is an active process, while listening is more passive. (b) Listening engages your mind, while hearing is physiological. (c) You cannot stop listening, but you can stop hearing. (d) It is through hearing that you not only receive but understand someone’s message. 2. If you are not interested in what someone is saying, try to: 2.
  • 29. (d) (a) listen politely and keep your face impassive. (b) interrupt and say, “I’m sorry, but I’m just not interested in this.” (c) find a reason to walk away. (d) understand what’s important or meaningful about it. 3. Which is a good reason to take notes while someone is speaking? 3. (c) (a) You don’t have to make eye contact with the speaker. (b) You look as if you are taking the speaker seriously. (c) The process helps you follow points and identify questions to ask. (d) You don’t have to pay as much attention because you’ll have the notes to remind you. 4. To listen actively: 4. (a) (a) paraphrase as needed to let the speaker know he or she has been heard. (b) give the speaker your opinion, as needed, of what he or she has said. (c) interrupt as needed to show that you are listening. (d) nod your head briskly, as needed, to indicate that you are pay- ing attention. LISTENING: THE FOUNDATION 25
  • 30. © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Do you have questions? Comments? Need clarification? Call Educational Services at 1-800-225-3215, ext. 600 or email at [email protected] 26 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. 5. Which statement is most accurate? 5. (d) (a) If you already know what someone is going to say, you can think about other things while you are waiting for them to finish speaking. (b) If it is too noisy to hear a speaker, a good listener tries to look as if he or she is paying attention anyway. (c) It is rude to ask someone what he or she meant to say, even if you did not understand. (d) To be a good listener, pay attention to tone of voice and body language as well as the words.
  • 31. OVERVIEW So far in this course you’ve learned how important listening and getting your message across clearly are to successful communication. But there is some- thing else you need to be able to do if you want to communicate effectively: Ask questions. The questions you ask and how you ask them affect your com- munication in many ways. In chapters 2 and 3 you learned about questions that help you to clarify what someone says or to make sure someone has understood you. In this chapter, you’ll learn more about clarifying questions. You’ll also learn about using questions to elicit information, help people think things through, and encourage participation in meetings. 4 The Art of Asking Questions © American Management Association. All rights reserved. 51 Learning Objectives When you complete this chapter, you should be able to: • Describe situations in which managers need
  • 32. to ask good questions. • Describe and explain the uses of four types of questions: open-ended, closed-ended, clarify- ing, and probing. • List key strategies for asking useful questions. • Ask appropriate, relevant questions during an interview. • Ask questions to encourage participation in a meeting. • Ask questions to elicit information in difficult situations. focusfocus WHY ASK QUESTIONS? Much of the time you spend communicating is actually spent asking ques- tions. If a client wants a cost estimate for a project, you need to ask the pur- pose of project, the client’s objectives, the timetable, and so on. If your team members want help with a problem, you need to ask questions to identify the problem and its causes before you can help them find a solution. Think about some of the questions you have asked during the past few days. What were your reasons for asking those questions?
  • 33. Question: _____________________________________________________ ___ Reason for asking: ________________________________________________ Question: _____________________________________________________ ___ Reason for asking: ________________________________________________ Question: _____________________________________________________ ___ Reason for asking: ________________________________________________ You might have come up with some of the common reasons for asking questions shown in Exhibit 4–1. Asking Questions to Get Information If a colleague came to you and said, “Can you give me some feedback on my report?” how would you know what kind of feedback she wanted: whether the report presented the details clearly, whether the ideas in the report were sound, whether the format was effective, or does she simply want you to proofread the report for typographical errors? Unless she tells you exactly what she needs, you would have to ask questions. You would also ask ques- tions to learn the right way to carry out a procedure, elicit details about job applicant’s experience, or uncover the reasons for an accident.
  • 34. Asking Questions to Clarify Understanding In chapters 2 and 3, you learned that questions are crucial for making sure that you understand someone accurately or that they understand you. Thus, when your 52 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 4–1 Why Ask Questions? Some reasons for asking questions are to: • Get information. • Clarify understanding. • Help people think things through. • Encourage participation in a meeting or team effort. • Create or maintain a relationship. E manager says, “I sure hope this project is finished within a reasonable amount of time,” you might ask, “Are you concerned that it’s taking too long?” If you were teaching someone to do a new task and the person said, “There sure are a lot of steps to this process!,” you might ask, “Does this procedure seem too complicated to you? Would it help if I broke it down into small units?”
  • 35. Asking Questions to Help People Think Things Through Has someone ever come to you for advice about how to do something, such as write a proposal? Instead of telling the person how to write the proposal, you could use questions to help the person decide what he or she wants to say and figure out the best way to say it. You might ask, “Who’s going to read this proposal? Exactly what do you want your readers to do? Why should they do what you want?” You can use the same technique to help people think about problems and come up with a solution. The questions might be, “Can you describe the situation that needs to be changed? Why does it need to be changed? Who’s involved?” and so on. Asking Questions to Encourage Participation in a Meeting or Team Effort People participate more actively when they are involved, and one way of in- volving people is to ask questions. Questions encourage people to participate in discussions, think about issues, and come up with ideas. For example, to kick off a discussion, you might ask your group, “What ideas do you have for marketing our new product?” Asking Questions to Create or Maintain a Relationship In addition to the more pointed functions discussed above, questions can serve the purpose of building or maintaining a relationship. For example, asking, “How
  • 36. was your vacation,” shows that you are interested in the other person. The an- swer is not as important as the back and forth of the conversation itself. Think About It . . . Think of two or three situations in which you need information, would like to help someone think something through, would like to encourage participation and involvement, or would like to build or maintain a relationship. Briefly describe the situations and list some questions you might ask. Situation: _____________________________________________________ _______________ Questions to ask: _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ Think About It . . . continued on next page THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 53 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Think About It . . . continued from previous page _____________________________________________________
