Retreats, conferences, and affinity spaces help us fill our wells, connect with others in The Work, and restore our energy and drive. However, these opportunities come too far and few in between. What are some daily and regular practices that can help us keep sustained, happy, and motivated? Learn strategies, share wisdom, and plan for reentering our daily lives that we continue to be the best advocates, allies, and practitioners we can be.

1. NYSAIS Diversity Practitioners
Seattle Girls’ School
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Restorative Reentry:
Sustaining Ourselves Back at Home
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2. About Seattle Girls’ School
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3. Going Home
What excites you
most about
returning to your
school life and
home life? What
deflates or worries
you about
returning?
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4. Post-Conference-Partum Depression
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5. In-Between Times
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6. Say Goodbye… For Now
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7. As James Taylor Said…
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You just call out my name
and you know where ever I am
I'll come running
To see you again.
Winter, spring, summer, or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
You've got a friend.
Ain't it good to know
you've got a friend.

8. Coalition of Experts and Allies
 Tell me what it’s like…
 What might have been going on
when…
 What would you suggest…
 What could I do next time…
 Am I totally off base or…
 Can I run something by you?
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9. Sharing Resources
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10. I’ll Be Reaching Out To…
Jot down names of
folks you have met
here (or at other
conferences and
workshop) to whom
you’d like to reach
out and develop a
relationship.
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11. Building Coalitions At Home
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12. Find and Cultivate Hidden Allies
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13. Affirm Folks Who Get It
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14. Find and Develop Your Replacement
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15. Leave No Space Uncovered
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16. I’ll Be Reaching Out To…
Jot down names of folks
at your school to whom
you’d like to reach out
and develop a
relationship. Who might
be your unknown allies?
Who can help cover
those backstage
spaces?
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17. How Do I Cultivate Myself?
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18. Have Different Methods for Different Occasions
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19. Develop Your Inner Credible Hulk
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20. Equality versus Equity
Everybody gets a shirt versus everybody
gets a shirt that fits.
Giving everybody some insulin in
equality. Giving only people who are
diabetic some insulin is equity.
What is “fair”?
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21. Conflation of Individual/Institutional
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22. Correlation versus Causation
Correlation: When income is averaged and compared, there
is a strong correlation between race and wealth. This is due
to a myriad of historical, systemic, and economic factors that
impact People of Color and Whites differently.
Causation: When income is averaged and compared, there is a
strong correlation between race and wealth. This must be
because People of Color must not be as smart, hard-
working, or good with money as Whites.
Correlation: When more firefighters are fighting a fire, the
bigger the fire is observed to be.
Causation: The additional firefighters made the fire bigger.
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23. Accumulated Advantages
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24. Situational Advantage
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25. Privilege
“Privilege exists when one group has
something of value that is denied to others
simply because of the groups they belong
to, rather than because of anything they’ve
done or failed to do.”
[as described by Peggy McIntosh and quoted by Allan Johnson]
Privilege is SYSTEMIC. It drives the
systems that dominate our societies.
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26. Safety versus Comfort
Safety: I feel that, in this space, I can ask questions without
fear of judgment. I can voice my perspective and know that
I will be validated for the fact that that is my truth. Others
may challenge my ideas, but that challenge is in the spirit of
greater shared understanding and growth.
Comfort: I feel that, in this space, my reality will be agreed
with, validated, and unchallenged. I don’t have to explain
myself to be understood, and I don’t have to justify my
perspective, as everyone shares it.
As educators, we are constantly setting up an environment
where students are safe but not always comfortable...
SO THAT THEY CAN LEARN AND GROW.
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27. Where Do You Want to Grow?
In what areas do you feel
very well prepared to have
the mind conversations,
and what are some of your
strategies for getting
through? What areas pose
challenges or even stump
you? What might you try?
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28. NCBI Effective Interventions Model
 Reduce Defensiveness
– Tone
– Body Language
– Respect
 Keep the Conversation Going
– Hear Them Out
– Ask Open-Ended Questions
– Set Aside Your Feeling for the Moment
– Dialogue
 Build the Relationship
 Win an Ally
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29. Be Generous.
We Were All Born Innocent
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30. Be Accessible.
Jargon and Data Don’t Move Hearts
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31. Let It Go Now and Then
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32. Where Do You Want to Grow?
In what ways do you feel
effective in the heart
conversation, and what are
some of your strategies for
getting through? In what
ways do you feel
challenged or even
stumped? What might you
try?
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33. Self Care and Interest
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34. Have an Affirmation File
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35. Develop Your Mantras
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36. Rosetta’s Mantras
 “I can do anything good.”
 We were all born innocent.
 “Not cool, Robert Frost!”
 With this brief life I’ve been given, I
plan to do as much good for as long
as I can.
 Stubborn Ounces…
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37. Stubborn Ounces
(To the One Who Doubts the Worth of Doing Anything If You Can’t Do
Everything)
by Bonaro W. Overstreet
You say the Little efforts that I make
will do no good: they never will prevail
to tip the hovering scale
where Justice hangs in balance.
I don’t think I ever thought they would.
But I am prejudiced beyond debate
in favor of my right to choose which side
shall feel the stubborn ounces of my weight.
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38. 1. How do you see materials
from this workshop applying
to your life?
2. What questions do you still
have?
3. What are your personal action
steps?
Discussion:
How Will I Apply All This?
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39. More Ways to Grow
 Attend Train the Trainer workshops
 Have more real discussions with people
who affirm you
 Have more real one-on-one dialogue with
people who may or may not affirm you
 Continue to learn and grow in your
knowledge base for content AND skills
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40. Final Questions or Comments?
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41. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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42. Resources
• Anti-Defamation League
• Cross Cultural Connections
(www.CulturesConnecting.com)
• Facilitation First
• Jimpact Enterprises, Inc.
• National Coalition Building Institute
• The People’s Institute
• Stirfry Seminars
• The Thiagi Group
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