  • 38. _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________________ TYPES OF QUESTIONS In a given situation, some kinds of questions are more useful than others. In the dialogue below, Elena is trying to find out why Paul has not finished a project that is overdue. Do you think Elena is asking useful questions? ELENA: Paul, is there a reason that you did not finish the project on time? PAUL: I guess so. ELENA: Was it because you were busy with other things? PAUL: Uh huh. ELENA: Do you know that other people are waiting for you to finish your part of the project? PAUL: Yes. ELENA: If I help you clear your schedule, can you finish the work by next Wednesday? PAUL: Maybe. What did you think about the kinds of questions Elena asked? They were not very helpful, were they? Paul’s curt responses gave Elena
  • 39. very little in- formation, and he made only a vague commitment to complete the work. The problem was that Elena asked “closed-ended”—questions- questions that Paul could answer with a “yes,” “no,” “maybe,” or other one-word or 54 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. two-word statements. If she had asked “open-ended” questions—those that could not be answered so simply—the dialogue would have been different: ELENA: Paul, I see that you did not finish the project on time. Please tell me why. PAUL: I guess I was too busy with other things. ELENA: I’m sure that you know other people are waiting for you to finish your part of the project. What would it take for you to be able to finish it by next Wednesday? PAUL: I’m not sure. I have so many other things to do. ELENA: If I help you clear your schedule, will you be able to finish by next
  • 40. Wednesday? PAUL: Yes, I will. This time, Elena’s open-ended questions elicited more information and, more importantly, involved Paul in the conversation. Notice that all but the last of Elena’s questions could not be answered with a simple yes, no, or maybe. At the end of the conversation, she used a single closed- ended ques- tion to get a commitment from Paul that he would, in fact, finish the pro- ject by Wednesday. To ask useful questions, it helps to recognize ways in which you can use the types of questions shown in Exhibits 4–2 and 4–3: closed- ended, open- ended, clarifying, and probing. “Closed-ended” Versus “Open-ended” Questions In general, open-ended questions are more useful than closed- ended ques- tions. It’s too easy to respond to closed-ended questions without giving the matter much thought or providing any information. THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 55 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 4–2 Open-Ended versus Closed-Ended Questions Ask Open-Ended Examples Ask Closed-Ended Examples
  • 41. Questions Questions • To involve the How do you plan • To get quick Are you willing other person to finish this answers to work next Saturday? job on time? • To invite a • To obtain Would you like this lengthy or Why did you leave information desk or that one? thoughtful response your last job? efficiently Did you find the • To solicit opinions What ideas do you • To get workshop useful? have for solving commitment this problem? E Ask closed-ended questions only when you want a short, succinct answer: “How many people will attend the meeting?” “Are you going to hire a new sales representative?” or “Can you send me the report by Friday?” Otherwise, ask open-ended questions that encourage the other person to pro- vide details, develop a topic, or give an explanation. Which of the following are open-ended questions? a. “Why did they say they had changed the design?”
  • 42. b. “What do you think about the new brochure?” c. “What ideas do you have about where should we hold the conference?” d. “Can you stop by my office at 10:00 tomorrow morning?” e. “What’s the name of the person in charge of Information Services?” f. “What interests you about our company?” g. “Will the newsletter be out by Wednesday?” Questions a, b, c, and f are open-ended questions that cannot be an- swered with a simple “yes,” “no,” or other one- or two-word statement. They encourage a more complete response. Clarifying Questions Many of the questions you ask during the course of a day are the kinds of clarifying questions you learned in chapters 2 and 3: “Do you mean that you 56 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 4–3 Clarifying and Probing Questions Ask Clarifying Examples Ask Probing Examples Questions Questions • To get more precise Do you mean that • To learn more Can you tell me information you would like to details more about . . .?
  • 43. try the new position? • To check out your • To encourage In what ways did assumptions and Are you saying that speaker you use . . .? verify your under- you find working with to express ideas standing Tony difficult? and feelings Why do you think . . .? What concerns you What happened next? about the move, the disruption or working Tell me why you at the new facility? plan to. . . . When will . . .? How do you expect to . . .? E won’t be in the office at all on Friday? Or will you be out only in the morn- ing?” “Did you say that the sales figures will be better this quarter, or that we sold more products?” “Are you worried about meeting the deadline?” Some clarifying questions simply repeat the original question in another way, as in this dialogue: LAURA: I am so angry about the change in work schedule. JASON: Are you upset because your hours are going to change? LAURA: I’ll never be able to get my son to school and get here on time.
  • 44. JASON: So you think that you’ll need to start too early? LAURA: I can’t possibly get here before 8:00. JASON: It sounds as if 7:30 won’t work for you. Is that right? LAURA: That’s right. Jason is trying to understand exactly what Laura doesn’t like about the new schedule. To do that, he can rephrase the same question, “What upsets you about the schedule?” until Laura gives him a clear answer. Probing Questions Think about the way in which you search the Internet. You begin with a general question: “A place to stay in southern France?” A list of web sites appears. You choose one that looks promising. It gives you general informa- tion, including an agency that handles rentals in Provence. You click on the name of the agency. When the web site appears, you click again, this time on the menu item, “Charming country hotels.” As you move from web site to web site, each click of the mouse is like a probing question. Your ques- tions become more and more specific until you have enough information— in this case, the perfect charming country hotel in a village near Avignon. In this dialogue, notice how Andy uses probing questions to get more specific information from Anita. ANDY: What did you think of the new product brochures I sent
  • 45. around for review? ANITA: I liked one of them a lot. The other one wasn’t so great. ANDY: Can you tell me what you liked and didn’t like about each of them? ANITA: The blue and green one, with the bird? It seemed kind of weak. Too soft. ANDY: And the one with the logo? ANITA: That was better. ANDY: Better in what ways? Andy can continue to ask probing questions until he gets the information he needs about Anita’s responses to the brochures. To do that, he must listen carefully because each probing question builds on the preceding response. Ask probing questions when you want to know more about something a person says. Depending on the answer, you might ask another probing ques- tion or a clarifying question and then a probing question, and so on, until THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 57 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. you have the information you need. Most probing questions are
  • 46. open-ended questions although you might begin asking closed-ended questions as you get closer to the end of the series. Think About It . . . Watch or listen to a television or radio interviewer such as Larry King, Ray Suarez, Barbara Wal- ters, or Terry Gross. Notice the types of questions the interviewer asks and how the person uses different types of questions to elicit more and more specific information. On the lines below, write several questions you thought were especially useful. Interviewer: _____________________________________________________ _____________ Questions: _____________________________________________________ _____________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________
  • 47. _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________________ Try It Yourself Work with a partner to practice using open-ended, closed-ended, clarifying, and probing ques- tions. Choose a topic. Then find out as much as you can about your partner’s ideas, feelings, and experiences with that topic by asking different kinds of questions. Reverse roles and repeat the activity, and then discuss the results. KEY STRATEGIES FOR ASKING USEFUL QUESTIONS Even though questions are a large part of the communications we engage in every day, not all the questions we ask need to be asked. Some questions are not appropriate, and some are not relevant to the topic you’re discussing. ✍ 58 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS
  • 48. © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Also, if you don’t listen closely and remember your objective, you can easily miss important responses. In the dialogue below, what do you think about the way Francine asks Benito about his job performance? FRANCINE: So, Benito, how do you think you did this quarter? BENITO: Okay, I guess. Yeah, pretty well. In fact, I . . . FRANCINE: That’s great. Are you enjoying yourself here? BENITO: Sure. Everyone’s pretty nice. I’ve made some good friends. In fact, Brett and I are talking about getting an apartment together. . . . FRANCINE: That would be nice. Rents are so expensive, aren’t they? So is there anything about the job you want to talk about? BENITO: Don’t think so. FRANCINE: Well, I think you’re doing well, too. By the way, what do you think about this thing with the election? Isn’t it amazing? Francine didn’t do a very good job of asking questions. Her questions were so general that Benito gave her no useful information. In fact, she interrupted him just as he seemed about to say something specific. She asked closed-ended
  • 49. instead of open-ended questions. Worse, the question about the election was not relevant, and it was not an appropriate question for a manager to ask of an employee, especially in a job performance interview. Francine would have done a better job if she had followed the guidelines in Exhibit 4–4. Know Why You’re Asking the Question It’s always important to know the purpose of the questions you ask. Are you simply asking questions to build or maintain a relationship? Is there specific information you need? Why do you need it? What might happen if you do not get it? Are you trying to help people clarify their thinking or get them to participate in a discussion? Why does it matter whether those people are able to resolve their problem or express their ideas? THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 59 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 4–4 Key Strategies for Asking Useful Questions Some key strategies for asking questions are: • Know why you’re asking the question. • Ask the right type of question. • Be sure the question is relevant, necessary, and appropriate. • State the question clearly. • Give people time to respond. • Listen attentively to responses.
  • 50. E 60 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Francine’s purpose should have been to elicit information that could help her determine how well Benito thought he was doing his job and identify any problems that might be interfering with his performance. Focusing on that purpose would have helped her formulate more useful questions. Think About It . . . Think of a situation in which asking questions can help you achieve a specific objective. What is that objective? Why does it matter? What might happen if you are unable to achieve it? Situation: _____________________________________________________ _______________ Your objective: _____________________________________________________ ___________ Why it matters: _____________________________________________________ ___________
  • 51. _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________________ Ask the Right Type of Question As you learned earlier in this chapter, there are different types of questions. The types of questions you ask depend on such factors as the situation and your purpose. Which type of questions would be most effective in each of the situations in Exercise 4–1? Exercise 4–1 Instructions: For each of the situations below, circle the type or types of questions that would be most effective. Situation 1 Sandy needs to ask Marvin, who works in Accounting, whether a vendor has been paid. Marvin is very friendly and likes to talk. In fact, when Marvin is asked almost any question, he is likely to answer with a great deal of unnecessary information. What type or types of questions should Sandy ask? a. closed-ended b. open-ended c. clarifying d. probing Situation 2 Bruno is interviewing Delilah, who has applied for a position in his department. When Bruno asks why she has applied for the position, Delilah says, “It sounded
  • 52. interesting.” What type or types of questions should Bruno ask? a. closed-ended b. open-ended c. clarifying d. probing ✎ Answers to Exercise 4–1 Situation 1 Sandy should use closed-ended questions, which are more likely to focus Marvin on the infor- mation she needs without encouraging him to add unnecessary information. For instance, she might say, “Did Vendor X receive a check?” instead of, “What can you tell me about the payment situation for Vendor X?” If she needs additional information, she can continue to ask closed- ended questions: “Did you receive the invoice Vendor X sent on such and such a date?” “Can I tell Vendor X that she will receive her check by the end of the month?” Situation 2 Bruno should ask open-ended, probing questions. He could begin with a broad question such as, “What sounded interesting about the position?” and then continue to probe for more infor- mation by asking for more specifics. Be Sure the Question Is Relevant, Necessary, and Appropriate Francine’s question about whether Benito was enjoying himself at the com- pany threw the conversation off track and brought in
  • 53. information that was not relevant to Benito’s job performance. While you might use that kind of question to establish rapport at the beginning of a meeting or interview, it is not helpful during the interview itself. Inappropriate questions, such as Francine’s question about the election, can also throw a conversation off track. They can also offend people or make them uncomfortable. Before asking a question, think about whether it serves a purpose and is relevant to the topic at hand. Consider what would happen if you didn’t ask that question. Sometimes it’s helpful to wait for 10 seconds before asking a question so you can consider how to phrase it or whether to ask it at all. Be especially careful to avoid questions that might be offensive or cause discomfort. The problem might be the content, such as Francine’s question about the election. In the workplace, it is usually best not to inquire about a person’s politics, religion, sexual preference, or personal life. Sometimes the problem is not so much the content as it is the way a question is asked. Think about how you would feel if you were asked ques- tions like the ones shown below: “Why did you dye your hair that color?” “Don’t you think you’re being too sensitive?”
  • 54. “Do you really believe that anyone will take that idea seriously?” “When are you going to learn to do that right?” All of these questions challenge people to defend themselves. Instead of eliciting a useful response, these kinds of questions are likely to elicit bad feelings, hostility, and anger. THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 61 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Think About It . . . Has anyone ever asked you a question that made you uncomfortable? Was it the content of the question or the way the question was phrased? State the Question Clearly If you don’t get a helpful answer to your question, perhaps you haven’t asked the question clearly. Suppose someone asks, “What do you think about the meeting next week?” Does the person want to know whether you think the meeting should be held, whether it’s worth attending, whether the right peo- ple have been invited, or whether it’s being held in the right place? People often assume that the other person understands what they mean,
  • 55. and they do not realize that the question is unclear. But people also ask un- clear questions because they haven’t figured out what they want to know, as in this example: TRACY: Jean-Paul, I heard that some people have been having trouble with the new invoice processing procedures, and I agree that they are sort of con- fusing, although I’m not sure what I can do about it, but maybe you could fill me in? If you were Jean-Paul, could you tell from Tracy’s rambling question what she really wants to know? Probably not. Tracy might not know herself. If she did, she could ask the question more clearly: TRACY: Jean-Paul, I heard that some of the staff have been having trouble with the new invoice processing procedures. I agree that the procedures are a little confusing, and I’d like to help if I can. Can you tell me who is having trouble, and what it is about the procedures that they don’t un- derstand? Give People Time to Respond What do you think is going on in the following situation? How do you think Julia feels? SUZANNE: I’d like your opinion about Mario’s suggestion that
  • 56. we delay the prod- uct launch. JULIA: Hm. He made some good points, that’s for sure. . . . SUZANNE: So you agree we should delay the launch? JULIA: That’s not what I said; it’s just that his point about the test cycle.... SUZANNE: Oh, you mean we need to run more tests? 62 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Suzanne is jumping in with assumptions about what Julia is about to say, so Julia probably feels frustrated because she has no time to respond. If you are really interested in the answers to your questions, give people the time they need to respond, and avoid assuming that you already know their answers. Listen Attentively to Responses Suzanne was not really listening to Julia’s responses, so she was not getting the information she needed. An important part of asking questions is listen- ing carefully to the way people respond. That’s how you’ll know the person has understood what you asked and whether you need to ask additional clar- ifying or probing questions.
  • 57. “Listen” to more than the other person’s words. As you learned in Chap- ter 2, real listening means paying attention to nonverbal cues such as tone of voice and facial expressions because those cues often give you more infor- mation than people’s words. Dissonance between what people say and their nonverbal expressions can indicate that the words might not be an accurate indication of what they really think or feel. What do you think might be going on in this example? Bill asks Jeffery, “Would you mind working overtime tomorrow?” Jef- fery replies, “Uh, sure, no problem.” But his tone is clipped and abrupt, he frowns, and he looks down at the floor as he speaks. The nonverbal cues conflict with Jeffery’s words, implying that he cer- tainly would mind working overtime. If Bill “listens” carefully, he can check out his perception by asking a clarifying question and giving Jeffery a chance to back out: “Are you sure that it’s all right for you to work overtime to- morrow? If not, I’ll be glad to ask someone else.” Think About It . . . Look for opportunities to notice the ways in which people ask questions. What do they do that works? What might they do differently so their questions are more useful?
  • 58. HOW TO ASK QUESTIONS DURING AN INTERVIEW Two common situations in which managers need to ask questions is when in- terviewing job applicants and conducting performance appraisal interviews. To improve the usefulness of the interviews you conduct, take the steps shown in Exhibit 4–5. Know Your Objective Before beginning any interview, decide what you hope to accomplish. Why are you interviewing the person? What can you learn from a face-to-face THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 63 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. interview that you could not learn through other means? What kind of in- formation do you need? How are you going to use the information? Be Prepared The more you know going into an interview, the more you can learn. For hiring interviews, read the applicant’s application and résumé, and review the job description. For performance evaluation interviews, review the employee’s previous evaluations and other relevant documents. For informational inter-
  • 59. views, read any relevant material that might be available. Develop a list of questions to ask. You might not ask them all, but cre- ating the list helps you focus on the information you need. The list can also be a useful reference during the interview, reminding you of important ques- tions you might otherwise forget to ask. Consider providing the interviewee with some questions ahead of time so he or she can prepare by thinking about the answers or gathering necessary documents. Choose the Right Time and Place A private, comfortable setting and a convenient time go a long way toward determining the success of any interview. Few people are comfortable being interviewed in public, especially if the interview is of a personal nature, such as a hiring or job performance interview, or the topic is sensitive or confidential. Look for a private place where you will not be disturbed, and set the place up so that both you and the interviewee will be comfortable. If possi- ble, arrange seating at the corner of a table or in comfortable chairs placed at an angle to one another. Minimize distractions by arranging for your calls to go into voicemail or be answered by someone else—and turn off cell phones. Schedule the interview for a time when neither you nor
  • 60. the person you are interviewing will feel rushed. Establish Rapport Unless you know the person you are interviewing well, take a few minutes to establish rapport before launching into your questions. Introduce yourself. 64 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 4–5 Conducting Useful Interviews To conduct useful interviews: • Know your objective. • Be prepared. • Choose the right time and place. • Establish rapport. • Ask the right questions and listen carefully. E Set the stage by explaining the interview process and what you want to ac- complish. Give the person a chance to ask about the process before you be- gin. Exhibit 4–6 shows things you might say to start off an interview. Ask the Right Questions and Listen Carefully
  • 61. To conduct an interview, you will use everything you have learned in this chapter about asking questions. The success of the interview will depend to a large extent on whether you ask the right type of questions and whether you listen carefully to responses. Notice how the questions Sylvia asks throw this interview off track: SYLVIA: Karl, can you tell me why you’re interested in working for our company? KARL: My friend told me that it’s a great company to work for. SYLVIA: Well, we always like to hear that! What department does your friend work in? KARL: She’s in Purchasing. SYLVIA: We have a lot of good people in Purchasing. Has she been here long? KARL: I don’t know. We only met a couple of weeks ago. Except for the first one, Sylvia’s questions are unlikely to help her learn whether Karl is qualified for the position with her company. To keep the in- terview on track, what question might she have asked after Karl mentioned his friend? Sylvia might have asked, “What was it she said about the company that interested you?” The answer to that question would have
  • 62. provided useful in- formation about Karl’s reasons for wanting to work for the company. THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 65 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 4–6 How to Begin An Interview Some sample phrases to use to begin an interview: • “Hi, Joan, I’m Kathleen, manager of the Research Department. I’m glad to see you here today.” • “Here’s what I’d like to accomplish in the interview today.” • “Before we begin, I’d like to give a quick summary of what kinds of questions I’ll be asking.” • “I’m going to use the information from today’s interview to . . .” • “Can I answer any questions before we get started?” E Think About It . . . Imagine that you are about to interview someone for a specific position in your department. What are some of the questions you would ask?
  • 63. Position: _____________________________________________________ _______________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________________ Try It Yourself Working with a partner, use what you learned in this section to plan and conduct a mock job in- terview. Reverse roles and repeat the activity. Then discuss the results. USING QUESTIONS TO ENCOURAGE PARTICIPATION IN MEETINGS Jeremy facilitates a staff meeting every other Wednesday morning. The pur- pose of the meeting is to bring everyone up to date on the department’s pro- jects and give people a chance to share ideas and perspectives. After the team leaders give brief reports, Jeremy says, “So—does anyone have any questions?
  • 64. Anything you want to talk about?” Most of the time people simply shake their heads, so Jeremy declares the meeting over and everyone leaves. Lately, Jeremy has been hearing that people think the meetings are a waste of time. “We don’t talk about anything,” one staffer complained. “Can’t the team leaders send out their reports on e-mail?” But Jeremy thinks it’s im- portant for people to get together regularly and talk about what’s going on in the department. He knows the meetings would be more useful if every- one participated—but they don’t. Jeremy discusses the situation with a colleague who suggests that he ask questions to encourage participation. “I do ask questions,” Jeremy says. What he doesn’t realize is that the questions he asks are far too general and vague to encourage participation. People probably don’t realize that he really wants answers when he says, “Any questions? Anything you want to talk about?” ✍ 66 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved.
  • 65. You already know that questions are key to eliciting information during an interview. Questions are also an effective way to increase response and participation in groups. When you “tell” people something, they might hear what you say without realizing that you want a response. Even general ques- tions like Jeremy’s might not elicit much participation. But when you make it clear that you are interested in people’s ideas, information, or feedback, they will be more likely to respond. Exhibit 4–7 shows some strategies for using questions to encourage par- ticipation in meetings. Create a Safe Environment To feel comfortable sharing ideas and asking questions, people need to know that it’s okay to say whatever is on their mind and even to ask “dumb” ques- tions. Establish ground rules specifying that everyone’s idea is to be taken se- riously and every question or concern is important. Ask Specific, Open-ended Questions Not only were Jeremy’s questions too general, they were closed- ended ques- tions, making it easy for the members of the group to answer with a shake of their heads. What if Jeremy said something like, “Now that you’ve heard the team reports, what questions do you have about these projects?” or “Now
  • 66. that we’re finished with the team reports, let’s talk about what’s going on in the department. For example, I’ve been hearing concerns that the meeting rooms are booked back-to-back so people are having to meet in the cafe- teria. What kinds of problems is this situation causing for you? What suggestions do you have for improving the situation?” Give Everyone a Chance to Participate Remember elementary school? The same few kids always had their hands in the air before the teacher had finished asking the question. It’s the same way in meetings. If the same few people always answer your questions, try going around the room and giving everyone a minute or two to respond (letting THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 67 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 4–7 Using Questions to Encourage Participation in Meetings Some strategies for using questions in meetings include: • Create a safe environment. • Ask specific, open-ended questions. • Give everyone a chance to participate. • Send out questions ahead of time. E
  • 67. people pass if they wish). That way, people will learn that you are interested in hearing from everyone. Send Out Questions Ahead of Time If people know you will be asking certain questions, they can think about how they might respond. For example, Jeremy might have sent around an e-mail asking people to come prepared with ideas for handling the problem of the overbooked meeting rooms. That way, he had a better chance of getting a lively discussion going. Think About It . . . Think about a meeting you will be facilitating. List some actions you can take before the meet- ing and some questions to ask during the meeting to encourage participation and discussion. Brief description of meeting: ____________________________________________________ To do before the meeting: _____________________________________________________ _ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________
  • 68. Questions to ask during the meeting: ______________________________________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________________ Meeting by Telephone When you meet with people by telephone, it takes a special effort to keep the meeting on track, in- clude everyone, and make sure that everyone knows who’s speaking. Here are some suggestions: • Send out a meeting agenda, questions to think about, and supplementary information ahead of time. • Use people’s names when addressing them: “Andrew, what do you think about Marie’s idea for improving the . . .?” • Keep a list of names in front of you so you can keep track of who is participating and who is not: “Sienna, we haven’t heard your ideas yet. What suggestion would you make for . . .?”
  • 69. • Ask people to identify themselves when they speak: “This is Marie. I’m intrigued by Sienna’s idea. Sienna, can you tell us more about . . .?” • After the meeting, summarize key points and send them out to participants. 68 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. USING QUESTIONS TO ELICIT INFORMATION IN DIFFICULT SITUATIONS Pat was doing everything right, but he was still having difficulty getting Lu- cinda to answer his questions about a customer complaint that needed his follow-up. PAT: Lucinda, please tell me what you know about the problem with Mr. Mal- donado’s account. LUCINDA: (arms crossed, lips set in a thin line, flat tone of voice) I don’t know any- thing about it. PAT: Aren’t you the customer service representative assigned to his account? LUCINDA: (staring at the floor) Yeah, I guess so. PAT: Are you saying that you didn’t speak to him about the lost payment?
  • 70. LUCINDA: (shrugs) Maybe. I talk to 20 people a day. Look, I’ve got a pile of work on my desk. . . . PAT: I understand, but I really need to straighten this out. Why was this account cancelled before we sent a warning notice? LUCINDA: (in an angry tone) What am I supposed to do? It’s not my fault. Can I go now? People resist answering questions for various reasons. They might feel uncomfortable because they think they are supposed to come up with a “right” answer. They might feel that the questions are putting them on the spot. The questions might feel threatening to them, as if they are being accused of something. Lucinda’s tone, facial expressions, and body language were obvious cues that she did not want to answer Pat’s questions—that she would, in fact, re- sist answering them as long as possible. What do you think Pat might have done when he became aware of those cues? One thing Pat might have done was to try to relieve some of the pres- sure on Lucinda. He might have restated his initial question with a preface: “I know this is a difficult situation for you. Mr. Maldenado has
  • 71. let all of us know how angry he is. I’m not blaming you for the problem— these things happen. But I need to know the details so I can help straighten the situation out. What can you tell me?” People send a lot of signals to indicate they do not want to answer your questions. The reason might be simple: Perhaps the person is busy or doesn’t know why you are asking the questions. Or the reason might be more com- plex, as in the example of Pat and Lucinda: The questioning itself raises issues that make the person uncomfortable. What should you do when you are having trouble getting answers to your questions? It depends on the situation and on how important getting the answers is to you, but you can try the suggestions in Exhibit 4–8. THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 69 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Be Sure the Person Knows Why You are Asking Questions If you suspect the other person is resisting answering your questions, first make sure that they understand the reason for the questions. You might say, “I’m sorry, I might not have explained clearly why I’m asking these
  • 72. questions. . . . I need the information so I can give my manager a budget request for a new sales assistant.” Be Patient Some people need extra time to put their ideas into words. They feel rushed or pressured if they’re expected to have an answer on the tip of their tongues. Allow a long pause after you finish the question. You might even say, “Take your time.” During the pause, try to relax and do nothing but wait. If the person still has trouble answering, you might offer time to think: “Why don’t you think about this for a while? I’ll stop by later this afternoon to see what ideas you’ve come up with.” Rephrase the Question If you are not getting the answers you had expected, perhaps the person didn’t understand the question. You might say, “I’m sorry, that question might not have been clear. What I meant to say was. . . .” Let the Person Know You Appreciate and Value Their Responses “What a good observation—I had not thought of that. Now let me ask you. . . .”; “I can really use your help with [this situation]”; “You know so much about [this situation or topic], and I would really like to know what you think about. . . .”
  • 73. Remain Calm and Focus on the Issue If the person seems angry or hostile, try to defuse the situation. You might say, “I understand that you are upset. We need to set a time to talk about [this situation/your concern/this issue]. Right now, though, I need to know what it will take to finish this project by the deadline.” 70 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 4–8 Eliciting Information in Difficult Situations Some ways to elicit information in difficult situations are: • Be sure the person knows why you are asking questions. • Be patient. • Rephrase the question. • Let the person know you appreciate and value their responses. • Remain calm and focus on the issue. • Ask closed-ended questions. E Ask Closed-ended Questions If a person continues to resist answering your questions and it’s important that you have the information, open-ended questions might not work. Try asking closed-ended questions instead: “If I assign an editor to work with you,
  • 74. can you finish the report by the fifteenth of the month?” “Did the customer tell you that the technician showed up on the wrong date?” “Are you willing to make the presentation if Frank can’t do it?” Think About It . . . Think about a time in which you were having trouble getting answers to your questions. What do you think might have been going on? What might you have said or done differently to en- courage a more helpful response? Try It Yourself Work with a partner to practice the techniques you learned in this section. Ask your partner to resist answering your questions about a specific topic. Try the techniques to help you get the re- sponses you need. Reverse roles and repeat the activity, and then discuss the results. pply What You Learn . . . For the next two weeks, try out specific techniques learned in the chapter and record the results in your log. Write down the techniques you used, what worked and what didn’t, and what you might do differently in the future. The questions you ask and the way you ask them are important to clear communication. You ask questions to get information from people, clarify understanding, help people think things through, and encourage participation in a meeting. The types of questions you ask—open-ended, closed-ended, clarifying,
  • 75. or probing—depend on the situation and what you want to accomplish. To ask useful questions: • Know why you’re asking the question, ask the right type of question, and be sure that the question is relevant, necessary, and appropriate. • State the question clearly so the other person understands what you are asking. A ✍ THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS 71 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. recap • Give people enough time to respond and pay attention to the responses, including nonverbal cues that might conflict with the person’s words. • Prepare for interviews by identifying questions that will elicit useful information, and begin by establishing rapport with the person you are interviewing.
  • 76. • For meetings, send out questions ahead of time when appropriate, and use questions to encourage participation. • When people resist answering questions, be patient and remain calm; make sure they know the reasons for your questions; and if necessary, ask closed- ended questions to get the information you need. Review Questions 1. Open-ended questions: 1. (c) (a) can be answered with a “yes” or a “no.” (b) are the best way to get a succinct response from a talkative person. (c) encourage people to expand on their ideas. (d) should not be used in a job interview. 2. Which is an appropriate question to ask during a hiring interview? 2. (a) (a) What interests you about working for our company? (b) Who did you vote for in the presidential election? (c) Do you plan on having children? (d) What church do you go to? 3. If you don’t get a helpful answer to your question, you can 3. (b) assume that: (a) the other person doesn’t want to answer. (b) you might not have asked the question clearly. (c) the question did not need to be asked. (d) you didn’t listen carefully enough to the response. 4. Which would be the most useful question to get a discussion
  • 77. 4. (d) started in a meeting? (a) Does anyone have anything they want to say? (b) Do you want to discuss this issue? (c) How many people think we need to talk about this? (d) What suggestions do you have for solving this problem? 5. Which is a recommended strategy when people resist 5. (b) answering your questions? (a) Stop asking the questions. (b) Be sure the person knows why you’re asking the questions. (c) Tell the person to give you the answer in writing. (d) Insist the person give you an answer immediately. 72 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. OVERVIEW As a manager, much of your job involves communication, so the ability to communicate clearly is crucial to your ability to succeed. You need to give explanations, ask questions, work with people to solve problems and come up with new ideas, coach and train, provide performance feedback, and more. All those activities require communication skills. In this course, you will learn what happens when real
  • 78. communication takes place and what makes communication difficult. You will evaluate your own communication skills and learn how to improve them. You will also learn how to apply what you learn to ensure that the communications you engage in every day are more satisfactory, useful, and productive. 1 Communication: The Key to a Manager’s Success © American Management Association. All rights reserved. 1 Learning Objectives When you complete this chapter, you should be able to: • Define communication accurately in one brief statement. • State the reasons managers communicate and identify the four major types of communication. • Describe what can happen when communi- cation doesn’t work. • State obstacles to clear communication. • List the key actions that are essential for clear written or spoken communication. • Evaluate your communication skills at work.
  • 79. focusfocus WHAT IS “COMMUNICATION”? We hear the word communication everywhere these days as technological ad- vances make it possible for us to communicate in an increasing number of ways. But what does the word communication really mean? No matter what the form of communication or whether it is one- way or interactive, between individuals or within a group, communication takes place only when a message sent by one person has been received and understood by another person. That’s what Jory didn’t realize. Feeling rushed by a looming deadline for a report her manager wanted right away, Jory asked Saul to help by getting her some marketing statistics. “I need the figures from the last three years,” she said. “Will that be a prob- lem?” “Not at all,” Saul replied. But by mid-day, Saul had still not gotten the statistics to Jory— and her report was due first thing in the morning. Saul was out, so she left him a voicemail: “This is Jory,” she said. “I was wondering, how soon do you think you can get me those stats for the marketing report?”
  • 80. Two hours later, Jory received an e-mail from Saul: “I’ll have those stats to you the day after tomorrow.” Jory called Saul again, relieved to find that he was in his office. “Friday’s too late,” she said. “The report’s due tomorrow.” “Why didn’t you say you needed them so soon?” Saul said. “I’m sorry, but I have to leave in twenty minutes, and I’m at an off-site meeting all day tomorrow.” Jory thought she had told Saul what she wanted, and Saul thought he had heard her. But no real communication took place in this situation, and now Jory is left without the statistics she needs to complete her report. What happened? Jory knew Saul had received her message, but she didn’t check to make sure that he understood how urgently she needed the statistics. She did not realize that it is not enough to send a message. Real communication takes place only when the person at the other end understands exactly what you meant to say. 2 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved.
  • 81. WHY MANAGERS COMMUNICATE Think about all the communications you engage in as you go about your day- to-day business—face-to-face conversations with individuals and groups, tele- phone calls, e-mail messages, letters and reports, meetings, interviews, and presentations. One reason for all that communicating is to pass on informa- tion people need. What are some of the other reasons? Reasons for communicating: You might have listed some of the reasons in Exhibit 1–1. When you look at all the reasons you have for communicating, it is easy to see why it is so important to communicate successfully. Poor communica- tions waste time, lower productivity, and make it difficult to maintain good relationships. Along with misunderstandings and confusion, the results of poor communication include hurt feelings, frustration, and anger. COMMUNICATION: THE KEY TO A MANAGER’S SUCCESS 3 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 1–1 Reasons Managers Communicate
  • 82. Managers communicate to: • Pass on and receive information. • Establish and maintain relationships. • Tell people what they are expected to do and help them learn. • Give feedback and criticism. • Encourage, motivate, and influence. • Help others solve problems and develop action plans. • Work with others to come up with new ideas. E Think About It . . . Think of some communications you were part of that did not go well. What were the results? _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________
  • 83. _______________________ WHY PEOPLE FAIL TO COMMUNICATE CLEARLY Even the best communicators find that communicating clearly is often diffi- cult. No matter how clearly they try to send their messages, people do not always understand them. No matter how attentively they try to listen to oth- ers, they do not always understand the message the way the other person meant it. Think of a time when you had trouble communicating with someone. What obstacle or obstacles stood in the way? You might have listed one of the common obstacles shown in Exhibit 1–2. 4 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 1–2 Obstacles to Clear Communication Obstacles to clear communication include: • Lack of time and planning. • Competing messages. • Differences in knowledge, perspectives, needs, expectations, priorities, status, cul- ture, and gender.
  • 84. • Assumptions. • Fears. E Lack of Time and Planning Jory asked Saul to get her the statistics because she was feeling rushed. In fact, she was feeling so rushed that she didn’t even take enough time to think about what she wanted him to do. As a result, she conveyed an incomplete message. People commonly blurt out their messages without thinking, especially when they feel rushed. Sometimes those messages come out clearly; often, they do not. If you expect others to understand your messages, you must first be sure that you know exactly what you want to say. Competing Messages We receive thousands of messages every day. They come at us in every di- rection, competing for our attention. The telephone rings and an e-mail lands in your mailbox while you are trying to conduct an interview; people are telling jokes in the next cubicle while you are trying to explain something to an employee; newspaper headlines catch your attention and a radio talk show blares in your ear while you are trying to help a colleague solve
  • 85. a problem. Screening out the unnecessary messages can be almost impossible, but un- less we can screen them out, we will find it hard to pay attention to relevant, useful messages. Differences in Knowledge, Perspectives, Needs, Expectations, Priorities, Status, Culture, and Gender Jory’s miscommunication to Saul occurred partly because they had differing priorities. Jory’s top priority was getting the report to her manager on time. Although Saul was willing to help, he felt no sense of urgency because the report was not important to him. In the same way, it can be hard to communicate clearly to someone who has a very different level of knowledge from your own or a very different point of view about the topic. For example, suppose you need to explain how to use word processing software to someone who has never used a computer. You might not stop to think about the basic computer knowledge the person needs to have before the new software can be learned. Communication would be far easier if other people had your level of knowledge, background, sense of what was important, and way of looking at the world. The reality is that people differ in many ways. Those differences have a great many advantages, but they also mean that we have
  • 86. to work hard to be understood and to understand one another. Assumptions Jory made the assumption that Saul understood she needed the report right away; obviously, she was wrong. Assuming that someone understands what you are trying to say often leads to that kind of miscommunication, as does assuming that you have understood someone else’s message correctly or that you know what a person is going to say as soon as they begin speaking. COMMUNICATION: THE KEY TO A MANAGER’S SUCCESS 5 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Think About It . . . Can you think of a time when you made the assumption that someone understood you when they did not? That you understood someone else’s message when you did not? Or that you mis- takenly believed you already knew what someone was going to say? What was the result? _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________
  • 87. _____________________________________________________ _______________________ Fears Instead of saying what we mean, we sometimes convey messages that are lit- tle more than hints. We leave out key information. We say Yes when we mean No. We also hesitate to speak up when we don’t understand what someone else is saying. Why do we behave this way? Why don’t we just say what we mean, and why don’t we ask questions when someone sends us a confusing message? People do not always say what they mean because they are afraid of what will happen if they do. They do not want to hurt people’s feelings, dis- appoint them, or make them angry. They also do not want to take the risk of appearing foolish or being disliked. But indirect, incomplete, and vague messages make it difficult or impossible to achieve real communication. Think About It . . . What are communications that you find difficult? Think of a time when you felt unable to say what you meant or when you did not feel comfortable asking questions when someone was un- clear. What were the results?
  • 88. _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________________ 6 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. HOW WELL DO YOU COMMUNICATE? Before you can improve your communication skills, you need to recognize your strengths and weaknesses. Rate your communication skills by filling out the self-assessment in Exhibit 1–3. When you are finished, highlight or cir- cle any items that you rated 1, 2, or 3. Pay special attention to those skills during this course. WHAT IT TAKES TO COMMUNICATE CLEARLY In this course you will learn and practice specific techniques for communicat- ing clearly, whether you are holding a conversation, facilitating a meeting, con- ducting an interview, giving a presentation, or writing a business document. In COMMUNICATION: THE KEY TO A MANAGER’S SUCCESS
  • 89. 7 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 1–3 How Well Do You Communicate? Use the scale below to rate your communication skills. Seldom 1 2 3 4 5 Most of the time 1. ___ I listen attentively when other people are speaking. 2. ___ I understand what other people say to me. 3. ___ I ask for clarification when I don’t understand what someone is saying. 4. ___ I listen with an open mind even if I don’t agree or I already know what a person is going to say. 5. ___ I do not interrupt when people are speaking. 6. ___ I let people know that I have heard and understood their message. 7. ___ I am able to express my ideas and feelings clearly. 8. ___ I make sure that people have understood my message. 9. ___ I know how to deliver unwelcome news. 10. ___ I am comfortable discussing other people’s feelings. 11. ___ I make eye contact with other people when I am listening or speaking to them. 12. ___ I am able to get my ideas across in meetings. 13. ___ I am able to give people helpful feedback and criticism. 14. ___ I am able to ask questions that help people think something through. 15. ___ I am able to ask questions to elicit useful information.
  • 90. 16. ___ When facilitating a meeting, I am able to ask questions that encourage participation. 17. ___ I am able to use communication skills to help people learn. 18. ___ I am able to give a successful presentation to a small group of people I know. 19. ___ I am able to give a successful presentation to any group. 20. ___ I am able to communicate clearly, confidently, and successfully in writing. E fact, you will find that the key actions presented in Exhibit 1–4 apply to all the forms of communication we will discuss. Know and Respect Your Audience Two of the key actions for communicating clearly are knowing and respect- ing your audience. Throughout the course, you will be asked to look at your message from your audience’s point of view. By doing that, you increase the chances that the message you send will be understood. Know Why You are Communicating As we mentioned earlier in this chapter and will repeat from time to time, knowing what you want to achieve by communicating is essential for your
  • 91. communications to be clear. Know What You Want to Say Even in a casual conversation, you have to know what you want to say before you can express your message clearly. As you will see, it is especially difficult—even impossible—to deliver a successful presentation or write an effective business document without first determining what you want to say. Pay Attention In our busy lives, we are surrounded by distractions. It takes a special effort to pay attention to what someone is saying or even to pay attention to what you yourself are trying to communicate. But paying attention is key to suc- cessful communication. Keep an Open Mind As you learned in this chapter, assumptions are a common obstacle to suc- cessful communication. Later in this course you will learn how assuming you already know what someone is going to say or why they are saying it gets in 8 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. xhibit 1–4 What It Takes to Communicate Clearly
  • 92. To communicate clearly: • Know and respect your audience. • Know why you are communicating. • Know what you want to say. • Pay attention. • Keep an open mind. • Be specific. • Take enough time. E the way of listening, making it difficult or impossible for real communica- tion to take place. Be Specific The more specific your messages, the more useful information you will con- vey. Hints and vague messages lead to misunderstandings and confusion. To communicate successfully, try to use specific language that communicates ex- actly what you want to say. Take Enough Time Trying to communicate in a hurry leads people to stumble over their words, leave out important information, and miss what others have to say. As you will learn in this course, the time you spend planning a communication, delivering a message, and listening to others will pay off in fewer misunder-
  • 93. standings and less confusion. Taking enough time is a key action for communicating successfully. pply What You Learn . . . Think about the communication skills you would like to improve. What are your goals for this course? List your most important goals on the first page of the Communication Skills Log in the Appendix at the end of the course. Real communication takes place when someone receives a message we send and understands what we intended to say. Poor communication leads to problems such as wasted time, misunderstandings, and bad feelings. But communication is not always easy because obstacles such as lack of planning, differences in points of view, assumptions and fears get in the way. Some of the actions you can take to communicate clearly are to respect your audience, know what you want to say, pay attention, and keep an open mind. A COMMUNICATION: THE KEY TO A MANAGER’S SUCCESS 9 © American Management Association. All rights reserved. recap Review Questions 1. A recommended way of increasing the chances of successful
  • 94. 1. (c) communication is to: (a) speak loudly. (b) repeat your message at least once. (c) pay attention. (d) use polite phrases such as Please. 2. Which statement accurately describes communication? 2. (a) (a) A message that has been received and understood (b) The act of sending a message (c) Active listening (d) The art of using language to impress people 3. Learning to communicate clearly is important to managers because: 3. (b) (a) most managers communicate poorly. (b) poor communications make it difficult to maintain good relationships. (c) managers spend almost 50 percent of their time giving feedback and criticism. (d) open office systems have increased the amount of communica- tion managers need to do. 4. Which is an assumption that gets in the way of clear communication? 4. (a) (a) Not listening because you think you already know what the other person is going to say (b) Rude behavior that makes the other person angry (c) Interrupting someone before they are finished because you
  • 95. are late for a meeting (d) Not being able to hear because people are talking loudly nearby 5. Which statement is most accurate? 5. (c) (a) When it comes to communicating, the most important thing is to make sure the other person hears you. (b) If you think you might hurt someone’s feelings, it is better to keep your message vague. (c) To communicate clearly, look at your message from your audi- ence’s point of view. (d) Once you learn to be a good communicator, you will not be bothered by competing messages. 10 COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR MANAGERS © American Management Association. All rights reserved. Do you have questions? Comments? Need clarification? Call Educational Services at 1-800-225-3215, ext. 600 or email at [email protected]
  • 96. Imagine that these are three of your articles for your literature review. Please complete the following in responding to this discussion thread. 1. List the article’s in APA format. 2. Write a 100 word annotation of each article in which you not only summarize each article but also evaluate its theme (the main point the article tries to make). 3) Once you have your annotations done, post a paragraph in which you discuss the three sources and how they are related or not related to each other. You should also list the three articles in correct APA reference list documentation style. Again, you are not necessarily using these articles in your literature review. And you will not necessarily write about CommunicationSkills for Managers for your research report assignment. However, this exercise is designed to help you become familiar with listing a source in APA format and with writing an evaluative annotation for it that you can use as the basis for discussions of articles with similar themes in your literature review. References Chan, J. F. (2009). Chapter 2: Listening: The Foundation. In , Communication Skills for Managers, 5th Edition (pp. 11-26). American Management Association International. References Chan, J. F. (2009). Chapter 4: The Art of Asking Questions. In , Communication Skills for Managers, 5th Edition (pp. 51-72). American Management Association International. References Chan, J. F. (2009). Chapter 1: Communication: The Key to a Manager's Success. In , Communication Skills for Managers, 5th Edition (pp. 1-10). American Management Association International.